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Re: What counts as earnings?
@RMCD...they are changing the way they calculate from earnings later this year. The new system will use the 'gross income' of the…
Re: Can I Get Back Pay for Child Maintenance?
@moosmummy - yes you should get arrears backdated to when you made the initial claim.
Re: The Law and Single Mothers
@gem-gem - if it's just for a short holiday there should be no need to ask permission especially if there are no regular visits that…
Re: The Use of Child Support Payments
My children's mother and I divorced 6yrs ago or more, I moved away from where I lived as I needed to restart my life as I…
Re: Dealing With Maintenance Arrears
For 8 years I brought my daughter up with no financial support from her dad despite him agreeing to £150 per month via a…
Re: The Law and Single Fathers
I have read so many heartbreaking stories, from both mothers and fathers, unfortunately the majority seem to be from fathers who have…