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The Law and Single Fathers

By: Anna Martin - Updated: 29 Aug 2016 | comments*Discuss
 
Parental Responsibility Father Parent

Unless a single father has a Parental Responsibility Agreement or Order he has few legal rights, regarding his children. A single father does however have the right to make a court application for contact. He also has responsibilities to his child, which mean it is his obligation to ensure his child is properly looked after and supported emotionally, physically and financially.

The Lack Of Legal Rights

If an unmarried father jointly registers the birth of his child he automatically has Parental Responsibility. If he does not jointly register his child however, the father has no rights over the child, and can only act on their behalf in an emergency. Having no legal rights over his child means that the single father has no say over the naming of the child, his/her religion, where the child should be educated, what kind of medical treatment they can have or even over the child’s adoption. The father also has no access to the child’s official documents or medical records, and is not able to get a passport for the child.

The child’s father does however have to pay Child Support on demand,but is entitled to apply for a Parental Responsibility Order if the mother of the child is unwilling to agree to a Parental Responsibility Agreement.

How Can A Father Acquire Parental Rights?

If communication with the child’s mother is open, simply asking for Parental Responsibility may be all it requires. If she is happy to agree all a father has to do is download a Parental Responsibility form from the Internet, sign it and send it off to court. If the child’s mother doesn’t sign a Parental Responsibility form however, the father is able to make a direct application to the courts.

On reviewing an application from a father the court will take into consideration how much commitment the father is able to offer the child, the degree of attachment between parent and child and the reasons why the father is making an application for Parental Responsibility.

Rights Over Contact

If a couple disagrees over contact arrangements a father can apply to the court for an interim contact order. This is done by attending a directions hearing and a consent order may be made if there are disagreements between the child’s parents. If an agreement cannot be reached, the court may issue an order regarding care and contact. This is only done in cases where the child will benefit from the changes in contact. On the whole, however, the child’s welfare is given paramount consideration by any court of law.

Does A Step-Dad Have Any Rights?

Maintaining relationships after separation can be difficult. It is the mother’s responsibility to allow her child to have contact with a step-parent. If she prevents contact a father may apply for a contact order, provided the child lived with him for at least three years. However, a father does not have any Parental Responsibility if he is not the natural or adoptive parent.

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I found out earlier this year that I have a 4 month old daughter who has been in care from birth I've had a parenting assessment done which was good but because of my past they (social services) recommended to the court that my daughter not live with me which I have challenged but they are not changing their recommendation surly they should of at least tried to work with me to be a parent instead of wanting my child to be fostered they will have had 6 months to do so or do they have the right to not work towards keeping a child and father together?
HandE - 29-Aug-16 @ 6:25 AM
bam bam- Your Question:
I met my partner when she had her children taken by the social services and was being put up for adoptshon. I helped her turn her life around.we won the children back I was allowed to go to contact with her the very first time I seen them I knew iwas in love with them we got them back when they was 7mounths old and since they could talk they have always been there daddy they are 6years old my partner said I cant see them no moore. can someone help me have I got any rights as a step farther

Our Response:
I am very sorry to hear this. However, if you do not have parental responsibility, then you theoretically have no legal rights. But due to the fact you have raised the children as your own, and have had a solid imput into their lives, you may have a case. Therefore, I suggest you seek legal advice.
ChildSupportLaws - 1-Jul-16 @ 12:43 PM
I met my partner when she had her children taken by the social services and was being put up for adoptshon. I helped her turn her life around .we won the children back I was allowed to go to contact with her the very first time I seen them I knew iwas in love with them we got them back when they was 7mounths old and since they could talk they have always been there daddy they are 6years old my partner said I cant see them no moore. can someone help me have I got any rights as a step farther
bam bam - 30-Jun-16 @ 6:16 PM
As a divorced dad, can I have access to my child's bank account although my ex-wife set it up in his name in her bank?
Worriedmoneydaddy - 18-Jun-16 @ 5:56 PM
Armz - Your Question:
I have always been a single dad and have raised my daughter on my own, from the age of 7 my girlfriend and now my wife helped to raise my daughter and only recently, my daughter made contact with her paternal mother and wanted closure and a little more contact, this has been the case for the last 9 months but recently the novelty has worn off from her mother and my daughter feels the same, my daughter will be 16 in 8 months and in all those years gone by without her paternal mother I was never entitled to any financial support, is there a rule where the mother has to pay maintainance,.?

Our Response:
All non-resident parents should pay maintenance so support their children, that includes mothers as well as fathers. However, if you have never made a claim you cannot claim for retrospective payments. You would have to begin a new claim and while your daughter is still in school you can do that. You may wish to give the CMS a call for some free advice, please see link here .
ChildSupportLaws - 3-Jun-16 @ 1:44 PM
I have always been a single dad and have raised my daughter on my own, from the age of 7 my girlfriend and now my wife helped to raise my daughter and only recently, my daughter made contact with her paternal mother and wanted closure and a little more contact, this has been the case for the last 9 months but recently the novelty has worn off from her mother and my daughter feels the same, my daughter will be 16 in 8 months and in all those years gone by without her paternal mother I was never entitled to any financial support, is there a rule where the mother has to pay maintainance,.?
Armz - 2-Jun-16 @ 10:48 PM
J20 - Your Question:
Hi am I allowed to keep my chilren for upto 1 month

Our Response:
If you are thinking of keeping your children without your ex's consent I strongly advise against this. If both parents have Parental Responsibility then the police 'cannot' intervene to take the child off one parent and give them to the other as the police cannot choose between parents, that is the remit of the courts. However, if you do not have PR, then the police can get involved and return your children to their primary carer. If either the matter has to go to court, or the police get involved this could backfire on you and your future access to your children. So, while it may seem like a good idea in the first instance, I advise you to think of the long term consequences of any such action. If you wish to keep your children for a longer period and your ex refuses, then I suggest you either speak to a solicitor, or apply through the courts for a Specific Issue Order. I hope this helps.
ChildSupportLaws - 19-May-16 @ 12:51 PM
Hi am i allowed to keep my chilren for upto 1 month
J20 - 18-May-16 @ 6:35 PM
Hi I have a 4 year old lovely boy and love being a dad . I see him every other weekend I do everything I can to make his time special. He wants to see me more he tells all time misses meit breaks my heart when he goes home Sunday tea time. She won't let me take hhim on holiday in a caravan this year and hurting him so much. He has asthma as well I took him to a walk in centre to get a inhaler for my house and spacer cause his chest was bad. Lady nurse told me he needed it and on her screen it said last time given it was last June 2015. I'm brilliant dad on birth certificate work hard pay maintenance as well. Her mum's a p c s o officer I contacted her frequently to ask when I'm next seeing him and arrangements with my lad straight after we split. She has someone and I do now my lads in the middle and loves both new partners. I was whacked with a harassment order for 5 years from police nobody listened to my story just cause its easy today to stop a dad a good one with an order. What can I do its been 2 years just over we haven't been together. Been to court with her and have in writing just Sunday's but she's given me more . But didn't get choice in his school picking or how his health is I'm worried I'm 29 secure job good person and dads don't get listened to enough . Every drop offs with my lad my mum does and picks up as well only time I pick him up is from nursery on a Friday after work please someone help me my boys my world and cry striaght after when he doesn't wanna leave after lovely weekends thanks dan
Dan - 8-May-16 @ 8:35 PM
Hello i was with my childrens father for 6 years.We recently split up as he has been cheating on me.He said his going to court to get full custody of the children because i smoke in the flat. Is he able to do that? Im not saying i will not let him see them but i dont want him to get full custody.He has scared me and i dont know what to do i love my children with all my heart
Becca - 23-Apr-16 @ 6:12 PM
Chelseaboy18 - Your Question:
Hi ThereI split up with my ex partner a few months back and we have a beautiful little boy together who I love and adore. Im Self employed with a basic salary of £400 a month and then commision based there after? I Have given her drips and drabs of money when I can afford it as I have my own 1 bedroom flat to sustain too, how much csa do I have to pay? some I have given her is cash and some bank transfer but I have refused to pay anymore until she allows me to see my son on agreed terms rather than her terms. She lives with her parents with our son. I work 6 days a week and always have and she is becomming more and more difficult on when I can see him. 9/10 she always made plans to go out with him on a sunday which is my only day off, she is now however getting better and making plans throughout the week. We are just starting mediation as I want something firmly in place to see my son every sunday from 10am-5pm and every other saturday for him to stay at mine. This is all I ask as a father so I get to spend quality time with my little boy. But at the moment if he sats at mine on a saturday night I have to have him home by 10am on a sunday. Now im not being funny I see him for like an hour or two the saturday night before he goes to sleep and for a hour or two on the sunday morning? I for one am not standing for this anymore as I believe its unfair. if I have him a sunday where he hasnt stayed at mine im only allowed to have him from 10am 3 pm as she starts work at 5? I am well aware most fathers wouldnt bother after a break up but I am because I love my little boy. I have recently moved on and met a new partner and she is fully understanding but I keep receiveing nasty texts from my ex and like late at night whilst trying to settle my partners son. I'm really stuck guys and any help would be greatly appreciatedMany Thanks

Our Response:
The CMS calculator here will outline the amount you have to pay based on your earnings. If you can't sort your issues out via Mediation, then you will have to take the matter to court.
ChildSupportLaws - 22-Apr-16 @ 3:05 PM
Hi There I split up with my ex partner a few months back and we have a beautiful little boy together who i love and adore. Im Self employed with a basic salary of £400 a month and then commision based there after? I Have given her drips and drabs of money when i can afford it as i have my own 1 bedroom flat to sustain too, how much csa do i have to pay? some i have given her is cash and some bank transfer but i have refused to pay anymore until she allows me to see my son on agreed terms rather than her terms. She lives with her parents with our son. I work 6 days a week and always have and she is becomming more and more difficult on when i can see him. 9/10 she always made plans to go out with him on a sunday which is my only day off, she is now however getting better and making plans throughout the week. We are just starting mediation as i want something firmly in place to see my son every sunday from 10am-5pm and every other saturday for him to stay at mine. This is all i ask as a father so i get to spend quality time with my little boy. But at the moment if he sats at mine on a saturday night i have to have him home by 10am on a sunday... Now im not being funny i see him for like an hour or two the saturday night before he goes to sleep and for a hour or two on the sunday morning? i for one am not standing for this anymore as i believe its unfair... if i have him a sunday where he hasnt stayed at mine im only allowed to have him from 10am 3 pm as she starts work at 5? I am well aware most fathers wouldnt bother after a break up but i am because i love my little boy. i have recently moved on and met a new partner and she is fully understanding but i keep receiveing nasty texts from my ex and like late at night whilst trying to settle my partners son... I'm really stuck guys and any help would be greatly appreciated Many Thanks
Chelseaboy18 - 22-Apr-16 @ 11:46 AM
N/A - Your Question:
Hi! I have 2 kids with woman I didn't marry and I'm in full suport of the kids, now the problem is the mother is married to another man and they want to take the kids to their place. Is it posible tht I can have my kids to my home?

Our Response:
If the children are currently living with you and you are afraid your ex may take the children to live with her without your consent then you can apply through the courts for a child arrangement order, please see link here. I hope this helps.
ChildSupportLaws - 20-Apr-16 @ 1:54 PM
Hi! I have 2 kids with woman I didn't marry and I'm in full suport of the kids, now the problem is the mother is married to another man and they want to take the kids to their place..... Is it posible tht I can have my kids to my home?
N/A - 19-Apr-16 @ 5:41 PM
Si- Your Question:
I would like to ask, I have had my son in my care now for over a year after my partner left me. She sees him roughly once a week for a few hours. She has admitted to me that she doesn't want to be a full time parent and is happy being there part time for him. I have evidence of all this via message screenshots etc. My worry is that at any point she could decide to come back and take him off me and I don't want that at all. We have an amazing relationship and I give him the stability he needs. Is it worth filing for custody as it is a genuine concern that she could turn up out of the blue and take him from me.

Our Response:
This type of question is always a tricky one to answer as it is taking a relationship based on trust to possibly creating discord. Is this something you could talk to your ex about? You could perhaps draw and agreeement up via mediation. Failing that, you would have to apply through the courts for a child arrangement order. As your ex has parental responsibility, then she could keep your son, please see link: What Happens If My Ex Keeps the Children Without My Consent? here. However, unless she has shown signs of wanting to do this, then you may have to base your relationship on trust.
ChildSupportLaws - 22-Mar-16 @ 2:41 PM
I would like to ask,I have had my son in my care now for over a year after my partner left me.She sees him roughly once a week for a few hours.She has admitted to me that she doesn't want to be a full time parent and is happy being there part time for him.I have evidence of all this via message screenshots etc. My worry is that at any point she could decide to come back and take him off me and i don't want that at all.We have an amazing relationship and i give him the stability he needs.Is it worth filing for custody as it is a genuine concern that she could turn up out of the blue and take him from me.
Si - 20-Mar-16 @ 8:23 PM
Hi I have my daughter living with me full time, her mother has neglect her and not turned up to meet ect multiple times. Now she is demand to see my daughter. I have been talking to solicitor about residential orders but they keep telling me leave it for the moment. It's a worry for she has never had time for my daughter put herself first and do sent always show up. Is it possible to apply for a order without a solicitor
gbj - 20-Mar-16 @ 8:01 PM
Daddy - Your Question:
Hi I have taken full care of my 2 children for 5 years now, my ex was on drugs and preferred to party than care for them. One year ago we went to court because she decided she want to come back into their lives. The court insisted on supervised visits at first progressing to 4 hours every other Saturday. The children have now built some sort of relationship with her now however she continues to let them down with false promises and lies. She is now saying she wants over night stays however her current boyfriend has a criminal record and their 2 year old was on a child protection order due to domestic violence 18 months ago. This is no longer in place but however this is still a concern for myself and the children's step mother. She doesn't contribute to the children's upbringing financially and is threatening to take us back to court to enforce this. She will probably get legal aid however we will not be able to. How do I stand? Will she be able to be granted overnight stays.

Our Response:
Legal Aid is not so easy to come by these days, and your ex would have to fulfil certain criteria, please see link here. I'm afraid we cannot say whether she will be granted overnight stays. As you may know, if it goes to court then your case will have to go through Cafcass first who will conduct a report, which the court generally adheres to.
ChildSupportLaws - 1-Feb-16 @ 11:31 AM
Hi I have taken full care of my 2 children for 5 years now, my ex was on drugs and preferred to party than care for them. One year ago we went to court because she decided she want to come back into their lives. The court insisted on supervised visits at first progressing to 4 hours every other Saturday.The children have now built some sort of relationship with her now however she continues to let them down with false promises and lies. She is now saying she wants over night stays however her current boyfriend has a criminal record and their 2 year old was on a child protection order due to domestic violence 18 months ago . This is no longer in place buthowever this is still a concern for myself and the children's step mother. She doesn't contribute to the children's upbringing financially and is threatening to take us back to court to enforce this. She will probably get legal aid however we will not be able to.How do I stand? Will she be able to be granted overnight stays.
Daddy - 31-Jan-16 @ 1:26 PM
Single dad- Your Question:
Hello I've been a single dad bringing up my two children on my own for the last year now. There mother has little to do with them. But in the back of my mind I keep having worries that one day she's just going to decide to be a mum again as because we never went through a court to arrange this I don't know wether she is going to be able to just walk away with the children and there would be nothing I could do about it

Our Response:
You can apply to the court for a Residency (Child Arrangement) Order, see gov.uk link here. Obviously your concern may be whether or not to let sleeping dogs lie, especially if your ex has little to do with your children. If your ex has Parental Responsibility, then she can at any time refuse to return your children when she has them in her care and there is little the police can do to help. However, if the court has allocated an order, then your children will be returned to you. Also, given you have current care for the children, then this will work in your favour. If your ex lives out of the area, then there is less liklihood any court would give an order to the non-resident parent if it involved moving schools etc. I can only suggest you seek some legal advice to help you with your options.
ChildSupportLaws - 4-Jan-16 @ 9:53 AM
Hello I've been a single dad bringing up my two children on my own for the last year now. There mother has little to do with them. But in the back of my mind I keep having worries that one day she's just going to decide to be a mum again as because we never went through a court to arrange this I don't know wether she is going to be able to just walk away with the children and there would be nothing I could do about it
Single dad - 3-Jan-16 @ 12:01 AM
chad - Your Question:
Hello. I am currently in a relationship with my gf of almost five years. We have a 2yr. Old son, and a daughter that should be here before xmas. My entire relationship has been filled with physical abuse by my gf. The abuse has happened an extreme amount of times, however I have never called the police as I did not want to ruin her life. Boy am I regretting being a great guy now. I am an iraq war veteran who has ptsd, and am currently attending couseling for 3 to 4 beers a night, and smoking cannibis, although it is legal here in wa. We have discussed this scenario many times, and she has made it very clear that if we break up she will do everything she can to keep me from my kids and make my life as miserable as possible. I have no paper proof against her as far as the abuse goes, but I do have multiple character witnesses, to include her best friend and some of her family. My question is can I do anything to help protect my rights as a father with this info? I understand the requirement of responsibility towards my children, both financially and emotionally. I want to be as big a part of my child's as possible. Any suggestions or help would be more than appreciated

Our Response:
You may benefit from the Men's Advice Line which is a confidential helpline for men experiencing domestic violence from a partner, ex-partner, or other family members. It's trained advisers can offer emotional support, provide practical advice and point you in the direction of specialist help, link here. I hope this helps.
ChildSupportLaws - 14-Dec-15 @ 2:04 PM
Hello.I am currently in a relationship with my gf of almost five years.We have a 2yr. Old son, and a daughter that should be here before xmas.My entire relationship has been filled with physical abuse by my gf.The abuse has happened an extreme amount of times, however I have never called the police as I did not want to ruin her life.Boy am I regretting being a great guy now.I am an iraq war veteran who has ptsd, and am currently attending couseling for 3 to 4 beers a night, and smoking cannibis,although it is legal here in wa.We have discussed this scenario many times, and she has made it very clear that if we break up she will do everything she can to keep me from my kids and make my life as miserable as possible.I have no paper proof against her as far as the abuse goes, but I do have multiple character witnesses, to include her best friend and some of her family.My question is can I do anything to help protect my rights as a father with this info?I understand the requirement of responsibility towards my children, both financially and emotionally.I want to be as big a part of my child's as possible.Any suggestions or help would be more than appreciated
chad - 13-Dec-15 @ 8:36 AM
hank - Your Question:
I met my ex (French, girlfriend) in Portugal in 1999 and we had a daughter born in 2000, she cheated on me shortly after the birth, with a south African, Portuguese man, which led to our separation and married him. She then divorced him having met someone else, while working on a cruise ship (Indian born) and having left our daughter with her now ex husband and moved to india in 2008 with her new partner, taking our daughter with her. I was only allowed basic communication by phone, which eventually turned to ignored calls and no reponse. I met my new partner now fiancé with 2 children and rebuilt my life from scratch and have moved back to the UK. My ex has since moved from india to the UK, without my knowledge until child maintenance contacted me through work, A child case was then filed against me through the Child services on a collect and pay basis. How can a father be ripped of his child, poisoned by her mother with no contact and then everyone side with the mother, who's only intention is to destroy and take money yet again. I have no support from anyone and cannot afford to pay the maintenance bestowed upon me. What rights do I have as a man destroyed by an ex who constantly does what she wants and people jump to her aid. I am in financial jeopardy and have no rights to see my daughter as she has been completely taken away from me, poisoned against me and as soon as she reaches age not to receive maintenance, will again disappear back to Portugal or where ever with her mother. This is a system used against an honest man who has no rights. My questions are? what am I entitled to, what can I get to assist me with my personal losses and what financial support can I expect from an otherwise bias system? I cannot even afford to support my own 2 children and have struggled over the past 8 months in trying to fight this decision which has put my current job in jeopardy and has led to a demotion at work and a substantial loss of income because I have been mentally effected by the way in which my own country has treated me. I have already seen a lawyer who has advised me that there is nothing I can do at this time and cannot afford to employ his services further to fight this case. Please help as I am in a very difficult situation which effects not just me personally but my relationship and my 2 sons who know something is happening, but don't understand yet because I am trying to protect them from this upset.

Our Response:
I'm afraid there is little you can do, as each parent is liable to support their child, regardless of whether they see their child or not. If your salary has dropped, then you should contact the CSA/CMS to tell them of your change in circumstances and your payment will change accordingly. You may be able to get some help via benefits if you are on a low income, please see Turn2Us link here which will tell you what you may be able to claim. You can double-check what you should be paying via the Child Maintenance Options calculator here.
ChildSupportLaws - 23-Nov-15 @ 11:54 AM
I met my ex (French, girlfriend) in Portugal in 1999 and we had a daughter born in 2000, she cheated on me shortly after the birth, with a south African, Portuguese man, which led to our separation and married him. She then divorced him having met someone else, while working on a cruise ship (Indian born) and having left our daughter with her now ex husband and moved to india in 2008 with her new partner, taking our daughter with her. I was only allowed basic communication by phone, which eventually turned to ignored calls and no reponse. I met my new partner now fiancé with 2 children and rebuilt my life from scratch and have moved back to the UK. My ex has since moved from india to the UK, without my knowledge until child maintenance contacted me through work, A child case was then filed against me through the Child services on a collect and pay basis. How can a father be ripped of his child, poisoned by her mother with no contact and then everyone side with the mother, who's only intention is to destroy and take money yet again. I have no support from anyone and cannot afford to pay the maintenance bestowed upon me. What rights do I have as a man destroyed by an ex who constantly does what she wants and people jump to her aid. I am in financial jeopardy and have no rights to see my daughter as she has been completely taken away from me, poisoned against me and as soon as she reaches age not to receive maintenance, will again disappear back to Portugal or where ever with her mother. This is a system used against an honest man who has no rights. My questions are? what am I entitled to, what can I get to assist me with my personal losses and what financial support can I expect from an otherwise bias system? I cannot even afford to support my own 2 children and have struggled over the past 8 months in trying to fight this decision which has put my current job in jeopardy and has led to a demotion at work and a substantial loss of income because I have been mentally effected by the way in which my own country has treated me. I have already seen a lawyer who has advised me that there is nothing I can do at this time and cannot afford to employ his services further to fight this case. Please help as I am in a very difficult situation which effects not just me personally but my relationship and my 2 sons who know something is happening, but don't understand yet because I am trying to protect them from this upset.
hank - 22-Nov-15 @ 11:31 AM
gaz - Your Question:
I was wondering if any one has advice I have split up with my ex gf who I have 2 small children with ie one is 2 and a half years old and a 1 and a half yr old as soon as she found out id met some one new straight away she stopped me seeing them every saturday but would phone me every day I want money social service or child service is involved she was made to sign a form to say she would not come to where I lived and that she would not allow me to go to where she lived but I never signed any thing yes I did go a few times to where she and my children lived to help her with shopping or what ever but now she has told them that we were seeing each other but id said wed never get back together because I did not want the kids taken in to care but she has told them we were back together but we are not ive moved on and just want contact with kids I am just wondering where to go with now,if what im told is right the child services people are saying there going for an order to take children off her,can I put in to court and order that I have the children

Our Response:
You would really need to seek legal advice regarding this. Due to Social Services being involved and not knowing the situation fully we can't really advise, a solicitor would be able to advise better.
ChildSupportLaws - 20-Nov-15 @ 12:19 PM
i was wondering if any one has advice i have split up with my ex gf who i have 2 small children with ie one is 2 and a half years old and a 1 and a half yr old as soon as she found out id met some one new straight away she stopped me seeing them every saturday but would phone me every day i want money social service or child service is involved she was made to sign a form to say she would not come to where i lived and that she would not allow me to go to where she lived but i never signed any thing yes i did go a few times to where she and my children lived to help her with shopping or what ever but now she has told them that we were seeing each other but id said wed never get back together because i did not want the kids taken in to care but she has told them we were back together but we are not ive moved on and just want contact with kids i am just wondering where to go with now,if what im told is right the child services people are saying there going for an order to take children off her,can i put in to court and order that i have the children
gaz - 19-Nov-15 @ 5:13 PM
Marsk - Your Question:
Hi,I have appeared in court today due to my ex who walked out on myself and 10m old 18 months ago who currently has my boy 3 days each week, but has now decided that she wishes to have full custody. She now claims that I emotionally and physically abused her and her two other sons from a previous marriage, that I was not flexible with dates despite changing every date she requested and I have screenshots, plus claims that as I have previously had back surgery that I will not be able to bring up m y son! Cafcass has been useless and are obviously biased towards the mum. Why is she being allowed to walk out on us, 18 months later have a guilt trip and legally get away with making up a lot of lies forcing stress on myself and my boy who will also suffer through this process? I should point out that everything was more than amicable before this even after she met her new partner within 3 months and got engaged very quickly afterwards. Convenient, maybe but I will never be able to act amicably now after these lies as she has destroyed all the Trust we had left. In your experience, will the judge see straight through this as I have read many comments online of similar cases so is my ex being given normal run of the mill lies to tell in court as they are obviously not frowned upon?

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this and that the trust in your relationship with your ex has been destroyed. I can't say whether the court will see through her lies. Much also depends upon what is in the Cafcass report, as the court will generally take advice from this. However, the courts are aware that certain parents try to manipulate the situation and are wise to specific games. I hope the court manages to see through this and you get the access you deserve.
ChildSupportLaws - 5-Nov-15 @ 10:00 AM
Hi, I have appeared in court today due to my ex who walked out on myself and 10m old 18 months ago who currently has my boy 3 days each week, but has now decided that she wishes to have full custody.She now claims that I emotionally and physically abused her and her two other sons from a previous marriage, that I was not flexible with dates despite changing every date she requested and I have screenshots, plus claims that as I have previously had back surgery that I will not be able to bring up m y son! I have taken my boy to a dozen different zoos, safari parks, attractions and spend 100% of my 4 days teaching and playing with him and took him on holiday this year. Hardly not being able to physically look after him. Anyway, I refused all of her demands and so the case has now been contested. But, she finished with she now feels vulnerable dropping my boy off at my boy off at my house and so it has to be at our local McDonald's which the judge decreed that I have to do! How can the law continue to back my ex with her lies despite being able to prove that she is a prolific liar and that none of the above is true?! With the cold weather coming, my boy now has to be transferred between two cold cars as the distance between us is so short that the cars won't even get chance to warm up. Cafcass has been useless and are obviously biased towards the mum. Why is she being allowed to walk out on us, 18 months later have a guilt trip and legally get away with making up a lot of lies forcing stress on myself and my boy who will also suffer through this process? I should point out that everything was more than amicable before this even after she met her new partner within 3 months and got engaged very quickly afterwards. Convenient, maybe but I will never be able to act amicably now after these lies as she has destroyed all the Trust we had left. In your experience, will the judge see straight through this as I have read many comments online of similar cases so is my ex being given normal run of the mill lies to tell in court as they are obviously not frowned upon?
Marsk - 4-Nov-15 @ 1:17 AM
Stevemo0 - Your Question:
Hi Iv split up from my ex almost a year now I have two little girls with her who are almost 2 and almost 1 I have them every two weeks Friday at 4 while Sunday till 5 she has been saying she is gonna stop me having them over night if I take them to my new partners house who Iv been with about 5-6 months can she do this and how would I go about getting a court order so she can't stop me having my kids on the days we have agreed to?

Our Response:
You would have to apply for a Specific Issue Order through the courts. Specific Issue Orders, much like the name suggests, are orders sought from the family court to determine a particular matter in connection with the exercise of Parental Responsibility. These orders can cover a wide range of issues that you and your ex-partner cannot agree on. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order. Applications for a Specific Issue Order are heard before a judge and a representative from Cafcass (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Services Officer), who is a qualified social worker.
ChildSupportLaws - 2-Nov-15 @ 10:42 AM
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