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Your Legal Rights as a Parent

By: Anna Martin - Updated: 17 Jan 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
Parent Child Parent With Care Non

Losing full-time contact with a child is a difficult and painful outcome of any separation or divorce. The parent who retains day-to-day care of the child may not experience as much separation anxiety as the non resident parent, but they will however become more financially minded.

Maintenance payments from the non resident parent will help ease the financial pressure of raising a child, but unless parents agree to shared care or regular access and visits there may be other problems to overcome too.

Parenting Plan

A custody court order will include a parenting plan or visitation schedule which parents must adhere to. This plan is more likely to affect, and/or restrict, the non resident parent, particularly if the parents are not able to communicate effectively. Understanding and accepting that there will be imposed changes that will affect a non resident parent’s relationship with their child in some way, may enable the parent to consider expressing views openly prior to the custody order being finalised.

Many parents are able to make private arrangements that put the child’s rights and needs first. Joint custody or shared care will enable both parents to have regular contact with their child, and to contribute equally to the emotional, physical and financial aspects of child raising.

Making Modifications

A non resident parent may have a court order but may still experience problems enforcing it. Being flexible about re-arranging a visit keeps communication open. However, the parent with care must acknowledge the non resident parent’s rights.

If problems persist, threatening to withhold child support is not a good idea. If a parent has to go to court to enforce visitation any threats to stop child support payments will be held against them. Modifying maintenance is only acceptable if the parent with care has an increase in income whilst the non resident parent’s income has decreased, or a parent’s expenses have increased considerably through illness etc.

Parent And Child Rights

On the whole, the law allows parents to bring up their children in accordance with their own beliefs and values. This gives parents the right to make decisions about the child’s upbringing, provided the child’s well-being is never put at risk. Parents must accept that wanting their own way however, is not the same thing as exercising a right. Although parents have the right to set limits they do not have the right to enforce views.

A parent has the right to determine their child’s name, religion, form of education and healthcare. They also have the right to accompany the child outside the UK and agree on emigration issues. Parents who have a joint custody agreement share rights and parental responsibilities. If the child’s parents are divorced, however, the mother generally has charge of parental responsibility, although the father’s opinions can be expressed and documented.

A child’s rights state that a parent must ensure their child is safe from harm, has somewhere to live, has food, clothing, medical care and education and is financially supported.

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Susielou - Your Question:
Hi I'm a mother of 2 girls age 6 & 7 the eldest has disabilities my marriage with their father broke down in august due to continued emotional abuse drug use and alcoholism on his part he started getting his life in order so I agreed to shared care of the children he has them 3 nights a week and me 4 nights however on Sunday he refused to give them back to me he won't listen to children's social care or the girls schools and has now stopped answering calls from them and is refusing to take them to school so I can't have them back what on earth do I do what are my rights here I'm totally distraught

Our Response:
I am very sorry to hear this - the thought of your ex partner taking your children is the worst nightmare of many parents, and so if it happens, understandably it is a very emotional and stressful time. Many people turn to the police for help to return their children, but how much the police can help is very dependent upon your personal situation. If both parents have Parental Responsibility and one parent is keeping the children against the other's wishes, the police cannot help, even if the children do not normally live with them. However, if the parent does not have Parental Responsibility, the police will be able to intervene. If both parents have PR then the police cannot intervene to take the child off one parent and give them to the other; the police cannot choose between parents, that is the remit of the courts. In this situation, if you are concerned about being able to see the children, or, if you think that the children should live with you, you can apply for a Child Arrangement Order. To apply to the courts, you will need to fill in form C100 found at Gov.UK - Forms and Guidance. A court fee is also payable though you may be able to get assistance with this if you receive benefits or have a low income. Ordinarily, the court will give notice of the hearing to both parties so that they can attend and give their side of the story. However if you think that your child / children may be in danger, then you may be able to apply for an emergency without notice hearing which will be much quicker than a full "with notice hearing". Please be aware that this will only be a temporary solution and that any without notice hearing will be followed shortly after by a full "with notice" hearing in which the court order may be changed. If you are considering this option, seek professional advice or contact your local Citizens Advice Bureau for some free assistance. On another note, while the police cannot take a child away from a parent with Parental Responsibility, they are able to intervene and remove a child if there is a real risk to life. Therefore, if you are concerned about a real and immediate threat to your child's safety, speak to your local police force and social services. I hope this situation resolves itself soon.
ChildSupportLaws - 18-Jan-17 @ 12:02 PM
Hi I'm a mother of 2 girls age 6 & 7 the eldest has disabilities my marriage with their father broke down in august due to continued emotional abuse drug use and alcoholism on his part he started getting his life in order so I agreed to shared care of the children he has them 3 nights a week and me 4 nights however on Sunday he refused to give them back to me he won't listen to children's social care or the girls schools and has now stopped answering calls from them and is refusing to take them to school so I can't have them back what on earth do I do what are my rights here I'm totally distraught
Susielou - 17-Jan-17 @ 6:24 PM
Hi. I have a friend who has four children.He does not want to be named but he has been stopped from seeing his children (not legally) so he is wondering as he is on the birth certificate if he is allowed to take his children out for a few hours and bring them back home without getting into any trouble with the police if the mother decides to contact them.
Emie - 6-Jan-17 @ 9:15 PM
Hi. I have a friend who has four children.He does not want to be named but he has been stopped from seeing his children so he is wondering as he is on the birth certificate if he is allowed to take his children out for a few hours and bring them back home without getting into any trouble with the police if the mother decides to contact them.
Emie - 6-Jan-17 @ 9:13 PM
JemIma - Your Question:
I have two sons ages 7&8. Their father's mother has booked a holiday for us all to go on a few months ago. Both myself and their dad discussed it awkwardly and it was obvious we didn't want to go with his mother but no matter what excuse we came up with, she wasn't taking no for an answer. The children have never been abroad and neither myself or the kids had passports but she still went ahead and booked the flights and villa. She also wanted us to take the children out of school For a couple of days so she could get the dates she wanted, but I said no to that straight away. To this date, I have had no holiday confirmation or any details. The boys father and I split up nastily (he cheated for the 3rd time!)a month before Christmas. They have come back from their nanny's with suitcases as presents and told me it's because they are going on holiday with nanny. I specifically asked her as well not to tell the kids as me and their dad wanted to surprise them nearer the time. Apparently it is assumed that I would still be going on this holiday/allow the children to go without me. Which is not going to happen. So after a very heartbreaking separation, getting the children into a stable routine has been challenging. My ex is being difficult. He's not respecting any boundaries that I have stood firm to set in place, e.g brings the children back an hour late because he doesn't agree with the times I have given him access with the children. I have recently in the last couple of days advised via email his access on alternate weekends and ad-hoc days and given him a schedule for the entire year. I've also told him that as we are not a couple or a family unit anymore, neither myself or the children will be going on holiday, but I added that I was grateful for the generous offer. He has responded with threats of taking legal action against me. He is not the easiest person to have a civil conversation with and twists everything I say or do. He's using child access as a means to control me. I'm at my wits end. Every day brings a new drama that I have to battle my way through and I can't see the end anytime soon. What rights do I have to make sure the boundaries for child access is accepted and also to refuse the holiday? Thanks

Our Response:
As both of you have parental responsibility, theoretically, it is not for one person to determine boundaries or lay down the law, it is for both parents to negotiate fair access arrangements between them. Therefore, if one parent decides they are determined to have the upper hand in access negotiation it is invariably going to aggravate the other parent who theoretically has equal PR (regardless of how or why you split up). However, as in many cases if this cannot be arranged diplomatically between you, then the next port of call is mediation. Mediation is when two or more parties meet to resolve problems before the matter reaches court. It is a formal negotiation and courts can accept the agreement of the mediation instead of having to go through the court process, although it is subject to final court approval. Mediation takes place in front of a neutral third party. The mediator has no pre-conceptions and will not force you to make an agreement. They will assist the two parties in taking turns in the conversation, and helping you reach a decision that you are ready to agree with. Mediators do not pass judgment or offer guidance; they are there, in effect, to facilitate conversation between the two sides. In an ideal world both parents will put previous hurts aside to work together over what is in the best interests of their children. Once a separation has taken place it stands to reason that both parents should be able to continue a strong relationship with their kids.
ChildSupportLaws - 3-Jan-17 @ 2:48 PM
I have two sons ages 7&8. Their father's mother has booked a holiday for us all to go on a few months ago. Both myself and their dad discussed it awkwardly and it was obvious we didn't want to go with his mother but no matter what excuse we came up with, she wasn't taking no for an answer. The children have never been abroad and neither myself or the kids had passports but she still went ahead and booked the flights and villa. She also wanted us to take the children out of school For a couple of days so she could get the dates she wanted, but I said no to that straight away. To this date, I have had no holiday confirmation or any details. The boys father and I split up nastily (he cheated for the 3rd time!)a month before Christmas. They have come back from their nanny's with suitcases as presents and told me it's because they are going on holiday with nanny. I specifically asked her as well not to tell the kids as me and their dad wanted to surprise them nearer the time. Apparently it is assumed that I would still be going on this holiday/allow the children to go without me. Which is not going to happen. So after a very heartbreaking separation, getting the children into a stable routine has been challenging. My ex is being difficult. He's not respecting any boundaries that I have stood firm to set in place, e.g brings the children back an hour late because he doesn't agree with the times I have given him access with the children. I have recently in the last couple of days advised via email his access on alternate weekends and ad-hoc days and given him a schedule for the entire year. I've also told him that as we are not a couple or a family unit anymore, neither myself or the children will be going on holiday, but I added that I was grateful for the generous offer. He has responded with threats of taking legal action against me. He is not the easiest person to have a civil conversation with and twists everything I say or do. He's using child access as a means to control me. I'm at my wits end. Every day brings a new drama that I have to battle my way through and I can't see the end anytime soon. What rights do I have to make sure the boundaries for child access is accepted and also to refuse the holiday? Thanks
JemIma - 3-Jan-17 @ 10:13 AM
Keith - Your Question:
My wife and I and separated and my wife's mother intervenes with me and my wife being able to talk. My wife's mother has switched my wife's number so I can only talk to my son thru her. There is nothing legally binding as far as custody. then have refused me the right to visit or pick my son up. And would not let me talk to my son. Idk if he is even currently at my wife's mother's house. And has threatened a restraining and harassment charges again me. And trespassing me if I show up. He is 4. They said they are withholding him until I respond to hand delivered divorce paperwork that is not legally binding. They are also trying to make the divorce go her way. cutting out my input. Is this legal at all and if not how do I get immediate joint custody until the divorce and custody and child support cases start? Please help me I love my son and idk where he is and have no way to talk to him

Our Response:
I would seek legal advice as your son should not be used as a bargaining tool and no court of law would allow this. I would definitely keep away from your ex, as any contact could result in a harassment order which would not help your child access case. However, it is highly unlikely you would be awarded custody as a court will not remove a child from the primary carer unless absolutely necessary. I advise you also read our Separated Dads pages, please see link: When Your Ex-Partner Denies You Access, here. These pages will give you more information and make informed decisions regarding pursuing access either via mediation or as a last resort through the courts. We also have a forum which may be of help.
ChildSupportLaws - 20-Dec-16 @ 2:57 PM
My wife and I and separated and my wife's mother intervenes with me and my wife being able to talk. My wife's mother has switched my wife's number so I can only talk to my son thru her. There is nothing legally binding as far as custody.... then have refused me the right to visit or pick my son up. And would not let me talk to my son. Idk if he is even currently at my wife's mother's house. And has threatened a restraining and harassment charges again me. And trespassing me if i show up. He is 4. They said they are withholding him until I respond to hand delivered divorce paperwork that is not legally binding. They are also trying to make the divorce go her way..... cutting out my input. Is this legal at all and if not how do I get immediate joint custody until the divorce and custody and child support cases start? Please help me I love my son and idk where he is and have no way to talk to him
Keith - 17-Dec-16 @ 9:25 AM
Emma - Your Question:
I have a 8 year old son who lives with me and his step dad, he hasent had regular contact with his real dad since he was born, when his dad rings to speak to him my son never wants to talk to him or see him and if I say he has too he starts crying and getting upset which diss tresses me and my son, so because he won't go up there he's threatening me with solicitors that I laugh at as I've never stopped him and when he does have my son I have to take him to his dad. So my question is can my son decide whether or not to see his dad or does he need to be older and does his dad have to pick him up from me? Thanks

Our Response:
If your ex decides to take you to court, the court will decide what it thinks is in the best interests of your son. If your son has a strong opinion about not going to see his father then Cafcass may get involved, please see link: What Goes into the Cafcass Family Report? here. From the side of the father, it is only natural that he may wish to see his son and obviously I do not know the situation, but it will be as upsetting and distressing to your ex also (what parent doesn't get upset if their child does not wish to see them?) If you do not wish to go to court and are willing to try to resolve these issues and discuss more fully why your son does not wish to see his father, or what can be done to make the situation better, then mediation may work, please see link: Mediation: What is it and is it For Me? here. The courts will want you to have explored mediation before going down the court route and this way everyone can have their say. In answer to your question, there are no specific 'rules', every case is different and it is much easier all round if a mutual and amicable resolution can be achieved.
ChildSupportLaws - 7-Dec-16 @ 10:30 AM
rachel - Your Question:
Hi I have been with my sons father for 7 years we are not married and our son is 21 months old.i want to leave him but he threatens me and says that I can't take our son with me or he will beat me. He has only supported our son for 6 months of his life the rest of my sons life I have been supporting him with the help of my mother for the past 3 months but other than that I'm the one who always finds a way to get whatever he needs and brings him to his doctor appointments and I don't get any help from his family at all.my sons father hasent had a job in a year. If I leave him what are my rights as a parent and taking my kids with me.i mean I have tried to work things out with him but he dosent want to grow up and take responsibility and help me with our son

Our Response:
If your partner is threatening violence, please see Refuge link here. It has a confidential helpline with fully-trained advisers who can help with support and guidance. If the father is registered on the birth certificate, it means both of you have equal rights to the care of your child. If you wish to leave with your child, then you have every right to do this.
ChildSupportLaws - 6-Dec-16 @ 1:50 PM
I have a 8 year old son who lives with me and his step dad, he hasent had regular contact with his real dad since he was born, when his dad rings to speak to him my son never wants to talk to him or see him and if I say he has too he starts crying and getting upset which diss tresses me and my son, so because he won't go up there he's threatening me with solicitors that I laugh at as I've never stopped him and when he does have my son I have to take him to his dad . So my question is can my son decide whether or not to see his dad or does he need to be older and does his dad have to pick him up from me? Thanks
Emma - 6-Dec-16 @ 11:16 AM
Hi I have been with my sons father for 7 years we are not married and our son is 21 months old.i want to leave him but he threatens me and says that I can't take our son with me or he will beat me. He has only supported our son for 6 months of his life the rest of my sons life I have been supporting him with the help of my mother for the past 3 months but other than that I'm the one who always finds a way to get whatever he needs and brings him to his doctor appointments and I don't get any help from his family at all.my sons father hasent had a job in a year. If I leave him what are my rights as a parent and taking my kids with me.i mean I have tried to work things out with him but he dosent want to grow up and take responsibility and help me with our son
rachel - 6-Dec-16 @ 5:48 AM
Hi. My son is 4 years old. He stopped seeing his dad when he was 2 and I heard nothin from him until I applied for child maintenance from him. So after not seeing my son for just over a year he gets in touch about seeing him so I allowed contact firstly supervised then 1-1. My son is in full time school and I agree to let his dad have him Wednesdays after school for tea till around 5:30pm then every other Saturday from 11am overnight until the Sunday till around 5pm. And then on the weekends he doesn't stay over he has him either Saturday or Sunday 11-5 ish. Which I think is very reasonable and more than enough contact to maintain a good relationship. He has now gone to see a solicitor as he wants my son every Wednesday night for tea as before plus every other weekend Saturday from 11am till he drops him at school on Monday morning.. and then on the weekends he doesn't stay over night he wants him 11-5:30 on either the sat or Sunday. Which will then initially leave me seeing my son for only one full day every other weekend as he is in school Monday - Friday. Is it just me who thinks this 'demand' is totally unreasonable and would court give him all this access even though I give him more than enough as it is. Baring in mind he has only been seeing my son for 10 months. And as he is so young I really don't want him staying over night on a school night as I think it would cause confusion to his routine as this is only his first year at full time school. Please could someone advise me I'm so stressed over it! Thanks.
Rebkel - 22-Nov-16 @ 10:20 PM
Hi. My son is 4 years old. He stopped seeing his dad when he was 2 and I heard nothin from him until I applied for child maintenance from him. So after not seeing my son for just over a year he gets in touch about seeing him so I allowed contact firstly supervised then 1-1. My son is in full time school and I agree to let his dad have him Wednesdays after school for tea till around 5:30pm then every other Saturday from 11am overnight until the Sunday till around 5pm. And then on the weekends he doesn't stay over he has him either Saturday or Sunday 11-5 ish. Which I think is very reasonable and more than enough contact to maintain a good relationship. He has now gone to see a solicitor as he wants my son every Wednesday night for tea as before plus every other weekend Saturday from 11am till he drops him at school on Monday morning.. and then on the weekends he doesn't stay over night he wants him 11-5:30 on either the sat or Sunday. Which will then initially leave me seeing my son for only one full day every other weekend as he is in school Monday - Friday. Is it just me who thinks this 'demand' is totally unreasonable and would court give him all this access even though I give him more than enough as it is. Baring in mind he has only been seeing my son for 10 months. And as he is so young I really don't want him staying over night on a school night as I think it would cause confusion to his routine as this is only his first year at full time school. Please could someone advise me I'm so stressed over it! Thanks.
Rebkel - 22-Nov-16 @ 9:38 PM
My daughter recently refused temporary access to her about to be expected, due to his treatment of their child. As a result he is taking her to court to gain access. The child in question is 9 and doesn't want to have sleep overs but would only like to see the father every other Saturday for a couple of hours.Will the court accept this or will the child be forced into to spending more time with the father?
Yianna - 22-Nov-16 @ 12:24 AM
I have two sons... one being 6 and the other 8. Their father is on one of their birth certificates, but not the other. He disappears for years/months/weeks at a time and then comes back around, blames me for his absence and then demands to see them again. This lasts for about a week or so before the circle starts all over again. He is now threatening to take me to court, as apparently the days and times that I have tried to arrange access for him don't suit his availability (I believe I have been very fair). He has never financially supported either child in the almost 9 years. There has also been a history of domestic violence towards myself. I am just wondering where we stand in all of this? I want to do what is best for my children.
Bex - 19-Nov-16 @ 7:06 AM
Dee - Your Question:
My partner has a daughter with his ex & she has recently moved house, she refuses to give him the new address & we have to collect his daughter from a supermarket car park. We have a child contact order through court already for his daughter, & he pays regular maintenance. His ex is a very unreasonable person & makes contact very difficult. My question is, does my partner have a legal right to know his daughters address?

Our Response:
No he doesn't. His ex is entitled to keep this from your partner, if she chooses. As long as she keeps to the terms of the court order, then his ex is not in breach.
ChildSupportLaws - 17-Nov-16 @ 12:51 PM
My partner has a daughter with his ex & she has recently moved house, she refuses to give him the new address & we have to collect his daughter from a supermarket car park. We have a child contact order through court already for his daughter, & he pays regular maintenance. His ex is a very unreasonable person & makes contact very difficult. My question is, does my partner have a legal right to know his daughters address?
Dee - 17-Nov-16 @ 6:07 AM
Lucy - Your Question:
I've recently got out of a domestic an violent relationship and be cause of the trauma I turned to drink which ended to me putting my 2 boys in voultnry temperate care now ive been told I'm very unlikely to get my children back due to my alcohol intake but I dont my youngest as I'm not aloud and my eldest son is now 7 and just recently his father has come into his life after so many years and is able to c him when e wants where as I have to go once a week to a contact centre I know I've done wrong but nobody seems to care

Our Response:
The fact your ex is allowed to see your child has no bearing on whether you are allowed to see your child (in terms of fairness) as his case is different to yours. Any court would wish to see that you had made concerted efforts to change your lifestyle and/or received help, and that you have had a significant period of having turned your life around before your case 'may' be reconsidered. However, this is supposition as much also depends upon the greater circumstances, which we know nothing about. A court will always decide on what it thinks is in the best interests of your children, and currently it thinks it is not in the best interest of your children that you have unsupervised access. I'm afraid, where is goes from here is down to your own actions to try and rectify the situation. People may not 'seem' to care if they cannot see you have made significant progress. It's not that they don't care, it is that unless there has been a turn around, they cannot begin to think about trying to work towards a solution on your behalf.
ChildSupportLaws - 16-Nov-16 @ 11:02 AM
I've recently got out of a domestic an violent relationship and be cause of the trauma i turned to drink which ended to me putting my 2 boys in voultnry temperate care now ive been told I'm very unlikely to get my children back due to my alcohol intake but I dont my youngest as I'm not aloud and my eldest son is now 7 and just recently his father has come into his life after so many years and is able to c him when e wants where as I have to go once a week to a contact centre I know I've done wrong but nobody seems to care
Lucy - 15-Nov-16 @ 12:38 PM
Kel - Your Question:
Hi I have custody of my two children aged 4 & 8. I took my ex to court as he was refusing to give my children back I agreed to every other weekend and a midweek visit ( overnight or few hours) the girls choice. Last weekend he had the children and due to his neglect and stupidity he put my 4 year old in danger by putting her and 4 other children in the boot of a car no seatbelts or strapped in and resulted in her splitinging her head open wasn't huge but then didn't seek medical advise bought her home. So I took her to a&e and she had to have her head glued.she's only 4 my question is ive stopped the access as I can't trust him to keep her safe.where do I stand with this.I've reported it to the police and it has been reported to social services I just don't know how legally stable I am? Any help would be really helpful!

Our Response:
If you have a court order and you have stopped access, then you are effectively in breach of the court order, which will mean your ex can apply to the courts to have the order enforced. However, if you have a good reason for stopping access as a result of this event, then the courts will take this into consideration and will decide on what it thinks is in the best interests of yoru children.
ChildSupportLaws - 7-Nov-16 @ 12:12 PM
Hi I have custody of my two children aged 4 & 8. I took my ex to court as he was refusing to give my children back I agreed to every other weekend and a midweek visit ( overnight or few hours) the girls choice. Last weekend he had the children and due to his neglect and stupidity he put my 4 year old in danger by putting her and 4 other children in the boot of a car no seatbelts or strapped inand resulted in her splitinging her head open wasn't huge but then didn't seek medical advise bought her home. So I took her to a&e and she had to have her head glued....she's only 4 my question is ive stopped the access as I can't trust him to keep her safe....where do I stand with this...I've reported it to the police and it has been reported to social services I just don't know how legally stable I am? Any help would be really helpful!
Kel - 6-Nov-16 @ 7:21 PM
My husband and i have 4 children. He was married before and has a daughter with his ex. She is 15 years old now. His ex has also gotten married and is pregnant now. My husband pays his maintenance but she wants morw. He gave her more and now she wants another increase. We live drom hand to mouth. Everytime she threatens ti take him to court. What can we do to make her stop.
spike - 4-Nov-16 @ 8:25 PM
So he gets away with it just like that ? Because im too poor to prove hes lying ! This country is so wrong
Fara - 25-Oct-16 @ 9:24 PM
Hi would love so help . My ex has taken custody of my 8 month old baby taking it though court and told LIES saying im a danger to my son with no evidence as i had to get a job straight away to stop myself from being homeless i cannot afford court and i would no represent myself às you can imagine him lying it will be too much for me to handle . While i were with him he put me though a seriouse amount of mental physical and emotional abuse . Hes a complusive liar and will do about anything to stop himself looking the bad one . I have not seen my son in over a month its so heartbreaking and shocking as they have just taken his word for it and punished me . I had a court letter through saying further pending order he can have full custody as long as he makes sure my son has contact with me . The last time i spoke to my ex was lastweek just begging why he would do this to me . He replied with sexual remarks towards myself and totally unrelevant sexuall things . If i agree to see my son while hes in his care he will never stop doing this . So as the court letter says will the refuse him full custody if i refuse contact with my son while hes in his care ? I just cannot handle anyore abuse off this man please someone help
Fara - 25-Oct-16 @ 9:21 PM
Phil - Your Question:
Hi, wonder if you can offer any advice. I currently have a child arrangements order and I am in the process of court again for a variation in the order. I have a new partner and have recently moved in with her where we spend time with my daughter. My ex is now refusing me contact with my daughter, telling me that I won't be seeing her until she has the address however my partner does not which for this to be shared due my ex giving her abuse previously and that she has two young children of her own and has concerns about my ex and her previous behaviours. Can you offer any advice please?

Our Response:
It will really be up to the courts to decide what it thinks is in your child's best interests. Therefore, I'm afraid it is impossible to advise upon.
ChildSupportLaws - 18-Oct-16 @ 2:29 PM
ABBEY - Your Question:
My husband and I parted after 11 months due to adultery alcohol and the physical and mental abuse of both my children Divorce soon followed and I was granted custody Their dad attempted to tarnish my reputation and made false statements designed to create great upset and mistrust to my sons myself family and friends. Tools to accomplish these aims was false vile statements. I successfully completed a range of courses with the many aspects of caring and looking after children. I have cleared my name and I am trying to see my twin sons as one of my strengths is I never give up and I want my sons and love my twin sons. My ex has always told untruths. Can you please advise?

Our Response:
I'm not sure what you wish me to advise on. You don't say whether you were granted a residence order through the courts, and/or if your ex has access to your sons, which makes it difficult to understand what you are asking. If your ex has told untruths in the past, then hopefully the Cafcass report and the courts will be able to uncover this. However, you will have to clarify your question more clearly in order for us to be able to answer it fully.
ChildSupportLaws - 17-Oct-16 @ 10:21 AM
My husbandand i parted after 11 months due to adultery alcohol and the physical and mental abuse of both my children Divorce soon followed and i was granted custody Their dad attempted to tarnish my reputation and made false statements designed to create great upset and mistrust to my sons myself family and friends . Tools to accomplish these aims was false vile statements . I successfully completed a range of courses with the many aspects of caring and looking after children. i have cleared my name and i am trying to see my twin sons as one of my strengths is i never give up and i want my sons and love my twin sons . My ex has always told untruths . Can you please advise?
ABBEY - 16-Oct-16 @ 5:17 AM
Hi, wonder if you can offer any advice. I currently have a child arrangements order and I am in the process of court again for a variation in the order. I have a new partner and have recently moved in with her where we spend time with my daughter. My ex is now refusing me contact with my daughter, telling me that I won't be seeing her until she has the address however my partner does not which for this to be shared due my ex giving her abuse previously and that she has two young children of her own and has concerns about my ex and her previous behaviours. Can you offer any advice please?
Phil - 15-Oct-16 @ 9:06 PM
Have I got any rights to know where my daughter lives.? As I want to have access to my granddaughter.!!! But I'm taking my daughter to court for grandparents rights, but letters from court and mediation can't get I touch with her.! My ex won't give me the address either. Where do I stand???? Regards Eugene Antony Taylor
Tony - 15-Oct-16 @ 1:22 PM
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