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Your Legal Rights as a Parent

By: Anna Martin - Updated: 17 Nov 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
Parent Child Parent With Care Non

Losing full-time contact with a child is a difficult and painful outcome of any separation or divorce. The parent who retains day-to-day care of the child may not experience as much separation anxiety as the non resident parent, but they will however become more financially minded.

Maintenance payments from the non resident parent will help ease the financial pressure of raising a child, but unless parents agree to shared care or regular access and visits there may be other problems to overcome too.

Parenting Plan

A custody court order will include a parenting plan or visitation schedule which parents must adhere to. This plan is more likely to affect, and/or restrict, the non resident parent, particularly if the parents are not able to communicate effectively. Understanding and accepting that there will be imposed changes that will affect a non resident parent’s relationship with their child in some way, may enable the parent to consider expressing views openly prior to the custody order being finalised.

Many parents are able to make private arrangements that put the child’s rights and needs first. Joint custody or shared care will enable both parents to have regular contact with their child, and to contribute equally to the emotional, physical and financial aspects of child raising.

Making Modifications

A non resident parent may have a court order but may still experience problems enforcing it. Being flexible about re-arranging a visit keeps communication open. However, the parent with care must acknowledge the non resident parent’s rights.

If problems persist, threatening to withhold child support is not a good idea. If a parent has to go to court to enforce visitation any threats to stop child support payments will be held against them. Modifying maintenance is only acceptable if the parent with care has an increase in income whilst the non resident parent’s income has decreased, or a parent’s expenses have increased considerably through illness etc.

Parent And Child Rights

On the whole, the law allows parents to bring up their children in accordance with their own beliefs and values. This gives parents the right to make decisions about the child’s upbringing, provided the child’s well-being is never put at risk. Parents must accept that wanting their own way however, is not the same thing as exercising a right. Although parents have the right to set limits they do not have the right to enforce views.

A parent has the right to determine their child’s name, religion, form of education and healthcare. They also have the right to accompany the child outside the UK and agree on emigration issues. Parents who have a joint custody agreement share rights and parental responsibilities. If the child’s parents are divorced, however, the mother generally has charge of parental responsibility, although the father’s opinions can be expressed and documented.

A child’s rights state that a parent must ensure their child is safe from harm, has somewhere to live, has food, clothing, medical care and education and is financially supported.

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If the mother has absconded breaking the court orderand I am unaware after 3 years of trying to locate there whereabouts, should CMS stop taking money from me? The judge was unsuccessful in tracking my son down and I have this on a court document. So through no choice of mine I am unable to see my son. Surely the last strong in my bow would be to haunt payments or pause them until she surfaces with my son? Bare in mind I have spend 27 months trying to locate the mother of my child and my child. Can anybody help with this as I am somewhat confused as to how CMS still believe I should pay even in the light of the judge assiromg me that I shouldn't be paying. HE instructed me to forward the court document proving they was unable to locate my child. I sent it to the Cms and now would like to know what I could do to stop payment full stop.
Tol - 17-Nov-17 @ 3:17 AM
bazza75 - Your Question:
I have a 6 year old having a operation in a couple of weeks time and on the day of the operation I have my daughter that weekend by my daughter's mother has refused me to have her during that weekend without a reasonable explanation. My question is, can she be allowed to do that? Thank You

Our Response:
In all co-parenting relationships it's about compromise and agreement. If your ex is the primary carer, perhaps she wants to take care of your daughter at her main home if she is coming out of hospital. Hopefully, you can change the weekend date to the following weekend and/or visit. If a court order is in place, theoretically your ex will be in breach of the order, but there is little a court would do as punishment due to the circumstances of your daughter having an operation.
ChildSupportLaws - 6-Nov-17 @ 3:53 PM
Bikemad - Your Question:
I have a 7 year old son, I have him twice a week. I have asked for overnight access and refused previously. I have a long term partner and a theee year old and feel we need to arrange alternative eeekends access can she refuse still? Can she refuse all access Where do I stand I don't want not to see my son if I push for overnight stays

Our Response:
If your requests have been refused, your only option would be to suggest mediation to your ex in order to try to resolve the issue. If your ex refuses mediation, then you would have the opportunity to apply to court. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order. However, if you have had consistent access with your son (as you have) and your ex cannot give a justifiable reason why you shouldn't have your son overnight, then it is likely overnight access will be granted. Seeking some legal advice may be an option if you are unsure whether you wish to push for overnight access. As in all situations, mutual agreement is always best. However, if your ex refuses to comply and there is no good reason, then sometimes you have to push a little in order to get the access you want. But, that's up to you, many non-resident parents don't want to rock the boat in fear of access being denied while the case comes to the family court.
ChildSupportLaws - 6-Nov-17 @ 12:42 PM
I have a 6 year old having a operation in a couple of weeks time and on the day of the operation I have my daughter that weekend by my daughter's mother has refused me to have her during that weekend without a reasonable explanation. My question is, can she be allowed to do that? Thank You
bazza75 - 6-Nov-17 @ 9:10 AM
I have a 7 year old son, I have him twice a week. I have asked for overnight access and refused previously. I have a long term partner and a theee year old and feel we need to arrange alternative eeekends access can she refuse still? Can she refuse all access Where do I stand I don't want not to see my son if I push for overnight stays
Bikemad - 4-Nov-17 @ 1:41 PM
Kc - Your Question:
I have 9 month old twin daughters and I am no longer in a relationship with their father, he wants contact with them and I'm more than happy to let him have contact with them but I do not want them to go to his home because it is not safe for their health or wellbeing, I've gave him a few options on how he can see them but he is disagreeing with me because he wants it his way and won't take into account the risks in his home and because I won't agree with him he is threatening me with legal action, He is stopping himself from seeing them because of his stubbornness but blaming me for it

Our Response:
In cases such as this, mediation should be explored in the first instance in order to come to a resolution outside of court. If both of you cannot agree a suitable arrangement, then your ex will have the option to apply to court. If the matter goes to court, then as in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the children in question. The court will always put the children’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order. As the children's joint parent, you would have to be able to justify why their father's home is not suitable and why their father is not suitable to have unsupervised access of his children. As there are two parents in any relationship, both parents are deemed to have equal rights to care for their children, unless it can be proved otherwise and that your children may come to harm when in the care of the other parent.
ChildSupportLaws - 2-Nov-17 @ 10:52 AM
I have 9 month old twin daughters and I am no longer in a relationship with their father, he wants contact with them and I'm more than happy to let him have contact with them but I do not want them to go to his home because it is not safe for their health or wellbeing, I've gave him a few options on how he can see them but he is disagreeing with me because he wants it his way and won't take into account the risks in his home and because i won't agree with him he is threatening me with legal action, He is stopping himself from seeing them because of his stubbornness but blaming me for it
Kc - 1-Nov-17 @ 2:00 PM
Non-resident dad - Your Question:
Hi, I have a 1 yr old baby with my partner but we are not married. we have recently split up and I would like to know my rights as a Father in relation to how often I am legally allowed to see my child. My partner insists that I cannot take our child out without her there so therefore stopping me from spending quality time just us 2.Is she allowed to do this? any help would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance.

Our Response:
There are no rules or laws on how much a parent should see their child, it should be agreed mutually between the parents. Where is cannot be agreed, you should suggest mediation as a way of trying to resolve the issues outside of court. If your ex refuses, then you would have the option to apply to court for a child arrangement order, please see link here .
ChildSupportLaws - 31-Oct-17 @ 1:02 PM
Hi, I have a 1 yr old baby with my partner but we are not married. we have recently split up and I would like to know my rights as a Father in relation to how often I am legally allowed to see my child. My partner insists that I cannot take our child out without her there so therefore stopping me from spending quality time just us 2.Is she allowed to do this? any help would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance.
Non-resident dad - 30-Oct-17 @ 10:49 PM
Hi, I am after some advice, I have had a residence order in my favour for several years for both my daughters.Only 1 of my daughters has contact with her mother, she is now 16, so the contact order has now ended, but she chose to still see her mother on the same scedules weekends.She is currently at her mothers as it is the school holiday but her mother is refusing to return her.The contact order stated her mother should collect and return her.My daughter has to return to school on monday, which she cannot do from her mothers house due to distance.The last time I collected her there was a selection of the mothers family waiting and I was assaulted.I have contacted the police who are refusing to act.
resident dad - 26-Oct-17 @ 8:56 AM
Whisper - Your Question:
Hello, please could you advise on my situation at all?I am divorced from my daughters father. She is now 7 years old and has had no contact with him for five years. This was his choice not mine. He does not pay child support and I have never sought a claim for any as I do not want anything from him.I am re-marrying the man who is father to my eldest son who is 16. My partner and I provide all financial support and care for my daughter. My daughter is fully aware of her natural father and I would never try to hide that from her, however she states my partner is her father and calls him such. We are wanting to relocate abroad within the next 4 years before my daughter reaches the crucial gcse age bracket. My ex-husband has parental responsibility.Given the fact there has been no contact over the last 5 years and working on the probability there won’t be any to come, do you think it would be difficult for us to make this move? IMany thanks in advance

Our Response:
You would have to get permission from your ex if he has PR, and he refuses, then you would have to request permission through the courts. However, it is more than likely you would be given the go-ahead through court to leave the UK if your ex has not been part of your daughter's life.
ChildSupportLaws - 23-Oct-17 @ 10:39 AM
Hello, please could you advise on my situation at all? I am divorced from my daughters father. She is now 7 years old and has had no contact with him for five years. This was his choice not mine. He does not pay child support and I have never sought a claim for any as I do not want anything from him. I am re-marrying the man who is father to my eldest son who is 16. My partner and I provide all financial support and care for my daughter. My daughter is fully aware of her natural father and I would never try to hide that from her, however she states my partner is her father and calls him such. We are wanting to relocate abroad within the next 4 years before my daughter reaches the crucial gcse age bracket. My ex-husband has parental responsibility. Given the fact there has been no contact over the last 5 years and working on the probability there won’t be any to come, do you think it would be difficult for us to make this move? I Many thanks in advance
Whisper - 22-Oct-17 @ 12:23 PM
Radders1988 - Your Question:
Hi my son is 5 years old been fighting threw court for past 5 years final he moving in to our new home in november but I going be a single dad with solo rights. He is currently on a car order by social services and will be when he comes to me. I need advice am in full time work but might have take time out to get him settled in home am I entitled to claim child benifits and how long for before local job center try pushing me back into work and how long would it take to get the benifits final sort and get payments.

Our Response:
You would be entitled to claim child benefits and any other benefits you may be entitled to, please see link here . However, we cannot specify how long it would take etc, you would need to contact the Jobcentre Plus directly.
ChildSupportLaws - 20-Oct-17 @ 10:55 AM
@Serena - let me get this straight. Your OH's mother want's your OH to have his child every weekend? Why can't he have his child every weekend? Parenting is supposed to be a shared thing. Poor child, it doesn't seem he is getting any love from either parent, with both parents trying to shove him off with the other :(
LizO - 19-Oct-17 @ 2:31 PM
Hi my son is 5 years old been fighting threw court for past 5 years final he moving in to our new home in november but I going be a single dad with solo rights. He is currently on a car order by social services and will be when he comes to me. I need advice am in full time work but might have take time out to get him settled in home am I entitled to claim child benifits and how long for before local job center try pushing me back into work and how long would it take to get the benifits final sort and get payments.
Radders1988 - 19-Oct-17 @ 1:24 PM
My OH split up from his ex over a year ago. She was verbally and physically abusive during their relationship (not reported to any authority) She first demanded my OH had the child in the week then changed her mind to every weekend. My OH is not able to continue doing every weekend but on his last meeting his ex refused to take the child even one weekend a month claiming it wasn't convenient. She threatened to stop access and said if he texts her in advance she will consider taking her child one weekend. This is conditional on her and my OH meeting regularly so she can change the arrangement as she sees fit. What can we do? I have suggested mediation to my OH but he's worried she won't agree to anything. The child complains he doesn't see his mum at all as she's out before he gets up and home after he goes to sleep, he cries that he misses her. His grandparents take him to nursery as they are unemployed. Will the child's wish to see his mother for regular leisure time impact any decision made in court? Would it even be worth going to court to settle this?
Serena - 18-Oct-17 @ 7:08 PM
suzi- Your Question:
My mother took my daughter from my life and went to the court and has unfairly told stories so that the court would offer my mum parental responsibility. I have no say and there is no justice. I am an epileptic with controlled epilepsy and I am 43 and lost my daughter who is egyptian / canadian and I don't think it is good for her not to know her routes and my mum is hell and very controlling. Help

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this, but unfortunately we are unable to help with advice. Only the courts have the power to reverse this order and you would have to seek further legal advice.
ChildSupportLaws - 17-Oct-17 @ 2:20 PM
Kitty- Your Question:
My son was briefly involved in a relationship which he had ended. Soon after that he was informed that his ex girlfriend was pregnant, He never restrainted from accepting his responsibility towards his soon. Both parents are professionals on good salary. Ex girlfriend is making impossible for my son to have a regular contact with his soon in spite of recent court hearing which was in my son's favour, including over night stays every other weekend. His son is 2 years old, who knows who knows his dad.However, ex girlfriend has been misinforming her GP and health visitor, saying that regular overnight contact is disruptive in my grandson's life. Both professionals took her comments as true statements and advicesed Judge to change his verdict. My questions are as follow:1. Is it professional of GP and HV to advise the court without observing my son with his child when both are in the community without the mother being present2. How it is possible for this mother to manipulate the court in her favour, in spite of receiving a genorous maintance, every month and knowing that the father has best interest and intention towards his son.3. What are the rights of my son? How come, the mother is allowed to deprive their child to form a proper relationship with his dad? 4 Can her behaviour be classed as neglect ? Can her increasingly difficult behaviour masifesting itself as contempt of court and seeking overturning the first verdict can go unnoticed?5. What about the rights of my grandson?6. Can he be represented by an advocate from what it used to be known as Speak Up?7. Can the actions of the mother be seen asAlmost vendictive? Especially, moving away from neighbourhood and moving into the area where it takes 5hrs one way by car?Looking forward to hearing from you.Kind regardsLarysaIt is immensely painful for my son and soul destrying experience for our family.

Our Response:
Unfortunately, all your questions are very difficult to answer as they are subjective and can only be answered through a court. There is a term called 'parental alienation' which is being increasingly recognised. Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is where one parents attempts to turn the children against the other parent. Where divorces are less than amicable, it’s sadly not uncommon, and generally used by mothers in an attempt to ensure little or no contact between their exes and children. If it could be proven that a parent had used PAS, there could be legal repercussions. In practice, however, establishing that can very difficult. Using it on a child is a form of abuse in medical terms, and legally it becomes a type of coaching, both of which are illegal. For the victim, generally the father, to prove PAS is very difficult. Your son would have to attempt to prove the lengths his ex has gone to prevent access. In which case, your son would need a good solicitor. One point to note in your Q2. Child access and child maintenance have no bearing upon each other. Regardless of whether your son is paying a 'generous maintenance' towards his child or not, it should not be used a basis for contact. Your son's only recourse if to try to get the original order enforced by attempting to prove his ex is being devious. A court will punish a resident parent, if it thinks there is no genuine or valid reason to stop the other parent seeing their child.
ChildSupportLaws - 17-Oct-17 @ 1:01 PM
Summer - Your Question:
Me and my partner have a 9 year old boy together, we split up when he was 4 yrs old as his father was involved in another relationship. I have always allowed him to see his father and he stays with him for two nights per week and has access to him for days out holidays etc. in the meantime his father has had three different relationships with women. He has moved them into his home and got them involved in my sons life. He has another new girlfriend now who he has introduced to my son who has moved in his home, my sons has broke down crying saying he does not want to stay at his dads house anymore but still wants to see him. I tried to explain this to his father and he has accused me of telling him to say this which is totally untrue.Now he has told me that I need to get a solicitor as he is threatning to take me to court over access. I took my son to school today and he was in tears I told him dad was picking him up and he was staying. He begged me not to let him go and I assured him it will be ok. His dad messaged me to saying you cant do nothing im picking him up and im having him its my turn and dont bother calling him. I feel awful for my son and this is affecting him and his emotions, I dont know what to do. I told him to tell his dad how he feels and he said no, because he will get upset and say I dont love him anymore.This is awful for him if you can give me any advice I would really appreciate it thankyou

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. In cases where parents cannot agree and there is an issue that cannot be sorted out, then you would both have to consider mediation. It is unlikley your ex will not be allowed to apply to court prior to you both seeking mediation. However, this is obviously an issue you need to sort out. It is understandable why your ex feels upset if he feels his son is rejecting him. Is it something the three of you (including your son) can sit down and try to speak about? It is obviously important that your ex knows the reasons why your son is having difficulties, so that he and your son can attempt to work around them.
ChildSupportLaws - 17-Oct-17 @ 12:15 PM
Me and my partner have a 9 year old boy together, we split up when he was 4 yrs old as his father was involved in another relationship. I have always allowed him to see his father and he stays with him for two nights per week and has access to him for days out holidays etc.. in the meantime his father has had three different relationships with women. He has moved them into his home and got them involved in my sons life. He has another new girlfriend now who he has introduced to my son who has moved in his home, my sons has broke down crying saying he does not want to stay at his dads house anymore but still wants to see him. I tried to explain this to his father and he has accused me of telling him to say this which is totally untrue. Now he has told me that I need to get a solicitor as he is threatning to take me to court over access. I took my son to school today and he was in tears I told him dad was picking him up and he was staying. He begged me not to let him go and I assured him it will be ok. His dad messaged me to saying you cant do nothing im picking him up and im having him its my turn and dont bother calling him. I feel awful for my son and this is affecting him and his emotions, I dont know what to do. I told him to tell his dad how he feels and he said no, because he will get upset and say i dont love him anymore..This is awful for him if you can give me any advice I would really appreciate it thankyou
Summer - 16-Oct-17 @ 4:53 PM
Karen1 - Your Question:
My son (14) has behavioural issues and adhd. I am a single mother. My son sees his father every 2/3 weeks. For years I have attended school meetings, peodiatrician appointments etc and supported him in sports to keep him too busy to get in trouble. Following an incident whereby I have grounded him for 1 week, he has telephoned his father to collect him saying he is unhappy at home. His father texted to say he is collecting him. I have explained that he must not and cannot choose where to live when he needs to accept responsibility for his behaviour. Can he do this? Who do I ring to enforce him not doing this? Is their a court order I can get?

Our Response:
You would have to apply for a child arrangement order which would determine with whom your child should live, please see link here. However, mediation should also be considered to try to resolve the issue where an issue cannot be resolved between parents directly. If your child's father has parental responsibility, your child's father can allow yours/his child to live with him and the police cannot intervene, only the court can decide what it thinks is in the best interests of your child. However, hopefully it will not come to this and the matter will blow over.
ChildSupportLaws - 16-Oct-17 @ 2:09 PM
My son (14) has behavioural issues and adhd. I am a single mother. My son sees his father every 2/3 weeks. For years I have attended school meetings, peodiatrician appointments etc and supported him in sports to keep him too busy to get in trouble. Following an incident whereby I have grounded him for 1 week, he has telephoned his father to collect him saying he is unhappy at home. His father texted to say he is collecting him. I have explained that he must not and cannot choose where to live when he needs to accept responsibility for his behaviour. Can he do this? Who do I ring to enforce him not doing this? Is their a court order I can get?
Karen1 - 15-Oct-17 @ 4:09 PM
My son was briefly involved in a relationship which he had ended. Soon after that he was informed that his ex girlfriend was pregnant, He never restrainted from accepting his responsibility towards his soon. Both parents are professionals on good salary. Ex girlfriend is making impossible for my son to have a regular contact with his soon in spite of recent court hearing which was in my son's favour, including over night stays every other weekend. His son is 2 years old, who knows who knows his dad. However, ex girlfriend has been misinforming her GP and health visitor, saying that regular overnight contact is disruptive in my grandson's life. Both professionals took her comments as true statements and advicesed Judge to change his verdict.My questions are as follow: 1. Is it professional of GP and HV to advise the court without observing my son with his child when both are in the community without the mother being present 2. How it is possible for this mother to manipulate the court in her favour, in spite of receiving a genorous maintance, every month and knowing that the father has best interest and intention towards his son. 3. What are the rights of my son? How come, the mother is allowed to deprive their child to form a proper relationship with his dad? 4 Can her behaviour be classed as neglect ? Can her increasingly difficult behaviour masifesting itselfas contempt of court and seeking overturning the first verdict can go unnoticed? 5. What about the rights of my grandson? 6. Can he be represented by an advocate from what it used to be known as Speak Up? 7. Can the actions of the mother be seen as Almost vendictive? Especially, moving away from neighbourhood and moving into the area where it takes 5hrs one way by car? Looking forward to hearing from you. Kind regards Larysa It is immensely painful for my son and soul destrying experience for our family.
Kitty - 14-Oct-17 @ 9:55 PM
My mother took my daughter from my life and went to the court and has unfairly told stories so that the court would offer my mum parental responsibility. I have no say and there is no justice. I am an epileptic with controlled epilepsy and I am 43 and lost my daughter who is egyptian / canadian and I don't think it is good for her not to know her routes and my mum is hell and very controlling. Help
suzi - 13-Oct-17 @ 6:21 PM
Dmw34 - Your Question:
Hi, I have asked my exe for the full child maintenance we agreed over 2 years ago and he says he can't afford it, he said if I go to the csa he will go for joint custody, where do I stand? He sees his daughter twice a week as it is.

Our Response:
If your ex is not paying child maintenance, my advice is to go to CMS and request payment. In order to apply for shared care of your child/children your ex would have to first request you attend mediation and if you don't attend, only then would you be able to apply to court.
ChildSupportLaws - 10-Oct-17 @ 12:44 PM
Hi, I have asked my exe for the full child maintenance we agreed over 2 years ago and he says he can't afford it, he said if I go to the csa he will go for joint custody, where do I stand? He sees his daughter twice a week as it is.
Dmw34 - 9-Oct-17 @ 7:37 PM
Hi can someone help me here. My ex husband has applied and been granted an Italian and Portuguese ID for my daughter behind my back and without my consent. My daughter is English and was born in the uk. He’s refusing to let me have the documents despite the fact I have a residence order and an agreement in place where he sees her two days every week. Does he have the right to hold on to these documents? Thank you
A mom Kelly - 8-Oct-17 @ 6:39 AM
Hi, please can someone help me? My husband received a letter from a Lawyer his ex went to regarding access to their daughter (daughter is 9, my husbands ex left him when lg was 1, we met when she was 4), my husband is very easy going and him and his parents have always been on hand for my step daughter but last cple of yrs its been tense with one thing and another with ex stopping and starting access when it suits her. The letter today said that "Miss X has decided you will see your daughter every second Sunday from 10-4, if you want further contact at least a weeks notice must be given to Miss X but contact may be denied depending on Miss X". His ex was annoyed 2 yrs ago when my husbands Work changed his hours and days from Mon-Fri to 12hr day/nights including weekends so he couldn't continue having his lg every weekend from Fri aft to Mon Morn and pay maintenance as he'd have lost his job. Basically she has made our life a nightmare leading us to change our landline due to her pestering even then she got it from his Mum after backing her in a corner (Ex has always had mobile to contact). Can husbands Ex dictate when he sees his daughter? Ideally we'd like her every second weekend like a lot of separated families (Husbands hours are now changing again). I feel sorry for husband as he's been stopped from seeing his daughter on last 3 bdays and Xmas Days and only ever received one small school photo and seen one school report. Sorry for the long message, thankyou for any advice.
Azzie - 3-Oct-17 @ 10:20 PM
Hi I am a new mum and I don't have my child. He lives with his dad and he has full custody, while I am in a supervision order until may. My son is 9 months old I am very isolated due to me sacrificing friends and family being close moved from South Wales to stoke. During this situation I was not allowed to SW emt son for his first Xmas just gone, I didn't see him on Mother's Day, I am now worries sick that I won't see him on his first birthday even though I have supervisors available and his dad is okay with me being there on his birthday. I have autism and I am suffering with PTSDfrom the trauma of having pre clampsia then emergency C section and then local authority took my son off me 7 days later. I've dealt with this all in my own. I feel on his birthday I will have so many flash backs and I feel that if my parents can go to his party why can't his mum. Does anyone know any information on this? I am in contact with the MP Karen Bradley too. As I am trying to raise awareness and get more support.
Jem - 28-Sep-17 @ 3:04 PM
Mich - Your Question:
Hi, the mother of my child has stopped me seeing the children for no reason, she has also contacted csa stating that she wants me to stop all payments to her. I want to pay for my children and am desperate to see them but she won't let me. Any advise would be great fully received

Our Response:
Child maintenance and child access have no bearing on each other. You have a right to apply to see your children whether their mother accepts child maintenance payments or not. Your first step should be to send a registered or solicitors letter to your ex-partner in which you ask her to reinstate contact between you and your children either by mutual discussion or through mediation. You should state that if she does not do so and if she refuses consider mediation in order to try and resolve the issue, then you’ll have to resort to legal action. Don't forget to take a copy of the letter for your records and keep your proof of sending. If this produces no action, you have no alternative but to go to court and ask for a contact order, please see link here .
ChildSupportLaws - 26-Sep-17 @ 4:21 PM
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