Lifestyle Inconsistent with Income Award: How Is It Decided?

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Lifestyle Inconsistent with Income Award: How Is It Decided?
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I am the parent with care. I won a "lifestyle inconsistent with income" award at a tribunal but my ex-partner has refused to pay maintenance. A liability order has been granted but as she now has no income, a charge is being put on her house. I am frustated about this as it doesn't help our sons financially and she continues to lead an extravagant lifestyle.

My argument against this decision is surely the CSA is contradicting itself as the basis of the award is "lifestyle inconsistent with income". This is the 3rd liability order - the first two debts were collected by bailiffs , the 2nd one, last year, being in excess of £5000! Therefore I believe this should be the initial course of action again. Do you know who/how the course of action is decided? Is there some set down law/policy?

I can understand why you’re asking the question! The CMS has discretion on this one – either they can take action in the county court to enforce a liability order or they can seize goods. I am speculating here, but the CMS may be of the view that the bailiffs would be pushed to seize eligible goods to the value required on this occasion.

Seizure of Goods

Seizing goods belonging to your ex-partner is known as ‘distress’. However, it may be that the CMS has taken the view that your ex-partner does not have sufficient or eligible assets to seize. Not all property can be seized, and items such as furniture, clothing, bedding, money, cheques and other securities for money, household equipment and basic domestic items (e.g. toasters, irons, kettles) are exempt. If your ex-partner works and, for example, needs to use her car for work, this is deemed to be an item ‘necessary for work’ in which case it couldn’t be seized.

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The Powers of the CMS

The ‘Operational Improvement Plan’ (launched in February 2006 and designed to improve the performance of the CSA and collection of maintenance) provides that the CSA will use every type of sanction available to it in enforcement of liability orders, including asset seizure (which your ex-partner has already experienced), as well as removing her driving licence and even sending her to prison.

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Enforcement of Liability Orders

The CMS has decided on this occasion to take county court action and to treat the unpaid child support as though it were a judgment debt i.e. as though it were an unpaid county court judgment. They must therefore be of the view that there is sufficient equity in her property to warrant this type of enforcement action. Bear in mind, also, that the CMS can now apply to the court for an order of sale, in which case the charge would be paid from the proceeds of the sale after any priority debts have been paid (e.g. a mortgage, second mortgage or ‘homeowner loan.’) In order to grant an order for sale, the court must be satisfied that your ex-partner has alternative living arrangements – in other words, they can’t simply make her homeless.

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ChildSupportLaws Editor 22/05/2026 at 9:17 am
@Kevin Mason Unfortunately CMS calculations are based on your gross income and the number of nights the children actually stay with you, not on what you'd like the arrangement to be. You can apply for a variation if you have specific costs like contact (travel to see the kids) or certain debts from the relationship, but general living expenses and household debts aren't considered. Worth ringing CMS directly to ask about a variation on those grounds. For the contact issue itself, a C100 application with fee remission or Family Mediation is really your only route back.
Kevin Mason 19/10/2023 at 1:28 pm
My wife and I separated last year following the latest of her infidelities. Since she moved out ten months ago she has denied every request for me to see our children 6, 10. I commenced court proceedings but had to abandon them due to the excessive legal fees. I earn too much for legal aid, but now Im responsible for all the house expenses and debts, I have very little in the way of disposable income. An assessment by CMS for the full amount of child support seems harsh, given that I am more than willing to have my children, but am being prevented from doing so. This amounts to little more than a Child Tax.
Do I have any course of action in appealing the CMS amount, given that my lack of overnight stays with the children is not due to my not wanting them, but from them being withheld from me ?
Also, do CMS not take into account the ability to pay, when making an assement ?
Penny 15/06/2020 at 7:46 am
Hi. I, as the father, have full residency of my daughter. My ex has 3 other children by different men that live with her. This has been taken into account and therefore what she would have been paying for our daughter has been reduced to £35 per month. Considering she has a job on top of have many benefits from the government, she also sells things privately to earn extra money. She hasn't seen her daughter since March 1st and that was only for 1 hour. Before that it was the first weekend of January. We are now into June nearly July and she barely makes contact with our daughter. CSA have made it clear that until lockdown is over we cannot make her pay money. To us, this is crazy. She is not only breaking lockdown rules by going out partying, getting a huge new tattoo, getting her nails done and even paying someone to take 'modelling' photos of her, she also smokes and travels over an hour to see her family and friends multiple times a week. She makes excuses saying she cant afford to come see our daughter as she has no fuel or extra cash during lockdown. We are closer to her than any of her family and friends.
CSA also explained that when lockdown is over, the missed payments will be split over a course of months. So she may only pay an extra £5 a month to compensate the missed payments. CSA never treated me like this when the shoe was on the other foot. I was a day late paying my child maintenance one month and you guys took two months worth in one go and left me stuck, even though i called to make the payment the following day. That was £250 x2. You guys messed up and when i asked for the money to refunded so i could afford to get to work, you wouldn't. SO WHY is it so different for her??? Im supporting our child with my wife without any of her help and somehow she is allowed to? Can you explain why she doesn't get the full amount taken from her? or why her payments arent going up now she hasn't seen her daughter for several months?? Equality is not shown with CSA.
Me 25/06/2019 at 12:58 pm
Good afternoon , I need to get information on how to make proceed in child support . Will you be able to help me please. My ex has been very awkward with child support and payments .
Thank you.
Going Crazy!! 19/05/2019 at 9:03 pm
Hi,

After a long battle in court I have managed to obtain shared custody (55/45). It seems my ex wife wanted this to keep receiving the maintenance. I always was paying the maintenance amount on time even though she refused to give me cloth for the kids and had to go on emergency buying them cloth on a Friday evening.

After the shared custody agreement she started to ask me to pay half of the child care on top of the maintenance payments. I refused and questioned why am I paying maintenance if I should pay all the other expenses as well, knowing that she earns £10k more than me and get all the government benefits.
I called the CMS and every agent I spoken to has advised that the child care should be covered in the maintenance payments even for the days I have to children and that the amount is calculated based on what the governments believe I can financially contribute to the upbringing of my children according to the legislation. yet my Ex wife still refuses and my children are going to lose access to the after school club on my days as she only pays for her days. Can you please help with this and guide me to where I can find the legislation information, as this is putting at risk my job? I feel I am being asked to chose between my job or my children!
Thanks
Mint77 23/10/2018 at 1:58 am
My X claims for 3 kids knowing 1 is deffo not mine and that child also knows I'm not her father but when I suggested DNA she used blackmail I now have reason to believe the eldest is not mine bus CMS said I can't have DNA through them and if I go private she can refuse it . I'm not on any birth certs and explained all this to CMS but the were insulting and patronising , can I stop paying untill they prove I am ??
ChildSupportLaws Editor 17/07/2018 at 2:07 pm
If you feel you are paying too much, the child maintenance calculator here gives a benchmark payment of what you would pay if you applied through CMS. This may be less than your family-based agreement, so you can go on the calculator's advice. This means you would legally be justified to pay your ex less.
Ronny 15/07/2018 at 7:08 pm
I am a divorced man who pays an agreed upon sum for Child support to my ex. wife who has custody of our 9 yewr old son.This sum is generous and it ensures my son who lives with his mother alone with a full time maid in a luxury apartment can afford to do this . They have been living this way for 4 years and everything has been fine . Suddenly, my Ex wife has decided to move into an apartment with her parents in order to "save money".

Our son, now has to live with his old grandparents . Though he will have his own room. My ex. wife is still demanding the SAME child support payments so she can pocket the money that is supposed to be used for our son.

I have even told her that I would have been willing to pay any increases in expenses eg. should rent have gone up. but she simply ignores my e mails and continues to demand the same child support payments .

What can I do about this ?

Thank you for your help.
RJ 28/04/2018 at 5:50 pm
My friend had an agreemen5 to pay his x a set sum each month. This agreement was in response to the transitioning of the CSA (excuse my terminology: I’m American). He has been paying support, never has not paid support; never has been late, shares expenses and shared parental responsibility. My friend has his son a minimum 2 nights per week and holidays per a schedule that has been in effect since the child was 3, he is now 15. My friend picks up and delivers his son, he tries to avoid any and all contact with the woman be for personal reasons, she I said vicious and vengeful. She routinely obstructs access, patientsl alienation, obsessive control, my friend and his son, just try to lay low, convincing themselves it’s only another year until her control over them is over. My friend lives Paycheck To paycheck. SHe recently went to the CSA and opened a case against him. My friend I sent distraught. HE CANnot afford the extra money, and fears he can no longer afford the gas to get his son during the week. He I said in hardship. He has a job, in debt, is barely making it by as it is. What can he do. He tried to discuss it with her, she yelled at him, slammed the door in his face, and threatened to have his son arrested for assault, his son stopped the door from slamming in his face. She’s a bullly. What can he do if he seriously can’t afford the assessment. Are they allowed to put you in the poorhouse? His family is helping him keep his head afloat as it is. He is not living outside his means.
cat 07/03/2018 at 10:53 pm
Hi - I need some advice. The following is a VERY abbreviated version of events to keep it simple.
I am awaiting a date for tribunal based on the CMS not having jurisdiction over my ex husbands earnings due to them being earned outwith the UK. He is however, habitually resident in the UK. He is self employed and gets paid by a French company into his American bank account. His business is also registered in the USA. (He declared the same business insolvent in the UK one month prior to setting it up again in the states).I know for a fact what he earns- between £10-12k per MONTH but the CMS cant touch it.
The judge at the tribunal has requested him to provide evidence of all sources of income to the courts - earned in the UK AND abroad.
My question is : Can the tribunal have the jurisdiction over his income earned outwith the UK? Yes, he lives a lifestyle inconsistent with his 'supposed' income. He has a mansion, a posh car etc. Owns about 5 properties in the UK etc. (not mortgage free)
He is basically laughing at me saying that the tribunal cant make him pay more maintenance due to the jurisdiction issue and that his accountants are 'working on it' to make him look as poor as possible due to his vast amount of outgoings.
Have you had experience of this issue before and how likely is the tribunal to decide in my favour?(even with the jurisdiction issue). I was always told that his outgoings were irrelevant and that his obligation to his children is classed as the primary 'debt' to be paid first.
Seems like it would be a waste of time and money to request evidence of his foreign income if they could not do anything about it.
Any advice greatly appreciated.
ChildSupportLaws Editor 24/03/2017 at 1:56 pm
You would have to seek legal advice to see whether you have a case to answer. A court would look into your ex's circumstances more in depth to see whether his lifestyle was measurable with his earnings. However, if his current partner is earning, then it may be her who is financing his lifestyle. Therefore, it is important to be sure whether you have a strong case, as along with legal fees you could be awarded the costs if you take the matter to court and you lose.
Gem 24/03/2017 at 8:09 am
My sons dad has managed to hide hundred thousands of pounds and my daughter is 8 now he has not ever paid through Csa and went over to child maintenance in 2015 and he still ain't paid any of the amounts he owes he has lied a lot seems he is driving sports cars and has a house full of expensive things he again has a income not matching his lifestyle I have struggled financially the whole of her life as all my money goes on my daughter can I take this any further?? He has out standing payments of a poxy £125 for the whole 5 years it's been calculated to £5 a week really poor when he has everything has no contact to his new jealous gf and they also have a daughter now 3 years younger than my daughter and she gets everything it's sooo cruel I'm glad my daughter is unaware of it all but one day I will have to explain the truth can I do anything?? Thanks Gemma
ChildSupportLaws Editor 20/03/2017 at 12:52 pm
You can only be paid the amount owed in back-dated pay.
Mariemc 19/03/2017 at 4:13 pm
My ex husband, MD of his own company has been declaring a false income to the CSA for a least 5 years. The CMS has just reviewed my case and obtained info direct from HMRC. The amount he has to pay has now doubled. He sees two of our three children (his choice entirely) for two hours every two weeks and offers no other support, financial or otherwise, other than the amount directed officially. My question is, he has underpaid by thousands over the years by lying about income. Am I able to claim compensation for this to recover what should have rightly been paid in the first place?
ChildSupportLaws Editor 21/10/2016 at 10:28 am
While on paper this may seem like a good idea, but it all really comes down to what your wife's opinion is and the level she wishes to accept or reject suggestions. If she agrees, then you can either carry out this arrangement formally (drawn up through mediation or a solicitor), or informally between yourselves. However, if your ex does not agree and you wish to pursue your points, then dependent upon the level of disagreement, it can end up in court (and the court will always decide on what it thinks is in the best interests of your children). Please also be aware that any arrangements made outside court for maintenance etc, is not set in stone and can be reneged upon. Meaning they are very much circumstantial and based upon the smooth running of 'life'. As we know, life is not always smooth running and situations can change. On the plus-side, the easier you can come to an amicable agreement with your wife, the better, as it means both parents are equally as supportive and can work together in the best interests of the children. I realise I haven't quite answered your question, but as there are so many variables, if you can negotiate directly with your wife, those variables can be made more secure through diplomatic means. But it seems your wife has her own separate ideas upon what she wants out to the divorce.
Brian 24/07/2016 at 12:34 pm
Ive always paid my wife the CSA money but she appealed saying my lifestyle is inconsistent with my income. At the time I lived off my savings as my business was not doing well and still isn't. She is claiming arrears back to 2011. I have appealed and the case is now being looked at my a tribunal who are attempting to make an award to my wife based on assets I own due to my income being so low. I have discovered there are three versions of CSA law and the tribunal are using the version from 2011 as under the current CSA law they are not allowed to look at assets. Surely the current law for now should apply as the arrears will be up to the present day??
SCN 15/07/2016 at 5:33 pm
I need some advice, we have recieved the details about the new CSA payments, we want to know if the child support still has to be paid if we have shared care of the children. i.e. we have the children one week and then ex has then a week and so on. Also is child support law actually upheld by law or not? Thanks in advance
ChildSupportLaws Editor 12/04/2016 at 10:54 am
If you have been registered as the father, then you will obliged to pay to help support your child financially. You can see what you should be paying which
SP 11/04/2016 at 11:25 am
My ex girl friend told me she is pregnant 7 months after we broke up. It was decided that child will be put up for adaption as best options. which was agreed . However after she had the baby, she decided to keep the child without informing me. As such, baby was registered as me as the dad. It was agreed that I would pay average cost as per my wages . However they also said they don't want any payments . It was also agreed that I will see her on regular time. Now she is asking for Child support and gone to CSA. Please advise what I have to pay.
ChildSupportLaws Editor 04/12/2015 at 10:20 am
If you feel you have been treated unfairly, or you view the decision as wrong, then all I can suggest is that you complain. Please see link: here and the Complaints Resolution Team will try to officially sort this out.
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