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What Rights Does My Ex Have With Regards to Our Children?

By: Elizabeth Mugan BA/BSc, PGDipLaw, BVC, CIArb - Updated: 1 Jul 2016 |
 
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We get many comments and questions from you about child support. We've taken a selection of your comments addressing the issue of keeping contact with your children and the fear of your ex taking them from you - and asked our expert to give some comprehensive information and advice.

The traditional view of the family set up has become something of a minority in 21st century society and because of this, a broken down relationship can lead to complicated legal issues. Whether you are recently divorced and wondering about the role your ex-husband has in your child's life, or you have a child from a relationship that has broken down, but were never married, you need to understand your legal position when it comes to creating an amicable situation for your child to grow up in. Here we aim to dispel some of the myths about parental access and to give you the advice you need to rebuild your life and your children's lives.

Parental Responsibility

Parental responsibility (also known as PR) creates "responsibilities" rather than "rights" regardless of whatever the state of the parents' relationship, emphasising the view that each will maintain an equal, shared and continuing responsibility towards the child.

Where both the mother and the father have PR, they have the power to act alone unless there is a circumstance where, by law, each person with PR is to give consent i.e. in the case of adoption. In reality, holding PR gives the ability to make decisions in relation to the child's name, religion, school, consent to medical treatment and marriage etc.

Who has Parental Responsibility?

Below is a flow chart to help you determine if you have Parental Responsibility:

A mother always has PR. A father who is married to the mother at the time of birth will automatically have PR.

To clarify, for unmarried fathers, the situation is different. Unmarried fathers will have PR if:

  • They marry the mother after the child is born
  • They have jointly registered the child's birth with the mother i.e. their name is on the birth certificate
  • For pre December 2003 registrations, the mother provides a formal declaration of agreement that the father's name is to be added to the birth record and the father re-registers the birth to add his details
  • The court orders a residence order in favour of the father, although this will usually terminate when the resident order ends (generally age 16)
  • A birth parent has signed a parental responsibility agreement
  • A step-parent's PR agreement can be made by consent with all those already having PR for the child
  • By obtaining an adoption order from the court

Where a father has not automatically gained PR, the mother does not have to add the father's name to the birth certificate. However, this will not stop the father from being able to apply to the court for an order, such as a parental responsibility order, which may result in him acquiring PR.

Other family members

Other family members, taking grandparents as an example, do not automatically have PR. They would only be granted PR by a court if, for example, they were appointed as Guardian or were to adopt their grandchild for any reason. If a father with PR asks his parents to take care of the child, they can do so usually without the mother's agreement. However, the child would not be able to remain resident with the grandparents unless they had been granted a residency order by the court.

Voluntary access arrangements

If more than one of you has PR, then the best thing you can do for both your children and yourselves is to voluntarily agree to contact and access etc. If you can do this, then you are more likely to maintain a more harmonious relationship for the sake of your children. Additionally, it will prevent you from having to go to court and from having to pay court and solicitor's fees if you are unable to get legal aid.

Of course, this is the ideal scenario and not always a realistic one. If you cannot agree on residence and contact etc. then you may find that your ex will end up applying to the court for an order.

My Child has Been Taken Away From Me: What Can I Do?

Unfortunately in some circumstances, a father may take your child during agreed contact time and then refuse to bring them home again. If this happens and you are unable to negotiate with the father then you should call the police. However, the police may not be able to do anything. This generally comes down to whether or not the father has PR. If they do not, then the child is the mother's sole responsibility and the police may be able to take the child back to the mother. If the father does have PR, then in usual circumstances, they have the same rights as the mother to look after the child and therefore, so long as the child is not in any harm, the police cannot usually do anything about it. This can be understandably distressing for a mother. What can be done about it?

Residence Orders

A person can make an application for a residence order, whether or not they have PR. For example, a father without PR can make an application for and be granted residency but then he will automatically acquire PR at the same time. It is unusual for a father to be granted residency as well as a mother as this would result in shared residency, which is not always in the best interests of the child. As a result, it is usually the mother who would be granted sole residency.

If a child has been taken by their father and the police cannot do anything, the mother can make an application for a residency order. If the child was snatched or she believes that her child may be in danger, then she can apply for an emergency ex parte application. This is also known as a 'without notice application' i.e. the other party is not given notice of the application. If the mother cannot make an ex parte application then an application can still be made but the father can attend and make his case. At the end of the hearing, the judge will make an order.

There are lots of other orders which the court can make, including contact orders, prohibited steps orders and specific issue orders.

What Factors Will be Taken Into Account?

When reviewing applications, the court will take a number of factors into consideration with regards to the child or children's welfare. These are:

  1. What is best for the child and the feelings and wishes of the child. This is considered according to the child's age and understanding
  2. How capable the parents (and any other relevant people) are of meeting the needs of the child or children
  3. Any harm that the child is at risk of suffering or has suffered
  4. The likely effect of a change of circumstances on the child
  5. The age, background, personality, sex and any other characteristics that the Court believes to be relevant
  6. The child's emotional, physical and educational needs

Domestic abuse

If you have been subjected to domestic abuse, this would clearly be a very important factor for the court to consider when determining what will be in the best interests of the child. If the father makes an application to the court then you can oppose it by giving evidence as to why he should not be given the order. You can oppose any application in much the same way.

Reality Check

When you find yourself fighting to look after your own child your emotions can begin to take over. It is important when you begin to plan your child's parenting and the access of the father that you understand the law and how it might impact on your child's future.

Remember that if your child's father is on the birth certificate, or you were married and are now divorced, the father has the same access to the child as you do in the eyes of the law. If they take your child or even threaten to do so, the police can often be powerless to change the situation. The best advice is to seek mediation and organise access in a written agreement, give yourself something concrete to work from. If your ex is unreasonable then apply for a residency order to ensure that you keep custody of your child.

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Hi, I have just got out of a 10yr relationship with my husband. We only married 2yrs ago. We have a 5yo girl together. Problem is he has been battling drug addiction for years.. i cleaned up before our daughter was born and made lifestyle Improvements though he hasn't. For years he has lied to me, shown no motivation toward our relationship or daughter. I got tired and nagged him to the point he left and is now in detox (which is great).. though it hurts because he seems to hate me & have no intention of fixing our marriage. When he calls he just wants to talk to our daughter and see his daughter (to play with her then throw her back after one night) while i do all the hard work during week.. i just wish he'd get out of his daughters life so i dont get hurt over and over by having to see him.. if he's not going to do the right thing as a husband & stick by us nor get & stay clean, does he deserve to see his daughter? What should i do??
Jo - 1-Jul-16 @ 12:07 PM
Nicole - Your Question:
In 2013 I gave birth to a baby girl I was still with her father at the time but we were not married,when my daughter was 7 months old I got told by my doctors I had post natal depression and I suffered a break down, I told my daughters farther and we made an agreement not through the court of social services but on our terms he would look after our daughter until I was well enough again my daughter was 18 months old when we agreed this. My daughter is know 3 years old and since she has been with her dad I've had no contact with her I had to move from my home town due to my daughters dads family started threating me and I had no choice but to move for my own safety but also I didn't want my daughter to loose a mother. I am know in the process of putting in a residential order for custody of my daughter I don't think her farther realises how much suffering and pain he has put me through due to not having contact since the 21/10/14. My daughter is my world and so much more I always put messages up for her birthday so she knows I care and my dad always reads them to her but I'm a bit concerned about her welfare as her father smokes cannabis which is why I am putting in for a resident order.

Our Response:
I am sory to hear this, it is always sad when any parent, mother or father has been wrenched from their child. However, while I do not wish to impart negative news, it is unlikely any court would grant a residency order to a parent who has had little contact with their child, even if the lack of contact is through no fault of your own. A court will always decide what it in the child's best interests and consistency and stability is of great importance. If your child has spent little time with you, then for the court to move her (even though you are the mother) may invariably cause your child upset and stress and the courts will always try to avoid any such move, including one out of the area. Applying for access to try to get to know your daughter may be the best option for you. However, I do urge you to seek legal advice to see what your wider options are, as the other factors you mention regarding your ex will be taken into account. If you make a good case early now, this will allow you to help re-develop the bonds with your child from which you can build on in the future.
ChildSupportLaws - 30-Jun-16 @ 1:45 PM
In 2013 I gave birth to a baby girl I was still with her father at the time but we were not married,when my daughter was 7 months old I got told by my doctors I had post natal depression and I suffered a break down, I told my daughters farther and we made an agreement not through the court of social services but on our terms he would look after our daughter until I was well enough again my daughter was 18 months old when we agreed this. My daughter is know 3 years old and since she has been with her dad I've had no contact with her I had to move from my home town due to my daughters dads family started threating me and I had no choice but to move for my own safety but also I didn't want my daughter to loose a mother. I am know in the process of putting in a residential order for custody of my daughter I don't think her farther realises how much suffering and pain he has put me through due to not having contact since the 21/10/14. My daughter is my world and so much more I always put messages up for her birthday so she knows I care and my dad always reads them to her but I'm a bit concerned about her welfare as her father smokes cannabis which is why I am putting in for a resident order.
Nicole - 29-Jun-16 @ 11:34 PM
I left my son with is father 1 year ago, I was in a very controlling and abusive relationship with my ex. I had miscarried, and my ex partner beat me badly. i left him and moved to my mothers, but my ex managed to get back in contact with me and due to me talking to him and my mother treating me like a baby i ended up being asked to leave or to stay and keep to her rules.. I was 27 year old woman who had been through alot of troubles through my life and my mother and I were close but never got on. Anyway i left that night leaving my son in their hands. My son already lived with s father which we both agreed to. I was in such a low place and my ex who was a psychologist got in my head again and the mental abuse started again. I finally got the strength to leave after a big fight. I have tried and tried to get in contact with my son but his father has said NO and has blocked me from any way of getting in contact with him. I have written a letter to my parents explaining how bad my mental health had been back then and how messed up i had been. I have tried to better myself by going to college for the last year even though it has been the hardest year of my o life dealing with my health getting out of an abusive relationship going through court and multiple suicide attempts. I have passed college and am now moving on to the next stage of my education to make a better life for my son when he is older. I just would like some help or information on what I can do next. I have never been in situation before and feel a little lost and really want to get in contact with my son just o be part of his life again now that i feel that i have healed a little and would not be destructive in his life. i want him to grow up knowing me i love him soo much and it kills me a little more everyday when i cant hear or see him.
emzie - 25-Jun-16 @ 8:53 PM
Hi my ex and me was married and after years of DV I left him he made my life hell let the kids down had me in and out of court for yrs Well about 3years ago when my children was 6 & 8 he got shared contact on the first week he had them got social services involved claiming i was abusive to my kids After 18months of hell he brain washes the kids who then my son refused to see my anymore but I was still seeing my daughter When it came time to see my daughter alone my ex told my daughter if she was to see me she couldn't stay with him and her brother so she then stop seeing me Tho there was an agreement thru social services he stopped all contact emails was sent thru his phone acting as my kids Now it's 3 years I haven't seen them and because of social services closing I can't get legal aid He has moved them house school doctors everything without letting me know Please what can I do I'mdesperately wanting to see them but I can't afford court cost ?????? I have tried most things but no1 will help me cos social care are not involve I have call ss but they won't help cos of it being closed Schools won't tell me cos he hasn't put my name as there mother ( I have called all schools over our area) Doctors the same I have gone to his mother houses and text her she calls police on me or hangs up on me Paid an agents to find his address which I have sent cards but got nothing back Text and call from many numbers but he blocks me Facebook Everything Ps I was cleared of all charges andaccusations Thanks if there's anything I can try
Gabby - 24-Jun-16 @ 11:17 PM
Jo25 - Your Question:
My ex put my through domestic violence when I was pregnant so I finally left him moved back home had baby he did see baby at first but the kept letting him down not showing up ect he last seen him when we was 1 but his anger was coming out in front of little one screaming pushing me about in for nt of bby even though we not together he's not on birth certificate but now threatening me with court he is a violent nasty man who has done nothing for my son what can I do to stop this

Our Response:
You don't say if he was reported to the police or has a police record as a result. If your ex takes the matter to court, then you both be interviewed by a Cafcass officer who will compile a report to present to the court. The Cafcass staff who compile the reports are known as Children and Family Reporters. It’s their job to interview both parents in the case, as well as the children, and any others who might be needed, which could mean social workers, medical professionals, or even relatives. From the interviews they conduct, the reporter will determine two things: whether there should be contact allowed, and, if so, how much. It’s a measure of how important the Cafcass recommendation is that the court will almost invariably adhere to it. This will be your chance to have your say about your ex and the court will make a decision based upon this and what it thinks is in the best interests of your child.
ChildSupportLaws - 23-Jun-16 @ 12:41 PM
My ex put my through domestic violence when I was pregnant so I finally left him moved back home had baby he did see baby at first but the kept letting him down not showing up ect he last seen him when we was 1 but his anger was coming out in front of little one screaming pushing me about in for nt of bby even though we not together he's not on birth certificate but now threatening me with court he is a violent nasty man who has done nothing for my son what can I do to stop this
Jo25 - 22-Jun-16 @ 8:42 PM
Mand86 - Your Question:
Please help! I have reason to believe my son's dad is growing cannabis in the house that he has my son for 1-2 days a week. Also my son's half brother loves in that same household and he has a few issues just one of them is holding a screwdriver to his stepdads throat! I'm concerned for the safety of my son! Can I stop him going or do I contact social services and see what they advise? Thanks

Our Response:
If you believe the father of your child is growing cannabis illegally, you may wish to contact the police. Otherwise, you may wish to just stop access if you are concerned for the welfare of your son, and your ex's option would be to take the matter to court. However, if he has parental responsibility he may be granted official access, if you cannot prove the reasons why you stopped.
ChildSupportLaws - 20-Jun-16 @ 2:42 PM
@Sara - Can you leave with your child and go to your family? I would do this - it sounds like you are a slave where you are living. If your family take you in, then you can take your child with you and offer your ex supervised access if you are scared of him taking your son.
PTC77 - 20-Jun-16 @ 12:52 PM
Please help! I have reason to believe my son's dad is growing cannabis in the house that he has my son for 1-2 days a week. Also my son's half brother loves in that same household and he has a few issues just one of them is holding a screwdriver to his stepdads throat! I'm concerned for the safety of my son! Can I stop him going or do I contact social services and see what they advise? Thanks
Mand86 - 19-Jun-16 @ 10:24 PM
Hi I have been with my partner for 7 years. We have been living with his mother for 3 years who is evil. She does not allow my family to visit and treats my partner like a school boy. She emotionaly blackmailed him to buy her council house for for her and not include me and our 2 year old son. My partnet and his mother force me to clean her house as well.I have had enough and want to leave my partner but im afraid he will be entitled to have our son. Becuase of this I am forced to stay with him and carry on. I don't wanting him having my son becuase I know he will just leave him in the care of his mother who has very backward ways of looking after children. She does not see danger. Please help me. Im stuck like this.
Sara - 19-Jun-16 @ 5:31 PM
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sarah - 18-Jun-16 @ 10:33 AM
My ex and I have been split up for nearly 3 years. We have a daughter of 8 and a son of nearly 4. Both of them have stated they don't like going, my youngest screams when I drop them off. My ex shows no interest in wanting to stop him crying, just shouts at him "if you don't stop you can get out" My daughter comes home and tells me that her and my son got up at 7-8 but their dad didn't get up til gone 11. They are constantly shouted at and sent to their room for most of the time he has them. He currently sees them Friday evening until Saturday afternoon. He is constant with having them but I don't know how to proceed. My children get so distressed when they know they are going. I understand until my child is 11, her views aren't exactly taken into account through court but do I keep forcing them to go?
J9023 - 17-Jun-16 @ 5:25 PM
jessi - Your Question:
My ex got a new girlfriend. Since then, he got his phone number changed and took our son. There is no court order and we have never been married. I was just wondering if this was wrong. I don't know where he is living and I've tried finding her phone number but it is unlisted. I haven't seen my son in 3 years. He is six now and I don't know what to do.

Our Response:
You would have to apply through the courts and the court can put a trace on your child if you fill in a C4 form, which is an application to the court for an order for the disclosure of a child's whereabouts. If you can't afford the legal fees you can represent yourself in court, please see link here and if you are on a low income you may get your court application fees waived or reduced. I suggest also seeking some legal advice if you can either via a solicitor or the Citizens Advice Bureau may be able to help.
ChildSupportLaws - 17-Jun-16 @ 12:42 PM
Please can someone advise me. Been divorced from the mother of my daughter who is 9 since 2009. Within the divorce were access rights etc for our daughter granting me access 3 or 4 nights a week. Due to work commitments and where I have been living I've been unable to have her stay that frequently but it must average 2 nights a week when taking holidays etc into account. The issue is that I have recently started a new job as a manager of a pub and I am shortly going to move into the company flat above. The flat is large and suitable for a family, I will be the single occupant. It's covered by the housing act regulations etc and I work for a reputable company so it's well maintained etc. My ex wife is saying she will not allow my daughter to stay with me at my new home as she feels it's unsafe (as its above a pub). I've done my best to explain its safe and I would never put my child at risk but she's not backing down. I feel she has no right to refuse to let me have her stay, what do you think / how do I stand?
Andy - 16-Jun-16 @ 10:24 PM
Please can someone advise me. Been divorced from the mother of my daughter who is 9 since 2009. Within the divorce were access rights etc for our daughter granting me access 3 or 4 nights a week. Due to work commitments and where I have been living I've been unable to have her stay that frequently but it must average 2 nights a week when taking holidays etc into account. The issue is that I have recently started a new job as a manager of a pub and I am shortly going to move into the company flat above. The flat is large and suitable for a family, I will be the single occupant. It's covered by the housing act regulations etc and I work for a reputable company so it's well maintained etc. My ex wife is saying she will not allow my daughter to stay with me at my new home as she feels it's unsafe (as its above a pub). I've done my best to explain its safe and I would never put my child at risk but she's not backing down. I feel she has no right to refuse to let me have her stay, what do you think / how do I stand?
Andy - 16-Jun-16 @ 10:10 PM
Please can someone advise me. Been divorced from the mother of my daughter who is 9 since 2009. Within the divorce were access rights etc for our daughter granting me access 3 or 4 nights a week. Due to work commitments and where I have been living I've been unable to have her stay that frequently but it must average 2 nights a week when taking holidays etc into account. The issue is that I have recently started a new job as a manager of a pub and I am shortly going to move into the company flat above. The flat is large and suitable for a family, I will be the single occupant. It's covered by the housing act regulations etc and I work for a reputable company so it's well maintained etc. My ex wife is saying she will not allow my daughter to stay with me at my new home as she feels it's unsafe (as its above a pub). I've done my best to explain its safe and I would never put my child at risk but she's not backing down. I feel she has no right to refuse to let me have her stay, what do you think / how do I stand?
Andy - 16-Jun-16 @ 9:59 PM
Please can someone advise me. Been divorced from the mother of my daughter who is 9 since 2009. Within the divorce were access rights etc for our daughter granting me access 3 or 4 nights a week. Due to work commitments and where I have been living I've been unable to have her stay that frequently but it must average 2 nights a week when taking holidays etc into account. The issue is that I have recently started a new job as a manager of a pub and I am shortly going to move into the company flat above. The flat is large and suitable for a family, I will be the single occupant. It's covered by the housing act regulations etc and I work for a reputable company so it's well maintained etc. My ex wife is saying she will not allow my daughter to stay with me at my new home as she feels it's unsafe (as its above a pub). I've done my best to explain its safe and I would never put my child at risk but she's not backing down. I feel she has no right to refuse to let me have her stay, what do you think / how do I stand?
Andy - 16-Jun-16 @ 9:49 PM
Carl - Your Question:
Me and my X have been separated for nearly 2 years our son is now 3 I have my son every other weekend and 1 day in the week. Her and I have what's called an undertaking which was given by myself and both agreed which finishes in September she originally wanted a non molestion order which prevented me being able to contact her in order to see my child. Which then it was agreed an undertaking would be given. There have been no issues during the nearly 12 month agreement order but it's finished in just over 2 months. She has now said that she will cut all communication so that I can not see my son and if And I'm to apply to the courts to see him yet I carnt see any legal ground for her to say such a thing what do I do

Our Response:
The fact that you have been consistent in seeing your son over the 12 months will mean that you have a good case to take the matter to court in order to continue the access. If your ex has suggested you apply to the courts for access, then I advise doing just that. If you have evidence such as a text or email from your ex suggesting that she is going to stop contact then this will give you a reason to take the matter to court. Therefore, I suggest you seek legal advice regarding when to begin the proceedings. If the court issues you access, then your ex will be bound by the agreement and she will not be able to renege on this without being in contempt of court. This means you will have the security of being able to see your son on a regular basis.
ChildSupportLaws - 16-Jun-16 @ 2:48 PM
My ex got a new girlfriend. Since then, he got his phone number changed and took our son. There is no court order and we have never been married. I was just wondering if this was wrong. I don't know where he is living and I've tried finding her phone number but it is unlisted. I haven't seen my son in 3 years. He is six now and I don't know what to do.
jessi - 16-Jun-16 @ 2:26 PM
Me and my X have been separated for nearly 2 years our son is now 3 I have my son every other weekend and 1 day in the week. Her and I have what's called an undertaking which was given by myself and both agreed which finishes in September she originally wanted a non molestion order which prevented me being able to contact her in order to see my child . Which then it was agreed an undertaking would be given. There have been no issues during the nearly 12 month agreement order but it's finished in just over 2 months . She has now said that she will cut all communication so that I can not see my son and if And I'm to apply to the courts to see him yet I carnt see any legal ground for her to say such a thing what do I do
Carl - 16-Jun-16 @ 12:06 AM
S1992 - Your Question:
My sons dad has never really been interested in being envolved. Every couple of months he will text to ask if he can see him. Every time he has been allowed he has always ended up messing up with his temper or not turning up for him etc. We've tried mediation (hasn't showed up) he does drugs and everything like that, wished my son dead, really don't want him near my son. My son doesn't want to know either and that's off his own back. I don't know where I stand am I in the wrong should he be entitled to keep coming in and out of his life?

Our Response:
You don't say how old your son is, as if he is over the age of 11 his opinion would count in a court of law regarding whether he wishes to see his father or not. If your ex is sporadic then you can stop access. However, in turn your ex could take the matter to court and it would be up to the court to decide whether it was in your son's best interests for his father to have access, which if granted, would be made official. This is a very difficult question to advise upon as you have to do what you think is right for your child as a parent.
ChildSupportLaws - 15-Jun-16 @ 12:32 PM
My sons dad has never really been interested in being envolved. Every couple of months he will text to ask if he can see him. Every time he has been allowed he has always ended up messing up with his temper or not turning up for him etc. We've tried mediation (hasn't showed up) he does drugs and everything like that, wished my son dead, really don't want him near my son. My son doesn't want to know either and that's off his own back. I don't know where I stand am I in the wrong should he be entitled to keep coming in and out of his life?
S1992 - 14-Jun-16 @ 5:04 PM
Alex - Your Question:
My childs biological father is not on my childs birth certificate and I was wondering if he could gain access to the child at any point. He was abusive to me during the pregnancy however that was a long time ago and there is no evidence. Also, he has a long police record of drugs and theft. He would not benefit my child and hasn't shown interest since the child was 6 months old. The child is now 2. Would he be able to have any access

Our Response:
Regardless of whether your child's father is on the birth certificate or not, he would still have the right to apply for access to your child if he chose at any point to take the matter further. We couldn't speculate whether a court would let your child's biological father have access, if you refused.
ChildSupportLaws - 14-Jun-16 @ 10:23 AM
Gina - Your Question:
Can anyone help me my son has just found out his girlfriend has had children taken into care an now she is having his baby will this one go into care as well

Our Response:
I'm afraid we cannot speculate on what will happen here, it will be up for Social Services to decide and will be dependent upon whether the child may be at risk and/or whether the situation that caused your son's girlfiend's children to be taken into care has changed. If you wish to find out more, the Family Rights helpline may be able to advise further. Please see linkhere.
ChildSupportLaws - 14-Jun-16 @ 9:57 AM
My childs biological father is not on my childs birth certificate and i was wondering if he could gain access to the child at any point. He was abusive to me during the pregnancy however that was a long time ago and there is no evidence. Also, he has a long police record of drugs and theft. He would not benefit my child and hasn't shown interest since the child was 6 months old. The child is now 2. Would he be able to have any access
Alex - 13-Jun-16 @ 1:33 AM
Can anyone help me my son has just found out his girlfriend has had children taken into care an now she is having his baby will this one go into care as well
Gina - 13-Jun-16 @ 12:10 AM
An ex has run off with my 4 children after having an affair. They won't disclose their address to give me access to see my 4 sons...all contact telephone numbers have changed. Where can I find an address without paying solicitors as that's such a long process, expensive and heartbreaking
Sue - 12-Jun-16 @ 9:22 AM
My Husband got his daughter for the first year and a half every weekend he got into some trouble and went to prison for a non violent crime he has been out for 2 years and cleaned up his life we have tried multiple times to contact her and he even tried to speak to her in person she showed him some pictures and said take me to court if you wanna see her, she has 5 kids now with 4 men never married and her ex boyfriends wife said that my husbands daughter thinks that the Mom's ex is her Daddy. We tried to file with the courts but they said we had to have her address, recently we acquired it my husband dont know what to do now she dont know him she is now 6, he has paid his child support on time even when he got out of prison he paid the back owed off she does not play fair last time they went to court she used pics of her oldest daughters diaper rash that she also had used on her first childs Dad on my husband saying it was his daughter, and that she came home with that rash from his house.. she also took pics of Marijuana plants saying they was in his yard it was a complete lie but we live in a hick town so it seemed like the judge ate out of the palm of her hand everything she said, He desperately wants to see her but is afraid of what the mom will try next..
Christy - 12-Jun-16 @ 8:13 AM
Hi my daughter left her family home cause she has a beeakdown and has been mentally ill cause her ex was controlling her and abuseing her , he stopped her from seeing them because she was ill one weekend and she's not seen them for months shes a lot better than she was and feels stronger to have them back , she's put in for custody what are her chances of getting them back we are desperate he's useing her mental health against her any ideas would me much welcome thanks.
michelle - 10-Jun-16 @ 11:43 PM
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