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Legal Rights for Separating Parents

By: Lorna Elliott LLB (hons), Barrister - Updated: 11 Apr 2018 |
 
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When the bombshell hits you – that you and your partner are separating – you might feel a whole tangle of emotions: upset, anger, hurt, bitterness and bewilderment to name but a few. It’s hardly surprising, then, that people who find themselves in this situation often spare little thought for their legal rights. Within a very short time, however, you may be involved in several legal battles so it is important that you know where you stand from the outset.

Fathers And Parental Responsibility

As you probably know, all parents have a legal responsibility to support their children, regardless of whether they live with them or not. If as a father you were married to the mother of your child or children when they were born, you will automatically have parental responsibility. It can get complicated if a father is not married to the mother. If your name is on the child’s birth certificate, you will have parental responsibility. If it is not, then you will need the mother’s consent to have your name added to the birth certificate. You can only do this if there is no other father already named on the birth certificate. In the last instance you may apply to court to get an order stating that you have parental responsibility – whether the mother consents to this or not.

Decisions About Your Child

Living apart from your children does not negate the fact that you have parental responsibility for your child. You are still able to have a say as to how your child is brought up, although the day-to-day decisions are made by the parent who lives with your child. You may wish to discuss major events in your child’s life with your partner, such as religion or culture, where they go to school, who needs to be consulted about health and medical treatments, where your child will spend their holidays and what would happen to your child if one of you became to ill too look after them.

Child Maintenance

There are in effect three ways to make financial provision for your child’s upbringing. These are:

  • making a private agreement (although this is not legally binding)
  • going through the CSA
  • using the courts to make an order as to maintenance payments

Each of these options is dealt with in detail elsewhere on this website.

Your Will

If you do not have a will, now is the time to make one. If you don’t, then all of your assets, money and other possessions will be dealt with by way of the laws of intestacy in the event of your death. In practical terms, your assets may be distributed otherwise than in accordance with your wishes. If you do have a will, you may want to revise it now that you and your partner are splitting up. It is also important to consider appointing a guardian for your child in your will, in the event of your death. If you are the person with parental responsibility, this may be of particular significance to you.

Divorce

If you and your partner are married, you may be considering getting a divorce. It is always wise to consult a divorce lawyer if there are assets in the marriage that are likely to be the subject of dispute. There are several legal reasons for divorce. These are:

  • Adultery
  • Unreasonable behaviour
  • Desertion for two years or more
  • Separation for two years or more (for which you need your partner’s consent to divorce)
  • Separation for five years or more, in which case you do not need your partner’s consent.

Your Home

If you own your home it is likely to be your biggest asset. Home ownership is often a hotly-contested issue amongst separating parents. Often, people think that they have to sell their home but this is not always the case. There are several options to consider:

  • changing the share that each of you hold in the home
  • delaying the sale until a future date
  • deciding how much of the money each of you will receive on the sale
  • deciding who will pay the mortgage

Things can get complicated if the property is in only one person’s name, but both parents have contributed to the upkeep of the property, or the mortgage or other household commitments like childcare. If this is you, you must speak to a solicitor before you move out as things can get very complicated legally if you don’t.

Other Possessions

If you and your ex-partner lived together but weren’t married, the court generally applies principles to your possessions. If you paid for something, you own it, unless it was given to your ex-partner as a gift. If you bought something as a couple and paid equal shares, you own the item equally. If you bought something out of both of your money, but it is not possible to say who paid what, you both own the item equally.

You may be entitled to legal aid to help you with the costs of your separation, divorce or other family proceedings. People on income support, Job Seeker’s Allowance, Employment and Support Allowance or Guaranteed Pension Credit are automatically entitled to legal aid. You may also be eligible if you have savings or assets that are worth less than £8000, and your pre-tax earnings each month are less than £2,657. For more advice, contact a solicitor.

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Spoony - Your Question:
I have not been with my child’s dad now for 2.5 years and he has not seen her or given me any money toward keeping herSocial services stored him from seeing my child Could you tell me if he still has any parental rights to my child as she does not know who she is thank you

Our Response:
If your child's father is registered on the birth certificate, then he still has parental responsibility, please see link here. If you wish to apply to have PR removed, then you would have to go to court. However, there is no guarantee a court will remove PR, it has to have good reason to consider it. You may wish to take further legal advice if you wish to see whether you have a case.
ChildSupportLaws - 12-Apr-18 @ 12:55 PM
I have not been with my child’s dad now for 2.5 years and he has not seen her or given me any money toward keeping her Social services stored him from seeing my child Could you tell me if he still has any parental rights to my child as she does not know who she is thank you
Spoony - 11-Apr-18 @ 10:47 PM
Jimbo - Your Question:
Hi, last year my wife of 15 years cheated on me for the 3rd time in 4 years but this time left the family home leaving myself and 3 boys.The 1st few months of the separation the boys were crushed and seldomly what to spend time with there mother. I work full time but managed with understanding grandparents and employer to get by.Now when my ex wife and I were together a lot of debt was accrued so I've had that to deal with as well but this has impacted our way of living drastically so I've taken the decision to sell the family home.After a few months after the separation Nd a lot of discussion with my children especially the oldest the boys started to stay with there mother again and we agreed 50/50 dual responsibility. One week id have them Friday to Monday then Friday to Tuesday and the boys settled onto this routine.Then my ex occasionally started dropping the boys off on a Thursday until recently it was never a problem because of have my boys every minute of every day if I could but recently I'd made plans on a Thursday not expecting the boys that night then my ex rang saying the boys wanted to stay to which I refused.All hell broke loose and unknown to myself my ex contacted the CSA and basically lied about the care plan we have in place.There demanding I pay 1/5 of my annual salary to which my property will be repossed of I don't sell up in time but what's more infuriating is I'm still having custody of my children more than there mother.I've always had an extremely strong bond with my boys and they've been through tough times this past year but after contacting child maintenance I'm feeling very deflated and concerned with the lack of rights a loving father has as the maintenance team have more or less taken the word of my boys mother.

Our Response:
If you were in receipt of child benefit (when you had residency of your children), then you would have a case. The person who is in receipt of child benefit is generally considered the primary carer of your children. Your only recourse would be to challenge your ex's claim in court. Likewise, if you had shared-care to date (and your ex received child benefit) then the court can order that shared-care remains in place and in which case not child maintenance would be paid. However, as in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the children in question. The court will always put the children’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order. If you cannot afford legal representation in court, you can self-litigate, please see link here . Our Separated Dads forum can help with extra advice if needed and you may also wish to seek professional legal advice.
ChildSupportLaws - 10-Apr-18 @ 12:56 PM
Hi, last year my wife of 15 years cheated on me for the 3rd time in 4 years but this time left the family home leaving myself and 3 boys. The 1st few months of the separation the boys were crushed and seldomly what to spend time with there mother. I work full time but managed with understanding grandparents and employer to get by. Now when my ex wife and I were together a lot of debt was accrued so I've had that to deal with as well but this has impacted our way of living drastically so I've taken the decision to sell the family home. After a few months after the separation Nd a lot of discussion with my children especially the oldest the boys started to stay with there mother again and we agreed 50/50 dual responsibility. One weekid have them Friday to Monday then Friday to Tuesday and the boys settled onto this routine. Then my ex occasionally started dropping the boys off on a Thursday until recently it was never a problem because of have my boys every minute of every day if I could but recently I'd made plans on a Thursday not expecting the boys that night then my ex rang saying the boys wanted to stay to which I refused. All hell broke loose and unknown to myself my ex contacted the CSA and basically lied about the care plan we have in place. There demanding I pay 1/5 of my annual salary to which my property will be repossed of I don't sell up in time but what's more infuriating is I'm still having custody of my children more than there mother. I've always had an extremely strong bond with my boys and they've been through tough times this past year but after contacting child maintenance I'm feeling very deflated and concerned with the lack of rights a loving father has as the maintenance team have more or less taken the word of my boys mother.
Jimbo - 10-Apr-18 @ 3:29 AM
Jo - Your Question:
My children's father is constantly doing overtime when he is suppose to have his children. Does this mean I have the right to keep my children at home if he is not responsible for them at his home

Our Response:
Much depends upon whether there is a court/contact order in place. If there is, then you will breach the order if you keep the children at home without the other parent's consent. Otherwise, it is negotiable between you. If you are unhappy with the current arrangement and you cannot agree between you, then mediation may be an option for you to consider, in order to try to resolve the situation via a third person. Please see link here.
ChildSupportLaws - 9-Mar-18 @ 3:44 PM
My children's father is constantly doing overtime when he is suppose to have his children. Does this mean I have the right to keep my children at home if he is not responsible for them at his home
Jo - 9-Mar-18 @ 12:31 PM
Hi i need advice, i left my husband 2 months after i born our son for domestic violence.. but no proof from police, no doctors, just from HEAT Proof about it. We are still merried, we Are not living more than 2 years together and i want divoce, my husband see my son niw 1xper week...And from his 1 Year started pay maintance. I am on benefits. And where can i get advice with divorce coz it coast 550£ and i cant pay it. Thank you.
Karca - 7-Jan-18 @ 9:18 AM
Cj - Your Question:
Hi so I was with my partner for 7 years not married and she decided to leave me 3days before Christmas last year my son will now be 2 in march. I was assaulted in a night club by her new bf for no reason in which he was arrested then my x assaulted a police officer which she was then arrested for. She then stopped me seeing him for 9weeks bribing me to drop the charge only then I could see my son which was why I did not attend the court day due to them bribing me. I used to have him 3 days a week when we first split then in became every Friday. Now I haven't seen him in three weeks because I haven't paid her child maitinence for this month because after bills I had no money also she took a phone contract out in my name and ran me up a £600 bill and never paid it. She is now telling me to go through the courts if I wanna see him. Can she do that? Am I able to just go and get him? Omg this is so heart breaking especially when you feel like there's no one to help you. And yes my name is on the certificate to

Our Response:
By law every non-resident parent has to pay towards the day-to-day upkeep of their child. It should have no connection to your ex taking out a phone in your name and running up a bill. This should be dealt with through the small claims court as a separate issue if you wish to address this. If you have a family-based child maintenance arrangement and you have missed a payment, then your ex can apply through CMS which means you will be assessed and have to pay via CMS rules. On another note; it is never a good idea to take your child without the authorisation of the resident parent, as this can backfire with a short term satisfaction being impeded by long term distrust. Mediation is the next port of call if you and your ex cannot agree on the matter of access. If your ex refuses to attend mediation, then you would be allowed to apply to court. Unfortunately, there is no quick answer to your question - as taking a matter to court takes time, as you know. If you can resolve the matter with your ex amicably, this will be far better than you taking the approach of fighting fire with fire. However, you should not have allowed yourself to be bribed and/or missed the court date - this will not go in your favour and will not be accepted as an excuse in court. The court could have put a court order in place which may have allowed you access that your ex would have to keep to by order of the court.
ChildSupportLaws - 8-Dec-17 @ 2:04 PM
Hi so I was with my partner for 7 years not married and she decided to leave me 3days before Christmas last year my son will now be 2 in march. I was assaulted in a night club by her new bf for no reason in which he was arrested then my x assaulted a police officer which she was then arrested for. She then stopped me seeing him for 9weeks bribing me to drop the charge only then I could see my son which was why I did not attend the court day due to them bribing me . I used to have him 3 days a week when we first split then in became every Friday. Now I haven't seen him in three weeks because I haven't paid her child maitinence for this month because after bills I had no moneyalso she took a phone contract out in my name and ran me up a £600 bill and never paidit. She is now telling me to go through the courts if I wanna see him. Can she do that? Am I able to just go and get him? Omg this is so heart breaking especially when you feel like there's no one to help you. And yes my name is on the certificate to
Cj - 8-Dec-17 @ 12:18 PM
Hi, my daughter is 12 in December this year. I got a divorce over 5 years ago now and my ex husband pays me money each month into my bank only because there is a court order out to do so from when we got divorce We actually split up over 8 years ago and it wasn't nice my daughter hardly seen him for a good months Only from years of pushing my daughter to see him they use to see each other every other weekend, she has never wanted more cause this is how she has grown up seeing her daddy and that is enough for her. Now she is starting to see him less cause I feel its her choice, no particular reason just doesn't want to go but he is making a massive issue of it and jut pushing her away even more. I have made sure for years she has seen him but now I am not pushing her as much as feel its up to her. The dad isn't happy about this he hasnt seen her and she hasn't slept there since July Now he is refusing to help pay say towards her new school being first time in high was this Sept, so new things like Piano lesion and school lunch and now he has always paid half towards her birthday celebrations and isn't- can he do this? The money he always pays isn't enough to cover everything Also I have heard there is a new law out this year where it is the child decision whether they see there parent or not or less from the age of 12? please can you advise me on this? Thanks
cocker - 24-Nov-17 @ 2:14 PM
Hi my ex and I have been separated for approx 5 years. My son is 11. My ex and I agreed not to go through CSA, so he pays matience monthly into my bank. Now after all these years he has been causing trouble....he is buying extra presents for my son etcso now my son wants to go and live with him...I have reluctantly agreed to a trial.my ex is now asking for half of this month's maintenance back because of this. I'm reluctant to give him any because I always pay my bills at the beginning of the month and other things my son may need. Do I have to pay this money back...he keeps harrising me sending messages to pay him.
Basil - 21-Nov-17 @ 3:40 PM
Dave - Your Question:
Hello, I'm seperated from my now ex-wife of 13 years. We have a 2 year old son together that I lived with till he was 20 months but moved out as living with his mum was unbearable with her controlling behaviour and no longer loved her. I pay a sum of money weekly through a mutual agreement but she seems not have our sons best intentions and is controlling when and when I can see him. I can't afford legal help and not elegible for legal aid as I work full time. What can I do? Thanks

Our Response:
If you are unhappy with your access arrangements mutual discussion is always the best way to try to resolve issues. If you cannot resolve them between you, then you should suggest mediation to your ex. Insisting you want a better relationship with your son is not out of order, if you couch it in such a way that it doesn't lead to an inflammatory situation. You can rationally say you will take the matter to court if the situation doesn't improve and if she won't attend mediation. If you cannot afford the hefty legal fees of hiring a solicitor, you can self-litigate, please see link here. Many fathers do this now with good success. Litigants in person must be treated equally before the law and have equal access to justice. Judges have a duty to ensure a fair trial by giving them due assistance to achieve this. The courts also do want fathers to have a good relationship with their children. If you are on a low income, you may also get help with court costs, please see link here. However, court is always seen as a last resort and trying to resolve this amicably between you is always the preffered approach.
ChildSupportLaws - 14-Nov-17 @ 10:15 AM
Hello, I'm seperated from my now ex-wife of 13 years. We have a 2 year old son together that I lived with till he was 20 months but moved out as living with his mum was unbearable with her controlling behaviour and no longer loved her. I pay a sum of money weekly through a mutual agreementbut she seems not have our sons best intentions and is controlling when and when I can see him. I can't afford legal help and not elegible for legal aid as i work full time. What can I do? Thanks
Dave - 13-Nov-17 @ 6:18 PM
Hi me and my ex have split up my ex rang up saying can't afford to feed the child to.pick him up. I've had him now for over four weeks I don't claim for him the ex does and now she's demanding him back now bit she always has a house full off people all taking drugs and I dint want my little lad there round it all she's not bothered with him never been to see him or texted about the child only when it suits herso I really don't no what to do she wants him back tonight she texted what is the best way. Really I need to sort a resident order foe him. She doesn't do anything with the kids she has a child from previous relationship the kids don't go any were or do anything there both in bed early so her new bf can go round don't no if there living together or not bit she's on single parent claiming benefits just need help please thanks inadvance
Me - 6-Nov-17 @ 12:53 PM
Spike - Your Question:
Hi my son has split from his partner he lives in the house with the children, his ex keeps demanding that he takes the kids to see her and pick them up, also demands he takes food for them as she has no job, no money because her money was stopped when he claimed for the child benefit money can she demand this from him

Our Response:
There are no laws to say his ex can or cannot make these requests. But if the child's mother is struggling financially and cannot afford to feed her children, then quite naturally one person she is going to ask for help will be the children's father. This is an issue they would really have to sort out between them while keeping the best interests of the children in mind.
ChildSupportLaws - 24-Oct-17 @ 2:34 PM
Hi my son has split from his partner he lives in the house with the children, his ex keeps demanding that he takes the kids to see her and pick them up, also demands he takes food for them as she has no job, no money because her money was stopped when he claimed for the child benefit money can she demand this from him
Spike - 24-Oct-17 @ 9:18 AM
Hi, I have a 3yrs old daughter and i and her mum have been separated since she was 18months she moved to another environment different from where we used to stay together . I tried to beg her to stay, I spoke to my ex 'a dad and sisters to talk to her but she refused after 1yrs I meet another lady who adored me. We started living together and this lady has a baby but am not the father. Immediately my ex heard I have another relationship she begged to come back but I refused cos it was too late for me to take her back. Ever since I pay child support or child maintancar every month ( I set a direct debit on my acct) and I go see my daughter every month because where my ex stays is 3 hrs drive form my place. Have been trying to make my daughter come spend weekend with my every now and then but my ex refuse I can only go see her and come back to my house that same day but I need to spend more time with her but my ex refuse. Pls what can I do and what am I right?
Joe - 26-Aug-17 @ 1:46 PM
Ben - Your Question:
I split from my ex before my son was born in march of this year. I pay maintenance even tho she refused to put my name on the birth certificate and refuses to let me see him. She an alcoholic who has lost her license for drink driving and has been arrested on another occasion for drink related offence, social services are involved with her as well now so my question is, do I have to pay maintenance if there's a very good chance the money or at least part of it is going on alcohol? Can I not open a separate account for My son and put the money in there?

Our Response:
I'm afraid not. Every non-resident parent is legally responsible for paying the resident parent towards the financial upkeep of their child. This is regardless of whether the paying parent approves of what the non-paying parent spends the money on. Unless your ex agrees to the specific family-based arrangement you are suggesting, then you would have to continue to pay her directly.
ChildSupportLaws - 7-Jul-17 @ 10:49 AM
I split from my ex before my son was born in march of this year. I pay maintenance even tho she refused to put my name on the birth certificate and refuses to let me see him. She an alcoholic who has lost her license for drink driving and has been arrested on another occasion for drink related offence, social services are involved with her as well now so my question is, do I have to pay maintenance if there's a very good chance the money or at least part of it is going on alcohol? Can I not open a separate account for My son and put the money in there?
Ben - 6-Jul-17 @ 2:55 PM
Manda - Your Question:
Hi could you advise me please xMy ex partner and me split after21 years, we have a daughter together who resides with me,we were never married but had a joint mortgage for 15 years. My ex moved out of our home a year ago but now due to financial hardship I can't afford the mortgage and can't buy him out, he is trying to buy me out failing that we will sell our house. I want to know if I am entitled to half the equity or slightly more than half due to our daughter living with me, bearing in mind when we move I will have to buy fridgefreezer, wardrobes, tv etc x would appreciate any advice x thanks

Our Response:
I'm afraid there is no clear answer to your question, you would have to seek legal advice. Much also depends upon the age of your daughter and whether she is under 18. Please see CAB link here which should help answer your question further.
ChildSupportLaws - 1-Jun-17 @ 1:35 PM
Hi could you advise me please x My ex partner and me split after21 years, we have a daughter together who resides with me,we were never married but had a joint mortgage for 15 years. My ex moved out of our home a year ago but now due to financial hardship I can't afford the mortgage and can't buy him out, he is trying to buy me out failing that we will sell our house. I want to know if I am entitled to half the equity or slightly more than half due to our daughter living with me, bearing in mind when we move I will have to buy fridgefreezer, wardrobes, tv etc x would appreciate any advice x thanks
Manda - 31-May-17 @ 11:31 PM
Hi me and my ex have.been separated for long time and.we have a 7year old she lives with him but I live 4 hours away he saying that I done nothing
Lindz - 6-Mar-17 @ 8:25 PM
Me - Your Question:
My husband is currently extremely unwell with ptsd and I have asked him to stay at his mums as I feel his behavior is no doubt effecting our children. He has agreed but expects to see the children every day although he is a good dad I feel this may be too much as he needs to concentrate on getting well. He has started to tell me he will see the children when he wants and I'm concerned as he has pr too that he may not give me my children back. Where do I stand on this. Thank you

Our Response:
Your husband is going through a very tough time currently and obviously it will be upsetting if he is removed from his children. You say 'my' children in your comment, but your children are both yours and your husband and each has the right to see your children when each chooses, meaning he has equal rights and responsibilities governing the care of your children. If both parents have Parental Responsibility and one parent is keeping the children against the other's wishes, the police cannot help, even if the children do not normally live with them. It is very rare this happens, but if you are genuinely concerned then you would have to take the matter to court in order to apply for a residency order, which is usually considered by the courts when the resident parent is in fear of the non-resident parent taking the children and keeping them without consent. It's a tricky situation, as from what you say, you are separated because of illness and not choice. I can only suggest you try to communicate with your husband directly, as putting barriers up and telling your husband what he is not allowed to do regarding both of your children will invariably create friction. Being supportive and thinking of ways around the situation may help you to get through this tough time, but keeping him away from the kids is going to cause anguish all round. Speaking to his mum and trying to negotiate a way forward mutually, as a family should also help. However, if you feel the situation is untenable, then please see gov.uk link here .
ChildSupportLaws - 9-Dec-16 @ 11:24 AM
My husband is currently extremely unwell with ptsd and I have asked him to stay at his mums as I feel his behavior is no doubt effecting our children. He has agreed but expects to see the children every day although he is a good dad I feel this may be too much as he needs to concentrate on getting well. He has started to tell me he will see the children when he wants and I'm concerned as he has pr too that he may not give me my children back. Where do I stand on this. Thank you
Me - 8-Dec-16 @ 8:46 PM
Hello, i want to ask about my right as a single mom. My daughter wants to stay with herfather while i'm working here in abroad as domestic worker.. she is 11 years old, but we were not married with her father and got separated 3 years ago.my x has no permanent job.. is the cuatody mine? She is presently living with my parents.thanks
Lyn - 11-Nov-16 @ 3:32 PM
Hi, I need advice please. Me and my ex split a couple of years ago, we have a 4 year old daughter together, after we split he said he was afraid that I would take our daughter away from, which I never said I'd do or ever stopped him from seeing her, he asked if she could live with him, agreed with one condition, that everything remain equal, since then, he claims everything for her, she stared school and we had her half the week each. I live a bit further away from the school, I don't drive and there isn't a bus in the morning, it's an hour walk, he lives around the corner from her school, so when she started going everyday for half a day, I couldn't take her, only if she was in full time could I get a taxi paid for, to take her to school. So we agreed that he would have her week days when she is in school and I have her weekends, until she's in full time, it's been almost a year now, she's just started full time, the months coming up to it, I've been trying to talk to him about it but he's never given me a straight answer or ignored me, now he's saying that she can't be with me. All year I've been having haven't her just weekends thinking that we would swap at the end of the year and he's completely gone against it, now I don't know we're I stand, what rights do I have as her mother? Can I just keep her here? Any advice would help, I thought about mediation, but at the moment I am pregnant and very emotional over all of this , I don't think I'd be able to cope with that
Nick - 24-Sep-16 @ 9:29 PM
DIXIE - Your Question:
Hi,my question is this,split nearly a year ago and my ex is being awkward every step of the way,she says her solicitor says she isn't the resident parent despite ourbtwo daughters living with her,child benefit paid to her address and the girl's home address for school and Dr's records being the same as the mother's address,so therefore in my eyes she is resident parent, or is it called something else these days,TIA

Our Response:
Unless shared-care is agreed either via the parents or court, then as a rule one parent is classed as the primary carer (resident parent), which is the term to describe the parent who has most parenting time with the children after separation. The primary carer is awarded 100% of the child benefits. The non-resident or secondary parent is the person who does not live with the children on a permanent basis, but instead has access rights. The NRP is also the paying parent. I hope this answers your question.
ChildSupportLaws - 16-Jun-16 @ 12:32 PM
Hi,my question is this,split nearly a year ago and my ex is being awkward every step of the way,she says her solicitor says she isn't the resident parent despite ourbtwo daughters living with her,child benefit paid to her address and the girl's home address for school and Dr's records being the same as the mother's address,so therefore in my eyes she is resident parent, or is it called something else these days,TIA
DIXIE - 15-Jun-16 @ 2:38 PM
Hi I have question, my boyfriend has a baby with his ex partner (name in birth certificate) they split up before she was born, me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and we have his daughter every other weekend and he pays maintainace money each month an amicable agreement they set up since her birth, myself and the mother has had a couple of heated arguments never physical just by text message , and now refuses to let her daughter see me and saying awful things to her about me , she is threatening to get a court order against me seeing her daughter, however for the last three years I have helped finacially support her daughter I have loved her as if she was my own never been in any harm or danger to her no criminal records, I don't drink I don't do drugs have always protected her and been a good step mom and we have the best relationship and enjoy our time together and make the most if it doing family day trips etc, what can I do to prevent this happening and can she do this when I do nothing but love her child as my own , all because she doesn't like me being with the father of her daughter , surely it is a waste of court time and money ?
Viv - 16-Apr-16 @ 8:25 PM
Hi I have question, my boyfriend has a baby with his ex partner (name in birth certificate) they split up before she was born, me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and we have his daughter every other weekend and he pays maintainace money each month an amicable agreement they set up since her birth, myself and the mother has had a couple of heated arguments never physical just by text message , and now refuses to let her daughter see me and saying awful things to her about me , she is threatening to get a court order against me seeing her daughter, however for the last three years I have helped finacially support her daughter I have loved her as if she was my own never been in any harm or danger to her no criminal records, I don't drink I don't do drugs have always protected her and been a good step mom and we have the best relationship and enjoy our time together and make the most if it doing family day trips etc, what can I do to prevent this happening and can she do this when I do nothing but love her child as my own , all because she doesn't like me being with the father of her daughter , surely it is a waste of court time and money ?
Viv - 16-Apr-16 @ 12:15 PM
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