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The Law and Single Mothers

By: Anna Martin - Updated: 18 Nov 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
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A mother has parental responsibility for her child and is generally expected to become the parent with care, in the event of a separation or divorce. Whilst providing care for her child allows her to receive maintenance support from the child’s father, to cover the cost of the child’s expenses, a mother’s rights are very much conditioned by her marital status. A married woman will be more financially secure, than a woman who remains unmarried, if she has children and her relationship breaks down.

Mother’s Pride

If the mother’s name is the only name listed on the child’s birth certificate she has sole Parental Responsibility for the child’s welfare. Adding a father’s name to the certificate can only happen if he attends registration. Once the father’s name is registered he will automatically share parental responsibility for the child, assuming that the child is born after 2003. A Parental Responsibility Agreement can be drawn up at a later date if a mother is prepared to share responsibilities with the child’s father, if he was not named on the birth registration form. Our page on What rights does my ex have discusses Parental Responsibility and how to determine it in some detail.

Paternity Confirmation

Most fathers confirm paternity, when asked, which enables the mother – regardless of the brevity of the couple’s relationship - to apply for child support with relative ease. Establishing fatherhood acknowledges shared responsibility and liability for the child, or children. Those non resident fathers who are less willing to provide maintenance assistance for their child however, can be traced by the Child Support Agency (CSA) and have payment enforced.

Mothers’ Rights

A single mother is entitled to claim maintenance from her child’s father, on behalf of the child. She does not have to have shared parental responsibilities with him in order to ask for Child Support payments to be calculated and collected from him. Maintenance agreements can be made privately or can be arranged through the Child Support Agency.

Without shared Parental Responsibility a father cannot have access to his child without the mother agreeing. He may apply for a Contact Order, if communication between the parents has broken down, and should the father want the child to live with him he will have to apply for a Residence Order. However, the court is unlikely to grant a Residence Order to a father for a baby, as this would give him shared Parental Responsibility.

Maintenance Rights

Simply because a father pays maintenance support to the child’s mother periodically it does not mean that he is entitled to see the child. This form of support provides funds to be used towards the cost of raising the child, and should be used to pay for educational and extracurricular activities, shelter, clothing and food.

If the mother and the father have been able to agree a figure for maintenance, it is worth getting the agreement agreed by the court, in case payment enforcement is required at a later date.

Special Circumstances

In cases where the mother became pregnant through artificial insemination, or by third party donor, the partner at the time of birth is accountable for the child’s welfare and is expected to contribute financially.

To find out how child support is assessed take a look at our page How child support is calculated.

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I have a 5 year old boy and have always been a single parent to him. His father has never paid child maintenance and is currently being persued by child maintenance services. He has organised many days to see his child and at the last minute he lets him down so he has not seen him in approximately a year. His family are also very abusive towards me and threaten me. What are my rights?
ims - 18-Nov-17 @ 2:25 PM
Steph - Your Question:
So me and my sons dad split up 3 months ago and since then we can't agree on contact as we constantly argue and he's constantly lieing to me and now he keeps telling me he will see my son when he's 18 then he wants to see him then he tells me he will see him when 18! Is there anything the courts can do to help me?

Our Response:
When couples separate emotions can run high. There is often a lot of hurt, anger and misunderstandings that take place. The cycle of anger, denial, hurt and grief are the common stages that non-resident parents go through when they separate and have to leave their family/children. My advice is to always put yourself in your ex's shoes for moment. Your ex may be missing his son and the emotional turbulence of that can quite often lead to knee-jerk responses (which it sounds as though your ex is experiencing). The fact he wants to see him and then doesn't, points to your ex being emotionally confused. It may be that he wants to see him, but emotionally it is too raw or painful. Therefore, he may think that if he cuts off from seeing him, then this will lessen his pain.The backlash is that his actions inflame your own anger, hurt and frustration. In situation such as this, it often takes one parent to try to take some sort of control. Separation doesn't have to be fraught with anger and retaliation, many people can separate and remain amicable after a time. The fact you have a child together means it is important that you find a way to communicate. The situation is not only about the two of you but also about the wellbeing of your son and that is what you need to focus on. By rising to the bait you will only make the situation worse. Mediation is the first step towards trying to negotiate an amicable relationship. Try to come to arrangements that suit you both and then stick to them to build trust and mutual respect. When emotions are running high it is difficult to be amicable with your ex. However, as the father of your child he is always going to be in your life and it's always best to find a way to try to get on, if not for you both at least for the sake of your son. Neither of you can apply to court unless mediation has been attempted first, so unless you can resolve these issues between you, then mediation has to be your next port of call.
ChildSupportLaws - 14-Nov-17 @ 9:59 AM
So me and my sons dad split up 3 months ago and since then we can't agree on contact as we constantly argue and he's constantly lieing to me and now he keeps telling me he will see my son when he's 18 then he wants to see him then he tells me he will see him when 18! Is there anything the courts can do to help me?
Steph - 13-Nov-17 @ 6:58 PM
Alice D. - Your Question:
Hi. I'm pregnant with a person who decide to left me knowing I'm pregnant. He just told me I'm so old for being a father and wished me all the best. I decided to keep the child. I'm worried. because what heappen with certificate of birth if the father do not be agree to attend? He will be doing everything for disappear even he live in the same town.Means like I can't give his details? What next. I'm not quite sure what to do. then. Do I have any rights for child mantienance in the future? I'm not English. Please tell me what I should to do. Thank you so much.

Our Response:
You do not have to name the father on the birth certificate (that's up to you). If you do not register the father's name, you will still be allowed to apply for child maintenance. You would have to give his name to Child Maintenance Service, CMS who will attempt to locate him and claim on your behalf.
ChildSupportLaws - 13-Nov-17 @ 12:23 PM
Hi ...I'm pregnant with a person who decide to left me knowing I'm pregnant.He just told me I'm so old for being a father and wished me all the best.I decided to keep the child.I'm worried. .. because what heappen with certificate of birth if the father do not be agree to attend? He will bedoing everything for disappear even he live in the same town .Means like I can't give his details?What next ... I'm not quite sure what to do. .. then. . Do I have any rights for child mantienance in the future?I'm not English.Please tell me what I should to do. Thank you so much.
Alice D. - 13-Nov-17 @ 2:09 AM
jj - Your Question:
Hi just a quick question if a father pays csa does that give him rights to have access to the child does it go in his favour to help him in court

Our Response:
Child maintenance and child access have no bearing on each other. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order. Money does not figure in the court making a decision.
ChildSupportLaws - 6-Nov-17 @ 3:58 PM
Sophia - Your Question:
Hi, I came to the UK as a student a year ago to finish my last two years of bachelor. Earlier this year I got pregnant with my first child with a man I had met a couple of months prior. We have been living together but after several incidents I've decided to move out. As an expact I'm unsure weather or not I should have the child in my home country because I'm scared of the fathers actions or possible control over my every move with the child. Initially I agreed on having the baby in the UK as I want the father to see the baby and vice versa, however I'm scared this may risk my legal rights in case of a custodial battle which I can very much imagine given his personality. I want a safe environment for me and the baby but also not take the rights away for the dad to see the baby. An option was to have the baby at home and then come back after a few months. The father is flexible and could be there for birth even in a different counrty from the UK. I'm 28 weeks pregnant and need to make a decision quickly as I can soon no longer travel.

Our Response:
It really is not an issue whether you have your child in the UK or abroad. If you are the primary carer of your child, then you are generally awarded the care, regardless of which country you choose to live in. With regards to having a 'custody battle', a court would not take a child from the primary carer and hand the child over to the other parent unless there was a justifiable reason ie neglect etc. Also, a person is not allowed to apply to court unless they apply to resolve the issues through mediation first. If you want to restrict the father's rights as a parent, then you can opt out from registering him on the birth certificate. You can see regarding what PR entails, please see the link here . However, your ex would be allowed to apply to this via court. In all relationships trying to find a balance and resolving issues through joint negotiation and what you both feel is in the best interests of your child is the best approach. Hopefully, you will be able to work together to create an amicable relationship so your child can grow to be nurtured by both parents.
ChildSupportLaws - 6-Nov-17 @ 10:49 AM
hi just a quick question if a father pays csa does that give him rights to have access to the child does it go in his favour to help him in court
jj - 6-Nov-17 @ 10:38 AM
Hi, I came to the UK as a student a year ago to finish my last two years of bachelor. Earlier this year I got pregnant with my first child with a man I had met a couple of months prior. We have been living together but after several incidents I've decided to move out. As an expact I'm unsure weather or not I should have the child in my home country because I'm scared of the fathers actions or possible control over my every move with the child. Initially I agreed on having the baby in the UK as I want the father to see the baby and vice versa, however I'm scared this may risk my legal rights in case of a custodial battle which I can very much imagine given his personality. I want a safe environment for me and the baby but also not take the rights away for the dad to see the baby. An option was to have the baby at home and then come back after a few months. The father is flexible and could be there for birth even in a different counrty from the UK. I'm 28 weeks pregnant and need to make a decision quickly as I can soon no longer travel.
Sophia - 5-Nov-17 @ 5:17 AM
Chidem - Your Question:
I broke up with my husband 3 months ago and we have a 3 years old kid.My husband is realised that l don’t want to get back together and he started to be difficult by not paying me any penny.He paid my 2 months and he realised l’m doing ok by working hard and he started to say that he can’t support me financially anymore.I tried to talk to him and sort out between us but l can see l need a legal paper to make him me pay as he moods keep changing.As far as l know we must be separated 2 years to get divorce as long as there no cheating or violence.We just don’t get on well but l don’t want to wait 2 years either. As l’m a single mum l don’t have any one or any family to help me. I really don’t know how to process all this things.

Our Response:
You can see how you can go about claiming child maintenance via the link here . If your husband is earning and paying tax, then he is responsible for financially paying towards the day-to-day care of your child. You can see more about getting a divorce via the link here.
ChildSupportLaws - 30-Oct-17 @ 2:10 PM
I broke up with my husband 3 months ago and we have a 3 years old kid. My husband is realised that l don’t want to get back together and he started to be difficult by not paying me any penny. He paid my 2 months and he realised l’m doing ok by working hard and he started to say that he can’t support me financially anymore. I tried to talk to him and sort out between us but l can see l need a legal paper to make him me pay as he moods keep changing. As far as l know we must be separated 2 years to get divorce as long as there no cheating or violence. We just don’t get on well but l don’t want to wait 2 years either. As l’m a single mum l don’t have any one or any family to help me. I really don’t know how to process all this things.
Chidem - 28-Oct-17 @ 3:19 AM
Treasure - Your Question:
Hi I am a sole care taker of my son. Father is on birth certificate I have applied for child maintenance as my son turn two April 2017 , my question is I have got no family got two daugter age 17 age 13. In case something happens to me will dad get custody of my son or do I have right to stop that , He said he can contest my will if I put that I don't want my son growing up with him he has never been a part of his life Thank you

Our Response:
The father can contest the will. However, should something happen to you, which I hope doesn't and this is purely academic, then your daughters will also be taken into consideration. Much will come down to who your son has had the most contact with and who is the most consistent person in his life. The court is unlikely to allow your son to live with his father if his father has had little to do with him on a day-to-day basis. Making a will is the best way to ensure your opinion is seriously considered if such circumstances were to occur.
ChildSupportLaws - 23-Oct-17 @ 9:53 AM
Hi I am a sole care taker of my son . Father is on birth certificate I have applied for child maintenance as my son turn two April 2017 , my question is I have got no family got two daugter age 17 age 13 . In case something happens to me will dad get custody of my son or do I have right to stop that , He said he can contest my will if I put that I don't want my son growing up with him he has never been a part of his life Thank you
Treasure - 22-Oct-17 @ 1:12 AM
Grace - Your Question:
Hi,I separated from my partner 4 years ago and this was abusive relationship where in the end I suffered a nervous break down. My three children live with their father and I have them every weekend and school holidays and pay maintence. My question is what are my legal rights in general as he does not inform of anything from taking them abroad for holidays to schooling? Thank you for your help

Our Response:
You can see more via the gov.uk link here which outlines your rights.
ChildSupportLaws - 17-Oct-17 @ 3:45 PM
Help. So my ex walked out on when i was 12weeks pregnant hes had nothing to do with me or the child since . The child is now 12mnths old and hes seeking access to him 2 hrs a week with me there . The problem is my child is very very clingy the ex is a mind game screw over he plays games and gets a kick out of it . Ive seeked legal advice we are in the process of this back and forth crap . Hes not on the birth certificate at all the child has my last night . Im in the process of moving to uk witch he doesn't no about i have British passport and my son a Australian one . What happens if i leave now ?
S&F - 17-Oct-17 @ 1:57 AM
Hi, I separated from my partner 4 years ago and this was abusive relationship where in the end I suffered a nervous break down. My three children live with their father and I have them every weekend and school holidays and pay maintence. My question is what are my legal rights in general as he does not inform of anything from taking them abroad for holidays to schooling? Thank you for your help
Grace - 16-Oct-17 @ 8:36 PM
Reg - Your Question:
Help I am a Filipino.under a spouse visa for 2 years and 10 months.I came last April 2016.i got a child 2 months old now.my husband is a British and he cheated on me.i want to go to Philippines to stay with my parents as I don’t have anything here anymore in uk aside from my husband and child.my question is: is he allowed to take my child and be his custody as because I can afford to support financially?2nd: am I allowed to take my baby in my country now?3rd: he threat me as I don’t know any law in uk yet, he will go to the court and take the baby from me and I will be deported back to my country4th: he told me to move out in our house as his name is on it and not mine and I don’t contribute anything.can he do that?5th: he cheated on me when I was preganant and it’s not resolved till now, am I allowed not seeing our child?5th: all I want now is just leave the country with my baby and go back to Philippines to be with my parents helping my baby can I file the court there just him to support us.Pls help help

Our Response:
You would have to seek permission from your husband to leave the UK with your child. If your husband refuses you would have to apply to court.
ChildSupportLaws - 12-Oct-17 @ 2:52 PM
Help I am a Filipino..under a spouse visa for 2 years and 10 months..I came last April 2016 .i got a child 2 months old now..my husband is a British and he cheated on me .i want to go to Philippines to stay with my parents as I don’t have anything here anymore in uk aside from my husband and child.my question is: is he allowed to take my child and be his custody as because I can afford to support financially? 2nd: am I allowed to take my baby in my country now? 3rd: he threat me as I don’t know any law in uk yet, he will go to the court and take the baby from me and I will be deported back to my country 4th: he told me to move out in our house as his name is on it and not mine and I don’t contribute anything..can he do that? 5th: he cheated on me when I was preganant and it’s not resolved till now, am I allowed not seeing our child? 5th: all I want now is just leave the country with my baby and go back to Philippines to be with my parents helping my baby can I file the court there just him to support us. Pls help help
Reg - 12-Oct-17 @ 6:37 AM
Sb123 - Your Question:
Me and my ex huband have not been together for 10 years He has decided that he no longers wants to see them after years of messing them about. I now think that he will stop maintenance payments. Is it possible for me to claim part of his personal pension that hes had for quite some time for my children to help them in life i.e. for college or to be put away in trust.

Our Response:
If you are not yet divorced, you may wish to seek legal advice regarding this matter.
ChildSupportLaws - 10-Oct-17 @ 4:04 PM
Me and my ex huband have not been together for 10 yearsHe has decided that he no longers wants to see them after years of messing them about.I now think that he will stop maintenance payments. Is it possible for me to claim part of his personal pension that hes had forquite some time for my children to help them in life i.e. for college or to be put away in trust.
Sb123 - 7-Oct-17 @ 8:57 PM
P1987 - Your Question:
Hi I separated from my children's dad in January this year our 12 year old wanted to live with his dad but I believe this was down to his dad getting in his head and saying things. So his dad gets all the benefits for him including his DLA. I have the younger two live with me but since the beginning of this weekend he has said I am not allowed to see him I want to know what my rights are if any and what action I should take.

Our Response:
Your first step should be to send a solicitors/or registered letter to your ex-partner in which you ask him to reinstate contact between you and your child. You should state that if he does not do so and will not consider mediation in order to try and resolve the issue, then you’ll have to resort to legal action. Don't forget to take a copy of the letter for your records and keep your proof of sending. Hopefully, this situation will be resolved without you having to resort to court. You may also wish to seek some legal advice.
ChildSupportLaws - 2-Oct-17 @ 11:14 AM
Hi I separated from my children's dad in January this year our 12 year old wanted to live with his dad but I believe this was down to his dad getting in his head and saying things. So his dad gets all the benefits for him including his DLA. I have the younger two live with me but since the beginning of this weekend he has said I am not allowed to see him I want to know what my rights are if any and what action I should take.
P1987 - 1-Oct-17 @ 1:48 PM
Im currently in a physically abusive relationship with my partner which only became physical when i was 4 months pregnant.My daughter is now 9 months old and the violence has got worse.Iv told my partner that i cant carry on being abused and want him to leave in which he told me if i kick him out he will return to his ex whom he has a 6 year old daughter with and live with her to spite me as he knows id never want my child near her..as far as im concerned they deserve eachother n il just be glad to be rid of him.My issue is my daughter being around the ex.In the 3 years iv been with him she has never liked me.hates me infact.threatend me sent abusive texts on so many occasions..theres been a endless list of arguments...told her daughter to pass on nasty messages when she visits..shes even said vile things about my children,called them names..she currently has social services in her life for being an unfit mother to their daughter..her daughter has told us that her mom slaps her across the face when shes naughty..The thought of my daughter who is only 9 months old being around her makes me feel physically sick..i know she would bring harm to my daughter ..Surely i would have some rights or way of keeping her away from my daughter if he did move back there.please help im worried sick!!
Danni - 4-Sep-17 @ 10:19 PM
Me and my partner are not legally married but religious married which isn't recognised in the UK LAW. We lived together for 9 years. I have been in a domestic violence relationship. Physically mentally emotionally financially abused. I have a 6 year old son. I moved out some how to a two bed, working and got my life back on track bought a car etc. His dad now wants full custody of my son. He is rich and has the capability to go to law. What will be my situation?
Rose - 25-Aug-17 @ 1:40 AM
hi I have a 5 year old daughter. Her farther is on the birth certificate and has been involved allot since she was born up until recently. His family have payed for two holidays for my daughter to go on and now because of circumstances I don't want her going. Am scared if I let her go stay they will take her out the country anyway. Is there anything I can do?
Danni - 22-Aug-17 @ 2:37 PM
Kkx - Your Question:
Hi,I seperated from my daughters dad 4 years ago this August, He has had 3 deprecate women in and out of her lives. He lives in a 1 bed house and my daughter is seeing him in bed with different women. The 1 girlfriend was sycotic and was even texting herself pretending to be a third person and making up lies then arguing about them lies. Posted 100+ photos of my daughter on Facebook and even made out she was hers.The second also posted photos, had a mild obsession with me and the relationship broke downThe third/current one has been messaging me mocking me as a parent and accusing me off I'll treating my daughter saying I don't feed her, clothe her appropriately or clean her. Her dad verbally agreed it was all lies and she was in the wrongShe also posted photos of her daughter online without mine or her dads permission. Now he has text to say he wants to make ago of things with this girl and I should meet her and make a effort to be fair on everyone. Please there must be something I can do to stop all these mentally instantly people being around my daughter. She is seeing her mother upset and is coming back from her fathers a nasty and ill mannered child. HELP I am loosing my mind I cannot deal with this any more after 4 years I am loosing my head now.

Our Response:
Mediation is the first port of call when two parents are in disagreement over an issue and they cannot resolve it between themselves. Mediation takes place in front of a neutral third party. The mediator has no pre-conceptions and will not force you to make an agreement. They will assist the two parties in taking turns in the conversation, and helping you reach a decision that you are ready to agree with. Mediators do not pass judgment or offer guidance; they are there, in effect, to facilitate conversation between the two sides. It means both of you can try to come to some arrangement regarding what you both think is best for your child. If your ex wishes to push ahead with seeing his child and having his partner in your child's life and if you refuse mediation, then your ex will be able to apply to court. It will then be up to the court to decide what it thinks is in your child's best interests and once a court order is in place, you would have to stick to it. Therefore, trying to come to some form of agreement prior to court is the preferred way. We cannot comment on the women your child's father chooses to have in his life. If you feel very strongly about their bad influence on your child and you can prove they are not a good influence, then you may have to apply through court for a Specific Issue Order. These orders can cover a wide range of issues that you and your ex-partner cannot agree on, such as preventing someone having contact with your child. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order.
ChildSupportLaws - 8-Aug-17 @ 10:31 AM
Hi, I seperated from my daughters dad 4 years ago this August, He has had 3 deprecate women in and out of her lives. He lives in a 1 bed house and my daughter is seeing him in bed with different women. The 1 girlfriend was sycotic and was even texting herself pretending to be a third person and making up lies then arguing about them lies. Posted 100+ photos of my daughter on Facebook and even made out she was hers. The second also posted photos, had a mild obsession with me and the relationship broke down The third/current one has been messaging me mocking me as a parent and accusing me off I'll treating my daughter saying I don't feed her, clothe her appropriately or clean her. Her dad verbally agreed it was all lies and she was in the wrong She also posted photos of her daughter online without mine or her dads permission. Now he has text to say he wants to make ago of things with this girl and I should meet her and make a effort to be fair on everyone. Please there must be something I can do to stop all these mentally instantly people being around my daughter. She is seeing her mother upset and is coming back from her fathers a nasty and ill mannered child. HELP I am loosing my mind I cannot deal with this any more after 4 years I am loosing my head now.
Kkx - 5-Aug-17 @ 10:31 PM
Lou - Your Question:
My daughter is 4 months old. Her father has been coming and going since I was pregnant. He hasn't seen her for more than 2 months. I have tried contacting him, although he does not have a mobile no more, via his work and his home, where he lives with his parents and brother. He is 37 years of age. His family wont allow me to speak with him and his work have told me he will not come to the phone. I do not want a relationship with him but I have tried to make sure he doesnt miss out on our daughters development. His mum has told me I am refusing visitation because I wont bring the baby to their house. They dnt class the fact I am offerring him to be able to come and visit our daughter at any time any day, all he has to do is knock and if we are in he is welcome to see her. I was also inviting his family, but recently I realised his mum is very controlling of this situation and is being antaginistic. I received a letter from his solicitor requesting mediation. I am very confused. All he has to do is make contact and visit his daughter. He is not on the birth certificate because he was absent and also has a history of depression. He was out of work for 7 years on the sick for it and is at times suicidal. I fear he can force me to have to hand my daughter for visitation at his parents home. He is not capable of caring for her as he has social anxiety and at times cant do normal things like going into a shop. His uncle also is a drug dealer and his cousin is in and out of jail who is both very close to. I very accepting of visiation but under my home only. Should I be worried??

Our Response:
As the other parent of your child, the father does not have to accept visitation rights on your terms if he wishes not to. Mediation is when two or more parties meet to resolve problems before the matter reaches court. It is most often used in family proceedings. It is a formal negotiation and courts can accept the agreement of the mediation instead of having to go through the court process, although it is subject to final court approval. Mediation takes place in front of a neutral third party. The mediator has no pre-conceptions and will not force you to make an agreement. They will assist the two parties in taking turns in the conversation, and helping you reach a decision that you are ready to agree with. Mediators do not pass judgment or offer guidance; they are there, in effect, to facilitate conversation between the two sides. However, if you refuse to attend mediation or if the mediation process break down without an agreement, then the father will be able to apply to court for the court to make a decision on what it thinks is in the best interests of your child. Once a court decision is reached, then you both would have to adhere to the arrangement.
ChildSupportLaws - 25-Jul-17 @ 11:22 AM
My daughter is 4 months old. Her father has been coming and going since i was pregnant. He hasn't seen her for more than 2 months. I have tried contacting him, although he does not have a mobile no more, via his work and his home, where he lives with his parents and brother. He is 37 years of age. His family wont allow me to speak with him and his work have told me he will not come to the phone. I do not want a relationship with him but i have tried to make sure he doesnt miss out on our daughters development. His mum has told me i am refusing visitation because i wont bring the baby to their house. They dnt class the fact i am offerring him to be able to come and visit our daughter at any time any day, all he has to do is knock and if we are in he is welcome to see her. I was also inviting his family, but recently i realised his mum is very controlling of this situation and is being antaginistic. I received a letter from his solicitor requesting mediation. I am very confused. All he has to do is make contact and visit his daughter. He is not on the birth certificate because he was absent and also has a history of depression. He was out of work for 7 years on the sick for it and is at times suicidal. I fear he can force me to have to hand my daughter for visitation at his parents home. He is not capable of caring for her as he has social anxiety and at times cant do normal things like going into a shop. His uncle also is a drug dealer and his cousin is in and out of jail who is both very close to. I very accepting of visiation but under my home only. Should i be worried??
Lou - 24-Jul-17 @ 12:33 PM
Dudette - Your Question:
Hi my son has found out his ex girlfriend is pregnant she was on the Pill at the time, and he has a low sperm count. She also slept with someone else, but apparently the timings are wrong. Where does he stand on maintenance etc, he is a full time student at the moment and completed his first year only. She has only just informed him and is currently 18 weeks pregnant? The girlfriend wants to keep it and drop out of uni. My son wants to look after the child but my fear is having slept with his best friend previously, my son will get attached to the baby and then she will go off with someone else and destroy his and the babies life.

Our Response:
If your son's girlfriend names your son as the father, then he will automatically be responsible for paying child maintenance for the child. If he thinks the child may not be his because of his low sperm count, he can request his ex has a DNA test here. Your son will be responsible for paying child maintenance until the results are confirmed or denied. However, he would not have to pay while he is a student. If his ex refuses to consent to the tests, then he would have to apply to court.
ChildSupportLaws - 20-Jul-17 @ 2:46 PM
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    I have a 5 year old boy and have always been a single parent to him. His father has never paid child maintenance and is currently…
    18 November 2017
  • Dan
    Re: Enforcement of CSA/CMS Payments
    I have been trying to get a response from the CMS for nearly a year, my eldest daughter has left full time education, I have a…
    18 November 2017
  • cass
    Re: What Rights Does My Ex Have With Regards to Our Children?
    HI just after some advice me and my partner split up 6 months ago she has just had kids age…
    18 November 2017
  • Trig
    Re: How Much Will I Have To Pay?
    If I am paying child maintenance does that give me entitlement to half of the child's holidays
    18 November 2017
  • R#bates
    Re: Child Custody Rights
    I separated from my ex wife nearly 7 years ago. We have 3 children together. My son is now 16 and my two girls are 13 and 8. For the past…
    17 November 2017
  • floss
    Re: Enforcement of CSA/CMS Payments
    MY DAUGHTERS EX-HUSBAND PAYS MAINTANANCE FOR HIS TWO CHILDRE. HE LEFT FIVE YEARS AGO AND HAS NO CONTACT (HIS CHOICE). HE HAS…
    17 November 2017
  • ChildSupportLaws
    Re: Who Has to Pay Child Support?
    Loobie - Your Question:My ex and I seperated 3 years ago and we have a 4.5 year old son together. For the first 12 months he put…
    17 November 2017
  • ChildSupportLaws
    Re: How Much Will I Have To Pay?
    Niki - Your Question:My husbands pays child maintenance for his three children and has done for the last 10 years. With recent…
    17 November 2017
  • ChildSupportLaws
    Re: How to Make a Claim for Child Support
    Tyler - Your Question:Please could anyone advise. My son's father has prestigious successful business. Employs staff.…
    17 November 2017
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