What child custody means in the UK
When parents separate or divorce, decisions need to be made about where their children will live and how they will be cared for. In UK family law, the term "custody" has largely been replaced by "child arrangements", which covers both where a child lives and how much time they spend with each parent.
The courts now use Child Arrangements Orders to set out these matters. The term "access" is no longer used in formal legal settings, having been replaced by provisions for spending time with a child.
Courts and legal professionals focus on what is in the best interests of the child rather than framing matters as one parent winning custody over another. This shift in language reflects a broader change in how family law approaches parental separation.
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Some separated parents want their children to spend time with both of them on a regular basis, though this is not always practical or in the child's best interest. Joint or shared arrangements can take different forms depending on what works for the family.
Some children split their time roughly between two homes. Others may live mainly with one parent while spending weekends, school holidays or specific days each week with the other. While courts allow flexibility in these arrangements, they will often look at factors such as proximity of homes, schooling logistics and the child's established routines.
Both parents can hold parental responsibility regardless of where the child lives. This means both can be involved in decisions about schooling, medical treatment, religious upbringing or relocating to a different area. When parents share parental responsibility, neither can make major decisions alone without consulting the other. Parental responsibility is separate from living arrangements and does not depend on how much time a child spends with each parent.
For shared parenting to work well, both parents usually need to live reasonably close to each other and be able to communicate about practical matters. It also requires flexibility as children grow older and their needs change.
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When parents cannot agree
If parents are unable to reach an agreement between themselves, there are several options before going to court.
- Family mediation allows both parents to discuss arrangements with a trained mediator who helps them find common ground
- Solicitor negotiations can help when direct communication has broken down
- Collaborative law involves both parties and their solicitors working together to reach a settlement
Before applying to court for a Child Arrangements Order, most parents are expected to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting. This session explains how mediation works and whether it might be suitable. Exemptions exist for cases involving domestic abuse or where mediation would not be appropriate.
If mediation is unsuccessful or not suitable, either parent can apply to the family court. The court will then decide on arrangements based on what it considers best for the child. Factors the court may consider include the child's age, their wishes and feelings depending on maturity, each parent's ability to meet the child's needs, and any risk of harm.
A Cafcass officer may be asked to prepare a report for the court. Cafcass, the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service, carries out assessments and provides recommendations to help the court make decisions. Their role is advisory rather than representative.
Child maintenance and other practical matters
Child arrangements and child maintenance are treated as separate issues in UK law. Even if one parent has little or no contact with their child, they may still be required to contribute financially to the child's upbringing.
The Child Maintenance Service can help calculate and collect payments if parents cannot agree between themselves. The amount payable depends on the paying parent's income and the number of nights the child stays with them. Current rates and thresholds are available on GOV.UK.
Contact arrangements should not be linked to maintenance payments. A parent cannot withhold contact because maintenance has not been paid, and a parent cannot refuse to pay maintenance because contact has been denied. These are separate legal obligations.
Those going through a separation can seek advice about child arrangements from Citizens Advice and family law solicitors. Legal aid may be available in some cases, particularly where domestic abuse is a factor.
My ex partner of 10 years we have a son together he is 8, ASD special needs which has been diagnosed from the age of 4. we have been split since my son was 5 and a half.
I have had a really abusive relationship the whole time that we were together which has been documented by police and he has had restraining orders/Non Mal order. we have been separated for 3 years he regularly lets his son down and turns up at my house screaming kicking my doors shouting all sorts on the days he has agreed not to see him he is just coming to intimidate me and my child. (which i have reported for documentation). he is constantly threatening to take my son or take me to court, he has told me he wants to take him away and will not tell me where or how long for... im concerned to ne honest that he will not bring him back or he is untrustworthy having him. He has him (if he turns up) one day a week sleepover usually a Saturday because of his work and my sons school. He doesn't seem to cater to my sons needs or if he does its to benefit him or will only do it in front of people i feel like im going crazy sometimes and i really need some advice on what to do. i have been advised to consider applying for sole custody of my son and i am a little scared to be honest and i just want to know what my best options are as to my situation and first steps of what i need to do if i am able.
Does she constitute a third party?
thank you
We make an arrangement an at the appointed time does not answer the front door or cancels 5minutes before the appointed time then tell the children ure dad let you down again , he does not love you all to try and out me in a bad light
I am tired of being patient I need to take legal proceedings to enable my parental rights as the children father to 13, 3 and 18months year old.
All this time I am still provided maintenance and I still don’t get to see my children
The mum focus on on her heart beak it her children ( we had in the past an relationship which did not last and I went my separate way) we cannot even be amicable as she just hurls abuse down the phone at me or sends spiteful messages. All I want is to be in my children’s life and co/parent she does not want this, then she agrees to it then she breaks the arrangements everytime. 13 years of this I am just tired of the control barriers she keeps putting up
We tried mediation when my eldest was around 5 years old to which she came to me and told me not to put our child through this she will let me see her ... low and behold she stars her games again
I just need to get my co-parenting set out by the courts in writhing the days of the week I have to see my child by law
Please advice
I work full time but currently live with her due to other circumstances.
I want to take custody/parental rights but how do when technically I dont have anywhere permanent to live.
She's told me she will give him to me but do I need paperwork to prove it or do I have to go court even though she's willing to let me have him.
I'm on birth papers as his father.
Please help I just want the best for him
I have been my toddlers main carer since she was born, even when living with my husband he did not participate in feeding clothing changing bath time or bed time, on occasion he has left my toddler unsupervised without informing me, now he is asking for joint custody, he has been emotionally abusive throughout our relationship and not shown any affection for his daughter, he wanted a son I am concerned about my daughter's safety and the negative impact moving to a unfamiliar place with somebody who hasn't been involved In her life for 7 months, would I be able to gain sole custody?
What rights does my brother has been that my nephew has our last name and we want to keep him ?
She is jealous and finding anyway possible to make our life hell due to custody disputes between their child. I need advice on what to do next with the situation and what steps the social services will take due to the allegation. Thanks
My son hasn’t had any contact with his father in 8 years but he is on the birth certificate. I’m struggling to get a passport and things like that without his consent, but we have no idea where he is to contact him what can I do?
This is all because she has just found out he and I are in a relationship. She has even threatened the safety of my child. She has told him she wants full custody of the children for the only reason that I am in his life. Can she get away with this?
1. Can he ask to government to let his ex-wife to stay in uk, so that their son can stay closed with both of them?
2. Is it true, if the father want to met his son he must ask for ex-wife permition first? His son now is 8 yo..
3. In what age the son free from his mom custody??
4. If the divorce man (UK Citizen) wanna get marry with a new girl (non UK Citizen) is it the procedure is different with if he is get married again with his ex-wife (non UK Citizen)??
My name ken I have a 2 year old son I'm currently going through a separation due to my wife mates bullying and assaulting me in fornt of my son the police have told them to stay away from me and my son.
I'm contacting you so I can get a form or something for my wife to sign saying she won't let them contact him so he safe there not family just her friends.
And the other thing is I have my son full time as my wife can't cope with him and she wants me to have him full time is there away she can sign a form to say that I'm the main parent?
Just want to protect my son if you can help would be grateful.
Kind regards
k.Round
A child is entitled to all the love they can possibly get. No one parent has rights over another
unless one of the parents is unfit. Grandparents also enrich a child's life. It is healthier
to put aside squabbling and think of the life they created. Of course, it is wrong for
a child be be mistreated by anyone. Anyone.
It took two people to make a child. Whether you get along anymore, it is better to put
aside your differences and try to give the child what it needs.
This also means not to go out of your way to provoke the other parent. And it means that
you have to treat the child well, not just stick it in front of the telly and never share anything with it.
A child is not a trophy.
Many thanks
We used to have a really good schedule arrangement when it came to him seeing his son on the weekend, sticking to pick up/drop off times.
Recently he entered in a new relationship with a younger girl who he met in March may I add, and I’ve tried to negotiate with him about boundaries and the welfare our our son with meeting new people as he’s still rather young. I feel uncomfortable that he’s gone behind my back numerous of times and introduced this girl to my son without consulting me first. And now recently she’s been present when he picks up his son outside my house which I do not feel comfortable nor agree with. This has caused many arguments between us both and I need some advice on how to go about this correctly and maturely for the sake of my son as I suffer with depression & can get seriously ill due to stress.
Thanks!
On a serious note I have a rather complicated issue.
I have a 2 year old with my ex girlfriend. We split up in March 2019 after she had an "episode" and I had to remove my son from the property as she was a danger to herself and to him. We still lived together and tried our best to get on as friends but she has been more interested in going out to drink or smoke. I work Mon-Fri and usually get home between 5.30pm and 6pm at which point she will go out if she has made plans (2-3 times per week). When she goes out she does not come back until 2, 3, 4 and most recently 5.30am. The most recent time she knew I had work and our son was getting dropped off in the morning after a weekend at his nans house. I am thinking about going for a majority custody as I believe she is irrisponsable and not capable of looking after herself let alon our 2 y/o son. I have the support of both my parents and her father & step mother whom due to her behaviour have cut off all contact with her such is the extent that she has manipulated and abused me over the years. I am currently sheltering at my parents house and she has been told that were staying there "for a while" and if she wants to see him she can go there but cant take him away. She has yet to do this.
If this got messy - would on the basis that she has been abusive towards me and manipulative, she is mentally unstable with a history of self harming and hospital visits, proven she is irresponsible and he is not her priority, the fact I have support from both sets of parents. Would I get full legal custody if things got messy and we couldn't come to a joint agreement?
Me and my partner are going through a break up. I live in his house, drive his car and we recently began runnning a business together which he has majority sharehold in.
He has bought another house for us to move into as we needed a bigger place so we should be moving soon.
I had my son whilst at uni I then began my masters degree when he was 5 month old due to pressure. I also worked nights so I could look after my children during the day. I feel like I have nothing as all the finance comes mostly from him. I’m worried he’d take me to court and I’d loose my child as I don’t have much of an income.
Our daughter does not enjoy going to these visits anymore claiming they do nothing and finds it boring. He works and may even own a business if the rumours are to be believed but only contributes £5 a week to her. My daughter asks how long she has to keep going for every week. I'm basically asking at what age can the child decide she doesn't want to go to her fathers anymore.
I need advice for this child's dad he so badly wants to see his son and I know his son wants to see him but the mother is having none off it please help!
He has never initiated intervention or been involved in her basic care or appointments. Off late he has contacted involved professionals such as the school to insist on direct contact with him creating the impression I don't keep him updated. Over the years I have kept h updated and he has not shown up or prioritised the appointments etc.
He seems to think that his payments of maintainance warrants his control of the co-parenting even though he has never pulled his weight.
I want sole custody with supervised visits. I don't care about losing out on maintainance.
I actually believe he is indifferent about the survival of my child as if she is an inconvenience to his life. I want my child to survive and have made practical sacrifices to ensure this happens. I am scared of her safety with him. HELP
I am not allowed to have my 3 Children over night during my rest days from work during the week because of school ?
We did not get anything stated in our divorce reference who has the children at what times.
I feel like she is being very difficult. I just turned down a promotion at work because my ex wife will not cooperate and build in a new routine with me and the kids.
The kids love coming to my house. This is really upsetting i am being stopped from progressing upwards at work. I have the potential to go 4 on 4 off at work and share the children 50/50 ... I feel like the ex wife is scared of loosing benifits.. She takes me for full CSA money as if i am a dad who doesn’t want to see my children... I have offered to have them morw and she says NO !
I am in the process of buying a house and after that i am hoping to go to the familt courts and get shared custody.. There is not valid reason i can not do this alart from a bitter ex wife who is living the dream saying NO !
I split from my partner 2 years ago. Since then we have split custody of out two boys. Verbal agreement only between the two of us. Even though we have equal time with the kids I have still been paying child maintenance of £425 a month to help her with bills etc.
This week she has demanded more money and said I can no longer see the boys unless I pay £625 a month. This amount is impossible for me.
She has been collecting the kids from after school club before I get there and refusing to answer the phone to discuss.
I don't know what to do. All I get is abusive texts with demands. My kids must think I've abandoned them. I just want to stick to the routine that we have had for the last 2 years.
What can I do. Im trying to stay calm but I feel like she has all the power. If I did what she has the police would be round within no time.
Help me. Please.
Please i need some advice
Many thanks
Is there a way I can legally stop him seeing our daughter before he gets sent to prison?
Since i have been instrumental in their upbringing since birth and throughout their parent's troubles until her recent obstructions.. would ther be any point in applying for residency myself?
how do I go about formalising a shared residency agreement ?
thanks in advance
I was wondering if you could give me advice regarding my children wishes to live with me instead of their dad. We are currently in dispute on where our children should live. They have experienced and chance to love with their dad but all 4 has been unhappy, they spend their time with me on weekends, sometimes during weekdays and holidays. My circumstances have changed and I’m now able to provide them with more comfortable living space. They have also expressed their wishes to come and live with me as they have never had the right parental support with their dad. The issue is that my ex would not accept the girls wishes and still insisting that it would be best for the children (12,14,17yrs old) to stay with him. We are also currently in dispute regarding the property we shared when we were together. Unfortunately I believe that he is using the children to protect him from being ordered to sell the property point so he could buy me out.
Will the childrens wish be considered when deciding where they should live?
Many thanks
Thank you.
My divorce application mentioned that my son will live with me and my ex didn’t contest this. I am worried that I don’t have a legal document which mentioned that I have custody. Also in case his father tracks us and takes him away from his school . Could you please advise what I should do.
What I am asking, do I have the right to claim sole custody ? I have over this time been responsible for the decision making, financially, educationally, and in general. She does pay maintenance on time and we haven't yet started divorce procedures.
Thank you.
He seems to be charming social services as they've told me they won't help with contact and it would have to be done between us or solicitors after the trial in August.
Im terrified a court would allow him unsupervised access /have her at his house where he lives with his controlling abusive mother (he's 49, she s 68). How likely is it please that a court would allow him to have her any length of time unsupervised? No application has been made yet, I'm just panicking already and gathering as much evidence as I can eg 4 years of Facebook messages I'd sent to a couple of friends after each incident...
Two witnesses have come forward to give evidence about seeing him attack me on the street on a separate occasion to the arrest...
I need to add, he never even spent an entire day and night at my house he would come and go when it suited him, turn up for an hour then turn his phone off and not even ask about her in days into weeks,and that was the norm for years the most recent event he didn't see her in 3 weeks including over her birthday, no card, no call, no visit, no present.. She asked why daddy didn't like her, it was heartbreaking. I'v only briefly outlined what went on, the emotional damage hes had on her is awful and she was referred for counselling... At age 4...
Im doing all I can to protect her, she's had no contact in 8 weeks due to bail, but the three weeks prior to the incident she saw him twice one of which the assault occurred) and is now saying she's scared daddy will hurt her like he hurt mummy and doesn't want to see him.. I would be fine with supervised contact in a contact centre etc to keep a relationship between them... As like I said there were good times too.. But he was like two different people...... but absolutely no way do
I have two children with my ex, 13 and 9 year old girls.
Two weeks ago my ex wife told the eldest girl she had to leave and live at mine over a disagreement they had had, a couple of days later she was also told to collect her clothes.
Now my ex wife had said the girl has to come home by Wednesday (to hers).
The child has told her mum and myself that she wants to stay with me.
I have told my ex wife I think that this is unfair on the child's mental wellfair but she insists that she is coming to collect her.
What are mine and the child's rights in connection with this?
My ex and I have no formal custody agreement in place but he signed a handwritten agreement to take our children every Wednesday and Thursday. Hes lucky to have a job that will let him specify to have these days off, however He has had them once so far but has now decided that he doesn't want to have set days and should be able to take them on different days of the week depending on his social life, is he allowed to do that? He says if I complain or go through court he'll just ask for every weekend and claim he has no choice due to shifts but then I would have no free time with them as I work during the week. Thanks for your time.
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My question is can I go for full custody? How do I start the proceedings? And what would be the outcome
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Me and my sons father split 2 years ago, my son is 4 and I’m currently out of work, my son sees his father every second weekend but I am suffering from severe anxiety and depression and I think it would be in my sons best interest to stay with his father full time. Is this possible
What are my options at this point? It's looking like I am going to have to go for custody. Is there something I can put in place for when baby is born?
We arranged he can see her whenever he likes.. but he doesn’t show up we sit in all day waiting and my daughter crying at the window for him, he chose his new girlfriend over her so many times and brakes promises to her, her behaviour gets much worse when she has contact with him.
He has mental issues and criminal record along with assaulting me infront of her..
my daughter will cry if he comes near me now. She screams for me when she goes with him... him and his family have a drug issue.
Me and my partner split up 7 months ago and we share custody over our 6 years old boy. My ex is really good dad and wants to be involved in our sons life all the time. I think its great but recently we cant agree on quite a few things. Currently my son stays one night with me one with his dad. Then every other weekend.
I dont think its a good idea but my ex refuses to change anything until we see specialist. My son seems to be ok with that but im worried that it will affect him later.I wonder if there is place where i can get advice for free. Do not know what to do anymore.
Thank you
My husband quit work when our first daughter was 1 year old. He wanted to take a break from work and I didn't resist, however I returned back to work for only 3 days a week. All our expenses had been covered by mainly my salary and more recently my maternity pay. I have to return back to work any time soon however my husband shows no interest (although saying that he wants but no action) going back to work.
I'm worried that he is planning a divorce once I return back to work but he stays at home to look after our daughters. To be perfectly honest it would be safer for our daughters to be looked after in nursery than my husband but high costs is an issue.
During our arguments he had said a few times that he will request 50/50 custody and that will allow him to do with our daughters everything he wants. He is unfortunately often very careless and doesn't take many health and safety related things seriously enough. For example, often likes giving a hazardous and/ or small items to chew on to our baby girl which I couple of times have managed to take out of her mouth and prevent chocking only in the last minute etc.
My question is if a father stays at home to look after children during my work days will it increase his chances of getting 50/50 custody? Would it be different if daughters went to nursery instead? Thanks!
Please advise as this topic will need to be discussed as the holidays are approaching. Thanks.
Lately our relationship hasn't been the best and thus I would not like to expose the baby to all these disputes. And move abroad to my parents house. My question is can i legally do this and have the custody of the baby or my partner can stop me? What do you advise me to do?
However since feb 2017 he has lived in scotland (my daughter and toddler in england) and he has seen his child once since . He has emailed on handful of occasions and that is normally to abuse.
I need to know where my daughter stands and is there anything we can do or put in place incase anything happens to my daughter, as i would want my grandchild as she doesnt even know him now ..
Im worried that if something does happen god forbid that he could get her and take her to scotland
The courts seem to only be interested in him as hes paying. How can i get some balance back. He shouts and they all jump solicitors barristers and courts.
At my wits end, there is nothing fair on Legal Aid
She's very unpredictable with her mood and not compliant with her medication sometimes which can put the children at risk. The children now have a set routine with their dad and enjoy being with him as he has a good family network to help with school runs etc.
My partner now wants a residency order as it is best for the children. He has tried to get his ex partner to agree to this as there has been time where she has been flippant and stated she no longer wants the children. They have tried mediation that she did not attend and I would like some advise on what necessary steps i need to take.
I was in an emotionally abusive (sometimes physical)relationship for 10 years.
We had 3 children 11,8 and 5.
3 years ago in June, I finally got him out after counciling and help from a few friends.
I have another partner of 2 years who is lovely.
He treats the children as if they are his own this includes the average family arguments.
My children requested after split up to see their dad 2 weekends and myself one in a 3 weekend rotation which I agreed.
Their dad has a girlfriend who has 2 children of her own and they both have a child together.
They are both unemployed.
He always threatened to have me sectioned the children taken off me.
In October last year when the children were going to be picked up we had a family argument because my daughter wanted to take her flute to her dads (which cost £150) to her dads. Andrew and I were furious because she takes stuff and it never comes back.
Her laptop vanished and has never been returned.
Andrew shouted as did I and he slammed the cupboard door. The atmosphere was tense, they told their dad and he jumped on it.
He refused to bring the children home and called the police.
The police were happy everything was ok and adviced their Dad the children should be home on the Sunday. He then phoned social services and made the children goto them.
Social services said they were not getting involved after speaking to the children.
I went to court and had the children returned but now we are at court at welfare hearings and have the reidsncy hearing in may.
My children came home like different children.
He has told the children I lied in court and that I am stopping him seeing them (he sees them every 2weeks now)
My 2 eldest children have become violent to me at times which never happened before and really horrible at times. It is obviously affecting my relationship with my partner.
Their dad has made this fake life up that they could never have and my son especially (who is 8) believes.
The independent lawyer spoke to the children today and I’m scared they said they wanted to stay with their dad.
I was unemployed for 10 years and not allowed to work. I am a self employed carer and have built my business up from the ground.
I have had to stay off work with stress,
I cannot live without my children.
He is tearing my family apart and I always new he would.
He has said my partner is violent and that I am violent to the children.
He has said I drag my son up the stair.
Myself and my partner who works as a personal trainer and lifeguard are both pvg checked.
If the children say they want to live with their dad do I have any chance of them staying at home?
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I attended median
We Are At The Point Now Cause We Haven't Got A Place & His Ex Is Under Social That We Have No Chance Of Fighting For His Little Girl As We Have No Home For Her & No Money. But I Do Have Evidence Of This Neglect. I'd Love Some Help & Advice. I Love His Little Girl & I Just Want The Best For Her. Thankyou??
She is very unhappy but scared of the consequences of a separation or divorce as he is a lawyer. She is terrified there would be a custody battle and that he would win because of his professional background and because he earns so much more money?
Could this happen?
We have never had any court orders in place for our kids. She initially took both my son and my daughter to live with her (200 miles away) and after two years my son became very unhappy living there and we decided between us he would come and live here, and he has done for nearly two years now.
I see my daughter every school holiday so around ten weeks a year.
I am also remarried with a further two daughters.
My wife and I have decided that my daughter should also come live here with us and our family. She seems isolated at her mums house by herself and is permanently babysat and looked after by others. She’s not neglected but we feel she would be much happier here now and we could offer her a more loving and stable family home.
There’s currently no court orders in place and we’ve always decided everything between us.
We intend to ask my ex wife if my daughter can move but suspect she would say no.
What are our chances of getting her full time and allowing her Mum to see her and speak to her as often as she wanted if we took it to court?
I am a mother and a main carer of a 3 years old girl. I have been separated for 2.5 years. We have still lots of issues and our communication is not very good. We have totally different parenting styles, hence lots of disagreements. The child is exposed to different rules and routines.
I am currently going through a court case, as the father made an application for 50/50 child custody. I do not agree with that, hence we ended up in court. The father has regular contact with the child: two evenings during the week; 1 overnight per week; one of the weekend days. I am prepared to push the contact arrangements towards: alternate weekends; still pick up from nursery twice a week & back home for the sleep; introduce holidays.
I am worried that even though I try to sort the situation out in an amicable way, the father will still push for 50/50.
1. What are my chances and arguments for this not to happen?
2. We are currently living in the same town. What would happen if I found employment in different city? Would I be able to move with the child?
Any advice would be much appreciated!
My situation is this, for the past 18 months my soon to be ex wife and I have been sharing joint custody of our two children, 7 nights out of 14, alternate weekends etc. A pattern that works for is both except when she wants to alter it! Ex keeping the kids for an extra few hours when she wants, taking them away for a week at a time without contact, telling me last minute she has plans and then keeping them on my days. This is unfair and unagreed but what can I do? I am unable to take any action for fear of repercussion where she will take them away more until she calms down then allow them back to me. I am always aware of how she can react and hold them as a weapon to me. What leagal rights do I have to say she can't do this and my time with them is my time? Please help, thankyou.
Maggie
I have 5 children, two of which are from my previous marriage. Contact and maintenance arrangements have been in place for a few years now after Ex took me to court - he wanted an order that stated that contact was ‘written in stone’ for me, but be flexible for him. (I was looking for work at the time so he insisted that he didn’t have to give me a pick-up time as I had nothing better to do than sit around on the contact days waiting for him to collect the children )The Court wasn’t impressed and sent us on a parenting together course and insisted that we attended mediation.
Since then contact has worked out well, he picks them up from School on a Friday and drops them off at school on a Monday.
My concerns were raised last year when the youngest of the two boys came crying to me before bedtime, he started saying how he didn’t want to live with Daddy. I had no idea what he was talking about, reassured him that he wasn’t going anywhere and sent a stern message to his father. This seemed to settle the matter. However, the last few times they have come home from their fathers, they have been telling me that he has been telling them how wonderful their lives would be living with him. How they’d have their own bedrooms and be driven to school everyday. My eldest son has informed me that his dad has made appointments to look around schools in the area (he lives an hour away from us)
Although I know that my children would never want to live with their dad, my concerns, and ultimately what keeps me awake at night, is that he will pick them up as usual but not bring them back. That he’d enroll them into a school by him and just send them against their wishes, knowing that he’s not breaking any laws by doing so.
I worry about the damage it might do to them and m three other children seeing that happen.
Not sure what to do now? I do know that talking to him will only illicit a defensive response.
Any advice will be greatfully received.
Thanks.
My ex-partner has taken away my access to my daughter. We don’t have a legal document. I have her twice a week and have done since we split up 4 years ago never missing my days. I pay my ex maintenance every month outlined by the CMS and I’ve been paying her extra on top of that for months now.
Legally where do I stand, surely with parental responsibility she can’t do this to me?
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I’m looking for some advice. I have a son aged 9, his father and I broke up 7 years ago. When my son was 6, he kept seeing his dad sniff cocaine during visits (it was daddy’s medicine!), I contacted the police and alerted social services. No case was ever opened with social services as they were happy my son was safe with me 100 odd miles away. Since my son alerted me, his father has disowned him, I’ve tried a cafcass parenting plan twice but he refused, he initially refused to pay chil maintenance until the maintenance team decided to deduct it automatically from his HMRC payments each fortnight, I’ve offered time and time again for him to visit our home but he never does or he promises but doesn’t turn up etc! I have screenshots of text messages between he and I, I would like to go for sole custody but I am unsure of the exact procedure, costs etc. I work part time, my son and I are happily settled with my partner of 4.5 years who works full time. My son is petrified of going to Devon for visits and as time has gone on he no longer wants to visit, we telephoned but the calls were never returned, any advice would be much appreciated!
My ex and I where never married we have 2 children and split up almost 3 years ago now , He sees the children on a regular basis on a Sunday and has them over night , he dose not pay child support ( he can easily afford it he just chooses not to pay ) I tried to arrange with him a parenting plan just so every one know what’s what ....he’s currently living with he’s girls friend and her two children (if they are on good terms or he stays with he’s parents ) as he very often is hours late picking them up and then tells me I’m not getting them back ... all attempt of me sending him any letters are dismissed as he tells me he got it but it won’t stand as that is not he’s permanent residence and he tells me he doesn’t have one ?!?
What can I do in this situation ... I don’t want to stop him seeing the girls not have I ever done I just want it all agreed on paper so he can’t change he’s mind on what we agreed when ever it suits him ? Please help
Me and my children's father have separated over 6 years ago and the children have been with me as their father had been living abroad.
We have now come to an agreement that they will move to live with him and he requests I hand him over parental custody.
He has never handed me full parental custody, as I didn't see that as necessary, but he still demands it and I feel very pressured but am very afraid that if I do give him full parental responsibility that I won't have ever have anything to say about anything with regards to them.
Is there a way for me to hand him some official document that states he is their current custodian but with without losing all my parental rights and so I can just have him to back off after this many years of abuse which have caused me a great deal of mental health issues.
Thank you
Due to the removal of legal aid in family court I couldn’t afford a Solicator and had to represent myself. I wasn’t ever prepared for all the untrue accusations my ex used against me. He couldn’t prove any neglect of either of our children by me and I provided 3 letter from social services from after he’d previously reported me for locking our kids in their bedroom, not supervising them when they played out, etc, social services visited me each time and saw for themselves that none of the bedrooms had locks fitted, my home and gardens have cctv enabling me to watch the kids from my phone anywhere within our home etc and they stated the had no concerns at all regarding my ability to care for our children.
The day before our final court hearing my ex ensured I discovered something that would not just hurt me but would also ensure I would have another breakdown, which I did. I ended up in police custody for the day for my own protection.
As I did not attend court the judge ruled that our children could continue living with my ex. Within 6 weeks he’d moved into with his gf. He never gave me the address. My mental health took a dark turn. I have since lost my car and I’m living on £50pw. My ex is £35 each way in a Taxi. I am meant to have our children alternate Saturdays and Sundays plus from school collection until 7pm 2 days a week. Having no car or funds for taxis I’m unable to collect them from school twice a week, as well as suffering with mental health issues I’m also disabled and have been for over 30 years, I have limited mobility, my ex says I’m letting our down as I should get a train, Taxi or whatever to pick them up from school and spend 3 to 4 hours with them basically walking the streets as I don’t have anywhere to take them where he moved to, in fact I know nothing of that area.
If I do not change the days he requires he stops me seeing them. I’m not allowed to text, email or speak with them at all and they cry every time I see them begging me to bring them home. My ex and his gf spilt up 6 days before Christmas and she kicked my ex and our 10 & 7 year
We need some help and guidance regarding my husband's little girl.
My husband got to see his little girl 3 weekends a month he adores her and she adores him. This is an arrangement made by themselves. His ex lived 5 minutes away from him so it was easy to stay in contact.
We became pregnant at the end of 2016 and had a traumatic time and eventually lost our baby, because all of this was happening my husband contacted his ex and explained that for one particular weekend it would be best not pick his daughter up as we were going to be at hospital all day.
His ex has stopped him from seeing his daughter as she believed that we should have had his daughter on that day no matter what the situation.
As if this wasn't all traumatic and upsetting
enough she has up and left with her boyfriend and daughter and moved without any forwarding address.
We don't have a great deal of money for solicitors and she knows this and has us over a barrel. She has also blocked any communication that my husband had with her to arrange to see his daughter.
Please can you offer any advice?
I do not even know this man, have never met him and only found out about the move days before it happened.
My ex-wife has never really shown interest in my daughter other than as a source of income.
I am extremely worried for my daughters emotional well-being as her behaviour is fine when she is with me Wed 3pm - Sat 6pm but changes dramatically when she goes back to her Mother. He life with her Mother is a jumbled-mess of house moves, new partners, a new half-sister and generally being moved pillar-to-Post to accommodate whatever job her Mother has at that time. With me she has routines, structure and stability. It is a very settled life with me, my partner, my daughter and her future step-sister. I have a large log of incidents that I feel show the irresponsibility of her mother. One of which was driving her around in a car with no insurance!
I just need advice on how I may proceed legally and whether I would have any hope of custody should the instability continue.
Many thanks.
I am trying to cancel my 5 year olds passport. His father and I broke up 3 years ago now. I have tried to just cancel it, but unfortunately at the time he was the one who signed for it so I was told I was unable to cancel it. My sons father has not seen our child for over 7 months now and I don't know where he is. He no longer has any contact with his family either. All I would like to do is cancel my sons passport as either he kept it or it was lost. Either way all I would like is to cancel it so I can get a new one done. I have been told about solicitors, but as a single mum I really can't afford going down that route. Thank you for your time.
My husband and I have two children and he also has a daughter from previous partner. (my step daughter.) She lives in Nottingham with her mum and we live in SE Kent. Me and my husband do all the travelling to bring *** down and take her back to her mum. My husband does also pay CM and any extra bits and pieces when needed.
They have always had a private agreement. No court etc needed. However recently mum has been messing us around... asking is to pick *** up from different places. And letting us know / changing things last minute.
We do not get to see *** as much as we like due to amount it cost to get her and bring her home again. Her family has also turned very nasty towards us.
My husband wants to get a solicitor and ask mum to help towards travel. We are happy to go get her and bring her here but if she could meet us at London train station she can take her back home again. Does this sound fair ?
I have had my concerns about the ex’s new partner as he currently is not allowed access to his child from a previous relationship. Also last summer I had a call from the ex to say he had been arrested for attacking her! After all the horrible abuse and mistreatment I got from her family, instead of being on the offensive about this new abusive partner, I was supportive.
As long as he was no longer around my son that’s ok.
They’re now back together and my son gets very upset before he goes home every week.
I get 2 nights a week with my son and was wondering what I can do about this
My daughters mother and I don’t live together because I left due to the fact that she was violent and in more than one occasion had hospitalised me and had to be arrested.
I had no choice but to leave for my own safety and she has never hurt the kids (she has a child to a previous relationship), in leaving I lost my
Home and had to move back in with my
Parents at 33, I now have my own house but since it’s been 3 years where it was not possible for me to provide an alternative home for my
Daughter I feel it unlikely that a court would give me custody (British courts always favour mothers).
My step daughters mother passed away the other week and she is staying with her grandparents at the moment where her and her mother lived. My husband and I want her to come and live with us and our children but not sure where we stand or how to go about getting her here. Can anyone please advise us in how to do this.
Many thanks.
I need help, my emotionally abusive partner is a lawyer, I’m stay at home pregnant mom of 1 (soon 2). I want to escape this marriage but I have no where to go and I have no money to pay for a representative in court. He threatened to make sure “I won’t see my daughter again”, because he knows people and is in a position of power. What do I do? I’m desperate for help, can he really take my child away from me, since I’m not earning?
My sister has a 9 year old daughter who has lived with her dad since she was 1.5 years old.
After lots of arguing and police involvement they managed to go to court and she got a joint custody order.
They are supposed to share 50/50 but her ex determines everything.
When how when and dictates Xmas and birthdays holidays and everything. The school won't allow my sister involvement in parents nights or shows or anything and has been fighting with them for years.
My sister wanted a councillor to visit her at school but school won't do it without the exes permission.
Is this right? Can he have total control of everything although my sister has 50/05 custody and if not how do we change the schools attitude and prove that she has these rights.
Anyway we got divorced 5 years ago and I have since remarried. Since I've got remarried (May this year) my ex started texting me saying that I cant have them on some of my weekends as she has plans. In June she also took all of them on holiday during term time without even checking with me or the school. She's has also text me and told me when I can and can't have them over Christmas. She says I don't have any say as she's the main career as she has them 1 night more than me. I receive child benefit for my son but she receives it for the girls. I agreed when we first split that I wouldn't claim any other benefits as this would effect how much benefit she received. We BOTH buy the kids clothes, Inc school clothes we split costs of school trips ect.
Anyway as she keeps changing things , 4 weeks ago I asked if we can go to mediation as I would like to get things set in stone as it's not fair to keep changing the plans that have been stuck to for over 6 years. She kicked off and has told our son (without me) on his 16th birthday that as he's now 16 he can choose where he wants to live. I totally disagree with this as my son hadnt questioned the current arrangement or said they aren't happy or that they want to change where he stays and when! It's not fair to put that pressure on him especially now he's just about to start his GCSES. Plus it should be something that is discussed jointly first not just because my ex is trying to play games because I have suggested mediation. The ex is also now saying that the original solicitors docs say I had them less so she will go back to this even though for the past 6.5 years it's been as stated above.
I have tried to tell her that im not suggesting mediation to change arrangements but just to get it more set in stone.
Please help is she going to stop me from seeing my kids, it's been driving me mad for weeks as I can't afford to see the solicitor again until after Christmas
Thanks
My ex left the country 6 months ago, he hasn’t been in touch or asked about his son for 2 months of that. How do I go about seeking full custody to protect my child? I am scared that his father may find a way back to England and still be in an unfit mental state. Thank you
I am living outside UK and i have my child custody in my home country but my ex who eorks in UK threatens me that he applied for a court order and he got my child custody
Is this possible
Thank you
My sister is in uk on spouse visa her husband is french national and kids as well are are under 10years of age. My sister visa is expire and home affairs issue him leave the country notice while sister husband open a case against her and get step orders against removal of children from uk to france. My aister write an application to court that allow her to go to france where she got residence and as well as she can work and also she have access to public funds . What you think court will decide to aloow her to leave the uk to frnace with children please reply me
When I was pregnant with my youngest of two children my partner became severely mentally ill. I stayed until my children were 1& 2 but things were really tough, I began suffering domestic violence, & there was no help for us from anywhere, so I eventually moved far away. For 5 years we did not see my children's father. I kept contact with his family, although none of them ever visited us, despite being offered lots of times, it was always down to me to take my young children to them. I would also try calling my children's father, I wrote to him, & when I visited me & his family would let him know, in order for him to see his children. Then he finally got sectioned under the mental health act. I am unsure of the final actions that led to him being taken into hospital as his family wouldn not tell me. He is doing well at the moment, and sees a social worker regularly, however, my children are now 8 & 9 & have only seen their father a handful of times in 7 years. He never gives any money towards their upbringing. And my children seem quite intimidated by him. He calls every once in a while to say he wants to come & collect them to take them to stay with him... there is a 3 hour drive between us. The children really aren't comfortable with this idea & neither am I. I have requested him to take me to court rather than trying to force me to agree to something that, I feel, is in no one else's best interests other than his. I understand it must be difficult for him, but he needs to understand that how the children feel matters more than how he feels. His family refuse to talk to me now, & in turn don't speak to the children either. I go to work, my kids are happily settled at the school they have always gone to, with excellent attendance, & lots of friends. I've been the sole person financially, physically, & emotionally responsible for their wellbeing for all these years. With no support around me as I felt I would only be safe if I moved far away from everyone & everything I had ever known. I cannot allow this for my children. Any advice is most welcome.
She is happy and has a good support net work around her but her mother has now suggested that she is going to take her back to live with her, we are worried sick about this.
What are my son’s rights can the mother legally take her ?
When my friend's ex takes their children for 'his' weekend, he makes plans to go off and do activities without the children, leaving them at home with his girlfriend. Is there any way my friend can stop this, and stipulate when it's his turn to have the kids, he should be spending time with them??
I pay £200 a month in support at moment for 43% custody. Will I have to pay this amount still? Also I provide everything my daughters need at my house, including clothes etc, I also go halves on presents, school trips, after school clubs etc.
I have 10 year old child with an ex partner that lives in uk. I myself live in another European country.
We moved here when the baby was 6 months old. Father has not been much a part of his life . also, has not been supporting him financially ( only a few years with 100£ per month).
Last year the father was convicted as a paedo ( suspended sentence). I have cut off all contact.
I wish to have full custody since my child is now travelling abroad more with the family and also with different sports tournaments. His father is only a name on the birth certificate.
I have been scared to file for sole custody but I feel the time has come.
How should I approach this? As I understand, if done through court, the process should take place in the country that the child is living in?
I have been split with the father of my child for 9 months, and he has completely disregarded our daughter. No birthday present, minimal contact of only 4 hours a week if not less, which he would spend texting on his mobile, no maintenance for 6 months now, CSM are involved now and started last friday, and still no payment recieved. When I contacted him regarding the maintenance he told me I have to wait a further two weeks.
There has been no effort from himself to see our daughter or check on her well-being, his mother done this for a few weeks but that too has also stopped. He has emotionally abused our daughter by telling her that I was 'dangerous' and a 'c**t' whilst leaving her to stand on a windw ceil whilst he was face-timing a friend laying on the sofa.
I dont believe he woud ever physically harm our daughter, but if he can emotionally abuse her by speaking ill-mannered of her mother, what else does he/can he say to/around her.
Do I have anywhere to stand for full custody with supervised visititation rights?
Me and my partner have a one year old daughter. My partner told me when pregnant he was unhappy but we tried to see if things would get back on track which unfortunately they haven't. I have therefore made the decision to leave which I haven't yet done as my family live 300 miles away. I just want to know my rights before I make the move? I would never stop him from seeing our daughter
recently my stepdaughter was admitted to hospital short term and is now back at her address
whilst in hospital she and us her parents filled out forms for joint custody arrangement
which we both wanted and still want
however the papers have come back from the court after we paid and they cashed cheque saying we can't do this as children do not live with us! the grandparents
as the children can't live at 2 addresses at same time am a little confused by this response
my stepdaughter does have full custody of our grandchildren and the father only has visitation rights
I have bern separated from my husband for two years.
He lives and works abroad.I live here with my two children.
We only occasionally have email contact in regards to his visits to uk regarding children.
When he does come he collects children by waiting outside.
I have no seen or spoken to him for two years.
But recently he asked the children to go back in our house and ask for passports.They are waiting outside for me to give.
I texted by daughter on her phone i need to ask the reason why to which he responded i have equal rights and do not ask about what i do with children.
Anyhow i left the house from another exit and told them i have gone away.
Today i have received a text he wants to meet face to face at my home or my family home to discuss my daughter but i feel it is in regards to placing me under pressure to give passport.
What i would like to ask without any contact with him how can i stop him from collecting kids from my home...so a suitable secure meeting point.Then how can i gain full custody so i can prevent this situation of feeling worried uncomfortable about issue with passport.
I have visited CAB and contactef mediation but feel mediation is about our voice whereas i just want my concern to take action without him there.
Please kindly advice as i am totally stuck due to lack of knowledge in the whole matter
I have been separated with my ex for 11 years now and our daughter is almost 15, she hates living at her mums because of her fella and lots of other reasons, she wants to live with me and my wife but her mum won't let that happen.
As my daughter is almost 15, can she choose where she lives?
I don't think mediation will work at all and would just like to go to court to get this sorted but what are my options?
He said he'd like to have her for Christmas one year but his ex doesn't have to agree it as she has 'full custody'- without any real reason for his (my partner sees his daughter regularly, has not been in jail or any of the other things that usually deny custody). Does she really have full custody? Surely no court would actually enforce anything?
She often idly threatens to withdraw access to his daughter, because she's the custodial parent. I seriously doubt that she really would, but where would we actually stand if she acted on that?
Or I have to do divorce and custody here ?
I recently had a little boy who is 7 weeks old he's dad is useless he dose not pay anything towards him and sees him maybe 5 hours a week even tho I have made him welcome in my home and he could see him when ever if he wanted to. It's now turned to him just not turning up no text and no call. We have never been in a relationship with this man he mad no effort to get to no me or support me throw my pregnancy and now is so unprodictabal . I once said I wasnt happy for him to have him on his own and he throw court in my face . What I want to no is how much right do i have as his name is on the birth certificate I want to have full custody of my son so he can't take him as I don't trust him. Thank for reading
We have a son who is now 12 years
My son doesn't like staying weekends much at his fathers, I was accused last year of saying I was controlling my son decisions to stay with him, I told him I was not and I said it would be nice to spend time with his son as my ex did not spend much time with his dad at all so it's like history repeating itself a bit.
I am in the process of divorce which has been granted discree nisi, hoping it be finalised soon if ex agrees to some issues on house etc etc, my solicitor has said to him he need have my son every other weekend but it does not work out that times, he either working the weekend or something cropped up and he can't do weekend, he went away for a month abroad so my son has not seen him but since been back only had him for 1 weekend it's been nearly a month back in the uk only once seen his son
He did say earlier if he wants to see his son he can come to my/our houseat present but I said no that does not give me time plus when he did come up he not talk or say anthing to his son at all
So the advise I am asking for when I get divorced can I put I to place a time when he has to have my son to stay with him even tho my son not too keen as they don't do things when he there together in his father flat
He's stays Thursdays and every other Saturdays. He stays for tea on Wednesday as his mother works but she won't let him stay and he goes back at 8. To me there is reason why he should be staying. How likely am i going to get 50/50 access. I would like my child Wednesday night Thursday , every other Friday then the next week Saturday and Sunday. So basically 3 nights one week 4 nights the other week. Thanks for reading
In the last 2 years he's has taken her to court 3 times. We are still going through the 3 court now. We have a finial hering in September. Every time she disagrees with something he wants we end up in court. This time and the time before it's about the boys schools. The eldest is dislexic. The farther has been having private assments done on the boy against the mothers wishes
And also a court ruling from the time we went before this third court. He wants the boy to go to a private school for dislixia. But the mother feels it's not right to change the schooling now as the boy is happy and now has 25 hours s week 1 to 1 in place since January. Which he is improving with.
We believe the farther is doing everything thing he can to disrupt her routine and life with the boys. So In the long term making it difficult for her to cope so he can get full custody. The cost of going to court this time is in the region of £10,000,00. I'm paying because she can't afford to fight him.
She works full time. But after all her bill. There's nothing left. She's a good mum. Doing everything she can. If the eldest ended up in the private school which the father has chosen and is fighting for then she may not be able to keep her job because of the difference with holidays etc. Plus the boy is socially very confident. Therefore a class of 7 with children that also have other problems other than delexiea seem wrong for him. If she thought it was the right place she'd not fight it. She is very much for what is best for her boys. But the full history of all this what is ever she wants for her boys. He'll will never agree. He'll just keep taking her back to court until he gets his own way and we can't afford all this. How do we stop it. It's bullying, he also talks to the boys about there mum in s bad way and tells them everything that's going on. This is only a quick versions on what is going on. There were never married. At the end of the day all this needs stoping. He's ruining her life with her boys. What can be done to stop all this. It seems to me the law has no clear view on it. As they we're never married does she have anymore rights In the say of her boys. If not how can thing change there never going to agree because he'll never let her go. Even though he's a new partner and is trying to make a family unit by pushing the boys mother out. There must be something that's gives her some sort of right over him. Sorry is this is badly written I'm doing it in a rush and am also dyslexic
He does not contribute anything to the household bills. He uses his wages to pay insurance on his bike and his phone bill. She gives him an extra £50pcm. Most of his spare cash is spent on tobacco and weed.
He thinks he should stay in the home and she should continue to give him £50pcm so she can continue her 'career'. He is sleeping on a sofa bed in the lounge.
He thinks she should have an abortion. She is 100% anti abortion in any circumstances.
She is at a loss as to what she can do. We agree he is the wronged party in their breakup but they need a way to sort the housing issue, the money issue and most importantly the issue of the child and the unborn child.
I am distraught as I never spent a day without my daughters all their lives and things haves escalated so much over 6 weeks she took out a non molestation order out against me after a weeks and I tried to get custody of our oldest daughter the same day as she wants to live with me.
I have to go back to court in 3 weeks and I am going about getting custody of my oldest daughter do I have any chance she wants to live with 100% and hates her mum so does this help our chances of being successful in court.
My partner and his ex have been split for just under a year and we got together shortly after. They have three children together, 6,5 and 1. When he had them for a weekend I came with him to stay at his grans(where he takes the children as he lives 7 hours away from them and his grans is closer) we took the kids out to a theme park. His ex gave him pullups for the 5 year old as he was still having accidents and had one the night he stayed over. His ex was angry on two account, she did not want the children meeting me and has set out a timeframe, which we are now following and she said my partner set the 5yo back in toilet training due to him putting the pullups on him.
I do not see the children so stay at home and my partner then took the children over fathers day however she did not supply him with milk or enough nappies for the 1yo so he bought more and returned all three without a problem. It has now been discovered that the 5yo is still wetting himself in school and they have called the social services, she is blaming my partner on this and has twisted the 6yos words as she said her daddy bought nappies, but they were only for the 1yo.
Whenever my partner has the kids their clothes are dirty, the 6yo girls hair is matted with tugs due to not being brushed, the 5yo is now wetting himself after being toilet trained, he is also very shy and nervous around family he has known his whole life, the 1yo is clingy. The other thing is the 5yo and 6yo had a cough when I had seen them, the 1yo was teething and she didn't give us any medicine, five weeks later when only my partner had then(at his grans) all three of them has the cough and still no medicine.
I believe this is neglect but I am trying not to interfere too much as I believe children should have a relationship with both parents but she is trying to alienate my partner from his kids and he is a good father.
Any advice would be welcome!
Mediation takes place in front of a neutral third party. The mediator has no pre-conceptions and will not force you to make an agreement. They will assist the two parties in taking turns in the conversation, and helping you reach a decision that you are ready to agree with. Mediators do not pass judgment or offer guidance; they are there, in effect, to facilitate conversation between the two sides.
Thanks in advance for your reply
He no longer lives I. The family home as he decided to leave.
I am worried about his emotional state as he has had bad family issues growing up and at the minute I believe he is emontanaly unstable, he also is a weed smoker.
When he left the family home I was allowing him to come round on Tue and Thurs to see his son and also so I could keep an eye on his behaviour. I have also allowed him to take him out on a weekend day for Up to 10 hours.
When he was coming round the family house in the weekday it began to get unpleasant and I asked him to leave on two occasions because of this. I didn't want our child to be round that kind of atmosphere. I now have stopped weekday visits because of this.
I have allowed him to take our son out today but he has just given me abuse and is acting like an idiot.
Should I allow him to see his son unsupervised when I am worried about his ability to care for him?
Back in December 2016 I have fleed domestic violence. I had to call police on 3 several occasions as my ex partner was aggressive. On one of occasions when I was 5 months pregnant he has managed to bruise my body and pushed me around house. He has issues with an alcohol but refusing to go for a treatment. At the moment he see his son 2-3 times a week. Usually it happens in public place or he comes over to my family house where we live at the moment. He is keep pushing me to allow him to have his son overnight with him. Quite frankly I'm petrified to do it as I'm think he might disappear with him. He doesn't have a driving license but drives a car, sometimes he would drive under influence of alcohol. He can't even change baby nappy or feed him as he always refused to do it.
He has mentioned taking him on holiday with him back home but I'm scared he might not come back with him.
I don't want to stop him to see his son but I don't wish to see him anymore plus I believe he can't be trusted to be left alone with him due to his issues with alcohol.
Do you think is there any chance for me to get a sole custody? What do you think I should do?
Thank you!
I went to the Portuguese embassy to apply for her Portuguese passport they said they couldn't give her 1 as the dad is on birth certificate. I explained he hasn't seen her for 8 years.
I asked him for sole custody he said no just to be spiteful.
What can I do? She wants to go on holiday and I can't take her because I can not get her a passport as I don't have sole custody.
What shall I do?
She has a property mortgage free and a very good salary; I have to share accommodation as I have average salary in London and no property of my own.
Currently I see him twice a week, just few hours one evening during the week and a weekend day from 9 to 16. I feel this is insufficient and I want to have him over night for sleep overs. We are very attached. he knows who I am and enjoys spending time with me.
What are my chances of seeing him more if I were going to ask for the Court to decide? I feel that being a male with average-low income might prejudice my relationship with my son.
Thank you for the advice.
My ex has full custody of our son but lets me see him but only on her terms, as she refuses to put me on the birth certificate or even given me parental responsibility.
For roughly about 5 months our son has been living with me whilst my ex has been dealing with mental health issues and "witness protection" *for one of her poor choices.
She's making my life difficult saying that I have to move both our sons and my life around her whilst she gets all of the benefits.
The more I deal with her the more convinced i am that I need to go for sole custody, but I'm a bit unsure what I need to prove that he's better off with me than his mother?
What are my rights and how can I assume control over the care of my child?
When I move to Germany, does it mean that I automatically gain sole residency or does joint residency continue to exist?
The reason why I am asking is that German authorities need to know whether I have sole or joint residency. We have not gone to the courts as there is no need. I just wondered how I can 'proof' to the German authorities that I have sole or joint residency. Thank you!
I have recently filed for divorce and have a 1 and a half year old baby with the person I was married to. After my baby was born the person I was with repeatedly used to tell me that I was unfit to look after his child, that I was bad mother and that his child was his. I was nothing. When he would come back from work he would criticise the way I dressed, washed and fed my child. To the extent, that he would make it clear that I should give my baby to his parents and they will look after him because they had more experience. I was told that my primary object was to cook and clean and serve his family.
As I was also living with his parents and brother, they constantly made it clear that I have no rights as a mother. If I tried to breastfeed my child, they all complained that I took too long, especially his mother who complained that I left her to do all the cooking and cleaning. All this occurred during the first month of my baby being born and by then I had enough. I had to call my father to come and pick me up because I was too fearful of the retaliation I would face from his family as they had a very strong hold of my baby in number and strength and left when by babies father was at work.
Since then, I have not stopped my babies father from seeing his child, however, he refuses to see him unless his family is also allowed. It has now been over a year since he last saw him despite living a 3 minute drive away from where I live with my baby.
My question is, what are my rights as a mother to protect my child from people who have tried to take my baby away from me by not letting me care and nurture him when he was only a newborn? Can I refuse to allow his mother and father to see my child?
Please can you help me. I really need some sound advice. Thank you.
The father moved out when our child was two. He moved two hours away. He sees her two weeks of a year.
He pays csa.
I have never stopped him from seeing our child. He barely calls and isn't interested unless I call him.
Our child lives with me and I am the sole provider. He's recently threatened to take her off me. I'm terrified he will just take from the school.
What are my rights? What can I do?
His name is on the birth certificate and also our child has his surname.
He said that makes him have as much rights as I do.
please help me I am so worried.
Inbetween them splitting up and getting back together she lived with another man who through them out after 2 days.
I have always had lots of contact with my son and we had agreed an amount of maintenance which suited us both.
I was always afraid to upset the balance in fear of raised requests for more money and less access.
Despit having no mortgage and several holidays without my son, she keeps taking him out of school for holidays. She has now requested more money from me.
I wish I'd tried for custody sooner but like I say was afraid I'd be penalised.
I would love nothing more than to have him with me permanently or even 1 week in 2.
He is 14 and quite settled but I feel her behaviour over the past 7 years is wrong.
Can my ex really get full custody because I got married?
My husband left me when I was 3 months pregnant to embark on a mid life crisis of drink drugs and a stripper. When our daughter was 9 months old he started having her 1 night a week and by the time we finally divorced he had a good relationship with her and was looking after her 2 days and 1 night a week and so we agreed joint custody. However June last year he was arrested for possession with intent to supply drugs. I was called by child protection services to discuss his access with his daughter and it was agreed he could see her for a couple of hours on a Sunday with either me or his mother as a mediator to ensure he was never alone with our daughter. Now he is finally going to trial and could well be looking at a prison sentence. I just want to protect my daughter as much as possible because I fundamentally disagree with his life style choices and his decision making and so I want to go for full custody. Is this achievable? How can I go about doing this and what happens if he goes to prison during this process?
Can anyone advise whether and how i can get a custody order inplace just incase anything happens to me and i would like her to have my name not his?
I had separate from my ex wife 1p months ago and got divorced few months back. We have 2 kids. She is full-time working and i was taking care of my kids before seperation. Now i live in rented room few blocks away and see my kids 2 days a week. Now she wants to move away to live witb her patner. Her afaire led our divorce. Can i get my kuds back? I love my kids and i cannot imagine living without them.
My grandson went for the weekend apparently they was going to Skegness for the weekend only for my daughter to receive a call Sunday night to say he wasn't bringing him back as she is a bad mother and my grandson doesn't want to live with her anymore.
Obviously my daughter is distraught, she called the police whom said there is nothing she can do as his name is on the birth certificate.
It would seem this has been planned by dad as he spoke to transport the Friday before to rearrange transport for school which cannot be put into place overnight.
He kept him out of school today stating he would be in school tomorrow .
The school are backing my daughter and have concerns over emotional abuse and minipulation of ad a vulnerable young boy.
His brothers and sister are all over the place and I'd hate to think what must be running through his mind...
Surely there is something that can be done this is ridiculous, he has never been denied access.
Please help anything would be better than nothing.
Regards
Her ex partner does not, and has never succesfully completed her treatment plan. (administering medications, physiotherapy etc) He also smokes heavily.
He refuses to give up smoking even though his daughter has a life threatening lung condition.
My daughter is desperate to have his contact with the little girl maintained as supervised (as currently) but is terrified that the courts will allow him unsupervised contact. Without supervision his smoking and the fact that he does not follow the treatment plan or follow hospital guidance, will mean that the little girls health will deteriorate irreversibly and will eventually lead to her death.
The ex partner always makes very convincing promises to the right thing, but has never done so, and will probably convince the court that he will.
There was also domestic abuse, (emotional and physical) but as my daughter has no evidence (who keeps a camera recording in their own house?) she is also scared that this very real concern will be brushed away as he will once again lie and claim that it never happened.
If anyone can help please please let us know what to do......
How can we convince the court that his contact needs to remain supervised?
The court system does not seem to put the childs wellfare above the wants of a parent who is very adept at lying.
A contact centre was then enforce by the mother as he couldn't be trusted and hearing more drug abuse by others telling her. He did the contact centre for 3 months and now refuses to go there as he said it's not a good environment for him and the kids. This contact centre is lovely place and the kids loved going there. He keeps telling her she should take him to court and sort out custody and refuses to pay maintenance for his children. He keeps saying he is desperate to see his children yet he can't be bothered to turn up at The Contact Centre to see his own kids. She has sacrificed so much so that her children can have the best life possible. He has bullied and domestically abused her for the past 8 years. He is a controlling convincing liar. She Only wants the best for him for the sake of their children. She said that he could have the children at his home once he can be stable. She has proof that he is unstable person specially by his messages that he sends her constantly harassing her. She is worried that he could get joint custody as he is so unstable and worries about her children safety and welfare. Do you think with her situation that she would get full custody of the children, call only get joint custody as he would make up some sort of lie to make himself look good. Thank you for anyone who can advise x
Well,to begin with,I have been through domestic violence during my pregnancy and after my daughter was born year 2008 before I was granted indefinite leave to remain.social services were involved at the time but it got worst and to protect my daughter and myself,I had to move out of the area.in 2012.For the sake of my daughter,when she was 5,I approach him to find out if he wanted contact with her and he accepted.so I arranged a mutual place of contact in a public place every other weekend. For the first weekend things went well and there after he started to bring up pass conversations,ill treated me verbally and using profanities. This situation started to stress me again,as my second child was still a baby. So I decided to stop all contacts again and seek advice as to how could he be in contact with his daughter without me being around,I even proposed mediation to him,but he refused. Now,that my daughter is 8 and my son is 5 and we are well settled,I would like to take them on holidays to Mauritius where I'm originally from so that they can get to know my family. Now while I was applying for her passport,they realised that she has a double-barrelled surname and on her dad's birth certificate he only got the first surname. Now the passport office is requesting that I get a section 10: confirmation of identity to prove that he is the same person in my daughter's Bc. Because of the relationship with my ex partner I don't think he will want to help me in any way.i would like to know how can i get a passport for my daughter without him been involved or please would it easier for me to seek sole custody and there after removed the second surname so that it's similar to his bc and apply again for her passport.Please need advice as soon as thank you
My partner and I split up 4 years ago. We were together for 10 years, most of which in the UK. I then moved abroad to an EU country with our daughters and we separated a few months later. I have a court order in my country of residence (myself and my children are citizens) which gives me full custody and details visitation and maintenance for my ex who remains in the UK.
I am considering returning to the UK but wonder how our existing court order will be treated if I do. Will the terms remain unchanged? Do we have to necessarily apply for a new court order in the UK?
I don't want him any more involved in our lives than he is now (which is not much) because while he likes staying in touch with the girls he does not take on any responsibility (i.e. things like looking for schools, doctor appointments, buying clothes, etc) He seems to only ever be interested in taking them to pre-planned sporadic activities at his convenience.
Because of this, more frequency in the visits (which we tried before) ends up being messy because real life stuff is badly done or not done at all. This makes it stressful for me and the girls.
I wonder if going back to the UK would necessarily force us to review the agreement or we could continue with it as is.
children were not born in the uk, but we live in the uk now.
dad lives in the nursing home,unable to talk or write or do anything really.
what do i need to apply for? parental custody? parental responsibility or power of attorney?
Whilst for the most part the time he spends at both of our houses is 50:50, it is often around his work or social commitments! His house is a pigsty, and there are also issues regarding my child not having curtains in his room or enough food in the cupboard at my ex's house. Whilst my son 'stays' at his dads, his dad is rarely the parent - i.e. I do everything for our son in terms of clothes, dr's, dentists, childcare arrangements, etc.
My ex has now decided to take child maintenance payments away and has gone for re-assessment through the CMS. This has reduced his monthly amount form £400 to £7 per month!
Due to all of the above I am now considering my options and whether I seek full custody. My son is 10 years old and I am concerned that he is not properly looked after or cared for, and is merely a pawn in his father's game. Do I have any options to do this and how do I do this?
Please advise the best way to move forward and I thank you in advance for your help.
I feel like I've been bullied into a corner, i have mental health issues and him and his family know this and i feel they use this to their advantage and i just don't know what to do. Especially since our child adores him. I'd hate to break her heart just for overreacting.
I was on my own for 5 years with my older son who is nearly 12 now. But while with my ex my eldest suffered emotional, physical and mental abuse which resulted in social services been involved twice in the last four years. First time while pregnant with our child and second time not long after having him. Never been involved before. While social services were gathering information for the assessment they also was concerns for our son together around parenting and anger issues regarding my ex.
Also concerns for my ability to keep my children safe because of DV.
Since this an agreement has been made for access on a Sunday 11-5 which hasn't been consistent or he's late picking our son up or early bringing him back. But as soon as I mention it the ex gets all defensive and argumentative.
Today (23/4/17) I txt my ex at just after 10:20am asking what time he was picking our son up. At 1pm I took both my sons out. Then just before 3 he ring me saying he's just woke up and demanding to collect our son and have him till 8 pm. When I said no he stated yelling down the phone ending up with him putting it down on me. He is now saying is going to take me to court for joint custody after consistently letting our son down or bringing him home and he's not been changed (came home with same number of nappies in bag as I sent).
After visiting his dad my youngest comes in and refuses to give his dad a cuddle or even say goodbye just going into the living room. He is either very quiet and subdued or angry and upset.
I have decided to get some legal advice to see what I can do but don't know wether to go straight to a legal advice place or straight to a solicitor.
Please help
Where do I and my husband stand legally to get him moved in with us? My husband currently has 50/50 custody with his ex which the court advised but this was years ago. Where do we start to getting my stepson moved in. His mum doesn't seem to have ever taken him to the dentist,he has told her his eye sight is getting bad and she hasn't got his eyes tested. I have taken him to get his eyes tested today.
She doesn't seem to take care of him like that at all and it disgusts me and my husband. Thanks in advance for all your help and advice.
But (there is always a but) with the added pressure that is being put on children by the raising of the standards by the Government. I feel that my ex's illness will have a negative impact on our son's educational development and I feel that I am failing him because of this. Due to the illness, I know mediation will not have any impact, I am wondering if it is within the courts remit and power to order a parent to assist with the child;s homework or would I have to put in for sole custody?
Thanks for any advice that you offer.
I have joint custody of my 2 children aged 11 and 8. I have a contact order which I obtained from court with regular structured contact.
Last week my ex wife (The kids mum) had a nervous breakdown and was sectioned under the mental health act for a minimum of 28 days.
Therefore for the time being I have full custody.
How will the custody be dealt with with once she comes out of hospital?
I don't want the kids going back to her until she is fully capable of looking after them properly.
What are my rights?
Thanks in advance.
He has a written letter signed by his ex, stating that they do have shared equal custody, but the CSA said as it was not signed in the presence of a solicitor they can't except it. The old latter system did, but the newer system does not.
His ex has lied to them in order to be awkward. Can you advise any line of actions that would be most suitable to take, and can she get in trouble for fraud as she is lying to a government body?
I would be grateful for any help. many thanks.
The mother doesn't take good care of her. When the girl comes on holidays to my house in Luxembourg her clothes are dirty and stinky. My Brother doesn't want to find a job and doesn't support at all his daughter. When I am with my niece she tells me that sometimes she and the children that lives with her only eat pancakes. When she is with me she never wants to go back to England.
I would like to know if I can ask for her custody even living in a different country.
This is against the wishes of both schools he attended.
This has been done as she was not getting him to school and faced fines and to avoid the action plan put in place by county hall.
I want my son to attend school and wrote a letter to school saying do not take off role, along with a letter from mum saying take him off roll.
The school contacted County hall for advice.
County hall said mother was resident parent and her decision if final.
We are both on the birth certificate and I believe we both have dual custody after mother was sectioned a few years back.
There is no court order in place.
I believe residency takes over the term custordy, is this correct and who has custody/residency.
I thought a parental dispute had to be settled in court and not by county hall.
Thanks
Brian.
My daughter (age 11) lives with me full time and sees her dad every other weekend, however last weekend she is refusing to come home saying that she has more "fun" at his house. I haven't made a fuss as I thought she'd of come home by now but shes still adamant that she wants to live with him. My ex is more than happy for her to live with him but as there are no issues at home or school i don't think and don't want this to happen. He cut the maintenance payments from December 2016 and since New Year he's made no payments. Please can you advise me where i stand legally on this ?
I'm in an unhappy relationship and don't want to be with the father of my child anymore. We live in an expensive city and can't afford to buy. I'd like to move to another city and buy a house and for my son to be settled before school. The father of my child, says he'd want joint custody (which is understandable) but is it possible to do this? I can't afford to live in this city anymore but not sure how we'd we able to do joint custody. Is there any law stopping me?
Thanks
my daughters dad makes up excuse after excuse not seeing her, if he changes the day I used to always offer another time and day to which he would always decline, If I changed the time or day it was always because my daughter had a birthday party to go to or a christening and I've offered another time but he has always declined. now my daughter doesn't want to go out with him alone, she always says about mummy coming, and will scream the place down if he tries to take her. I've just taken him through csa because he doesn't pay all the time and my daughter needs that consistency. I've tried telling him she needs to be in bed at 7 after her bedtime routine (she doesn't handle no sleep very well) but he doesn't understand and thinks it's me stopping him seeing her. and during the day I've said to him he needs go build a bond with her before she is willing to go out with him. he just doesn't understand. now he's taking me to court to keep her. down on paper he is living at his nans address but I know he's living at his gf house who is not working and on benefits, I don't think she puts him down as living with her. on Sunday I even went swimming with them both and sat in the seating area because she would go without me. please tell me where I would stand with this in court.
Many Thanks
Desperate Grandparents!!!
My Ex has done everything he can to emotionally and financially abuse me.
We have been in and out of court costing me over £7K and now have a CAO for 50/50 shared care but following a minor argument my son has stayed with his dad for almost a year therefore his dad is in breach of the order as he has not returned him home.
I had a Local resolution order in place due to harassment, Police game me a crime reference number as his constant harassment was considered to be Domestic violence. He has been told by my solicitor I would apply for a non-molestation order if he did not stop contacting me for matters that were not relevant to the health and welfare of the children. He has tried to claim maintenance from me via CMS but they have said no due to the CAO in place. It is written in the CAO he can only contact me via email due to previous harassment. He contacts me constantly and tries to bring the children into the emails just to say he has cause to contact me. (12 emails in 2 days most recently!) This man does not work, and is financially relatively well off. My son who has not returned home is having health issues conveyed to me by school (Not his dad), he is not sleeping, his attendance at school has dropped to 91% (It was 100% all YEAR when he was living with me and my husband 100%) My ex refuses that my son has any health issues despite him having headaches, falling asleep in class etc.. My worry is that he is that fixated on contacting me and I am worried that as he has too much time and money on his hands he will apply for a change in the CAO so he gets full custody of my eldest son so that he can then claim maintenance payments from me. My question is would a court ever grant full custody as we both have PR? I have reported my concerns of Emotional abuse towards my children to social services. They will not get involved as it is a civil matter... I am at the end of my tether as he is a narcissist and nobody can see beneath his façade... It took me 12 years to realise before I got out of the relationship. He is dangerous and has turned my eldest 2 kids against me and It has been evidenced in CAFCASS reports that conversations he has had with my children are inappropriate, and they agreed that my safeguarding concerns whilst in their fathers care are "significant"
Things like point-blank refusing to seek mental health care for the 15 year old, who has been threatening suicide and has been self-harming since she was 12 and only after she ended up hospitalized from an attempt last winter and the hospital required her to attend a psychiatrist did my sister get any help, despite my best attempts to get her counseling for years. And her counseling has already stopped again despite the fact that she's still self-harming.
Things like leaving my 11 year old sister home alone for hours on end. Or threatening to throw her out when she turns 16 because she doesn't keep her room clean.
Things like not sending them to school for lengthy periods of time (until the school sends letters etc demanding their attendance and threatening fines) because she can't get them up or ready in the mornings.
I'm concerned for their welfare, and think I might be able to provide them with a more stable - certainly with a safer and more loving - home.
Neither of them have a father in the picture who wants access or custody.
How would I go about trying to gain custody of them? I'm concerned my mother will fight me on it as the money she gets from the government for the girls is important to her.
The reporters are social workers themselves and from the interviews they conduct, the reporter will determine two things: whether there should be contact allowed, and, if so, how much. If you are concerned that your daughter's father is not capable then you will be asked the reasons why. Much will depends upon whether your ex has had previous drug convictions or is a drug user (he may be required to take drugs tests). It’s a measure of how important the Cafcass recommendation is that the court will almost invariably adhere to it. I hope this helps.
I am an Indian married to a French and have a daughter who is 7 years old. We are living separetly since Aug 2016, she is not allowing me to access my daughter and I feel that she instigates my daughter and my daughter is not so friendly with me. I would like to go court for more access and not interested in divorce. Since mine is an international divorce can I apply for access in England. Also she takes kid to Paris with out letting me know in advance,let this action qualify as a criminal offence. Please help with comments
My wife comes accross whiter than white.I have found out 2 day that one of her closest friends have been charged with murder does/would this have any affect on my case thanks scott
Before I agreed to move out I had a 50/50 agreement made that we both agreed on. We have stuck to this since October 2016 when I moved out, but I have become increasingly concerned about my sons wellbeing.
As soon as I moved out she went doctors claiming she had depression so couldn't work and she got signed on the sick and given antidepressants. She has a bad temper and is always smacking our son if he is naughty. She doesn't cook him proper dinners and just makes him a sandwich or gets junk food, she had tins of food so long in the cupboard that it was recently thrown away because it was all out of date! She has never given him a bath and sometimes smells when I collect him from school. When she has him they just stay in her bed both playing on the iPads. I could go on.
What I would like to know is if I went for full custody so that he would have a better life all round, would the courts be in favour of her just because she is the mum? Also would they be in favour of her because I have a job and support myself, where as she is on ESA and housing benefit but is at home all day every day?
Thanks,
I love my daughter very much and would love to have her home with me. I have tried to speak to him about custody but says he will not allow me to see her or speak to her. Therefore he is unwilling to discuss what is best for her. I have asked him upteen times to return my daughter but refuses. What steps should I take next? I have spoken to number of solicitors but they are unwilling to give advice until a payment is made which is harsh as I will be looking to leave work.
What are my chances of the judge giving me full custody? Would the judge look in my favour?
If there was a good chance how will my daughter be returned to me?
I'm new to this so unsure of how the system works. Please help. Many thank
My ex wife has remained unpredictable and never fully compliant.
The girls have now reached 11 years old, 12 in April and their Mother has decided, arbitrarally, that if either of the girls choose to 'not want to visit' she will not allow them to be sent.
Question I find this wrong and would like to seek a Court instruction to stop this happening.
But I have heard if I do take Court action (cannot afford legal assistance) that regardless of outcome I would be liable for her legal charges if she chose to object.
If that is true, what Act and Section covers that specific point.
I have a shared residency order for my son, which stipulates care is to be equal at 3.5 days each per week. Last year, 2016, my ex applied for child maintenance. I have sent the court order to CMS and written correspondence disputing their decision which has been ignored. They have told me that even though we have shared care and an shared residency order, that I am still liable to pay child maintenance as her name is on the child benefit. I thought this is not the case in the new scheme. Please help.
We broke up a week ago we got 2 kids one is 7 years old the other one 2 years.
My wife is receiving disbility living allowance she's got epilepsy for 20 years.her mom is the carer. I want my kids to live with me as my ex wife not fully fit.
In this case can I get full time custody of my kids or not. Thanks
Because she had the children initially I lost all the child support etc we received.
I now for cook, wash, put to bed, take to school, buy food etc for our children. I have a low income and struggle to pay the rent, rates etc.
Their mum doesn't want to give up her benefits because she doesn't work and needs the money for herself. She also now has a recent drug habit.
What would be the best way to obtain the financial support I need for the continued care of our children?
Thanks for any suggestions.
We are still waiting for the house to sell but as house prices are more affordable up North and I have friends their I am considering moving there but worried about what he can do if I move that far away?
Please give me some advice as to what my options are
Also, I have growing concerns about the standard of care my granddaughter is recieving from her father. A few things she has told me recently are very troubling, for example he apparently left her in the park alone (she's 4) when he went to the pub? he is also a DJ at a local club and so leaves my granddaughter alone at night? (i think)... ideally i would like to gain full custody of my granddaughter until her mother leaves prison...
what is my position in terms of gaining temporary custody or at least enforcing the already standing court order?
thanks
My ex and I have been spilt for the mogority of our daughters life. I have two sons from a previous marriage and also now a step daughter from my current partner.
Childcare in itself is difficult to manage as you can imaging. We have a good realasionship with all ex partners and we have mutual agreements when it comes to care/custody of the children and also maintenance.
However, the ex partner of my youngest is being quite stubborn. He and his new partner are police officers and work a pattern of 6shifts on and then 4 shifts off. We have tried to make sure all have the 50/50 care of the children we believe is right and we try and make it so they are all in tie with each other to help with such things as.... our work commitments, their work commitments, childcare costs, our time and theirs spent together as a family.
It has now come to a point where he current routine we have is not working for us or the children.
We currently do 5 on 5 off, with the ex partner in question, and week on week off with all others.
This has been changed several times,and as you can imagine, the other partners are now in agreement that the week on week off works well and don't seem why they should change yet again for the conveinance of the z person in hand.
What I would like to know is that where do I stand?. The ex partner in question, after having been politely asked if we can come to some alternative arrangement (i.e. Week on week off like the others) he is simply saying he can't and the only other option is for him to take me for full custody of our daughter?????...... not sure how this would work as he "simply can't" do anything other than his 5 on 5 off!!!
Can anyone help and advise??. X
Me and my partner have two children ages 4years old and 5 months. I think we might separate and go are different ways. We have been together for 10 years not married. She is not British but I am as are my two children mother is Polish. I want to apply for joint custody. How do I do this?
What are my rights? Will he be able to take my child from me?
I have had my daughter living with me for about 7 months now, She has just turned 1. Her mother only keeps an interest through texts asking how the child is, she always plans to see her and always lets her down. She has now not seen the child since Christmas eve and has only seen her 3 times since October. I've had threats she will come over and take the child back etc and I don't know what my rights are here. I have been told to apply for a residency order but it is all so confusing. Any info here would be appreciated.
My ex partner has my two children he not let me have any contact with them for over six years now. Have I got any rights to them? And can I go and take my children away from him without his consent?
My ex and I have been split for almost 5 years. We weren't married and have one son together who is now 9. The relationship was volatile and he was basically a bully. The arrangements for care of our son have always been 50/50 but only agreed between ourselves. I have always given into his bullying ways and therefore I have been left with shorter time at the weekends with my son. We've started to hit brick walls where he is no longer being flexible or amicable so I now want to change the arrangement and have it legally binding. In short I'm still happy for it to be 50/50 but I want us both to have 2 days each in the week and alternative full weekends each (fri-sun). I'm booked in for mediation, yet he doesn't know yet as will only cause an argument, but I'm worried he won't agree to this and it will go to court.
My question is, is there a standard arrangement that a court issues for 50/50 care of a child and does my proposal seem fair if put to a judge?
The trouble is my 2 eldest have ADHD and are prescribed medicine. I am wanting the dr's to give us both prescriptions for the children. Are they legally meant to do so? Does anyone know??
Thanks
Thank you in advance.
The mother who refused to look after our child for over 6 months, now has him for the 3 days that are spare.
She is now asking for maintenance which I am sure she isn't entitled to? Am I correct in thinking that It should be the other way round, she should be paying me maintenance?
Also if she takes this further like court which she has also threatened, do I have a leg to stand on?
My hubby wants a divorce and want me to leave his house being the sole owner. After many disputes i have decided to leave with our three kids. But some friends told me not after all he should be the one leaving the family house. I want custody of my kids but some told me if i leave the house he may claim and wins it. Please help.me understand the real thing. Im confused and need advice. Thank you
Just after some advice if anyone knows?me and the wife are going through a bad patch we have 3 children my wife has decided to have a party lifestyle lol.
She goes out every weekend getting drunk and stopping out saying she at her mums which I know is not true.she also is under the doctor for depression,health problems etc etc even her doctor wanted to refer her to the mental health team but she won't except help she is getting worse but when I tell her she pushes me away and uses the kids against me and takes them away to there grandmas.
So my question is..she has caused all this and wants me to leave house she is on a collision course and getting worse what would be my chances to get a custody order against her??i don't want to take her kids away from her and stop her from seeing them but I need to take care of my children and there concerns but I can not go on like this every day I just don't know we're I stand she has done all this and expects me to leave the family home and my children but I see it as she needs to go and leave me and my kids to get on with everything and she can still see her children but I know she can not use them as pawns against me..any ideas from a desperate dad would be appreciated..thankyou
Refusing overnight stays so he stays at over relatives the weekends my partner has him. Me and my partner have now looked at moving further up north for financial reasons. We know the mum won't agree to the child staying at our new home 4 hours away during holidays and things like that. Would we have to go back through court to get these arrangements?
He pays no maintence, and although we decided on set days so he can see my daughter this changes to suit him, he also will only see her or have her over night if I or his parents are there too as he goes out,
He gets quite argumentative when I have to work on the days he is suppose to see her but refuses to take her to his home so he can still see her it has to be at my flat,
I am a care assistant and have to do shifts so when I get my rota through I give him my hours for the rota I have so he can help me with child care but a lot of the time does let me down with this,
I don't particularly want to come round my flat due to him walking round my home like he still lives there, but trying to be a reasonable parent so he can see his daughter it's making the situation harder to deal with
I still have a lot of his things here e.g. Clothes even though he has moved out nearly 2years ago and even though I have asked him over again to take them they are still here
I feel like I'm losing a battle and finding it hard to stay resonable with him when it comes to our little girl, I try and arrange via phone so my daughter is unaware of any arguments that may occur,
I don't despute that when he is with my daughter that's his a good dad but it's his attitude and how he treats me when coming to an agreement about anything with our child which is becoming a draining problem
I get on really well with his family and don't want to make a situation with them as they help when I need them but I think I need now some advice on how to set ground rules on this situation so I can just get on with being a mom and go to work
Me and his dad split 3 years ago, after he was cheating and broke off our marriage.
We have tried co-parenting , and I just want an easy life , with no confrontation, however my little boys dad , loves control , is verbally abusive to me, and still to this day scares me. He is now living with a younger girl , who he met a year ago, who seems to be just as controlling, making mine and my partners life unbearable. It's what he says goes basically . We just want an easy life and what's best for our little boy, but seems we always have to abide by him. We have him mon-fri and then he goes to his dad every weekend . We asked if we could have him one weekend a month and he will not allow that either. He lives nearly 100miles away so we have to do one drop off every weekend too, and do not receive any payment what so ever off of him? Please help, we really are at our wits end and want the nightmare to just be over with.
I have seeked advice from CSA, this only works in favour if your child father is working. As he is illegally claiming benefits, they can only take £7 weekly from him as payment.
CSA advised me to speak to benefit fraud, this is only way I could claim my FULL amont of money I am actually intilted to as he does work.
I want to make a claim for sole custody as he has a very poor lifestyle and does not provide either finical or physical support. What would the success rate be in terms of me getting financial support along with child care as I myself work 45 hours per week.
I have a 6 year old daughter and I am due to attend a contested custody hearjng next week.
I applied for a court order as my ex husband refuses to change the custody arrangement unless it suits him. I currently have our daughter Saturday afternoon to Thursday morning. I'm requesting that custody is changed so We can both have a full weekend each every other week with our daughter but mid week remaining the same.
My ex is verbally abusive to me in front of my daughter and I want yo limit the handovers and limit asking permission every time I want a full weekend Roth my daughter which is usually refused by my ex
Do you think I have a good chance of the court ruling in my favour?
Without waffling on too much, I have a 7 year old daughter who i see every other weekend. Both myself and my daughter have expressed that we want to spend more time together, but it's always one excuse after another from her mother.
Recently my daughter had a session with the school councillor due to minor issues. The councillor said to my ex wife that our daughter doesn't spend enough time with me. Everytime I broach the subject or when we've arranged something in the past, it never lasts. All I want is to spend time with my daughter, which as advised will be beneficial for us. Yet everytime I bring the subject.up, I'm stonewalled or it only lasts a few weeks. My daughter is also getting fobbed off. She keeps getting numerous excuses or told 'when she's older'. I offer to do all the running around, the picking up and dropping off, yet there are always excuses.
What are my options here? I don't want to cause any upsets or take my daughter away from her mom. I just want to spend time with my daughter when possible.
He have been cheating on me and lying for a long time. So im trying to move out of the house and back home to norway.
I am originally from Norway and want to move back, have all my support there and nothing here.
How can i move back with my kids? Do i need sole custody if the dad says no?
We are not married and he is on the birth certificate. Kids are registered both countries but born in the UK.
Thank you
I am concerned that she may return and demand our son lives with her, even though she consensually left him to live with me while she pursues a new life abroad with her boyfriend. If there anyway, considering mum no longer lives in the country and decided to leave her son behind, or me to have sole-residency of my son. I'm very confused and have no understanding of where things stand legally.
Not living with my partner for nearly 7 months now. I have always supported my child through benefit and sometimes my family support me financially. My partner always worked cash in hand but saved for himself. The incidents have been reported to the police therefore, I was removed from my place and placed in a refuge. Please advised me on how to stop him completely to have access Ronny child. Also if I can remove his details from child birth certificate
they have divorced and she now lives back in Thailand whilst the son (six years old) lives in the uk with his father. She would call every weekend and talk to her son but about 4 months ago her ex husband stopped answering her calls and now has blocked her number. She has tried asking his other family members if they can talk to him and get him to take her calls so she can talk to her son but he still does not answer.
Not really sure what to do. Any suggestions
I have seperated from my partner and she is threatening to challenge for sole custody. I have been in my current employment since Feb 2016 and have support myself, my ex parnter and our child for 3 years. Our Daughter is now 2 and I am concerned she will try to take her away from me. I can provide proof that our daughter is well looked after cared for and is in a loving home when she is with me, and I am worried about my ex parners mental state as she has started to act irrationally and aggressive towards me when our daughter is either in my care or hers. I feel as though she is trying to use our child as a weapon to hurt me, when not actually having her best interests at heart. We have a parental agreement of the days/times we spend with her. How do I go about making this agreement legal binding and something she needs to stick too?
My wife and I (both British Citizen's) Have been in New Zealand for over two years. We were about starting our Permanent Residency application when she decided to come over to UK to do some work as she had been unemployed for those two years. Because she wasnt here when the application had to be submitted, we both agreed to leave her out of the application, and I submitted the application for me and our children. Based on our submitted application we got a temporary extension for 6 months, but this didnt include my wife, who's visa has now expired. We have gone through everything else required, and were hoping that as soon as we get it, she can apply for her based on being my wife, and mother of our children - Immigration have however now sent us the following, even though my wife has written, signed and posted a Consent Letter to them ------R2.1.50 Children under 16 with only one parent included in the application for a residence class visa.
a.If one of the parents of a child aged under 16 is not included in the application for a residence class visa, the applicant parent must have the right to remove the child from its country of residence.
b.Such children cannot be included in an application unless the applicant parent produces satisfactory evidence of their right to remove the child from its country of residence.
c. Except where (e) applies, evidence of the right to remove the child from its country of residence in cases where one parent is not included in the application for a residence class visa, but the parents are not separated or divorced, must include original or certified copies of:
i. a written statement confirmed by both parents at interview; or
ii. a court order permitting the applicant to remove the child from its country of residence.
d.If, because of the death of one of the parents of a child aged under 16, only one parent is included in the application, the death certificate of the other parent must be provided.
e.The child may be included in the application where an immigration officer is satisfied that:
i. by virtue of local law, the applicant parent has the statutory right to custody of the child; and
ii. it is not possible or required under that local law to obtain individualised legal documents to verify that custodial right.
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I am looking at option (e) as the only option. Does anyone know if there is any local UK law that allows me as their Dad (the applicant) to meet this option e criteria
I would just like to know my rights and what the court would condone for two single parents living 2 hours apart?
Thanks!
Advice needed please.
Can I make a legal document where in the event of my husband and I passing away at the same time that states our children are to be taken in by my in-laws and not by my birth family. Our children are extremely close with my husbands family and not with mine but I know my family will fight for custody and the thought petrifies me.
I hope I've posted this right and someone can help. Need advice as soon as possible please. Thank you.
it took me around 18 months to find another job to which i was there a year and had a private agreement with my girls father which was taking them out every month and buying them their essentials they needed .. ie clothes shoes ect...
Then the girls dad decided to sting me again saying i hadnt payed him nothing and CSA told me that the clothes and shoe they classed as gifts so again i was stung with around £2000 csa which i agreed inthe end to pay as i had no choice.
Now as time has gone by my eldest daughter moved in with me June 2014 and then my youngest moved in Dec 2015,
The girls father has pushed both of his girls away since they moved back in with me and has cause quiet alot of problems and arguments over the past.
now that my daughters are soon to be 15 and 14 I have told him that i would rather him give his daughters the money so they can go out and get their hair stuff or make up or clothes but he hasnt bothered and now its been about 3 months..
I have heard that the CSA no longer is an option ... is this true ??
I think its about time he faced up to his commitments just like i did when they wasnt in my care.. so the bottom line is .. how do i make a claim.. and what do i do... please help
I find it hard to think I children would be better off staying with him 50% of the time but being taken to and from school by a nanny and he just get home just as they are going to bed during the week.
Is this a request that gets granted frequently?
I can prove that he has little support from family, as they stopped looking after our oldest when he was 4 because they were needed to look after another grandchild who was born after our arrangementsite for them to look after our son were made, and they make little effort to babysit now, with my mother doing the lions share of babysitting and support.
What can I expect?
In addition, she cannot apply for a passport from her scandinavian country where she is a citizen unless her mother approves.
The mother refuses to co-operate, which to some extent can be explained by the fact that according to her I already have full custody. The child is now in limbo and doesn't have a passport and therefore cannot leave UK.
The authorities of the scandinavian country refuses to accept an application for full custody on the grounds that she has never been a resident of the scandinavian country, and now tells me I have to apply for full custody in UK because that is where we reside since five years. I am not a UK citizen.
Any clues of how I apply for full custody in UK given the conditions described above?
I'm in a dilemma. I have a jointly owned property, but I am currently renting a place. My ex resides in the property. We are both on the title deeds. Basically, she isn't that interested in my son, hence him not wanting to spend time there; however, she doesn't want to increase her hours at work to earn more, so I suspect she sees him as a cash cow, hence the suggested change in arrangements. My son has told me that he doesn't feel safe with his mum and doesn't trust her (she has told him numerous lies, which he himself knows aren't true). When it comes to the handover, he cries and doesn't want to go back. CAFCASS weren't interested in this, but felt sorry for the mother and spent a good proportion of their time with me discussing the mothers accusations and her finances.
I am considering moving back into the jointly owned property whilst my ex is out. I will ask the police to accompany me. She changed the locks to deny me access, so I'll need a locksmith too.
Any advice on how this would play out on my final hearing/ affect the child arrangements? The property is important, but TBH, she could keep most of it if she would just leave me and my son alone. Advice welcome.
My husband and I separated a 15 months ago and are in the middle of getting divorced after he had an affair and now lives with the person.
We have been getting along fine, and he sees our daughter week 1, Friday after school until Monday morning, and week 2, Sunday morning through Monday school drop off..
However he recently threatened me that if I didn't increase his hours for Christmas, he would take me to court, stop my maintenance and get 50/50 or full custody.
Basically what I proposed to him was that he had her the day before Xmas eve until 11am Christmas Eve, then I would have her until 1pm Christmas Day, then he could have her 1pm for her dinner until Boxing Day afternoon. In my head this would be equal as I had her for lunch last year.. I just don't see what the problem is with me having her until 1pm Xmas day.. It means we get to wake up (usually around 8.30 on non school days), open presents, have breakfast and play with her presents and my parents can see her before she goes to her fathers for lunch and presents..
I just don't see how I'm being unreasonable?
However now I am worried, I was made redundant during pregnancy and took a year off before we split to look after her, I then suffered anxiety after our split and have been on benefits. I am now seeking full time employment and work part time as a carer, he and his gf have good jobs and he kept our house and car whilst I live in a rented flat.. What are the chances she would be taken away from me if he did take me to court? I love my daughter with all my heart and don't understand why he has threatened me.. But now it's got me so worried I'm wondering if I should seek legal advice first?
I have been with my boyfriend for 15 months and his sons and my children have integrated well. His youngest son and mine call each other step-brothers and go to the same school. We live in our own homes but share holidays together and are working towards plans to blend our families should everything continue as it is. We have really worked hard at ensuring that our kids are not rushed into anything.
I have recently started divorce proceedings (been separated for 30 months) and now that I am insisting on a divorce my ex is saying he wants 50/50 residency and is bullying me into not going to court to as he says it is a waste of money. He is pressurising me to agree or state why I wont concede. I strongly believe that our home is their main residence, they are happy with this arrangement and nothing has ever been said about my parenting as I work very hard at being a great mum.
My solicitor says that it would be very unlikely that the judge would change anything unless the children were unhappy but my ex is intimidating me saying why would the judge not give him 50% because he thinks the kids should now be with him 50% of the time and he now wants it to
We have a child arrangements order in place that states he has contact every other Friday after school until sunday at 6pm.
He constantly arranges his social life on his contact weekends with the children (8 & 11) and tells me that he is unavailable on the Friday and will pick them up from me on a Saturday. I only have 4 days a month to myself as it is, but he is still trying to control me, telling me what I should be doing with regards to the children.
He has also said on occasions that his girlfriend (the one he had an affair with ) will collect the boys when he is not available to do so. The children do not get on with her. He has Parental Responsibility and he said can delegate care of the children to whomever he choses.
When he does have the children they stay around his parents house (grandparents) so his mother will look after the children, as neither myself or the children are allowed to know where he lives and we only have his work mobile number.
He never texts, emails or phones the children (the eldest has his own mobile) at anytime, the only rare contact he has is on his contact weekend.
thanks
What are the options for custody likely to be? I don't think joint custody is practical in my case, or am I wrong??
After 3 months he moved back after promising him the world.
After 2 months my son started spending all his Time with me at least 5 out of seven days and goes to school where I am. I have never worried about money only my son's well being but for about a year now I pay for everything and he gets nothing from her even after I pay maintance.
He has noticed the fact she smokes w××d all day and sleep all the time and comes over complaining there's no food and he gets nothing.
My question- can I stop paying her and give it to him direct or can I get joint custody. I am in a settled home with my wife and daughters but have always worried I would lose and she would push me for more.
I should of done something sooner I know but I did not relise what was really happening and how much he has done for himself over the years and the fact money means more to her.
Advice would be helpful.
Can i get a legal document with certain restrictions for paternal grandparents to visit my son at my home ? And how do I go about getting 1 wrote up ? Please .
Many thanx
Catherine parry
i tried to contact thme but no one answered.
my question : has my ex-wife has the right to totally keep me out? is she not legally obliged to give me updates as of where my children are and how well they are?
Their dad doesn't work and I feel he should have them over night every other weekend but when I talk to him he says he has them enough.. Need to know who I can speak to about getting something more in place as to when he has his kids.
Had my daughters Dad continued paying support at the rate that he was until my daughter finished uni then I wouldn't have any issues. As he has now cut it at the time when we have had to support her so much financially I want to know if I have options to get backpay granted based on his actual income. He is very well off and we have always struggled, he has never offered my daughter anything other than financial support so I honestly think it's the least he can do.
I plit up with my daughters dad couple of years ago.We still live in the same house,just separate rooms.
He will not move out and treatens to do all sorts of things if I will try to move avay with our daughter.
I am the one that lookes after her(take to school,pay for childcare,clothes and all expences).
I work part time so I could take care to school.
He has a very bad temper and was agresive towards me in the past(but i was to scared to report him).
What can I do to move away from this mess and what right would he have regarding the care of our daughter?
Father gained full time custody of his children through the court and due to Mother's mental health and alcohol misuse she was only allowed supervised contact with her children.
Father resided with his children at his parents (Children's paternal Grandparents).
Father has recently died and Grandparents wish to continue to care for the children. It is reported that the children also wish to stay in the care of Grandparents and paternal uncle who also resides at the address.
Would Grandparents need to approach the court to apply for a Residency Order in these circumstances?
Many Thanks,
Michelle
Since ive been pregnant my ex has never seen me or the child. I have been through domestic abuse, for a log time, he has not gave anything to the child and now he wants to do a court order?
He is a violent and a long term drug addict. Will he still be able to see the child
Can i do sole custody?.
My parents divorced six years ago, since then I have been living with my mother. I have been in contact with my father for months now and would wish to take the next step, which it to live with him.
I am 19 years old and was wondering if I have the right to live with my father?
My partner and I split when our daughter was just over a year old. H saw her regularly but was never really hands on when she was a baby. He has had regular contact with her and now has her over night with his new partner 14 nights a month.
He has now suddenly decided that be wand sole custody, though he has no grounds for this.
He and his parter both work full time, and he has absolutely no grounds for requesting this.
Unless I am an unfit parent in some form, the child is naturally best with its maternal mother. Am I correct?
My case is increasingly common yet I cannot find the support I need online.
My ex left me during pregnancy. He kicked me out of the house and refused to pay for items his child would need when born. He is on the birth certificate however so far hasn't been able to have joint residency due to breast feeding. He recently decides he wanted to be involved in her life again and knows I have stoped breast feeding. He sees her regually with me present however I don't want her to spend time alone with him or at his house the night (due to smoking drinking and drugs) I don't feel he can emotionally support her. But will he get joint residency in court?
I am busy going through a divorce and trying to come up with arrangements to the children. I live in Zambia and my soon to be ex and the children live in South Africa.
do to my work commitments I am only able to see the kids in their holidays and a few long weekends.
as I am paying for everything for the children and the fact that I live far away from them. what would you suggest I go for school holidays etc.
I feel that I should have them more in the holidays and be allowed access to them when I travel to Rsa. because my ex is unreasonable I don't know what to propose.
can you give me any advice.
He uses cocaine socially & rents a room in a house.
My child is extremely happy, settled & has no idea who this man is... I don't want him anywhere near her or involved in our lives.... It terrifies me.
Since we have separated the children live with me and I have full responsibility for them. The children see their dad on a Saturday overnight (a full 24 hours).
He has suggested that in about six months - when he has found a new place to live (he currently lives with his sister), he will be looking to share responsibility.
Whilst he is a loving dad, practically he finds it tough abd the children are always very tired and irritable when they come back from his. He works full time. Although I work full time, I work for myself and am flexible so do about half of my hours from home when the children are in bed. The children are extremely settled and happy and I'm worried about the affect a big change would have on them.
I was wondering if I had any rights as the children have been with me for a year (and aix months by the time he can share responsibility).
Thanks for your help
My ex is taking me to court for full custody and he has lied the whole way through saying I abuse our son, I physically harm and neglect him. Social services don't feel there's a need to get involved as my Sons previous and current childcare have had no concerns. However, caffcass are doing a section 7 report. All my ex has is a picture of a scratch on my sons back. How can someone get so far through lies? It scares me that there is a chance I could lose my son.
I am a Father of an 8 year old boy and I currently have a shared residency order from 2013. I have overnight access alternate weekends Fri pm to Mon am, half of his school holidays and have him for his tea every Wednesday and Thursday until 6.30pm.
I wish to now have full joint custody for a variety of reasons including there is no other male role model in his life other than his school headmaster, also when he’s staying with his Mother he sleeps with her in her bed rather than in his own room and bed as he does when he’s with me and my thoughts are that if he stayed with me each Wed and Thurs night instead of returning to his Mother it would mean we had equal access, it would cause little or no disruption to his routine, it would be something he would welcome as he constantly asks to spend more time with me and finally it would mean that I do not have to go to his mother and, effectively, beg each time he asks to stay a little longer.
How difficult is it to change an order please?
Cheers
What should i do?..
I have a daughter 20month old. I split with her father when she was 1year old( he left becouse he had another girlfrend for more then 3 month till now). He is Self employed, but not registred, he is a driver lithuania- uk. He don't have fixed incomes. I let him and He came to see his daughter every time, when he is In the uk.
Sometimes he saying that he will take my daughter from me and never give me back. Or will come his friends and will do something.or he will take daughter if i will stated to have new relationship( but he is allready engage).
I'm full time worker. I pay to babysiter.
He giving some money, but they a for credit card, thouse money he been using for his"bussines", when we been In relationship.
So i looking after me daughter "100%". I living and working full time 5years In uk.
Is any support, anything that he would able to see daughter In this time, when i am with her?
I worry go to visit my parents In Lithuania, becouse what if he will take her and not give me back...
Thank you.
i split from my childrens dad for a few years now , for tne first few months he was seeing them.... after a few months i had to stop him seeing my children as he was lying to me and his children ... he has never paid a penny for them ... and i have never pushed for csa and dont wish to ..... 2 years ago he left my home town and i dont know where he is .... my question is could i apply for sole parenting also my children want to change their names legally, could i please have advice as i dont know what to do !
I will try make it as short as I can.
Just a month and a half after I had my son we have moved to Dubai as my husband has work here and lived with his parents for the first six months which my husband spend most of the time out and did not share a room with us. After moving to our own place he also deceded that he does not want to live with us and vow visit us a few days per week. I am alone in Dubai with my son with no income coming from my side stuck in house most of the time and always fighting with a father of my son whenever he comes as he dosent put as priority and just left us. However we came to an agreement for divorce and that me and the baby can go live back in the uk so we can make a good life for us. At this point I do not agree shared custody as he will not be living in the uk and don't want him to just turn up every now and then and take the child, as well have a say in schooling etc as he will not be there living with us. I want him to write me a letter before we leave Dubai to agree that I will get full custody I really don't know what to do. Could you please advice me, we suppose to leave in four weeks...
My half brothers recently got took away from my mum and are now living with there biological dad who isnt my real dad. Basically me and my sister have both tried hard to get into contact with our brothers however their dad will not alllow us access. Do you know if there is anything we can do about this?
Thanks
So illegally with right dose she has to supporting evidents in court.
my ex broke up a few years ago and I had regular visitation until in a new relationship she has stopped me from seeing my son, she also refuses mediation so what do I do next? I pay child maintenance every month. I turned up to my meeting for mediation, she chose not to even though it was initially her idea.
Me and my husband separated 2 years ago. I had gone to a refuge in manchester as he was aggressive and resulted in the police finding me a refuge to stay in. As I had come from london orginally I relocated there. However in 2015 I decided to come back to Manchester as my daughter really missed her dad. I am now in a situation where I live 10 mins away from my ex (still married legally). However I feel he really neglects my daughter. Ie: bedtime routine, watching TV til late small things that really add up. How can I get full custody of my child so that I may set boundaries? At the moment he sees her everyday and sometimes he picks my daughter up late and drops her off late. I basically have to revolve my whole week around him. He gives no prior notification of when he will come etc. I thought this could be resolved amicably but he threatens me that if it goes to court I wont stand a chance. I work part time and cannot afford going to court. I really want a divorce but even that is too expensive. Please could someone advise on how i can have full custody.
My wife has petitioned for divorce and has threatened to take the children and get full custody. The kids are 4 and they are very dependent on me. I am the one who takes them everywhere, makes them breakfast and puts them to bed. I have a flexible job and can change work days but my wide can not. She earns almost as much as I do.
I know the courts are biased towards women who want custody, but what are my chances if I argue that I am the better parent? Thanks
She is also planning on moving away, I don't believe her to be capable of looking after my daughter alone never mind 3 kids, her mother currently does all of her house work etc and the only time she spends with any of the kids involves them being yelled at. I will be going to court for access rights but what are the chances of me gaining full custody, she has always had residency of my daughter.
Also do i still retain parental responsibility after divorce?
(legal advise would be appreciated also reference to specific acts).
Kind Regards,
Nick C
P.S I really don't want her to change my child's first or surname name so i would be very thankful for any legal advise because i would be willing to take her to court.
we share a beautiful 9yr old boy together. In the divorce agreement it was agreed for him to have access of every Friday night to sleep over... Returning him on the Saturday, alternate football games and him visiting on a Tuesday night, to take him to football training. Over the years he has never been to a football game, collecting him on the Tuesday night, and the Friday night overnight stay has been sporadic, he does not ever arrive on time and leaves our boy waiting for him for hours and he never returns him at the agreed time! This became impractical to live with and completely mentally draining on my son, as a result I now drop him off and collect him so elevate the problem ( making the "dads" life somewhat easier than it already is)!
He does not provide a home for our son as he lives with his mum and step dad, he doesn't aid with child care in the holiday periods, he has never showed up to any parents evenings, school plays, assembly's etc so I don't even waist my breath in telling him before hand.... I do however inform him on the parents evening out come and show him copies of the school reports!
My main concern is I have little faith and confidence in his parenting skills and worry when my child is in his care: when he does sleep over, my son come back exhausted and in many occasions has gone back to bed and slept for 6 hours!!!!! I believe they sit up on computer games most of the night, my son and step son had told me in separate occasions! He has returned home at 6pm on a state today evening starving as he has been given only breakfast ( bacon roll normally). My sons nana, farther and a majority of the other family member smoke around him, my sons clothes are so pungent with the stench he washes as soon as he returns home!
More worryingly, I know he (the "dad") has attempted to drink drive with my son in the car, and before we sold the family home
( the "dad" was living in while we separated as I had to go to my mums for security) I gained access and found to bags of
Cocaine easily accessible to my son whom was 7 at the time..... I don't not wish to stop access, however, I need to know my son is going to a safe, and stable environment, and feel that is not being provided.
He ( the dad) does unfortunately have parental responsibility as he is named on the birth certificate! I have raised my concerns with the "dad" but just get laughed at!
How can I protect my son? I'm worried if anything happened to me, the "dad" will have rights he just doesn't deserve! How do I ensure my son is safe, is secure, is well looked after, is thought correct lessons in life???? My son lives with me permanently and my partner of 2 years ( he is a role model, and more of a farther figure. He provides moral, financial and emotional support to both me and my son). I fear
any advice would be much appreciated
We are currently going through a divorce and his solicitor has written to me saying he wants 50/50 access, he has suggested a four week rota splitting the weeks but each of the 4 weeks has different days which would make it impossible for me to arrange childcare and my four children would rarely be together. How likely is it that he would get 50/50 access and if he did would that mean i would be unable to force the sale of the house we own but he lives in?
Was looking for a bit of advise, my son's father and I recently broke up after a reconciliation. While we where separated for 7 months he withheld my son 3 times which ended in social work involvement, where he was bamed as the only concern. my son spent as little time as possible with his father due to his lack of interest, my son is only 16 months old and now I am getting threatened with court for full custody or residency. My sons father has never contributed in any of his life whether it be life decisions or providing for him. He also has an addiction to cannabis which is a real cause of concern as he puts it before everything. As of now he's not seen my son since the 2nd of April and there has been no contact from him. I was wondering if I am wrong on thinking to take it to court as no matter what arrangements we agree on he never sticks to it or he doesn't stand up to his parental rights or responsibilities would I be better off applying for sole custody to my son as I don't receive any help or support in his upbringing?
Thanks in advance
The ex girlfriend is not the brightest bulb and maybe only saying these things to hurt my son. She already suffers from depression, Is there anything we can do like fight for custody before the baby is even born.
I never got a court order for residency because I could not afford to go through the process but he was in no fit state to look after our daughter so never contested her living with me.
Now that he's starting to get better he's becoming very demanding about when he sees our daughter, gives me very limited notice at times and is completely unreasonable when she has things on that she wants to attend in our area. He has recently threatened court action because he's now working and can afford it. He still doesn't pay regularly for his daughter though. I have no problems with her seeing her dad and I welcome regular contact so we can plan around it, but he's unwilling to be flexible around her commitments in our city (school gala days, club commitments etc) and refuses to compromise. I would never stand in the way of their relationship but I'm worried about what it will do to our 9 year old to drag this through a court case and about the money it will cost to do so.
Me and my wife have been separated for a few months. My profession is extremely demanding and i work long and erratic hours. However, the success of my company has allowed the family to enjoy a high standard of living. my wife left private practice when my daughter was born and now works 3 mornings a week. She undertakes the most of the household duties and child care, although she is assisted in this by a live in nanny whose salary is paid by me.
In the past 3 months I left the house i continued to maintain contact with my daughter (spend time with her when she has dinner, pick her up on Mondays when school finishes and take her to her swimming lessons) this is an activity we both enjoy. However, in the last 2 months my wife banned me from coming to the house and picking my daughter up from school and taking her to her swimming lessons. I have tried to calling the via the house phone but everytime i call my wife verbally abuses me and hangs up i have tried sneaking in a few calls via the nanny but this is very upsetting to the both of us as my daughter starts crying asking me when i will come see her.
Last week, my wife petitioned for a divorce last week and stated because Iam gay she has decided that it would be best that I have no contact with my daugher. she feels that it would be extremely damaging for her to realise that her father is “living in sin” with another man and be exposed to his “immoral” lifestyle. She has told me that my daughter is young enough to get used to not having me in her life. When I protested she said she would take legal action, she told me that she will defy any court order i get and would even take my daughter abroad if necessary to keep her away from me. Just before leaving, she told me that she is thinking of changing my daughters name as she no longer wants her to have any link with me. My daughter was named in honour of my late sister and my wife wants to rename her Amy (after her grandmother) and to change her last name to that of he maiden name
I want to maintain a full relationship with my daughter. While I was initially happy to allow her to live with her mother due to my work schedule, I feel that I may have to fight for custody. I also want to ensure that there will be no chance of her changing my daughters name or to carry out her threat of taking her abroad.
What are the orders i may apply for (and the relevant considerations taken into account by the court) to secure:
1) my relationship with Anne(my daughter)
2)prevent her first and maiden name being change
3)prevent her being taken abroad.
kind regards,
Sid
She has a 12yr old daughter, who when she was a baby was taken into the care of my friends mum and dad.
The father was violent, so until she left him and sorted her life out, the daughter ws to be in the care of the grandparents.
A few months later, my friend got herself sorted, new flat, new job, new life and ready to have her daughter back.
There was some gradual contact, and then regular contact for a few months, and when her daughter was about 4/5 , a shared residence order was made. A couple of years later after a long court battle, my friend got her daughter to live with her permanently, with regular contact with the grandparents. The shared residency order was still in place, but my friend as the primary carer.
Now shes 12, the grandparents asked her daughter if she would like to move to spain with them, obviously she said yes. This was before my friend was asked!! She found out weeks later. Of course she has refused to let her go, and grandparents are taking her to court over it.
My friends daughter is very distressed with what is happening. She seems to be quite depressed and thinks she will be able to be free and find herself there. Talks of swimming and wearing shorts everyday.
I don't think she fully understands and i have urged my friend to take her to the docs to get some help, someone to talk to.
My friend has all the rest of the family here, as well as a 6yr old son.
She's a single mum, and is terrified that the courts will decide to let her go and she won't be able to afford to visit, so she thinks she may never see her again!!
Grandparents plan on taking her in august (one way flights already booked).
So, any help would be great, she's running out of time...
Hope my rambling can be understood! Thanks for any help!! ×
I have a son, he is 2 months old as of today. Me and his mother are not together and separated before we realised she was pregnant. She lives about 30-40 miles away from me. I've claimed my son as my own since I found out she was pregnant and been supporting her financially during her pregnancy since her 20th week pregnancy scan. We had an argument during her pregnancy about my commitment towards him which is why I started supporting her financially on a weekly basis to show my commitment. Since then our relationship hasn't been the best but we talk about our son and things concerning him everyday.
Recently I have been asking her if I can have my son for the weekends so my family can get to meet him and he get to know my family as he is starting to notice more things and so I can feel comfortable at my own place rather than staying at hers where I am not as comfortable. She has said "No" for various reasons like not being able to trust me, her feeling she would be replaced as a mother as I have a Girlfriend which she has known about for a large part of her pregnancy. However I feel the reasons are void as I have him every weekend for the majority of the time by myself at her place while she can get rest and enjoy her life and because she also has a boyfriend who stays with her regularly. We've both known the situation before he was born and discussed it many times. I don't want to apply for time as we should be adult about the situation and have an agreement as easy as it was for us to agree child support. Is it fair that she keeps saying no? Is there any advice I can get on what to do? I do not want it to get to a stage where we're fighting for time, as she does allow me but it's always at hers and not at mine where my family lives.
I am separated from my husband with divorce proceedings ongoing. We have a two year-old son who lives in the family home, while the father lives in his parents' house for the time being.
We have been through mediation and agreed upon a solution, though the father is seeking a 50/50 split of custody of the boy, despite not actually having provided a proper home for him. I should say that currently, he is co-sleeping with the boy which has proved detrimental to his sleeping arrangement here at home, too.
Now, I am an Australian citizen on a VISA here and do not qualify for Legal Aid, it seems. I am on a low income and, because I cannot agree with the father, am unable to put our child into a nursery because he refuses to pay a share of the cost, thus not enabling me to take more hours at my current workplace.
He has consistently been in breach of the mediated agreement and I fear now we will have to through the courts. I feel that it the current arrangement is more than reasonable, but the father is insistent upon a 50/50 split.
What steps can I take given my circumstances?
Many thanks in advance,
R
Kind regards,
Bernie
Although i moved to Tenerife for work and to get away from the constant problems with my ex, i still try to maintain weekly contact with my boys.
My ex now has another child 6 and treats my 13yr old like the house slave.
His daily jobs include cleaning up all the cat excrement ( he hates cats), washing his younger brother, cleaning his bottom when he has been to the toilet .
His grades in school now are deteriorating and he has for the last two years asked if it is possible for him to come and live with myself.
I have no idea if a child can choose who he/she can live with or if this would involve a solicitor and the courts.
If he has the right to live here then there is no problem with schooling as the local school will take him on and give him extra lessons to ensure he is up to the level of the other children.
My work is flexible hours so i could ensure he is not left at home on his own.
He and his ex wife separated nearly three years ago, in the divorce papers he voluntarily gave his ex full child custody. At the time he was immensely stressed and did so to avoid conflict.
He sees his daughter twice a week/approximately 10 nights a month, plus the occasional holiday etc. He pays the full CSA plus extra and covers some clubs, after school dinner club etc.
His ex uses custody as a threat when she feels he isn't doing what she wants. She also demands to know every single movement of his daughter when he has her- of course we always update if she's staying anywhere other than with us, and we provide addresses if we're going to be away from home. We do not get this courtesy in return.
Aside from that, although we believe the custody threats (that she has full custody and therefore could withdraw access if she felt that way) are empty, it does give us cause for concern.
In short, my questions are-
What does 'legal custody' actually mean, if we do in fact have his daughter on a regular basis? (and his name is on the birth certificate) Does his ex have the ultimate say over e.g. who we choose to babysit his daughter when she is with her father?
Could she take his daughter abroad, or move abroad without getting his consent?
How easy would it be for my partner to go for joint custody, and is it worth it?
I realise that he's in a minority not having legal custody.
thank you
Thanks
I do want him to see our daughter and have a relationship with her, but he uses her as a form of control over me. I am hoping to get an order that she resides with me so that control is taken away from him, as we have previously been to court over domestic abuse, and he signed an undertaking to leave me alone, but that has expired now.
Regards
Damien
Will cafcass look at my evidence? Will the court look at it? Can I apply for residency order for their stability due to their father trying to exhert control over me? He doesn't care about the kids but I want them to have their dad in their life. If I dont agree with the first hearing can I carry the case on to be able to show my evidence. I have email and text proof and documented everything for over 3 years also due to knowing what he is like. He also let the kids down 34 times in 27 months and sometimes left it a month in between bothering to see them. I know he will come out with lies but he has zero proof of me ever ever stopping contact. Eventually once ex has shown consistency and stability for my son and daughter I would like him eventually work to one night a week for tea and every weekend for a full day including over night and time during school holidays too ( although I know this I'd not what be wants as he could have had it already but he never accepted it. If I do not agree with judges advice can I request a further hearing so I can provide more evidence etc.
My main worry is his game playing and I want a residency order and contact order in place for the kids.
After being with my partner 12 years we married in June 2015, within 4 months she started an affair and ended our marriage. I saw messages on her iPad of her telling her friend she married me for half.
We have 3 children 4,7,16 although the 16 year old is my wife's from another relationship, I have raised her as my own and although she knows her real dad, she calls me dad and her real father pays nothing at all towards her.
My wife is moving out next week, and we have verbally agreed to joint custody of our 2 youngest, and our 16 year old has asked to stay with me full time.
Do I still have to pay her maintenance even though joint custody, and is she entitled to all child benefit etc?
It seems I will also lose our family home as she insists on a large payment I cant afford... sad times
* I was not married to my ex does this mean she can move anywhere she wants even abroad with our child?
* My ex has dual nationality (Oz) can she get a dual passport for our daughter without my consent?
* Are all medical and schooling decisions made by my ex including where she attends?
* I have put together what I believe is a good custody agreement can you tell if there is anything I should make sure is included? and does it need to be witness signed?
Lastly... does a custody agreement really carry any weight.
Thank you very much for your time and any advice assistance you can give.
I question before same like this can you explain the parental responsibility as well
Don't know if you can help. My soon to be ex wife has Bipolar. She told me she was diagnosed early last year. She has been acting irrationally and impulsively for a while. In December she stated a lot of worrying stuff including suicidal, lying on CBT and changing her medication as well as leaving her last husband (8+yrs ago) on a high. It was documented and signed to bring to her physiatrist. I was willing to support her. She ended the marriage 2 weeks later. Later she has admitted cheating but has also been lying a lot, including last week how my son hurt his knee. I am in the army and can get a house and support if I go for residency. She is a GP. I feel that my son is at risk long term, he starts school in Sept 16 so as not to cause him hurt I feel that I should try and start him in school with me. Where do I stand legally with residency and Bipolar? I do love my wife and I have tried twice to support her however she has admitted seeing someone else. She does not admit having a problem now. My heart says that I love her and play nicely, my head says my son needs protection. There is more to this story, army welfare reported situation to social services who I have managed to calm at present however if I give them updates might become very interested. I have mediation next week, any help would be gratefully received.
Thank you
If my husband going to adopt my daughter legally then court need sign of both or only i can sign because she is living with us .
my ex husband never met my daughter since her birth.
If need sign from both then but about if i am going to get her legally custody then I need sign of my ex husband or not
we stayed on , waited nearly two years , not much contact. and she said she should live with me.
we returned , with a letter from her mother stating she was happy for my daughter to grow with me, and travel where and when we want. december 2015.
15 months now. i send photos and inform her mother of how she is. school, health etc.
the thing i want to know is , is that enough, or do i need to go to court to have this finished off. custody wise. bit confused , and will it bring me problems in the future.
all birth certificates , with parents names are present.
she has been registered as a british overseas national. and has her passport etc.
be nice to know if anyone has been in this same area. regards jed.
I initially had a letter in 2008/9 saying this and I challenged it with the information below and it was written off.
Reconcilations (her moving back in with my child were attempted on numerous occasions). I was not aware during these periods that she had continued to claim money from the state. Approximate dates are as follows:
Left: January 2006 Came back December 2006
Left: July 2007 Came back August 2007
Left: September 2007 Came back November/December 2007
Left July 2008 permanently- My landlord maybe able to corroborate this as he installed a new bathroom in January 2008.
As you can see there was a significant period of time that my ex and child were living back with me. I always made sure that she had nice clothes and that she and the child were well fed so I was always providing.
Also it might be advisable to note that the amount that I initially was supposed to pay was based on only having my child once a fortnight over night for two nights however this soon became every weekend for two nights plus a good number of nights during school holidays when I was not at work. In fact during July-August 2007, he spent most of the summer holiday with me.
In addition my ex signed a letter recently confirming that I had always provided since the day she left yet the CSA are still hounding me. Despite the fact I have never given her any problems in terms of payments etc and she has always had an amount that she felt fair.
Based on this and the fact that the CSA wrote the money off do I have a strong case? This is making me ill to the point I am just about coping with my job.
Kids have also spoke to her mom that daddy teaches them wrong thing and shows knife as well.
How to fight so that custody remains with mother forever?.What kind of evidence will be needed to court and how shall we take this step so that children and mother both are safe?.
Waiting for response soon.
Some advice as soon as possible would be greatly appreciated. Many thanks.
Thanks in advance for any advice.
Can he do this?
Plus, his parents want to take my kids away over Easter. I had originally agreed to this but would now like to change my mind. If I say no, will it affect my court hearing?
After extensive searching on the net I can't seem to find the answers I am looking for and I'm hoping someone can offer advice please. My partner and I have been living together for 2 years. I have 2 teenagers and a 9 year old and he has a 9 & 10 year old who currently do not live with us. My step kids mother is very unstable right now. I work in mental health and I'm sure she suffers with a mental disorder because she is very highly strung. She is currently 6 months pregnant with a guy she has been with for 10 months. My partners relationship with his ex has always been volatile however since the boyfriend moved in it has has been a nightmare. The kids were making accusations saying he hit them, she has been kicking her 10 year old out of her house (to our home) for a month at a time because of her bad behaviour. She talks to them like absolute crap and her own kids don't like her. Recently she had a incident where her and her bf got into an argument and it ended up with him assaulting my step daughter. He's now got an injunction oagainst him but her mother is still seeing him and now saying it wasn't his fault but my step daughters. The police are involved and because my step daughter recorded some of it on her mobile phone are investigating. Also social services are now involved. My partners ex wants to hand over custody to my partner of step daughter. Saying that she can't cope and that's what step daughter wants. Basically I feel that she is choosing her boyfriend over her own daughter. Social services aren't keen on step daughter being moved (we live miles away and it would mean changing her school etc.) Step daughters mother has been saying to social services that step daughter is unbalanced, really badly behaved. Basically pushing the blame onto a 10 year old. We have been told that to change custody we just have to get her to sign a form from the court and submit it? Is this correct? If this happens then would her mother be able to take her back again? We have had this same scenario multiple times now. Step daughter has clearly said that she won't live in the house if mums boyfriend comes back so it seems that her mother is getting rid of her in favour of him? I personally don't think this is the right thing to do for her - wrenching her out of her family home - but if he eventually comes back it's still going to be the same. The kids are constantly distressed. We just don't know what to do for the best. And what my partners rights are.
This is all against my dad who domestically abused her for 12 years. For age 4 to 8 I was also abused by him.
I am worried about this because last year I was diagnosed with PTSD.
Now that I am getting older me and my family are concerned to when the Single Order will end? This would mean my dad could see me. I don't want this as he also broke the order in 2012 when we started stalking us and I believe he is doing it again currently through a third party.
What is the best way to avoid him ever being allowed contact?
The mother contacted me when pregnant but there was another guy that could have been the father.
2 years ago she had a DNA test with the other guy which came back negative.
So I'm the biological father and I want to be involved but I don't think that's what the mother or her partner want as they probably thought I wouldn't want to know and just agree.
I'm willing to do what ever they want and I'm trying to be as reassuring as I can as I don't want to go through the courts. This is something I wont drop as I want to know my child. I'd like to know the best way to approach this situation.
Also if i went to court how much of a chance id have. I have a good job, I've not been in trouble with the law and I live in a good environment
In making a residence order, the court will consider a number of issues: such as what the child wants, although the court does not have to act on the child’s wishes, they must take it into account, the child’s emotional, educational and physical needs and the likely effect on any change in the child’s life. It will consider The child’s sex, age and background, as well as anything else that the court deems relevant in respect of the child including any harm that the child has suffered or any risk of harm. In addition it will try to determine the capability of each parent or other person of meeting the child’s needs which includes work commitments of the person applying for the residence order, and whether their routine is conductive to caring for the child. It will also consider the domestic routine of the child up until the present time. I hope this helps.
my is spilt from ex - they are sharing custody at the moment - however she is moving back to be closer to her family as we give her the support she needs - they nearest family is in Scotland. The is going along at present with the plan and he says he will sell his house and move as well. (The house he brought after there child was born) The nursery has been sorted as well. He does however have the means to retire my daughter has to work - he keeps threatening to retire and go for full custody of the children (they are both under 5) He pays for the nursery fees at present my daughter contributes £200 towards. she receives no other money from him then that. she is in rented property. Can he go for full custody and move to his family so far away?
I have a 7 year old daughter whom stays with her dad half the wk then the other half with me,it's been like this since we split 5 years ago, her dad has since got a new partner and have been together for little over 2 years, Iv had nothing but complaints from my daughter about how his partner treats her and how she never gets to see her dad as he's always out, recently Iv been made aware he is due to attend court for attacking someone in a night out and the citing had to have his face pinned! My daughter always says every time she's back with me and my husband to which we now have a daughter together also that she wants to stay with us and not her dad! They have recently had a baby and my daughter is feeling very upset and emotional lately! I'd love to have my daughter full and always have,I thought shared residency would be best for her but I try wkly want her to be with me full time and stop her upset, how would I stand if I took it to court and applied for full residency??
I'm a separated Dad,
I have a daughter, she's 7
I have been separated from her Mother for almost 6 years
I see her every weekend and have a court order allowing me to see her every Sunday but generally her mother allows me to see her all weekend as it suits her,
Since my daughter started at primary school I've been concerned about her general upkeep, I know that her mother cares for her but as far as her routine, upkeep sleep pattern and diet, it shall we say inadequate,
My daughters health and her schooling is suffering badly,
I've raised it with her mother repeatedly also the school that my daughter attends has, we've had various meetings down at the school and I've delicately approached the matter my self with her mother, to which there is no change!
Her absence is worse than ever and she is falling behind.
Reluctantly both me and my daughters school have contacted social services and they have appointed a social worker,
But having just had my daughter today,
My daughter told me she has had yet another week of school!!
It's clear that nothing is going to change!!
I am now considering applying for custody of her, as I feel I will be able to bring her up better and with the structure and routine she needs, I am on her birth certificate and I have my own house with her own room, with several good schools in close proximity, I have a close family living near to me and can easily afford to work part time to accomodate my daughters needs,
How do I apply to the courts with out setting of into to shark pit of family solicitors as I have absolutely no faith in the numerous solicitors I have booked appointments with!!
This is a clear appeal for help to bring my daughter up in a better environment, I don't want spin doctors to manipulate my situation in order to make money
i have a auntie who is a drug addict, who had a baby, and shes about 3 now. when she gave birth, her child was up for adoption straight away as she's a drug addict. however my family wanted to take care of her, so they put themselves up. we had the worse social woker as she was doing everything to make her not stay with us as family. so then she got adopted and went to a another family and we cant see her until shes 18. this has affected my family as we don't know how she is and who she may be with and if shes doing well. i wanted to reopen the case and get her back into our harms as soon as possible as she is our blood and its not right for her to be with other people.
i don't know what to do and how to start but im going to do everything i can to get her back.
I have suffered physical,emotional and verbal abuse from my ex husband for many years but last year November I had to leave after he threatened to assault me I left with my son cos he won't let me go with my daughter he has been asking to see them but I don't feel comfortable leaving them with him.
He is now planning to take me to court claim full custody of my daughter and also filing for domestic violence towards me he has never had time for his kids always on his video game.
Can he win full custody I need my kids with me they are all I have.
I have a 5 year daughter, her mother and I split when she was 3. At the time her mother chose to leave the home as I own it and we weren't married, there was no dramatic affair, drink problems or drugs etc, just a relationship that didn't work and it was by mutual agreement even helping with the move and furniture etc. I thought it would be less impact to our daughter to let things settle quick and I agreed to pay the prescribed maintenance from the online calculator and I arranged to see my daughter as follows.
Monday - Mum drops her off at school, Grandad collects her and does tea/pjs, at 6pm I collect her from Grandads and drive her to her mums and mum puts her to bed
Tuesday - Mum drops her off at school, I then collect her and she stays with her dad until Thursday 6pm when I drop her off at her mums.
Friday - Mum drops her off at school, Grandad collects her and does tea/pjs, at 6pm I collect her from Grandads and drive her to her mums and mum puts her to bed
Saturday - With mum
Sunday - With mum
The following week is accounted for on paper as I have her 2 night per week and mum has her 5 nights per week. I'd like this to change to me having her 3 nights per week and mum 4 nights per week, my increase would come by my daughter staying at mine either the Monday night or the Thursday night.
I have suggested this and her mums immediate reaction was to say 'is this so you pay me less money' and then said no! - I've said I'm happy for the money side of things to remain the same as that not the reason for seeing her, its just for ...well...seeing her more and it would also give a little more time to spend on her homework.
Given that I have suggested it and got a 'NO' how can I go about making this happen with the least impact on my daughter?
Thank you very much
I have a friend who's married but is unhappy in the relationship, he's tried fixing it but it can't be fixed so he would like to leave. Every time he mentions leaving she says if he leaves she'll never let him see his daughter again. He's a loving father who has been there since day one and has provided for his daughter as best he can. He feels trapped. He's scared to loose his daughter. Please advice what can be done.
I have straggled for the pat few years and still because I think I was just there to suit her purpose now she earns almost double of me and she is also 12 years younger than me therefore she thinks there are better choices for her out, which I have no problem with the marriage is dead long ago.
My question is: when child custody ends? she want me out of the flat which is Housing Association and both of our names on the tenancy agreement. she can get a mortgage to buy I'm 53 and with my salary is almost impossible in London.
Any advise please.
Many thnaks
His foreign wife is unemployed , without family in the UK and is currently seeking a single sex relationship either in the UK or elsewhere. He has always been responsible for supervising all matters relating to the children's education and attending to their homework right through to getting their breakfast in the morning whilst mum is still in bed. She has said that she wishes to rent a 2 bed flat to bring up the children whilst endeavouring to start a new business. Our son could offer a 4 bed military house with an au pair and the benefit of retired grandparents and uncle and aunt within a 60 mile radius.
Could you please estimate whether or not his future circumstances are likely to be more favourably considered than the children's birth mother?
Many thanks
We had a row and then he tells that he does not want to see our daughter at all over the xmas holidays ... personally I think it's to ruin my Christmas ... we always said we would never use the baby as a wepon but I feel this is what he is doing . So we haven't heard from him in 8 days and now today (boxing) day he is telling me he want to see his daughter that and that I need to stop playing games amd that I have a big shock coming my way! This is not the first time he has threatened me.since my daughter was born s.s were involved which we both battled and proved we are able parents and can be trusted to look after our daughter...I need help to put a schedule in place that he will adhere too because I cannot have her being let down when she is old enough to understand all this...what can I do without the interference of s.s ...how do I get a routine with him to have her on certain days etc
Please help
I tried disiplining her including grounding and removal of her tech equipment. After the last family row she went to stay at her fathers. I never wished for this to be a permanent situation. I see ked advise from police and they said if she is with family they will not interfere.
She has recently started dying her hair and wearing makeup fully supported by my parents and her father all of which I have fallen out with as they have done nothing but reinforcing her bad behaviour.
My mother tells her I'm s bad parent because I work full time and divorced her father. She said this to my partner in frobt of my children. He had to ask her to leave my home. She also tells her I have damaged her. My partner and I tried to move still local, but because of my mother's need to interfere in her daily life she filled my daughter full of negativity about the move and this escalated her bad behaviour. It was my mother who dyed her hair blonde against my wishes.
When Sophie visited our home she was unhappy that we had redecorated and changed the flooring. She purposely scratched the paintwork on the floor and walls. We also found scratches on the paintwork on the car. She then purposely stayed on the house phone upstairs away from the family talking to her father. We asked her to give us the phone she refused. My partner intervened when she started to get aggressive towards me when I tried to take the phone off her. He took the phone away from her she started swearing at him and accused him of scratching her face
There where no scratches on her face. The following day she came around my house . She had deep cuts on her face. My partner had not done this as it would have been apparent the night she left my home as blood rises immediately to the surface on impact and I had checked her face the night before . She told the school he did it and the police and social services were involved. We are too scared to have her back in my home as she pushes my limits constantly and my partner is scared of what she could accuse him to do next.
Our relationship with her father is very poor. He tells me I cannot see my daughter in my home or with my partner.
As punishment I have not given her her Christmas presents. My partner says for my son's sake and mine I should wait until my daughter has matured enough not to be a risk to our health and our home.
This is leaving me miserable as my partner tells me he can't live with us if she returns as he can't bare to see me suffer
In the past I used to lock myself in my bedroom at night when I could not cope with her aggression and abuse.
Please help I don't know what to do!@
I am concerned about my soon to be ex-husband going to court over the custody of our children. At mediation it was agreed that the children would continue to live with me and he would see them at intervals (which he has since reduced) during the week/weekends. The children are 9 and 6. They have been living with me soley since July 2015 and we all moved out of the marital home, which we are attempting to sell, in August 2015. I have been a stay at home mum since their birth and am their primary carer. He has shown little interest in how they are and yet I suspect he is gearing up to fight custody of them. The children are really settled and complain that they don't want to go and stay with him before they go and also have recently said they didn't want to go ever again. It is really difficult because I feel that it is important that they have a relationship with their father. However, things are not easy for the children when they go. He lives 45 mins away and has not felt able to support the children going to clubs, or continue the agreed visits so distance is also an issue. I believe he will try and move closer but as yet has not done so. I live currently in rented accommodation in the village where they go to school and find it difficult to conceive that they would ever live anywhere else other than with me for the foreseeable future, especially as we are all so happy and settled here together and that they are not enjoying their weekends with him as things stand. Can you give me any words that would take my worries away? If he does apply for custody, would it be extremely unlikely that he would get it given the distance, his behaviour (which has to come into it and was the reason why I left the marriage), the fact that he works full-time and has not been caring for them as I have since birth. I am really stuggling with this as he and his family are the sort of people that would spoil for a fight when they believe, even incorrectly, that they are in the right. Please help. Thanks.
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My cousin has predominately brought up their daughter, as his wife who is a property solicitor with a high powered job London, returned to work within months of their daughter being born, so my cousin stayed at home as a house husband to look after her. The daughter is now 9 and the marriage is not working and my cousin would leave his wife if it was not for the fact he is terrier of loosing his daughter, who he's understandably very close to.
Can you help with advise please?
But...there are no laws or 'rights' that state that a child should live specifically with either the mother or father. At best the situation can be agreed between both parents through a family-based agreement regarding both access and financial support. Mediation can help when the parents can't agree on either or both of these matters, but would rather resolve the matter out of court, and court is where mediation has failed and there is no other way to resolve the dispute than letting a judge decide. I hope this answers your question.
She then remarries, and has two more children.
In UK law does the first husband have opportunity to claim any form of custodial rights over his two children - who have not lived with him for more than 10 years - in the event that his hie first wife , and her new husband, were to die and the two children were to survive. Or, put another way, if the lady makes a Will and appoints Guardians - in the event of her own and her husbands death, could the ex-husband make a claim for custody of his two children?
Over the last year, relations between the two of them has broken down to the extent that my daughter wants to move in with me which I would be happy with.
Knowing her mother and the pain & anguish which we all went through during separation and divorce I'm reluctant to start a legal battle which probably won't have any impact before she is 16 anyway.
Any ideas?
I am after advice, it now looks like I am going to have to split from my wife of 15 years, the reason for the split is her continued infidelity and refusal to stop chasing one man in particular, she had an affair 3 years ago and it stopped after I found out. She has continued contact over the last 3 years and refuses to stop. We have two children an autistic 5 year old boy and and 3 year old girl. As a father and a husband I have done nothing wrong. If and when we split I would want joint residency of my children, although I know my wife would fight tooth and nail to prevent this. Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated.
My little sister is 13. Her dad lives hundreds of miles away and sees her only once a year, if that, and doesn't particularly bother with her. He's an alcoholic who used to beat my mother and has put her at harm when she's gone to visit previously so she doesn't want to see him anymore.
My mother suffers with depression and cognitive behaviour. She is extremely detrimental to my sister's upbringing; abiding her emotionally on a daily basis with words that I know are going to affect her for the rest of her life. Not only that but the family home is a complete mess and she is not capable of making it a safe and clean environment with regards to her hoarding and lack of cleanliness.
I do not want my sister to go through this anymore as I have already suffered through it and am now 25. She constantly tells us both to F off elsewhere because she couldn't care less. I'm getting to the point now where I want to intervene and attempt to gain custody of my sister so we can move elsewhere and she can be under my care. I'm not sure how to go about this, and although I know it will be a lengthy and harrowing experience, I feel nothing is going to get better until something like this happens and I don't want my sister to be put through any more pain.
Please help.
As in all cases, the court’s main concern is for the welfare of the child. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this will determine the outcome of any application for an order. I hope this helps.
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I was married to a Brazilian and had a son together, he is 6 years old now. My child is British and I have naturalised as British this year after living in the UK legally for over 16 years (have an EU passport).
We split 4 years ago and he has only paid child maintenance for 1 year before returning to his country. He has not seen the child for over 4 years as he never bothered to do so.
Now I want to pursue full custody as he neither visits the child nor he cares to pay for his support. Is legal aid completely abolished with the exception of PLO procedures? or can I have some kind of support towards this process?
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Since the birth of our son in 2010, my ex has tried to split up with me and returned to Latvia with our son, for extended periods of time (up to 6 months) on a regular basis.
When we separate I have always paid child support and tried to visit my son in Latvia.
Most recently she returned to Latvia in June with our son (without telling me).I work offshore, and when I returned, they had gone.This time it looks unlikely we will be able to resolve our differences, and she says she is going to stay in Latvia, and that I can talk to my son on the phone whenever I want, or visit when I want, providing she is there with him(paying for activities etc. as she doesn't work).
I'm just seeking some advice as to what I should do or what rights I have? I've tried to resolve things amicably with her, and don't really want to enter a court battle, but she won't entertain the idea of me taking my son to the UK for any length of time to spend quality time with me and visiting family.
I feel like this is quite a unique situation but I'm prepared to do anything to be part of my son's life (including career change etc).
Thanks for reading.
He jas refused to communicate with me and says he will use the court.
I don't know what to do anymore.
He keeps making decisions without me.
She is on government assistance and legal aid is fee to her for myself I have spent $63,000 dollars and no longer have a job that offers me this type of flexibility.
I would like to get free representation in the UK if possible and I would like basic custody arrangements and some rights to my son.
If this produces no action, you have no alternative but to go to court and ask for an Interim Contact Order. The interim contact order allows you to have contact with your son until a full court hearing resolves the matter. I hope this helps.
They asked her to live with them, a family of 7 (excluding my daughter and baby) in a small overcrowded house saying they are well equipped, plenty experience, willing to help her and importance of family bonding.
However the fathers family is now asking her to leave on the grounds of insufficient parenting and neglect of house chores but they would like her to leave the baby behind. We are not certain if this has to do with their recent financial setback.
My daughter has no money and nowhere to go in the UK. Can you please advise whether the family can ask or force her to leave whilst leaving the baby behind? My daughter is upset and would like to return home to Hong Kong with her baby.
We live in a spacious apartment in an uptown area and have a resident maid. We are willing to help and provide for her and the baby. Please advise what options my daughter has within the UK law.
Looking forward to your prompt reply.
My son and his partner have just split (they lived together and have two small children together). They are both amicable and have agreed on visiting arrangements.
They would like to apply for joint custody but do not know how to go about it. They do not need mediation as they are on good terms and have agreed on who should have the children and when.
Can this be done simply through a court or do solicitors have to get involved?
Also, what is the cost?
I am currently in the process of breaking up with my husband as our marriage has been a chaos for 6 years now. We have an 8 year old son and each time I want to move out of the house and ask my husband to split custody with my child he will not agree and will always say that he will be the one to have our child and I can only visit him. I have a relationship with other man and he is using it as a ground saying that I am a bad person and is not capable of taking care of my son although during this chaotic 6 years he has been involved in a couple of relationships but because I was the one who's done it first then he is using it against me. We still living in the same roof , I only agreed in this set up as he will not agree on my terms that if I move out i will have my son for even 3 days...
Please advise on this
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I know she's his mum an we will never let him forget that he as never asked for his mummy are mentioned her name & when are if he ever does we will try to contact her to arrange contact out but until then my brother as to put his sons needs first and he was woundering if her parental right can be removed as it's been nearly 3yrs ?
My husband and me split up In June we have not had a relationship for over 4 years I met someone abroad so r starting divorce procrdings.i have 3 children 6,9 and 11 I live in house and he had moved out I want to take kids away to meet him in November but while looking after kids while working at night he took passports and said until he see flight details and accomadation he won't give them back as he doesn't want them to go to Tunisia because of trouble.so I wanted to go to mediation which he suggested but now refused and issued me court procrdings to move back in house and get custody of kids the day after I showed him flights to Egypt which he said to pay for and don't want me to take kids out of country as he said I would take them to live there which I would not on the court letter he is exuding me of physically and emotional doing harm to kids what do j do
I UNDERSTAND HER MOVE TO HER MUMS AS IT IS CLOSER TO HER SCHOOL AND SHE IS ALLOWED BOYFRIENDS BUT SOMETHING HAPPENS TO HER IT WILL BE ON ME...
I HAVE SOUGHT ADVISE ON THIS FROM S/SERVICES BUT THEY TOLD ME ITS A LEGAL MATTER AND I REALLY DON'T WANT TO DRAG HER OR MYSELF THROUGH THAT AGAIN,
I HAVE SPOKEN TO THE MOTHER WHO IS NOT PREPARED TO SEND HER HOME, I DON'T WANT TO TRAUMATIZE HER BY GETTING THE LAW INVOLVED
SO REALLY NOT SURE WHAT TO DO...?
My son is 15months old currently living with his mother an hour away from me in the UK. When he was only 3 months we were together but I found out she had lied about her job, was still married, had stolen money from me and was not Italian as she claimed but from the UK. She had also been sleeping with her husband (I thought he was an ex) while pregnant with our son and told me her father and sister had died but they are still alive. She still lies on a weekly basis. Initially we had an informal arrangement for me to see and have my son overnight. Now she is refusing access and contact or will at the last minute say I can have him when she knows I cannot come to pick him up. She also lied about his vaccinations and hadn't got the course done though told me she had. I had to chase her to get it sorted. My son has also had several injuries requiring attendance to hospital where she's admitted not observing him closely including falling from the top step of a stair case. My ex wont let me know how my son is, where he is and wont allow regular planned contact. She has also threatened suicide while he's been in her care. I have evidence of all of this by way of picture messages, emails and texts. I also know she goes out drinking then picks my son up from a friend at 2am then looks after him while drunk.
If she has put my son at risk by lying about vaccinations and GP appointments, failing to tell me when he's fallen down stairs sustaining visible injuries, and been drunk looking after him; if I were to go for full custody could it be possible? I work full time and she does not so my fear is as she can provide full time care and I would need help of nurseries and child minders a judge may rule in her favour. I hope at least a shared residency would be possible.
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My ex and I split 2 years ago when our son was 6 months old, the split was her choice but I accepted it, at first she let me see my child most days but after a couple of months things began to change and she would restrict access routinely and would often only let me see him for 15-20 minutes at a time, after numerous attempts to talk to her and resolve the situation I finally decided it was the last straw when she broke off all contact for 6 weeks over the period of my sons 1st xmas meaning I missed something I can never get back so I decided to seek legal advice, my solicitor sent a letter out asking to restart contact which she reluctantly did, I told her at the time that we needed to put something down in writing or I would have no option other than to start legal proceedings, she refused and said I could see my son whenever I wanted and she would never stop me seeing my son so I backed down from taking the legal route not wanting to cause unnecessary stress or cost that neither of us could afford. Nearly 2 years on and things could not be worse, she breaks off contact around all important dates and periods (Xmas, Father's Day, my sons birthday) meaning I have yet to spend time with my son on any of these days which as any parent would know is heartbreaking, also since we have split I have not been allowed more than 2 hours with my son alone, I've not been allowed to take him out on day trips and worse than that there are members of my family my son has not yet met because she refuses me time to take my son to see them, not because of any legal reason and not because I am a drunk/drug user or violent in anyway, the only reasons she has are her own need to control when and where I see my son, I have lost count of the number of times I have asked to see my son and then she responds at the last possible moment giving me little or no notice that I can see my son and then gets angry when I have made other plans due to not getting a response from her so she accuses me of being a bad father and not wanting to see my son! I'm literally at my wits end and if it weren't for my son I would not be here today , I have considered the legal route but having recently suffered a heart attack my savings have dwindled from not being able to work so solicitors fees are something I simply can't afford and my ex has refused mediation and all attempts by myself to resolve the situation amicably so any advice would be gratefully recieved
Can the case be moved to our home town, where doctors, teachers etc can give a more balanced view about the family make up.
So now instead of he is money going down with her calculations he has to pay an extra £80 as she has said he doesn't have them that much. CSA have said they have to take her word over his.
So my question is if he get a joint custody order from the courts would that count as a marker of Proof for the days he has them .
We have agreed everything between us - from residing custody, (with me), to visitation agreements and maintenance.
My ex lives with his mother and on his visits, the children stay there with him.
His mother is starting to get awkward about the children visiting - trying to dictate when they can visit and for how long. As a result, my ex husband has had no extra contact with them over the summer holidays, despite us arranging between us that he would.
If we were to take this to court and the court order deemed that the children were to stay with him at his address for "x" amount of days/weeks, would his mother be able to contest this?
Nobody o have asked seems to know.
Thank you in advance.
Regards,
While we would both be happy to support that, we do not currently have space in the house and will not be able to arrange to move until the new year (As my partner is on probation in a new job). Can she just throw her daughter out (As she is threatening) and expect us to accommodate her (More than likely on a sofa). I am more than happy for her to live with us when we have the space, but also don't them want her mother turning up - how do we do this properly to protect her and us under the law?
she asked him to take their daughter back to her house tonight because she wasnt going back to her boyfriends, however when we arrived to take their daughter back, his ex denied her boyfriend had hit her and said she had fallen and banged her head, she said she was staying at her house and not seeing her partner again, however the moment we left she put her daughter in the car (under 3 years old) and drove an hour to go back to her boyfriends house arriving there at 10pm.
my partner wants to go for full custody as we are both concerned for his daughters safety.
we would like some advice on what we need to have in place to ensure we are in the best position to get full custody.
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I've been married a couple of years and am currently undergoing a seperation. I have young boy and am currently only getting a couple days a week with him without any sleepovers. My wife has moved to her parents and has him 80% of the time. My issue is that I'm due to go back to finish my studies and currently have 1 year remaining.
My questions are;
1-for the little time left how do I get 50/50 access?
2-Whilst im abroad im able to travel everyother weekend, how do I ensure a concrete agreement for access?
3-Once I return permanently in July 2016, will my chances of joint custody have been affected?
A month ago my grandson was badly bitten by his fathers Doberman whilst in his fathers home. He had to have 2 surgeries and was in hospital for a week. His father refused to rehome the dog and therefore my daughter is obviously not allowing the child to go to go to the house where this occurred. The child is very traumatised as he has adhd and this has resulted in him not sleeping, eating poorly and being very emotional. During the past month his father came to visit him in hospital once for 20 minutes and my daughter took the child to see his father at the fathers mothers. Other than this the father has had no contact with the child which again is very distressing for the child. He says he is taking my daughter to court to have the child back at his house as he refuses to believe the dog is dangerous. The child is frightened to return there and from a grandparents perspective I will move heaven and earth to stop my grandson ever being put in that kind of danger again.
Where do we stand from a legal point on this? The police are fully aware of what happened and seized the dog but later returned it to them. I am baffled as to why.
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Thanks for providing such an informative page.
I have a few questions of my own that would be great if you could respond.
Backround story.
I Was with my ex partner for 3 years. I took on her 2 year old daughter (now 4) in a step dad role. She has a father who only knew his daughter existed shortly before our relationship began. They have have access arrangearrangements depending on his shifts as a policeman.
I moved in to my ex's rented house. (From renting by myself) once she fell pregnant with my son. I changed jobs to be able to spend more time at home in the afternoon and evening, as I have flexible hours.
Fast forward a year my son is now 1. We decided to end our relationship mutually last week, as we could see a lasting future and only together for our son The split was fairly amicable. I move out, back into my parents large 4 bed house,(6 miles from my ex)for the opportunity to save for a mortgage deposit to buy myself a house. (Something that would be impossible if I rushed back into renting)
My dad works from home but travels allot on buisness and my mother took early retirement and is a housewife. They are both 54. I have a younger 13 yearold brother who also lives at home. My son will have his own permanent bedroom too when in my care, as well as a large dedicated playroom.
The issue now being is that my partner refuses to give me 50/50 residency. Something I consider massively unfair, as we both love him dearly.
As I said before I have a flexible well paid job. The days that I have my son and also work, my mum is a capable and excellent grandma who drives. I'm also able to finish early afternoon to spend the afternoons with my son. There is not any day of the week, nor any group of days that I am able to have my son, as I don't work weekends. The weekday days I do, my mum is able to care for him for the few hours until I return home from work.
My ex stated that if I get 50/50 residency, my son may not get to see his sister for long periods of time. The reason being for this is, once he goes back into the care of my ex, the same day as my ex's daughter visits her dad 1, occasionally 2 nights a week. I agree this is a valid point, and an important one to address.
I suggested that I'm willing to move the days I'd have my son each week, as there is no time I'd not be able to have him. Therfore he is able to spend quality time with his sister.
My ex also works as a carer part time (currently given compassionate leave to deal with our breakup) again, I'm able to accommodate care of my son on the days that she works.
Where possible though, it would be best to have the days in groups, so my son is not alternating houses too often. But again this will be workable on a month to month basis when my ex's shift patterns are known.
When my son is to start nursery, we live close by my ex (6 miles) and his probable nursery/school. My ex doesn't drive, but me and both my parents do. Taking him and pickin
I've slit with my partner, we have a six year old. I'm desperate to see her as much as I can and I'm trying to get joint residence 50:50, my ex isn't agreeing to it. Is there anyway of taking it to court so I can have 50:50?
My ex has a mental health problem (eating disorder) which runs through her whole family. I'm desperate to be with my daughter as much as I can do she can have some normality in her life!!
What if he takes her without telling me?
The mother of my grandchildren is bipolar, no-one cares as the courts and related agencies are too scared to explore it.
I wish I knew what I could do to help my grandchildren. I am so scared for their lives.
We will be getting married soon and how can he apply for the custody of the children.
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We are trying to have me adopt the eldest, but we are in the VERY early stages of the process. My question is, if my partner were to die, would I have any right to my eldest, or would her birth father get automatic custody? Bearing in mind he is also on benefits, unable to work due to mental illness, and has been taken to court on 3 counts of rape (not convicted), has spent time in a psychiatric ward, and has a documented history of substance abuse.
I have a well paid, full time job, have no arrests, rarely drink (even rarer to have more than), and do not take drugs.
Thank you all for any advice.
I have been separated from my children's father for five years two children 12 and 7.
He has only ever bothered with them when he wanted to many times just so they could see him I would allow him to come into my home to see the children which didn't work as he would only see them for 20minutes sometimes and as soon as his phone would ring would leave.
To cut along story short he ended up going to jail for four years and found out he had been taking drugs a very high level drug.
My daughter suffered through this and became very angry and aggressive towards me.eventually we got back into a routine then he was released and my daughter became angry again.i thought about my children and how much they wanted to see him so I made him aware that if he was to take drugs ever again that he would never see them again,well again he has so have stopped contact now I have received a letter for mediation.im sorry but unless he can do a drugs test to make sure he hasn't in the last 5months since stopping the contact and can do one every time he has contact with my children then I'm not allowing this to carry on.am I within my rights to do this as all I am thinking about is the safety of my children
He agreed that he can only take the 9 year old every other weekend from a sat-sun as he cannot afford to travel down to our house and I have no issues with this. We also agreed about christmas and the holidays as it was easier to have this all worked out now before the time comes. I have also stated to him that because I intend to breastfeed, he will be able to call in and see the baby once it is born and take the child on a sunday between feeds so he still gets time with the child.
He has since turned around and threatened to take me to court if I try and change custody or show any resistance to his new girlfriend meeting the children. I feel that he has me over a barrel and that I cannot even bring up child support to him incase he threatens to bring me to court or actually follows through with his threat.
I just need to know where I stand legally when it comes to this, as at the minute I live within 5 minute walking distance to all of my relatives and the child's school and a 10 minute drive from his family, whereas if he had custody of the children, they would be with a childminder from 10am-9pm as these are his hours in work and there are no relations or family members within 30 miles to his address.
Dad wants to see the two youngest children every other weekend from Sat 4PM - Sun 4 PM.
Then the other weekends he wants to take one child at a time Sat 5PM - 9PM. He is leaving the eldest out of the visitation agreement.
How can I argue against this. I am very concerned on a number of levels. Emotional manipulation of the children, isolation and triangulation. The children are not happy they believe they are a family and should be together. They would NEVER have a full weekend when they are a family together - one or two children would always be absent. Help advise please.
I am also closer to his school and only 5 minutes walk away from his mother's house.
How can I go about gaining greater shared care access without having huge legal bills as I have little disposable income because I already pay CSA for my three children. Is there anything my son can do as he feels he is forced to stay somewhere he is not happy?
My partner and i have my partners 2 children living with us it has all been privately agreed eith my partners ex and the children see her every other weekend, how ever is there a legal document to confirm the children stay here and the ex cant just decide one day to take them back? My partner does have 50/50 automatic shared responsibilty of the children due to the yrs they were were born after etc.
i am kinda stuck .. my ex husband has my son .. and there is a court order in place and has been for a few years now .. but the last year he was advised to stop contact without giving me any reason and im sure that i should have been told the reason why from the socilitors .. but i have tryed to get to get contact back ... i have no way of contacting my ex husband directly just through his partner via facebook and she has blocked me on every one i have used i have been trying for over a year now and every socilitor i have rung have told me the same thing that i have to do it my self i know medation is not gonna work because i went down that road and he never did the medation ... i was having regular contact with my son ... i was even going to stay were my son and ex husband was living at the time .. and my ex husband keeps moving house
my ex husband has moved 5 times and is moving again
i have tryed sending the police to the their door even tryed social services but got no were with them
i dont know what to do any more
is he breaking the court order by keeping my son away from me
and not giving me any upto date address and phone numbers
im really worried ...
I feel he feels more relaxed and stable with me. I have a partner who my son gets on very well with and we have recently brought a house together. And my ex partner often makes life difficult eg threatens not to give him back, making it hard in school holidays for my parents to see him, sending a barrage of texts to me, arguing at the front door with me at change over causing distress to both my son and myself,and doesn't seem to think about what my son wants. I have tried to discuss this with him numerous times, and want to sort it amicably ideally mediation, but this does not work as he refuses to go.Would I have any chance in court of getting my son for more time so he has stability? As 1 week of not seeing each other is affecting him, and also is affecting his school work as there is no continuity. I do not want my ex partner not to be part of his life. My son is soon to be 8 years old. Thanks
My partner and I are not married. We have an 8 month old daughter. She is breast fed and I plan on continuing breast feeding until at least 2 as recommended by World health org. Since she was born my partner has started to go to the pub more frequently, sometimes staying out until 6am. He started acting differently a few weeks ago and after calling him up on it said he isn't happy and doesn't want us to be together. I had been away from home for a while with our child due to construction work and he said all he had been doing was drinking. He said he is still continuing to drink every night (though I am not staying at home to witness this) he has requested to have our daughter for the day on his own. Since she has been born he has shown little interest in her. He is uncomfortable handling her and always hands her back to me after just a few minutes. I'm not comfortable letting him see her on his own as he barely knows him and has never been away from me for more than an hour. Also he keeps saying how miserable he is and how his head is all over the place and I don't trust him with her. I also don't trust that he wouldn't just run off with her. What right do I have in controlling visitation? He has also mentioned over night visits but I know this would be extremely distressing for her. Any advice would be very helpful. Thanks
It has also come to light that this woman has been manipulating the whole family, creating issues between all of us, saying things that we having said etc etc
So my response was to say I wont be going to my baby sisters bday as I dont want to see her or speak to her, and have shared a message she sent to my sister threatening that if my sister didnt stop me from sharing pictures and songs about lying she would send me all the 'horrible' things my sister had said about me to me...
This obversely didnt work..
So now she has txt me saying 'Just to say paternity is irrelevant. After today Arwen (sister) is not and never will be your sister. '
My dad wants to look at getting custody, but thinks he wouldnt get it.. but we have been trying to tell him that this isnt just a straight forward situation. The woman is deluded, and still thinks she has done nothing wrong by sleeping with my brother she is meant to be step mum to.
Any advice for this would be great, I don't want to loose my sister, she's under one and has already gone through cancer and had to have her eye removed last year. She needs her family around her, not a woman who is hell bent on creating drama and disgusting behaviour where ever she goes.
In the last three weeks my son, who is in his early teens, has essentially moved in with me. He's slept here every night and it appears to be a perminant decision. Does that mean I stop paying maintainance for him altogether?
My daughter is still living with her mother so I expect to continue paying for her. Is that correct?
I am leaving him but as house in his name I'm the one leaving and plan to take kids with me. He's very abusive and drinks too much. He's got a lot of money and property whereas I have zero. I wud stay if I thought I might lose my kids . Helo
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My ex and I were in a rocky relationship for 4 years. There was a two accounts of domestic abuse - i didn't report these incidents however social were informed and my daughter was placed on a child in need programme. He had supervised access at my mothers home. This came to an end when he breached the written agreement.
There was a pin notice in place for two accounts of harassment. Even now he still has emotional and verbal abused me calling me a stupid fat c**t and telling me I'm mad in the head.
He has history with social services when he was younger due to drug misuse. This is still on going.
I reported him slagging me off on social media sites and luckily have got screen shots.
Wondering where I stand for gaining full residency till she is older? I understand a child needs to know both parents however in this case I feel it's for both of our emotional and physical well being that he isn't included till she's older where I know she can at least look out for herself.
Thank you in advance.
Its got too a point where its gone from all weekend every weekend to alternate weekends for limited time.
have always paid CSA monthly, but in an attempt to "negotiate" a response i have considered switching too paying weekly.
I have contacted a local mediation service for help hoping they can get through too her she is not 'god'.
I have learnt not to trust our local social workers so really need some advice on how to make sure my son is safe. If I had an ounce of faith in their ability I would simply go to social services and explain that my partner’s lifestyle is making her an utterly unfit mother and that I am perfectly capable of looking after my son; and that I just needed help to get away and find somewhere to live.
If I leave on my own, then I really will have let down my son as he WILL be removed from my partner, besides which, I don’t feel it is at all safe for him to be alone with her for any length of time.
Please help both of us!!!!!
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I really need help or if there is a charity that can help. She says I can only see my twins when them turn 18. How cruel is that when am alive and able to assist in all ways possible? The twins are just five as we speak.
Any good suggestions are welcomed please.
In 2009 I got married and later the same year I gave birth to our daughter. My husband and I separated at the beginning of 2011, when he moved back to Poland. During the following years i got in touch with him in order to apply for our daughter's passport - each time it took quite a lot of time to get his written consent, mostly due to his changing circumstances and whereabouts.
My husband has not attempted to remain in touch with our daughter - he saw her last on the day I moved out, over 4 years ago now. He's not sent postcards, presents or tried to make phone calls. He's been always notified about our address changes. I have never pressed the maintenance matters and never received any payments from him. All this suits me fine as I believe his absence is beneficial for my daughter - he's a man of many issues, alcoholism and pathological lying in the lead.
Foe over 2 years now I've been in a relationship with a man who became my daughters father. She's dimly aware of an 'old daddy' existence, but this daddy is the one she and everyone else knows to be the real one. Adoption is planned.
Due to several reasons (international nature amongst them), the divorce is taking a lot of time. Now, that my ex has finally received the court papers he claims he won't agree to me having full custody. I believe his claims will not go beyond verbal - he's made several empty threats and promises before; he also declares he's been actively trying to gain contact over the last 4 years, which is a lie he can't even try to prove. Nevertheless - I am stressed. If the miracle happens and he actually decides to to fight for his parental rights - would he stand a chance?
My partner and i agree that our daughter will have a freedom to seek contact with her father later on in the future, when she's older. But getting him back in her life now would be damaging for her - she's gone through many changes recently, one of the main ones being the move from 'mommy and me only' to the 3 of us. She's also just started primary school, a bit of a shock to the system. She's an extremely bright and sensitive little girl, who truly does not need a selfish, egoistic, drunk and a druggie 'old dad' in her life just now.
I can't stand the very idea...
she left the kids with me aged 21,18 and 11 at the time,she told my 11 yr old she would be back in two weeks but never came back,she has never paid child support and has taken all our joint money that we in states
my now 14 yr old is going skiing soon in states and he has to use his USA passport,she now wants to see him,but in afraid she will gain a court order in states to keep him there what can i do thanks
I feel it is all down to money and her mum just cant manage to support her house without the disabiliity payments for my daughter and would rather put my daughter back in unhapiness for her own personal gain than see her develop in happiness and confidence
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I have 3 children, my wife whom I'm separated from lives with her parents in an overcrowded house. 4 adults and 3 children in a 3 bed semi. She's residing there as it was either that or hospitalisation (drug related) and now her parents are seemingly trying to assume the parenting role. I'm not welcome in the house and I have no say as to when I can see the children, I also have the same religious beliefs as the grandparents and attend the same venue but again I have no say in the children's teaching or training and I don't even know if the children will be there until after I arrive. No one communicates with me and I try to be reasonable but obviously get frustrated and would like to know where I stand in this regard as the father.
My daughter and son in law have at three year old daughter. The father has left the matrimonial home three months ago to be with another woman.
He has rented a flat where he would like his daughter to stay. His wife (my daughter) was amenable to this but now he wants to introduce the other woman and she is going to move in to the flat.
My daughter has been subject to abusive texts of this woman and is not comfortable with the child being with her, we also feel that this new partner is unstable. The husband says he is entitled to introduce the child to whoever he pleases when she is with him.
Is this correct? We believed that by leaving the matrimonial home that he gave up his rights and that his wife was able to control access and decisions regarding the child.
Your advice would be appreciated
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I forced the issue telling him his weekend to have the children making sure both he an the children knew when as he failed on two occasions to turn up when it was just between us.
He was the coach of our sond team so he would come on one night to train with him but did not make time for our daughters, he then came an took him training on another night again not making time for our daughters. He now only comes once a week to go to training as our son has changed team. He claims he can not get to us on a Friday to drop the children to clubs an collect our eldest from work as it's too much! So every Friday I drop the children to clubs an collect on one week an he collects the other when it's his weekend.
He did not have the children other than his weekend in half term.
Sinece October I had been asking what arrangements he wanted for Christmas. As I had not heard from him I said it would be the normal pick up time of the Friday. He could come Christmas morning to see the children. He then complained I was being unreasonable. Even though it was also arranged I would drop the children to see their half sister and auntie during the afternoon on Xmas day. He then said if he could not collect the children earlier he would not be collecting them until the Saturday. An also telling me that he would not be having the children New Years Day either. So in the Christmas holiday he has had them 1/2 a day extra even though he has been off work since before the schools broke up.
I don't think this is enough time with the children especially as he is now living with his girl friend and her daughter.
He sees nothing wrong in what he does. Before he left our daughter was looking to do an apprentiship an I said it was too far as transport difficult. He said he would help with picking her up. He does nothing, I have changed my work hours to drop her an then collect he each night.
Financially he gives me some money but does not cover everything's or the children. I have not social life an he has critics end me for leaving our 11year old with her big sister nearly 17 when I have popped to Tesco. This has happened a handful of times.
Is this right or fair on anyone other than him?
He has stopped paying me maintenance, forced me to sell the family home, tried to have my car taken off me and is now threatening to take me to court to have my girls more often and overnight. He was always a heavy drinker and would take drugs regularly. As you can imagine I am extremely concerned about him having my girls anyway without an overnight thrown into the mix!
I have spoken to a solicitor who pretty much said if he wanted more access I wouldn't have a leg to stand on as I already let him see them once a week, the courts would consider him a good enough parent to have them overnight.
Please can anyone let me know if this is the case?
I am keeping a diary of his dates with me, and liaising with the school regarding his behaviour and although I am willing and happy for him to be with me, I am concerned with the potential interference of the Father as he is a control freak.
My wife has moved out of our home 6 months ago and is planning divorce and is now living with another man. We have a 7 year old son, he is staying with me in our home, he prefers to stay with me.
My job is in London with flexible working option to work from home and in office based on business needs. I often have to travel on business trips, during my travel and when I commute to my office and return my wife takes care our son at our home.( she has access to our home).
I wish to know how this arrangement of me being the primary carer be formalised, does it have to be court order. In case of need to relocate away from the current place to place closer to my office, what will be the impact on any formal arranged. Am looking for formalised arrangement as I suspect the current mutual agreement may be unilaterally broken by my wife.
I was extremely annoyed as I have paid for my daughters holiday and i honestly see no reason why she should do this?!
Do I have any legal right to this document as I have PR and can I just directly request a copy of my babies birth certificate?
thanks Gaz
He has her every second weekend from Saturday until Sunday. He used to have her on Monday nights as well but that stopped when she started school last year. I did all the lifts then but still with no maintenance. I have always been to one to take time off work whilst she's been ill, also my responsibility to find child care in the holidays, he does have her when he can help out though, again i have always been reasonable and never complained. I just want thing's put down officially and come to an agreement that doesn't change, as all this is causing me and my own partner unnecessary stress and right now it's not in my child's best interest.
I am currently trying to work to an agreement with my ex partner (we have been split for over 4 years now) regarding my 5 year old daughter. He hasn't paid any maintenance, i haven't asked, up until now. I also always used to do the dropping off and picking up of my daughter after access even whilst working full time, this changed last year and we then shared lifts (most of the times). We recently had a falling out as I had run out of petrol and was unable to collect my daughter (after dropping her off) and he refused to do it and then went on to say i always make it difficult, i'm a bad parent and threatened to apply for full custody (This isn't the first time). I have been more than reasonable with him to make life easier and better for my child, however i now feel like he has had an easy ride and is just taking the mick out of me. What are my rights? and where do i stand with the transport? we live in the same town but i am refusing to do it now as i have had enough.
Does she have to give him this money?
say it was because she was angry and we should put it in the past. After more of the same things happening the police saw her attacking his car and arrested her.
My son no longer wants to be with this girl and wants to joint custody of his son as she wont let him see his child, he has a CSA letter once again as she was claiming when they lived together and cancelled it. What are his rights and how soon can he see his child
ok my prodicament i split with my ex years ago and signed over a 150000 house with 15000 left to pay on it. and gave her £500 a month for 3 years till she met another guy.
i then payed £350 a month i have recently started renting a house out and she is starting to look at gaining a share of this. i have my girl at least 2 times a week.
is there any way of getting joint custardy where i don't have to pay her anything and go halts on everything for my girl. i just hate greed and think i have been a lot more than fair with her or is it just me ????
If you are fighting to either see your child or for custody some advice keep in regular contact with your lawyer try and take someone with you,do not get into any trouble with the law never slate the absent parent to the child.
Courts must take the view of the child into consideration but may not act on it.
Try and better yourself do a course or get a job,If you have parental rights you are entitled to go to parents night at school get copies of school photos most importantly keep in touch with lawyer at least fortnightly stay away from drink and drugs and watch what you say to people about your case.
Been going through this for eight years yes its heartbreaking and difficult.Never ever give up.T
I believe their mother is having a nervous break down.
She has uprooted our children from their loving family home where they are happy and settled in school. Completely abandoned the children s home in Maidstone, Kent , dragged my son out of school just to move in with her new boyfriend in his one bedroom flat in Beckton, East London, which is overcrowded, unsuitable living conditions and my son still isn't in school.
She doesn't care about the affects this may have on my children mentally and emotionally, taking them out of a routine that they are used to, its all they have known since they were born, now its just suddenly been stripped away from them. She is selfish. Her new boyfriend has also been threatening me and making me feel intimidated to the point where I now feel too scared to go and pick my children up to spend time with them, as I believe he could be dangerous. And that is another thing worrying me about my children being under his roof too. I have been the father AND mother to them, i changed the nappies, i cooked the meals, i done the school runs everything. The mother is more worried about spending the benefit money on clubbing and shoes, I just want my babies back in a safe environment, they have now scrapped legal aid for these types of matters so i feel like i am stuck, any advise would be appreciated, please help, thank you.
many thanks in advance
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I've lost all hope and am excusted from the harrasment and tourment both him and now his new partner impose on mine and my children's life.
In the break that we weren't together last year. He got someone else pregnant & he does see that child & support the mother. But that was a one night stand thing & that's a mutual agreement on behalf of both of them.
We were never married. He hasn't been around & has given up completely trying to be supportive. He's patronising in the sense of sending a random text when he could just actually be there. Instead he's continuing spending his life as a young man out on the town to put it bluntly.
It's very difficult to think what is best to do. Because of the father, My anxiety & depression has worsened & my physical health has too. I dont want my feelings & enotuons to get in the way if what is right & wrong for this situation. He has never been supportive of his ways & how it has effected my health. Because of this & his immature lifestyle, I don't want him to be a part of mine or my child's life. I don't want my child to be brought up seeing the things he does.
He has punished me big time. As if falling pregnant was all my fault. Any help or advice or CONSTRUCTIVE criticism?
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I have a 4 3/4 year old son with my ex husband.
I left the said individual as he became violent towards myself.
It was an isolated occasion, and resulted in me having to call the Police.
My ex husband then lies about events and the court allowed us almost equal access to our son (3 days and 2 nights my ex husband, andthe remainder myself).
Approximately 10 months ago my ex husband sent myself and my new partner some disturbing text messages indicating that he wanted to commit suicide.
He then stated in a letter that he didn't want anything to do with his son as he was 'toxic for him', as long as myself and my new partner remained together.
He then changed his mind after threatening to commit suicide again and exhibiting some very grandiose and delusional behaviour.
Since that time we attempted to support access via a contact centre, but the contact centre refused due to my ex husband's erratic behaviour. It was stated that they felt he would be a risk to my son, something I would have to agree with.
My ex husband regularly argued about this via my solicitor until Christmas and we have not heard anything since.
Non of us have seen my ex husband for 10 months.
Where do I stand in terms of formalising that my ex husband should have no contact (I fear he has an undiagnosed personality disorder and as a mental health nurse I am worried about the potential impact of this on my son. My ex husband has also previously been admitted to a psychiatric unit, self harmed and was at one point nursed by his parents following a deterioration in his mental state).
Also, how do I go about obtaining parental responsibility for my current partner?
Anyway, long story short this didn't happen.
Her dirty tactics and her blatant lies about her being abused by me etc all completely muddied the issues. I went from being a single parent dad just looking after his kids after his missus of 20 odd years woulld say she s going to her girl friends BBQ for the afternoon and then disappear for 3 or 4 days at a time before returning back home, this happened 4 or 5 times over a 3 month period, to a non priority homeless male and she just waltzed straight back in - no questions asked.
I was forced to leave due to not being on the tenancy and during an 18 month battle i gained parental responsibility and eventually full custody of both children. When 'd initially had to leave home I left everything barring my clothes. Now the children reside with me do I have any way of making her hand over at least half of the furnishings etc. things that belong to the kids etc. I asked for our trampoline out of the garden which i had bought the kids and her response was that i could buy it off her! it's been 6 months now and she refuses to listen to any requests for personal stuff. My son visits her two days a month and my daughter does not visit their mother at all. What can I do?
my friend has 2 children with an italian national, 8 years ago they split and she took the children back to italy with her, he has been paying maintenence through a private arangemnt with his ex wife since the children have left.
now my friend has moved to a different part of the uk with his new wife, and the ex wife has suddenly moved back to the uk and is demanding more than he can possibly aford, he has gone through the csa and the csa gave him a amount to pay based on his new earnings, he had offered to take the children on ceartian days and nights so his ex wife can look for a job and try and get back into a pattern in the uk, and this has been going on for some time. But as soon as his ex wife found out that this may affect the payment amount to her she has since stopped him seeing the children.
is there any advice out there?
The mother is in such a state with worry and has sought legal assistance but to no avail he just keeps being able to do these things
Any ideas?
Obrigado
Is they away i can pervent this from happening?
which I have no knowledge and some are in Lithuanian a language I do not know.
I feel I must, report her illegal activities; go to the Court Office and begin proceedings under the Children's Act for an injunction about her abuse and attempt to get an Family Law occupation order against her. Has anyone both a moral and legal viewpoint on this monster? Please can anyone help if not me then my children? Thank you in advance!
.........since our marriage that she might even still own this. The proceeds if there were are still secreted in some locality in Lithuania...they were never brought as assets to new family joint assets. Seven years on and I am still looking after the children as both mother and father. Last February after much work on my behalf and preparing a business plan, gaining her a lease with her landlord and all renovations, saving her a 5figure GB£, she opened a small seamstress shop/designer clothes; with much difficulty at first but is now beginning to thrive. Our relationship died in 2007 but like a lot of people who are loving for their children and impecunious in finances we stayed together for these last years me supporting her business whilst being mum and dad to the children. Now she wants a divorce drive me out of my own home and "care" for the children, which she never really has. She is attempting a occupation order claiming my gifting the cottage to her in 2003 even though I lived and owned it continuously for the previous 20 years. She did not make a deposit payment on the property during purchase and has not made any mortgage or maintenance payments in the last nine years at all! During my ownership I provided mortgage and maintenance payments plus the original deposit payment.
My eldest son cannot under any circumstances bear to be with her at any time; he was so worried about this situation that he has told me and being reinforced by telling his social support teacher at school that he has to live with me or he would rather be fostered! My youngest son will follow his brother. My estranged wife "will fight until death" for her children, sorry her possessions so she proclaims. She does not have maternal instincts for the children and cannot understand in its fullest meaning what loving, caring parental responsibility means; from feeding and general care, ensuring hygiene and proper nutritional foods, their health and dental/eye needs, and especially education. She has never listened to the 7 year old read and it was 5 years ago she last did the like for our 11 year old....SAT's what are these? She abuses the boys savagely in an emotional manner on a daily basis, and has hurt the oldest physically more than once and now attempts to put me on the "ropes" because she thinks that she can get an occupation order. I know she is doing this as she sees the best form of defence is attack and do so savagely. I saw a local Family Solicitor who says my income is £5.00 a month more than my eligibility to support from the LAC.
But I found out only yesterday, when I was burning some papers and on further investigation I identified that my estranged wife has been conspiring illegal criminal activities on five different areas, through her business and other activities. And NO I did not know about such actions as some are linked together with her sole business for
I feel that my grandson is being emotionally abused at home by his mother or her new partner he is so un
happy when he goes back to her that he cry's he has not done this in the past.Also his mother is getting
very difficult to deal with in how when what were and how we do things with him. I would love to keep him
here with me but i don't think i can do this.
My ex husband and myself became officially divorced last year and as we have two children a son 10 years and a daughter 8 years decided on joint custody as we only live 3 miles away from each other. We considered this best as we could both play an active role as parents and both look after them.
Last September/ October my ex has found a new partner. I was very pleased for him to be happy once again. However, in the last month or so he has now announced that he's moving nearer to where she lives with the intention that they will possibly live together.
Unfortunately as it's no longer local I won't be able to continue my role as a mother as he wishes to move the children with him. I am incredibly upset and wish to continue playing my role as a mother, as it is me that takes them to the doctor if either of them are ill, me that takes them to the dentist and me that runs them to their social clubs such as ballet, scouts and brownies.
To add to my concern my son has now said to me that he is worried about the move as he doesn't get on with my ex's partner's son's best friend, who currently goes to the primary school my son is supposed to move to. My daughter is also terribly upset at the thought of not seeing me as much as we both have a very close relationship.
I feel it best that if my ex wishes to move he moves without the children. In his intially suggestion to me about the move. That stated that the children would go with him and move schools. I would see them at weekends and holidays.
Personally I feel that the children have been through enough. I think that the children should stay in their familiar surroundings and continue schooling where they are now. They have a number of very close friends - enjoy where they currently go to school, as well as scouts, brownies and ballet as previously mentioned. If my ex wishes to move, I feel my partner and I should have the children during the week and continue their normal weekly activities and then see their father during weekends and holidays.
Up to now I have been terribly amicable towards my ex for the sake of the children as I understand that they both love their daddy dearly - but I'm not prepared to deminish my role as a mother.
Could you please explain to me my rights as a mother, and if need be how I may gain full custody of my children. I find this terrilby upsetting as I never wanted the children to put into this situation where it became the sole responsiblity of just one parent rearing them. Although I have to state that my partner is fully supportive and understanding and only wishes the best for both myself and my children. If this means we gain sole custody he's more than happy to play that rol
dad. It breaks my hart to think that would happen. Then my worst fear is that she'll get with her fancy man if we were to split, & then my daughter is living/building a relationship with this homewrecker (i say homewrecker as he has always been aware that my girlfriend was with me & we live & have a young child together). Sorry for the long post but basically i want to know what rights i would hace in this situation? Would the courts take the attitude that ahe broke the family unit & therefore i should have custody? Providing i can obiously prove i can provide a happy stable home for her?
Any response is much appreciated.
My partner and I have been together for two years. He has an 8 year old daughter. Her mother and my fiancé don't have a good relationship but he see's his daughter most week nights as he collects her from school and most weekends are spent with us. This arrangement works well and we let her choose if she wants to spend a weekend with her mom as well as school holidays. His daughters mom is from a different area and only moved to the west midlands when they had their daughter. She has now decided to move back to where she is originally from (3 hours away). This will mean his daughter being moved away from her father, family whom she is extremely close to, friends, her dance studio and changing schools. She has little family whom she is not close to in this other area and no other support networks. We are really concerned about how disruptive this would be for his daughter and would like to gain full custody but would like to know what process to take and all the in's and out's such as cost, length of time etc as well as what chances we would have of winning a custody case. Many thanks
The children regularly complain about him when they visit me but say their mother does not listen . I am unsure of the current situation as their mother has already lied to me regarding the incident and will not offer any more information.
If he is charged over the assault would this give me a better chance of gaining custody .
I am devestated he has moved another woman in so quick, particularly as they are both previous cannabis users so I am confident this will start up again (although I have no proof). He is being aggresive in his communication to me and not flexible in allowing more access, even though my oldest is desperate to see me more and I think would live with me. I would appreciate any help
So for the last 3 weeks i refused to pay any child support unless it went through the proper channels. Now she has stopped me seeing my daughter, I cant contact her, have no mobile number, she also told me she has phoned the school to tell them im not to pick my daughter up, is this allowed??? what do i do now???
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Which happened months ago an decided he wants full custody, he was a drink problem an I hav always had concerns but allow my daughter to see him because she lives him dearly, where do I stand on matter does he have a case to go for full custody I am finding this very stressful
He got sent the divorce papers but ignored them so that is why I got a court divorce and granted a full custody over the 2 children.
Now that I live in the uk, re-married, I am wondering how it works here, is my full custody valid here or is it another "story" ? Just wondering what rights i have if he takes it to court.
I've been having them every other week for 2 years Saturday first thing to monday am
My ex wants me to have them every week Friday to Monday
Will this constitute joint custody can I stop my maintenance payments.
Will I be entitled to tax credits as I am a cab driver not working weekends will severely damage my income
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