The Use of Child Support Payments

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The Use of Child Support Payments

What Child Support Payments Are For

Parents have a legal and moral duty to support their children financially. When parents live apart, the parent who does not have main day to day care of the child will usually need to contribute towards the costs of raising them.

These payments are known as child maintenance. They can be arranged privately between parents, or they can be calculated and collected through the Child Maintenance Service (CMS). The older Child Support Agency (CSA) no longer handles new cases.

The purpose of child maintenance is straightforward: to help cover the everyday costs of bringing up a child. This includes things like food, clothing, housing, heating and school expenses.

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How Payments Relate to Living Costs

The parent with main care of the child bears most of the household expenses. They pay for the roof over the child's head, the meals on the table, and the dozens of smaller costs that add up over time. Child maintenance from the other parent helps share this financial burden.

When care is split more evenly between both parents, maintenance amounts will typically be reduced to reflect this. The CMS takes shared care into account when calculating payments.

One common concern is that standard maintenance calculations do not always keep pace with the actual cost of raising children. Payments are worked out as a percentage of the paying parent's gross income, but this formula does not adjust automatically when prices rise or when children's needs grow more expensive as they get older.

For current maintenance rates and how they are calculated, check the official guidance on GOV.UK.

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What the Money Can Be Used For

There are no strict legal rules about how the receiving parent must spend child maintenance. The money is intended to benefit the child, but the law does not require receipts or proof of how it is used.

In practice, maintenance typically goes towards:

  • Housing costs, including rent or mortgage contributions
  • Food and groceries
  • Clothing and shoes
  • School uniforms, equipment and trips
  • Heating and utility bills
  • Transport costs
  • Childcare fees

Some paying parents feel frustrated that they cannot control or monitor how their payments are spent. However, the system is designed on the basis that the receiving parent is best placed to decide how to meet the child's needs day to day.

When Costs Are Not Fully Covered

Standard child maintenance payments may not cover everything. Larger or less predictable expenses can fall outside what the regular payments provide for. This might include things like orthodontic treatment, private tutoring, or expensive extracurricular activities.

Parents can agree between themselves to share these additional costs. If you have a private family arrangement, you have flexibility to include whatever terms suit your circumstances. Court orders can sometimes address specific expenses, but this is less common.

If your circumstances change significantly, whether your income rises or falls, or your care arrangements shift, you can ask the CMS to review your case. Keeping arrangements up to date helps ensure payments remain fair for both parents and, most importantly, continue to meet the child's needs.

For detailed information about child maintenance calculations, variations and how to make or respond to a claim, visit the Child Maintenance Service pages on GOV.UK.

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ChildSupportLaws Editor 20/05/2026 at 9:17 am
@Nursedad You're not legally obligated to provide childcare cover on top of maintenance. The CMS calculation already factors in your shared care nights, which is why disclosing it didn't reduce payments further. Pick-ups and after school club costs are separate from maintenance and should really be sorted between the two of you, ideally in writing. If she won't budge, suggest mediation before it escalates, as that's far cheaper than going down the court route.
Nursedad 26/01/2024 at 8:37 am
I am currently paying £375 Child maintenance a month for my 2 children and have them overnight 1 night in the week every week and 3 nights every other weekend (Fri,Sat,Sun)

On the weekends I have them my ex partner has expected me collect them from school and return them to her when she finishes work.

I have continued to do this for 18 months but now feel it is not achievable now we live 12 miles away.

I have emphasised that this is something that should be addressed and after school club should be at her cost, not mine.

I have spoken with other parents and they feel I have gone above and beyond in trying to support my ex and have the children as much as possible.

Financially and physically it is becoming more difficult to sustain this arrangement.

Am I obligated to continue this just to facilitate childcare whilst my ex partner can work without the financial cost ?

Despite my disclosure to the CMS, it has not made any difference to my payment I make.
PaT 10/07/2023 at 2:25 pm
I have 2/3 of my children three nights per week (ages 7 & 11) the other is aged 15 and decides not to come although has a bedroom here. I don’t live in the village anymore and live 50 miles away with my new partner and her kids. I have had to purchase a house on shared ownership scheme so that I can still see my kids. She has now taken me to CSA and wants £600 per month which will mean I will lose my house and my time with the kids. All this for one extra night per week. My ex new partner lives with her and has two incomes coming into their house. They’ve had two holidays this year and I cannot afford to take mine away. Can somebody help before I lose my house?
No help for the fath 13/04/2023 at 3:11 pm
CMS offer no help or advice for the father in any situation. I pay £260 a month in maintenance considering I get just above minimum wage. My ex is constantly asking me for more money for clothes, for my kid to go to parties etc and I tell her no because the maintenance covers this and she asks basically every single week.. However, she manipulates my vulnerable mum into buying more and more for my child which is not on. Do I have any legal standing? She doesn’t just manipulate my mum but other people too but apparently I don’t seem to have any rights as the father to stop this from happening. She lies about why she can’t afford stuff too and I have proof but apparently as the dad I can’t do anything if she says it’s what she needs. I’m sure there’s tons of fathers in the same situation as myself. I’m so angry about this:
RG 14/03/2023 at 1:54 pm
Hi, I have a private arrangement in place based on what CMS advise.
I have my son 3 nights a week minimum including weekdays which in turn means I often have to pay for school clubs to bend around my work costing upto £20 a week at times. I have done this for some time but now finding it difficult to, even more so that my ex partner does not have this same issue and is able to work full time due to the time he spends with me. Is this something that should be taken into Consideration when discussing an amount I should be paying?
Pwagon 27/01/2023 at 4:59 pm
Hi my ex has been ordered to pay by cms. They have been paying it into my sons school food account and not directly to me , I am sure they have arlewdy been warned not to. Is this right
Pwagon 27/01/2023 at 4:57 pm
My ex has been caught by cms and ordered to pay a certain amount towards me. But every week they pay it into the school meal account and not directly to me. I am sure they have contacted him before to say he must pay me directly. Is this right
No help 16/09/2022 at 7:38 am
Amazing how little help is offered here and in all gvt websites. This is the main reason for the pain most people feel here. I dont even see the point of asking my questions. Sad.

Its not clear what maintenance is meant cover!! Website says living expenses eg clothes. What does that mean? There are basic things like nursery fees. Does the paying parent by the CS amount plus nursery on top or not? Does it mean if they get visits the child should come with clothes? Does maintenance cover all that or not.

I think it should be clear given maintenance takes account of the paying parent it should be clear what it covers.

Eg a parent can decide to take tge child to the most expensive nursery they can find, is the paying parent then obliged to pay that on top of the cs amount??
Dads help 13/09/2022 at 9:40 am
I have been asked to pay towards my daughter’s passport! Does this fall under CSA?
Fuming 09/06/2022 at 4:35 pm
What can my daughter do to get the CSA to listen to her. The children father is only declaring part of his earning. His boss is also his friend. He is doing most of the kids father's wage in cash that way all the CSA see is false papers. My granddaughter tells her mother that he has loads of money hanging round in his house most in £50s my granddaughter is coming up 18 so she see what's going on. Also he often works private jobs at weekends and takes his youngest with him on building sites she is 8 and not watching her properly. He is a very highly qualified Electrician and does not work for peanuts. My daughter only gets £90 a week for 3 kids. Today she asked the father for money to pay for the eldest 19 emergency dental treatment. But he refused telling her that's what the ESA is for. His son has a heart condition and a little this like he had (abscess) could make him seriously ill.
happy 19/05/2022 at 6:20 pm
Does my ex's payments include his half towards our mortgage?

TY
Sara 21/08/2021 at 12:20 pm
I didn’t have much choice but move closer to my parents so therefore my ex has to travel a few hours away. Every other weekend he stays at my parents, in which my mum literally does most of the looking after & makes food for them all.
I asked him if he’d pay for it half towards the 2 kiddies school shoes giving that I just forked out on uniforms. He point blankly refused throwing up that I did well out of him through sale of marital home which according to him he paid for, I did have a career before having children then had to go part time to look after them, whilst he excelled in his career path, he didn’t want me working as he wanted me to care for our children.
That’s what CM is for, I’m not paying anymore, then threatened it’s going down soon?!!
But he stays free at my parents, eats drinks what he likes. I can’t see my parents whilst he’s there, my dad has cancer again & I usually help when I can but I do feel pushed out. He never bothered with them before to the point he wouldn’t visit them with me before as he hated it!!!
Any thoughts
Mad 11/08/2021 at 10:15 pm
I pay child csa payments and my ex is now asking me to pay for 3 childens school shoes and if I don't they can not come on a 3 week holiday
This I feel most threatening and I will not give her anymore money on top of what I pay it's her choice to stop them going on holiday
What's anyone's advice ?
Ozzy 25/02/2021 at 6:42 am
Hi, i left my ex over 7 months ago and we had a 17month baby at the time. I tried to have my son as much as possible (4-6 days a week) and sometimes it would be 10days in a row. Over the last 7 weeks i have established that my son lives with me and has done everyday, i am paying for his nursery, his clothing, day to day expenses and his mothers started cms directly from my work for a very high amount(599). Every time i call cms to update and explain the current situation they dismissed everything i tell them and the evidence i have and continue the payments back to my ex who has not been involved with my son for months. I have studied there guidelines and rules and it seems they make it up as they go along. So now the law is been broken by cms/csa and money is taken from the resident parent and given to the non resident parent. (No one from cms can explain to me why there is no support for my child).
Confused 03/02/2021 at 8:30 am
Hi

I pay my ex wife child maintenance for 2-3 days a week. But have her 3 days a week but pay the larger amount. I have now been asked for extra funds for private tuition.

Am I liable for this?
Nicky 27/01/2021 at 8:16 pm
Hi my husband left me and his 2 children one being 3 and the other 1 he pays me £190 a month set by the csa I have all the usual things to pay for and my sons nursery fees of £110 a month I've asked him to pay half as I'm on uc and can't afford it on my own anymore and he has refused as believes the what he pays is enough to provide for 2 children he doesn't even buy for my children for birthdays or Christmas and doesn't have my children for contact at all (his choice) where do I stand on asking for more money also were still married thank you
Kipp 14/01/2021 at 5:57 pm
Hi my sons dad pays minimal CSA but still expects me to provide clothing when they stay with him. Do I have to supply clothes that I mostly pay for when they stay at his.
Lloyds95 01/10/2020 at 12:03 pm
So I have started to receive child matenice do I have to supply him with nappies and good
Marie 10/09/2020 at 6:20 am
I have read a substantial amount of the comments made here by people seeking advice & guidance & it’s absolutely astonishing that no one actually receives a reply. I came across just one reply & that was to inform the person that advice on their matter couldn’t be provided as they reside in America & not the UK. I came on here seeking advice myself but after seeing the lack of just basic guidance & common courtesy being administered there really isn’t any point in me doing so. This is totally unacceptable & people shouldn’t be treated like it, shame on you
Amz 06/08/2020 at 5:38 am
Hi - I hope you can help.

I have recently split with my fiancé, we have a 1 year old baby together and he has a 7 year old to another woman.

My ex works Monday - Friday long hours so can’t have our son during the week, however he has said he will have our son every other weekend - Friday and Saturday night.

I have calculated the maintenance payments and it is telling me that the amount he should pay is £65 per week to me and £65 per week to his ex wife. However, I have to find the nursery fees which are £138 per week and I also have our son For the majority of the time.

Can anyone explain to me if this is fair? My ex earns a great deal more than me and I am having to fund towards my sons nursery fees - food - clothing - shelter etc??

Thanks
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