What Child Support Payments Are For
Parents have a legal and moral duty to support their children financially. When parents live apart, the parent who does not have main day to day care of the child will usually need to contribute towards the costs of raising them.
These payments are known as child maintenance. They can be arranged privately between parents, or they can be calculated and collected through the Child Maintenance Service (CMS). The older Child Support Agency (CSA) no longer handles new cases.
The purpose of child maintenance is straightforward: to help cover the everyday costs of bringing up a child. This includes things like food, clothing, housing, heating and school expenses.

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The parent with main care of the child bears most of the household expenses. They pay for the roof over the child's head, the meals on the table, and the dozens of smaller costs that add up over time. Child maintenance from the other parent helps share this financial burden.
When care is split more evenly between both parents, maintenance amounts will typically be reduced to reflect this. The CMS takes shared care into account when calculating payments.
One common concern is that standard maintenance calculations do not always keep pace with the actual cost of raising children. Payments are worked out as a percentage of the paying parent's gross income, but this formula does not adjust automatically when prices rise or when children's needs grow more expensive as they get older.
For current maintenance rates and how they are calculated, check the official guidance on GOV.UK.
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What the Money Can Be Used For
There are no strict legal rules about how the receiving parent must spend child maintenance. The money is intended to benefit the child, but the law does not require receipts or proof of how it is used.
In practice, maintenance typically goes towards:
- Housing costs, including rent or mortgage contributions
- Food and groceries
- Clothing and shoes
- School uniforms, equipment and trips
- Heating and utility bills
- Transport costs
- Childcare fees
Some paying parents feel frustrated that they cannot control or monitor how their payments are spent. However, the system is designed on the basis that the receiving parent is best placed to decide how to meet the child's needs day to day.
When Costs Are Not Fully Covered
Standard child maintenance payments may not cover everything. Larger or less predictable expenses can fall outside what the regular payments provide for. This might include things like orthodontic treatment, private tutoring, or expensive extracurricular activities.
Parents can agree between themselves to share these additional costs. If you have a private family arrangement, you have flexibility to include whatever terms suit your circumstances. Court orders can sometimes address specific expenses, but this is less common.
If your circumstances change significantly, whether your income rises or falls, or your care arrangements shift, you can ask the CMS to review your case. Keeping arrangements up to date helps ensure payments remain fair for both parents and, most importantly, continue to meet the child's needs.
For detailed information about child maintenance calculations, variations and how to make or respond to a claim, visit the Child Maintenance Service pages on GOV.UK.
On the weekends I have them my ex partner has expected me collect them from school and return them to her when she finishes work.
I have continued to do this for 18 months but now feel it is not achievable now we live 12 miles away.
I have emphasised that this is something that should be addressed and after school club should be at her cost, not mine.
I have spoken with other parents and they feel I have gone above and beyond in trying to support my ex and have the children as much as possible.
Financially and physically it is becoming more difficult to sustain this arrangement.
Am I obligated to continue this just to facilitate childcare whilst my ex partner can work without the financial cost ?
Despite my disclosure to the CMS, it has not made any difference to my payment I make.
I have my son 3 nights a week minimum including weekdays which in turn means I often have to pay for school clubs to bend around my work costing upto £20 a week at times. I have done this for some time but now finding it difficult to, even more so that my ex partner does not have this same issue and is able to work full time due to the time he spends with me. Is this something that should be taken into Consideration when discussing an amount I should be paying?
Its not clear what maintenance is meant cover!! Website says living expenses eg clothes. What does that mean? There are basic things like nursery fees. Does the paying parent by the CS amount plus nursery on top or not? Does it mean if they get visits the child should come with clothes? Does maintenance cover all that or not.
I think it should be clear given maintenance takes account of the paying parent it should be clear what it covers.
Eg a parent can decide to take tge child to the most expensive nursery they can find, is the paying parent then obliged to pay that on top of the cs amount??
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I asked him if he’d pay for it half towards the 2 kiddies school shoes giving that I just forked out on uniforms. He point blankly refused throwing up that I did well out of him through sale of marital home which according to him he paid for, I did have a career before having children then had to go part time to look after them, whilst he excelled in his career path, he didn’t want me working as he wanted me to care for our children.
That’s what CM is for, I’m not paying anymore, then threatened it’s going down soon?!!
But he stays free at my parents, eats drinks what he likes. I can’t see my parents whilst he’s there, my dad has cancer again & I usually help when I can but I do feel pushed out. He never bothered with them before to the point he wouldn’t visit them with me before as he hated it!!!
Any thoughts
This I feel most threatening and I will not give her anymore money on top of what I pay it's her choice to stop them going on holiday
What's anyone's advice ?
I pay my ex wife child maintenance for 2-3 days a week. But have her 3 days a week but pay the larger amount. I have now been asked for extra funds for private tuition.
Am I liable for this?
I have recently split with my fiancé, we have a 1 year old baby together and he has a 7 year old to another woman.
My ex works Monday - Friday long hours so can’t have our son during the week, however he has said he will have our son every other weekend - Friday and Saturday night.
I have calculated the maintenance payments and it is telling me that the amount he should pay is £65 per week to me and £65 per week to his ex wife. However, I have to find the nursery fees which are £138 per week and I also have our son For the majority of the time.
Can anyone explain to me if this is fair? My ex earns a great deal more than me and I am having to fund towards my sons nursery fees - food - clothing - shelter etc??
Thanks
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