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Child Custody Rights

By: Anna Martin - Updated: 20 Jan 2018 | comments*Discuss
 
Child Custody Residency Disputes Courts

In the UK child custody law determines who should be responsible for the care and charge of a child, after divorce or separation. The term custody is now more commonly referred to as residency - indicating where the children's main residence is, following a parental break up.

In the many cases, parents preference is for joint custody (or residency), which enables the child to spend an equal amount of time with each parent. This option also allows both parents to participate in any decision making which may affect the child. However, if parents are unable to decide amicably on what living arrangement is best for their child, the courts will decide on their behalf.

Parent Vs Parent

Most bitter disputes between married couples end up in the family courts. Whilst the separation and ensuing bitterness will undoubtedly affect the children it's important to remember that:
  • Most child residency court cases end amicably with either agreed residency or joint residency as the outcome
  • Access and maintenance payments from the non resident parent are also taken into consideration
  • In disputed cases each parent is individually assessed before a decision on which parent is given custody of the child, or children, is made

The best interests of the child is the general standard at the heart of all residency cases.

Joint Residency

Joint residency is considered to be the preferred solution as being in the best interests of most children.

BUT...there are no laws or 'rights' that state that a child should live specifically with either the mother or father.

Assuming you both have parental responsibility it is up to you to negotiate residency on the basis of what is best for the children. Many couples neglect to consider this fact and err on the side of what they themselves would prefer (or what suits them).

If you cannot come to an agreement, you should try mediation first. If that is unsuccessful, the courts will become involved and will issue a court order based on what it sees as appropriate.

Joint Residency Reflect Modern Society

The choice of joint residency, reflects the changes in society and takes into consideration work that mothers do outside of the home and a more hands-on approach of child care by fathers. By allowing both parents to have an equal share in the physical care of their child, or children, all legal rights connected to responsibilities and obligations to children are divided.

Custody Disputes

Most custody disputes involve the child’s mother and father. However, in some cases a third party – a grandparent, for instance – may seek custody at the time of a parent’s death or incapacity. If a couple has never married - making provisions for the care of their child may also develop into a dispute. Generally though a court will accept that a parent is in the best position to maintain the welfare of their child.

Unusual Circumstances

In some rare circumstances one parent may be permanently excluded from having any access to their child. However, the court has the right to change the decision at any point in time, should the parent’s circumstances change. The parent is able to re-apply for access at any time, and once an application is made the court may reconsider arrangements after examining evidence.

The Court Decides

The courts will generally accept custody arrangements that parents submit as part of their separation agreement. To ensure these arrangements serve the child’s interests the courts will review the plan. The role that grandparents, step-parents and other influential adults play in the child’s life may also be taken into consideration by the courts.

Changing Or Regaining Custody

Changing a child’s residency arrangements is possible. In order to support the change, substantial evidence of the stability the child will need to be submitted. There are many other factors to consider, which may include relocation of a parent, stability of employment, integration of the child into the new environment etc.

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In my divorce we agreed that kids would reside with me and he would visit when work permitted. My ex has now moves to America and married and staying there permanently. Would I be able to apply to get full parental rites as he isn't coming back?
Sue - 20-Jan-18 @ 12:54 PM
Any examples of precedence for cases involving siblings and parents. I have a 11 year old daughter and her mother died a year ago and now the siblings are applying for custody. Contact has not stopped.
John Doe - 19-Jan-18 @ 8:34 PM
hi I have 2 daughters with my x we split up over a year ago. I have the girls every other weekend and days in the week from school till 7. my ex is always drunk causing trouble she recently split with her partner and I have had to fetch the girls 3 times in last 2 week because of fighting at the house ..she can never be alone so always staying at friends or relatives Evan threw the week Evan tho the girls have school. I no I can give them a more stable life they are turning into rate gobby kids and not listening I'm trying my best to be the best dad ever but also letting them no respect and can't get away with swearing and shouting ! Witch they are useto at home . I no she's out most weekends Evan tho we get a weekend each free ... I feel they wI'll be a lot better of with me but do I stand a chance if all I can say is I can give them a better life ..
Mr e - 19-Jan-18 @ 8:02 PM
I have full custody of my son. I was granted this because the Mum wanted to move abroad. The Mum didn’t move abroad and now a couple of years later is wanting shared custody. I have given her extra days with our son and have never asked for any child maintenance from her. I don’t see how changing it to shared custody benefits our son. He is happy and sees us both equal amounts. She has said that she wants it to be shared custody for the benefit of our son but all the reasons she has given is reasons that benefit her- money, get a bigger house on the council etc... I deem her as unfit, she lies a lot, claims to have no food to feed her children, let our son stay school, plays lots of control games. I have lots of text messages as proof. I believe even with shared custody she is never going to be happy with the agreement as I have always given her more anyway. What chance does she have winning shared custody and what evidence do I need to prove how she is unfit?
FTurner - 19-Jan-18 @ 7:25 PM
metaljac3 - Your Question:
I was seeing a guy for short period of time fell pregnant to him and currently have another daughter also whos father passed away when she was young. Anyhow the guy I was seeing went back to his ex/ and 2 children/fiancee. He did not make contact when his child was born so therefore I did not put his name on birth cert. He is currently paying CM and not making contact and is now getting married.I want to make sure he does not attempt to come into my childs life at a later date as he is not worthy of being a father given the circumstamces and various other reasons which are all in my childs best interest.Can I apply for sole custody of my child? I live in N Ireland?

Our Response:
You cannot apply for 'sole custody' of your child, as in you have this already. The father has no rights, as he is not on the birth certificate. However, there is nothing to stop him applying to court at any point in the future should he wish to make contact. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order.
ChildSupportLaws - 19-Jan-18 @ 3:32 PM
I was seeing a guy for short period of time fell pregnant to him and currently have another daughter also whos father passed away when she was young. Anyhow the guy I was seeing went back to his ex/ and 2 children/fiancee. He did not make contact when his child was born so therefore i did not put his name on birth cert. He is currently paying CM and not making contact and is now getting married...I want to make sure he does not attempt to come into my childs life at a later date as he is not worthy of being a father given the circumstamces and various other reasons which are all in my childs best interest...Can i apply for sole custody of my child? I live in N Ireland?
metaljac3 - 19-Jan-18 @ 12:59 PM
Biancalouise22 - Your Question:
Hello, I’m looking for some advice. I have a son aged 9, his father and I broke up 7 years ago. When my son was 6, he kept seeing his dad sniff cocaine during visits (it was daddy’s medicine!), I contacted the police and alerted social services. No case was ever opened with social services as they were happy my son was safe with me 100 odd miles away. Since my son alerted me, his father has disowned him, I’ve tried a cafcass parenting plan twice but he refused, he initially refused to pay chil maintenance until the maintenance team decided to deduct it automatically from his HMRC payments each fortnight, I’ve offered time and time again for him to visit our home but he never does or he promises but doesn’t turn up etc! I have screenshots of text messages between he and I, I would like to go for sole custody but I am unsure of the exact procedure, costs etc. I work part time, my son and I are happily settled with my partner of 4.5 years who works full time. My son is petrified of going to Devon for visits and as time has gone on he no longer wants to visit, we telephoned but the calls were never returned, any advice would be much appreciated!

Our Response:
I'm not quite sure what you are requesting in your question. If your ex never sees your son, and has no wish to, then you are the primary carer with natural residency of your child, so this situation need not change. If I'm missing something here, please elaborate and I will attempt to try to answer your question further.
ChildSupportLaws - 16-Jan-18 @ 1:49 PM
Alex - Your Question:
Is it possible for a person (18 or over) to take custordy over one of their siblings if they can show that the parents are not supporting or taking care of the child correctly? This person having their own or separate accomodation from the parents.

Our Response:
It would be possible. However, it would first have to be proved the parents were not taking care of the child and the child and as a result the child was risk of being taken away from the parents. The person who wished to take over looking after the child, could also speak to the parents directly and try to come to a supportive arrangement. However, if neglect is taking place, the person can see more via the NSPCC link here and speak to someone confidentially and/or report neglect if necessary.
ChildSupportLaws - 16-Jan-18 @ 12:10 PM
Is it possible for a person (18 or over) to take custordy over one of their siblings if they can show that the parents are not supporting or taking care of the child correctly? This person having their own or separate accomodation from the parents.
Alex - 15-Jan-18 @ 9:04 PM
Hello, I’m looking for some advice. I have a son aged 9, his father and I broke up 7 years ago. When my son was 6, he kept seeing his dad sniff cocaine during visits (it was daddy’s medicine!), I contacted the police and alerted social services. No case was ever opened with social services as they were happy my son was safe with me 100 odd miles away. Since my son alerted me, his father has disowned him, I’ve tried a cafcass parenting plan twice but he refused, he initially refused to pay chil maintenance until the maintenance team decided to deduct it automatically from his HMRC payments each fortnight, I’ve offered time and time again for him to visit our home but he never does or he promises but doesn’t turn up etc! I have screenshots of text messages between he and I, I would like to go for sole custody but I am unsure of the exact procedure, costs etc. I work part time, my son and I are happily settled with my partner of 4.5 years who works full time. My son is petrified of going to Devon for visits and as time has gone on he no longer wants to visit, we telephoned but the calls were never returned, any advice would be much appreciated!
Biancalouise22 - 15-Jan-18 @ 8:57 PM
Little ones mother- Your Question:
Hello My ex and I where never married we have 2 children and split up almost 3 years ago now , He sees the children on a regular basis on a Sunday and has them over night , he dose not pay child support ( he can easily afford it he just chooses not to pay ) I tried to arrange with him a parenting plan just so every one know what’s what.he’s currently living with he’s girls friend and her two children (if they are on good terms or he stays with he’s parents ) as he very often is hours late picking them up and then tells me I’m not getting them back. all attempt of me sending him any letters are dismissed as he tells me he got it but it won’t stand as that is not he’s permanent residence and he tells me he doesn’t have one ?!? What can I do in this situation. I don’t want to stop him seeing the girls not have I ever done I just want it all agreed on paper so he can’t change he’s mind on what we agreed when ever it suits him ? Please help

Our Response:
As specified in the answerto a comment below, mediation is your only option preior to court, if you as parents cannot agree. Mediation is when two or more parties meet to resolve problems before the matter reaches court. It is a formal negotiation and courts can accept the agreement of the mediation instead of having to go through the court process, although it is subject to final court approval.Mediation takes place in front of a neutral third party. The mediator has no pre-conceptions and will not force you to make an agreement. They will assist the two parties in taking turns in the conversation, and help you reach a decision that you are ready to agree with. Mediators do not pass judgment or offer guidance; they are there, in effect, to facilitate conversation between the two sides. On another note; if your ex is earning, then you can claim child maintenance via the CMS link here. Every non-resident parent is by law deemed responsible to help financially support their children (if they are earning and paying tax via HMRC) either via a family-based arrangement or through CMS.
ChildSupportLaws - 15-Jan-18 @ 10:42 AM
REYNA - Your Question:
My granddaughter has been living across the road from her mother at her grandparents house for the past 6 years for one reason or another mainly due to the grandmother being obsessed with her.My daughter still has a loving strong bond with her daughter and they have a normal healthy mother daughter relationship.my daughters relationship has broken down and my daughter is moving home and taking the children with her but the grandmother is refusing to let my granddaughter go and says she will fight for custody can she do that.

Our Response:
The grandmother can certainly seek legal advice and apply and 'may' be allowed to take the matter to court (if your grandchild has been living with her on a permanent basis) and the reasons why this arrangement has taken place will be taken into consideration. The mother is the person with parental responsibility and can by law choose what she thinks is in the best interests of her child, without having to ask the grandmother's permission (even if the child does not normally live with the mother). As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order. However, the person with PR, will be deemed by the court as the preferred parent the child should live with, unless it can be proved otherwise that the mother is unable to properly/adequetely look after her child.
ChildSupportLaws - 15-Jan-18 @ 10:04 AM
Hello My ex and I where never married we have 2 children and split up almost 3 years ago now , He sees the children on a regular basis on a Sunday and has them over night , he dose not pay child support ( he can easily afford it he just chooses not to pay ) I tried to arrange with him a parenting plan just so every one know what’s what ....he’s currently living with he’s girls friend and her two children (if they are on good terms or he stays with he’s parents )as he very often is hours late picking them up and then tells me I’m not getting them back ... all attempt of me sending him any letters are dismissed as he tells me he got it but it won’t stand as that is not he’s permanent residence and he tells me he doesn’t have one ?!? What can I do in this situation ... I don’t want to stop him seeing the girls not have I ever done I just want it all agreed on paper so he can’t change he’s mind on what we agreed when ever it suits him ? Please help
Little ones mother - 14-Jan-18 @ 9:13 AM
My granddaughter has been living across the road from her mother at her grandparents house for the past 6 years for one reason or another mainly due to the grandmother being obsessed with her.My daughter still has a loving strong bond with her daughter and they have a normal healthy mother daughter relationship.my daughters relationship has broken down and my daughter is moving home and taking the children with her but the grandmother is refusing to let my granddaughter go and says she will fight for custody can she do that .
REYNA - 14-Jan-18 @ 5:30 AM
I am an American dating my fiancé who is a citizen of the U.K. She has had a child by her ex but was never married. Currently, she has physical custody of her son (he lives with her) but has joint custody with the child’s father.(Shared visitations etc). Now that I am in the picture (with a marriage date in the near future) is it possible to move the child to the U.S. to live and stay? Do we need proof of marriage in order to do so?What type of factors would need to apply in order for the child to move locations/residency?
G3 - 12-Jan-18 @ 6:44 PM
Precious children- Your Question:
Hello,Me and my children's father have separated over 6 years ago and the children have been with me as their father had been living abroad.We have now come to an agreement that they will move to live with him and he requests I hand him over parental custody.He has never handed me full parental custody, as I didn't see that as necessary, but he still demands it and I feel very pressured but am very afraid that if I do give him full parental responsibility that I won't have ever have anything to say about anything with regards to them.Is there a way for me to hand him some official document that states he is their current custodian but with without losing all my parental rights and so I can just have him to back off after this many years of abuse which have caused me a great deal of mental health issues. Thank you

Our Response:
You cannot hand over 'full parental custody' as a parent, as you still have parental responsibility of your children. So I'm not quite sure what your ex is asking of you. You can come to an agreement via mediation where both of you agree the terms to your arrangement. Mediation is when two or more parties meet to resolve problems before the matter reaches court. It is a formal negotiation and courts can accept the agreement of the mediation instead of having to go through the court process, although it is subject to final court approval.Mediation takes place in front of a neutral third party. The mediator has no pre-conceptions and will not force you to make an agreement. They will assist the two parties in taking turns in the conversation, and help you reach a decision that you are ready to agree with. Mediators do not pass judgment or offer guidance; they are there, in effect, to facilitate conversation between the two sides. Outside of court, this is the only way to come to an agreement (unless done on mutual understanding), or via court. However, court is always seen as a last resort and mediation is the preferred way of coming to a child arrangement agreement.
ChildSupportLaws - 12-Jan-18 @ 1:44 PM
Dmc - Your Question:
Hi there,We need some help and guidance regarding my husband's little girl.My husband got to see his little girl 3 weekends a month he adores her and she adores him. This is an arrangement made by themselves. His ex lived 5 minutes away from him so it was easy to stay in contact.We became pregnant at the end of 2016 and had a traumatic time and eventually lost our baby, because all of this was happening my husband contacted his ex and explained that for one particular weekend it would be best not pick his daughter up as we were going to be at hospital all day.His ex has stopped him from seeing his daughter as she believed that we should have had his daughter on that day no matter what the situation.As if this wasn't all traumatic and upsetting enough she has up and left with her boyfriend and daughter and moved without any forwarding address.We don't have a great deal of money for solicitors and she knows this and has us over a barrel. She has also blocked any communication that my husband had with her to arrange to see his daughter.Please can you offer any advice?

Our Response:
I am very sorry to hear this, on all counts. Your husband would have to apply to court if his ex has left the area. If he does not have any forward address, he would have to apply for a C4 form which is an application for an order for disclosure of a child’s whereabouts. He can fill this in with his C100 contact form, in order to apply for access to see his daughter. The C4 form will allow the courts to put a trace on his child, so that he can bring the matter to court. If your husband cannot afford legal representation, he can self-litigate. Many non-resident parents self-litigate after Legal Aid was withdrawn. Litigants in person must be treated equally before the law and have equal access to justice and judges have a duty to ensure a fair trial by giving them due assistance to achieve this. The site; Separated Dads, which is one of our partner sites, will be able to help further. There is a well-run forum which dads can join to get extra help and advice. I hope this helps.
ChildSupportLaws - 12-Jan-18 @ 11:53 AM
Hello, Me and my children's father have separated over 6 years ago and the children have been with me as their father had been living abroad. We have now come to an agreement that they will move to live with him and he requests I hand him over parental custody. He has never handed me full parental custody, as I didn't see that as necessary, but he still demands it and I feel very pressured but am very afraid that if I do give him full parental responsibility that I won't have ever have anything to say about anything with regards to them. Is there a way for me to hand him some official document that states he is their current custodian but with without losing all my parental rights and so I can just have him to back off after this many years of abuse which have caused me a great deal of mental health issues. Thank you
Precious children - 12-Jan-18 @ 4:22 AM
Hi, I’m in desperate need of help in regards to my 2 children. My ex and I separated Oct ‘13 & divorced in May ‘14. Our 2 Children stayed with me until March 15 when my ex got a ‘prohibitive steps order’ sighting I was neglecting 1 of our children’s health needs, T1 diabetes. He got temp custody of our children and I had a nervous breakdown, this was my 2nd as I suffered my 1st in Oct ‘10. I myself suffered an abusive childhood and my ex knew all my insecurities, weaknesses and triggers that cause me the most mental damage and self loathing. Cafcass were involved via family court and I explained openly and honestly about my mental health issues and about how my ex had & continues to use my insecurities against me. I also advised them that the only reason he wanted to full custody of our children was to enable him to relocate with his new gf and not have to commute as he then was. Due to the removal of legal aid in family court I couldn’t afford a Solicator and had to represent myself. I wasn’t ever prepared for all the untrue accusations my ex used against me. He couldn’t prove any neglect of either of our children by me and I provided 3 letter from social services from after he’d previously reported me for locking our kids in their bedroom, not supervising them when they played out, etc, social services visited me each time and saw for themselves that none of the bedrooms had locks fitted, my home and gardens have cctv enabling me to watch the kids from my phone anywhere within our home etc and they stated the had no concerns at all regarding my ability to care for our children. The day before our final court hearing my ex ensured I discovered something that would not just hurt me but would also ensure I would have another breakdown, which I did. I ended up in police custody for the day for my own protection. As I did not attend court the judge ruled that our children could continue living with my ex. Within 6 weeks he’d moved into with his gf. He never gave me the address. My mental health took a dark turn. I have since lost my car and I’m living on £50pw. My ex is £35 each way in a Taxi. I am meant to have our children alternate Saturdays and Sundays plus from school collection until 7pm 2 days a week. Having no car or funds for taxis I’m unable to collect them from school twice a week, as well as suffering with mental health issues I’m also disabled and have been for over 30 years, I have limited mobility, my ex says I’m letting our down as I should get a train, Taxi or whatever to pick them up from school and spend 3 to 4 hours with them basically walking the streets as I don’t have anywhere to take them where he moved to, in fact I know nothing of that area. If I do not change the days he requires he stops me seeing them. I’m not allowed to text, email or speak with them at all and they cry every time I see them begging me to bring them home. My ex and his gf spilt up 6 days before Christmas and she kicked my ex and our 10 & 7 year
Dahlia - 12-Jan-18 @ 12:51 AM
Hi there, We need some help and guidance regarding my husband's little girl. My husband got to see his little girl 3 weekends a month he adores her and she adores him. This is an arrangement made by themselves. His ex lived 5 minutes away from him so it was easy to stay in contact. We became pregnant at the end of 2016 and had a traumatic time and eventually lost our baby, because all of this was happening my husband contacted his ex and explained that for one particular weekend it would be best not pick his daughter up as we were going to be at hospital all day. His ex has stopped him from seeing his daughter as she believed that we should have had his daughter on that day no matter what the situation. As if this wasn't all traumatic and upsetting enough she has up and left with her boyfriend and daughter and moved without any forwarding address. We don't have a great deal of money for solicitors and she knows this and has us over a barrel. She has also blocked any communication that my husband had with her to arrange to see his daughter. Please can you offer any advice?
Dmc - 11-Jan-18 @ 11:07 AM
MP - Your Question:
Hi there, I need some advice regarding my daughter. Her mother and I divorced last year. Up until the middle of 2015 I had my daughter every morning before school and every evening afterwards as her mother showed little to know interest. When her mother moved out in March 2015 she asked if she could have my daughter 4 nights a week around July of that year. I found this was due to gaining benefits and the rent for her house. Since then she has moved 3 more times and last week moved into a house with a new boyfriend who she’s been with for a few months.I do not even know this man, have never met him and only found out about the move days before it happened.My ex-wife has never really shown interest in my daughter other than as a source of income. I am extremely worried for my daughters emotional well-being as her behaviour is fine when she is with me Wed 3pm - Sat 6pm but changes dramatically when she goes back to her Mother. He life with her Mother is a jumbled-mess of house moves, new partners, a new half-sister and generally being moved pillar-to-Post to accommodate whatever job her Mother has at that time. With me she has routines, structure and stability. It is a very settled life with me, my partner, my daughter and her future step-sister. I have a large log of incidents that I feel show the irresponsibility of her mother. One of which was driving her around in a car with no insurance! I just need advice on how I may proceed legally and whether I would have any hope of custody should the instability continue. Many thanks.

Our Response:
Despite all you say, it is rare a court will opt to transfer a child from one parent to another without very good reason. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order. Consistency and stability, no matter how haphazard, may still be considered preferential by the courts than moving a child away from one parent to another without serious reason. The world isn't a perfect place and not all parenting is perfect, your child's mother may have to work or change jobs or homes, but that is not deemed a punishable offence. You could volunteer to have your child more, and/or suggest mediation if you think she cannot cope. Court is always seen as a last resort where negotiation and mediation has failed and no other resolution can be found.
ChildSupportLaws - 9-Jan-18 @ 3:24 PM
Hi there, I need some advice regarding my daughter. Her mother and I divorced last year. Up until the middle of 2015 I had my daughter every morning before school and every evening afterwards as her mother showed little to know interest. When her mother moved out in March 2015 she asked if she could have my daughter 4 nights a week around July of that year. I found this was due to gaining benefits and the rent for her house. Since then she has moved 3 more times and last week moved into a house with a new boyfriend who she’s been with for a few months. I do not even know this man, have never met him and only found out about the move days before it happened. My ex-wife has never really shown interest in my daughter other than as a source of income. I am extremely worried for my daughters emotional well-being as her behaviour is fine when she is with me Wed 3pm - Sat 6pm but changes dramatically when she goes back to her Mother. He life with her Mother is a jumbled-mess of house moves, new partners, a new half-sister and generally being moved pillar-to-Post to accommodate whatever job her Mother has at that time. With me she has routines, structure and stability. It is a very settled life with me, my partner, my daughter and her future step-sister. I have a large log of incidents that I feel show the irresponsibility of her mother. One of which was driving her around in a car with no insurance! I just need advice on how I may proceed legally and whether I would have any hope of custody should the instability continue. Many thanks.
MP - 9-Jan-18 @ 1:37 AM
Hello there, I am trying to cancel my 5 year olds passport. His father and I broke up 3 years ago now. I have tried to just cancel it, but unfortunately at the time he was the one who signed for it so I was told I was unable to cancel it. My sons father has not seen our child for over 7 months now and I don't know where he is. He no longer has any contact with his family either. All I would like to do is cancel my sons passport as either he kept it or it was lost. Either way all I would like is to cancel it so I can get a new one done. I have been told about solicitors, but as a single mum I really can't afford going down that route. Thank you for your time.
Unique--- - 5-Jan-18 @ 12:17 PM
Leon - Your Question:
Hi,me and my partner have a 6 week old daughter and have broken up I am wanting to go for custody she lost 3 children to neglect in a previous relationship and I don’t think she is fit to take care of our baby how would I go about doing this any advice would be useful thank you.

Our Response:
I can only suggest you speak to your ex directly, as mediation would have to be explored before you would be allowed to apply to court. Your best course of action is to be supportive and perhaps request shared-care of your child, if your ex has difficulties. Much depends upon what the circumstances are surrounding your ex and why you feel she cannot look after your child. You may also wish to speak to Social Services if you are concerned and/or take legal advice in order to explore your options. However, if you can come to a mutual negotiation regarding what you both think is in the best interests of your child, then this is more beneficial than dragging the matter through the courts.
ChildSupportLaws - 4-Jan-18 @ 2:22 PM
Just juice- Your Question:
I have 5 years old son who has been placed with his dad. Although I want my son back home, I can't till court decide, so I want visit with my son but yet now his dad is "emotional blackmailer". How do I go about in right manner without causing nuisance

Our Response:
You don't say whether a court has issued you with a visiting order as part of the court order, or whether access was refused in court. We would have to know more regarding what the court order stipulated with regards to access in order to be able to answer your question.
ChildSupportLaws - 4-Jan-18 @ 12:06 PM
Hi,me and my partner have a 6 week old daughter and have broken up I am wanting to go for custody she lost 3 children to neglect in a previous relationship and I don’t think she is fit to take care of our baby how would I go about doing this any advice would be useful thank you.
Leon - 4-Jan-18 @ 12:57 AM
I have 5 years old son who has been placed with his dad. Although I want my son back home, I can't till court decide, so I want visitwith my son but yet now his dad is "emotional blackmailer" . How do I go about in right manner without causing nuisance
Just juice - 3-Jan-18 @ 1:25 AM
Hello I am 17 year old mother to be in June 2018 and I am still with my baby father an I would like to have custody of my child as he hasn't proved to me that he will be a fit father to be as when I go home to see my parents until 10 then he walks down to mine to walk back to his while I am not there he will smoke a lot of weed with his roommate an I always cry upstairs in my bedroom because of what he will be doing when my child is here and hoping my child don't follow his meant to be father I can't take any of it any more but if I knew from the start that my partner smokes that stuff I wouldn't of got with him in the first place and also he didn't smoke any of it until his new roommate moved in at the beginning of 2017 and since then he has been smoking too much of it and also drinking alot of alcohol and I mean a lot of it and we was also planning on moving in together with our child bit now I am having second thoughts about it instead I am going to live with my parents an two younger brothers as then I am living in a family environment and will have help at the same time as it would be my first of looking after a newborn child of my own and also I am afraid to tell my parents what he does behind closed doors when I ain't there but also his roommate sits in the living room with us at my partner's place and smokes a splif around me an it me who gets told to leave the room so my partner can just sit there all night smoking the dirty stuff with him please can someone tell me what to do cause I can't keep living like this no more and if I tell him how I feel he gets angry with me.
Blossom - 31-Dec-17 @ 8:54 PM
Hellocould I have some advice. My husband and I have two children and he also has a daughter from previous partner. (my step daughter.) She lives in Nottingham with her mum and we live in SE Kent. Me and my husband do all the travelling to bring *** down and take her back to her mum. My husband does alsopay CM and any extra bits and pieces when needed. They have always had a private agreement. No court etc needed. However recently mum has been messing us around... asking is to pick *** up from different places. And letting us know / changingthings last minute. We do not get to see *** as much as we like due to amount it cost to get her and bring her home again. Her family has also turned very nasty towards us. My husband wants to get a solicitor and ask mum to help towards travel.We are happy to go get her and bring her here but if she could meet us at London train station she can take her back homeagain. Does this sound fair?
Asking for advice - 31-Dec-17 @ 7:50 AM
So I have a 5 yo son with an ex, we both went our separate ways and both have new partners and both have a new baby too. I have had my concerns about the ex’s new partner as he currently is not allowed access to his child from a previous relationship.Also last summer I had a call from the ex to say he had been arrested for attacking her!After all the horrible abuse and mistreatment I got from her family, instead of being on the offensive about this new abusive partner, I was supportive. As long as he was no longer around my son that’s ok. They’re now back together and my son gets very upset before he goes home every week. I get 2 nights a week with my son and was wondering what I can do about this
SadDad - 27-Dec-17 @ 6:36 PM
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