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Moving Abroad, The Issues

By: Lorna Elliott LLB (hons), Barrister - Updated: 27 Jun 2016 |
 
Moving Abroad, The Issues

If you’re thinking of moving abroad with your child, there are many issues to consider. One of the main issues is that of abduction. If a parent shares parental responsibility, they are not allowed to take the child abroad for more than a month except for two situations: firstly, if the non resident parent consents or secondly if they have sought and obtained permission from the court.

Without this permission, taking a child abroad is abduction, even if the child is travelling with the ‘with care’ parent.

Going to Court

If there is a requirement to go to court to seek permission to go abroad, the court will consider a number of elements: the welfare and best interests of the child (in particular, if the parent wishes to take the child abroad for a better life); whether or not the proposed move is an attempt by the parent with care to stop the child seeing the non-resident parent; any harm that may come to the child; the capability of each parent; and the child’s wishes.

Jurisdiction of the CSA

The Child Support Agency only has jurisdiction in the UK, in other words England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland. However, it does not include the Channel Islands or the Isle of Man. If one or more parties live abroad, the CSA is unable to give a calculation of the amount of maintenance a non-resident parent should pay. If either parent or the child is not resident in the UK, the court does have the power to make and vary a maintenance order.

Non-Resident Parent Abroad

If the non-resident parent is working for the UK civil service abroad, is in the armed forces, for a UK governmental organisation or is working for a UK company abroad (and is paid from a UK payroll) then the CSA will still be able to collect money from them. In all other cases if the non-resident parent is abroad the parent with care can go to court in the UK to apply for child support.

There are procedures in place that are designed to assist parents with care in the UK collect money from non-resident parents abroad, in particular REMO (Reciprocal Enforcement of Maintenance Orders). REMO will assist UK residents by enforcing maintenance orders abroad to collect money from non-resident parents. It must be stressed however that the UK cannot compel or order foreign jurisdictions to act in a certain way or within a certain timescale. In addition, not all countries in the world participate in REMO.

If a parent with care who is in the UK wishes to apply for maintenance from a person who is not living in the UK, they do not need to employ the services of a solicitor. All that is required is that they attend their local magistrates court. If there is an existing order, they make an application to have that order enforced in the country where the non-resident parent lives and if there is no order they can ask child support authorities in the foreign country to make a maintenance order for them.

Non Resident Parent living in the UK

The REMO (Reciprocal Enforcement of Maintenance Orders) agreement with participating countries works both ways. This means that if a parent with care and the child both live abroad, they can apply for a foreign maintenance order which will be enforceable against the non-resident parent who is living in the UK.

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Me - Your Question:
Hi wonder if you can help, We have live in Scotland for 7 months with my family, I have a son of 9 years and a daughter of 4 years, ho is born in Norway and has lived in Norway soon all there life., regret that we moved Hir I will return to Norway my husband refuses me to take the children, is there anything I can do to get with my kids whid me hope you can help

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear you are unhappy. However, you cannot take the children back to your home country without your husband's consent as if you do, you may face charges of abduction. Your only option would be to seek legal advice regarding taking the matter to court and the court would decide what it thought was in the best interests of your children.
ChildSupportLaws - 28-Jun-16 @ 11:09 AM
Hi wonder if you can help, We have livein Scotland for 7 months with my family, I have a son of 9 years and a daughter of 4 years, ho is born in Norway and has lived in Norway soon all there life ., regret that we moved Hir i will return to Norway my husband refuses me to take the children, is there anything I can do to get with my kids whid me hope you can help
Me - 27-Jun-16 @ 1:37 PM
yas - Your Question:
Hi I live with my 2kids in uk and my ex partener is in belgium. I applied for remo childmaintenance since february 2016 until now I didnt receive anything and I dont know what is happen with my process.

Our Response:
You would have to contact the REMO Unit directly regarding this.
ChildSupportLaws - 22-Jun-16 @ 2:08 PM
Hi i live with my 2kids in uk and my ex partener is in belgium. I applied for remo childmaintenance since february 2016 until now i didnt receive anything and i dont know what is happen with my process.
yas - 21-Jun-16 @ 7:19 PM
Klare - Your Question:
Hi there I am a UK resident and have been since birth. I have a 7 year old daughter. My daughters father used to make regular payments to me for child maintenance agreed and arranged by our self's. He moved to Canada 3 years ago and now he has more children has stopped paying anything towards our daughter. How do I go about getting a court to make him pay child maintenance?

Our Response:
You can apply via the Reciprocal Enforcement of Maintenance Orders (REMO) unit here. I hope this helps.
ChildSupportLaws - 15-Jun-16 @ 12:09 PM
Hi there I am a UK resident and have been since birth. I have a 7 year old daughter. My daughters father used to make regular payments to me for child maintenance agreed and arranged by our self's. He moved to Canada 3 years ago and now he has more children has stopped paying anything towards our daughter. How do I go about getting a court to make him pay child maintenance?
Klare - 14-Jun-16 @ 2:48 PM
I'm German but live in UK since 2 years I have a 13 year old son and the dad is German too but how can I get child support of him from here
jasfrank - 10-Jun-16 @ 5:23 PM
Redbullrobin - Your Question:
Hi there :) I am a uk resident and been living in uk since my birth. My 6 year old son was born in uk but the mother who has poland residency and polish passport has lived in poland for last 5 years ( my son also has polish passport and polish residency ) as we split up. Through polish courts I agreed and have been paying child maintenance to her in poland and I have seen my son on regular intervals all has been good. Now she wants to move to crimea which is supposedly part of russia now and it will be extremely difficult for me to make regular trips to crimea with all the un sanctions and I obtaining a special visa to enter country. As originally the polish court maintenance remo order is within the european union but mother taking my son out of european union to a country with un sanctions and outside european union am I still committed to having to pay the polish child maintenance order ??

Our Response:
You would have to seek legal advice or contact the REMO helpline directly via the link here regarding this, as unfortunately this is beyond our remit to advise.
ChildSupportLaws - 9-Jun-16 @ 12:53 PM
Hi there :)i am a uk resident and been living in uk since my birth .... My 6 year old son was born in uk but the mother who has poland residency and polish passport has lived in poland for last 5years ( my son also has polish passport and polish residency )as we split up .... Through polish courts i agreed and have been paying child maintenance to her in poland and i have seen my son on regular intervals all has been good ..... Now she wants to move to crimea which is supposedly part of russia now and it will be extremely difficult for me to make regular trips to crimea with all the un sanctions and i obtaining a special visa to enter country ...... As originally the polish court maintenance remo order is within the european union but mother taking my son out of european union to a country with un sanctions and outside european union am i still committed to having to pay the polish child maintenance order ??
Redbullrobin - 8-Jun-16 @ 8:59 PM
Mp - Your Question:
Recieved a remo judgement from Norway regarding twins by an ex girlfriend, When she had them told me if I did'nt want to be involved to just go away and nothing was wanted from me, now have recieved a remo order backdated 14 years at high Norwegian rates based on income well above mine as I am a part time contractor. The demand is for about 80 grand and rising (more money than I have ever had) and judgement will be made in a local court here in the uk next week. Is this a fair demand and how can I have a fair assessment made as the local court can only enforce or reject the Norwegian ruling.

Our Response:
I am afraid I am not versed in Norwegian family law. However, as a rule child maintenance can only be claimed from the date the resident parent first made the claim. If the mother made the claim 14 years ago and you have been untraceable since then, or you have avoided paying, then she may have a case. I can only suggest you seek legal advice, especially if your court case is only a week away. You need to explore all your options here.
ChildSupportLaws - 8-Jun-16 @ 2:21 PM
Recieved a remo judgement from Norway regarding twins by an ex girlfriend, When she had them told me if i did'nt want to be involved to just go away and nothing was wanted from me, now have recieved a remo order backdated 14 years at high Norwegian rates based on income well above mine as i am a part time contractor. The demand is for about 80 grand and rising (more money than i have ever had) and judgement will be made in a local court here in the uk next week. Is this a fair demand and how can i have a fair assessment made as the local court can only enforce or reject the Norwegian ruling.
Mp - 8-Jun-16 @ 3:47 AM
Sue - Your Question:
Hi, my ex boyfriend have been paying child maintenance through CMS for the last 2 years. My ex left his job 2 months ago and not receiving any benefits, so CMS told me I don't get anything. I recently found out my ex left UK, but don't know which country he's in. I know its very likely he won't be working for a UK registered company. I have no idea which country he's in- he could be working in Dubai, Hong Kong, Spain, Germany and/or Singapore. His friends won't tell me where he is and I can't found where he is on social media. My questions are is there a way I can or REMO or the court can find out where he is so I can apply for a court order through REMO for child maintenance? I have 1 child with ex, so would it still be 12% of his salary if he's working abroad?Unfortunately, CMS told me they can't help as he's not paying any UK tax through HMRC, but told me if he does come back to UK to work, it will automatically start again with CMS, so that's the good news. I just want to know how I can get child maintenance through REMO if I don't know where ex is?

Our Response:
You would have to contact REMO directly to ask this, please see the link here. I hope this helps.
ChildSupportLaws - 7-Jun-16 @ 2:59 PM
Hi, my ex boyfriend have been paying child maintenance through CMS for the last 2 years. My ex left his job 2 months ago and not receiving any benefits, so CMS told me I don't get anything. I recently found out my ex left UK, but don't know which country he's in. I know its very likely he won't be working for a UK registered company. I have no idea which country he's in- he could be working in Dubai, Hong Kong, Spain, Germany and/or Singapore. His friends won't tell me where he is and I can't found where he is on social media. My questions are is there a way I can or REMO or the court can find out where he is so I can apply for a court order through REMO for child maintenance? I have 1 child with ex, so would it still be 12% of his salary if he's working abroad? Unfortunately, CMS told me they can't help as he's not paying any UK tax through HMRC, but told me if he does come back to UK to work, it will automatically start again with CMS, so that's the good news. I just want to know how I can get child maintenance through REMO if I don't know where ex is?
Sue - 6-Jun-16 @ 11:50 PM
Jonboy - Your Question:
I have a 10 year old daughter to my ex wife who is Thai.There is a court order in place for access to my daughter.I have a maintenance agreement set via CMO which I pay regular.The court order states that each parent can take the child on holiday for a period up to 3 weeks but must give other parent details of holiday before travel.Later this year,my ex wife will take my daughter on holiday for 2 weeks to Thailand.My concerns are she may not return,obviously this would be abduction.I have a couple of questions in regards to the above1.If this did happen.what actions would I have to take and who would I contact ?2. I am within my rights to cease the maintenance payments until the child returned to the UK ?

Our Response:
Maintenance cannot be used as a tool and you are legally obliged to continue paying this via the CMS. If you are concerned that your ex will not return you can apply for a Prohibited Steps Order which you could apply to stop the journey altogether or a Specific Issue Order which would put conditions on the journey i.e that your ex has to return. However, according to gov.uk while Thailand has signed the 1980 Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of Child Abduction but the UK has not yet been able to enter into treaty relations with Thailand. This means the Convention does not operate between the two countries, please see link here. Therefore, I suggest you take some legal advice to ensure you are properly aware of all your options.
ChildSupportLaws - 27-May-16 @ 10:58 AM
I have a 10 year old daughter to my ex wife who is Thai.There is a court order in place for access to my daughter.I have a maintenance agreement set via CMO which I pay regular. The court order states that each parent can take the child on holiday for a period up to 3 weeks but must give other parent details of holiday before travel. Later this year,my ex wife will take my daughter on holiday for 2 weeks to Thailand.My concerns are she may not return,obviously this would be abduction. I have a couple of questions in regards to the above 1.If this did happen.what actions would I have to take and who would I contact ? 2. I am within my rights to cease the maintenance payments until the child returned to the UK ?
Jonboy - 26-May-16 @ 1:00 PM
I need advice.we are refugees in Irland. I applied for volunteer return for me and my youngest son. My other son does not want to return with me and want to stay behind with his father.
wendy - 20-May-16 @ 4:24 PM
V - Your Question:
My ex has moved out of uk so the CMS can no longer deal with child maintenece payments. He earns extremely well and keeps a rented property and cars here in the uk. I have a court order for child maintenance however he is trying to reduce the amount by saying he needs help with his travel to see his children.I believe that as it was his decision to move away then the children's maintenance should not be reduced to cover his bills, rent on the property in uk and travel from the country he now lives in.Please advise Many thanks

Our Response:
Non resident parents are allowed to apply for a variation of expenses if they have to travel to see their children, please see link here from the CAB. However, there are requirements that he would need to fulfil in order to be able to apply.
ChildSupportLaws - 19-May-16 @ 2:54 PM
My ex has moved out of uk so the CMS can no longer deal with child maintenece payments.He earns extremely well and keeps a rented property and cars here in the uk.I have a court order for child maintenance however he is trying to reduce the amount by saying he needs help with his travel to see his children. I believe that as it was his decision to move away then the children's maintenance should not be reduced to cover his bills, rent on the property in uk and travel from the country he now lives in. Please advise Many thanks
V - 19-May-16 @ 9:24 AM
Elle - Your Question:
Hi,I recently moved abroad and I have two years old daughter with British citizen. We had quite rought split up and he refuses my daughter to come and live with me or even visit now. He made arrangement with his solicitor where he stated she will come and visit me regularly and now he refuses and I haven't seen my daughter almost two moths now. I work too and sometimes whole week I'm a row and I expected him to bring her to me as he promised. She has been visit me twice for two weeks and I have always brought her back to him to uk and etc , I wrote arrangement to him where he would see her regularly and etc but he is going crazy now by blackmailing me for few months now and I don't believe she can't see her mother just because she's born in Uk. He doesn't even want to FaceTime or send me pictures of her and he simply does not care like he says. Is that allowed ? I'm running out of questions and answers. She have never been in danger with me or not being cared properly. He is doing that simply because I left him and I have tried to compromise with him of best interests of my daughter

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this and this is becoming a more frequent problem where international relations are concerned. For you to have taken your daughter home with you, you would have needed your ex's consent, which leaves you in a difficult position of whether to stay in the UK or go home without your child. As you have chosen the latter, your only option is to seek legal advice regarding taking the matter to court. However, this will cost as international law does. Unless your access agreement with your ex took the form of a British court order, then there is little you can do to have this agreement enforced. Therefore, it means you starting from the beginning through the courts in order to regain access to your child. Had you have taken the matter to court before you decided to move, then you would be in a lot stronger position than you are now. I'm sorry to have to be the bearer of bad news, but legal advice is needed here as soon as possible in order to find out your options and rights.
ChildSupportLaws - 17-May-16 @ 12:31 PM
Hi, I recently moved abroad and I have two years old daughter with British citizen . We had quite rought split up and he refuses my daughter to come and live with me or even visit now . He made arrangement with his solicitor where he stated she will come and visit me regularly and now he refuses and I haven't seen my daughter almost two moths now . I work too and sometimes whole week I'm a row and I expected him to bring her to me as he promised. She has been visit me twice for two weeks and I have always brought her back to him to uk and etc , I wrote arrangement to him where he would see her regularly and etc but he is going crazy now by blackmailing me for few months now and I don't believe she can't see her mother just because she's born in Uk . He doesn't even want to FaceTime or send me pictures of her and he simply does not care like he says . Is that allowed ? I'm running out of questions and answers . She have never been in danger with me or not being cared properly. He is doing that simply because I left him and I have tried to compromise with him of best interests of my daughter
Elle - 16-May-16 @ 2:37 PM
Kika - Your Question:
Hi I'm mother currently living in UK with twin boys. Ex is paying child maintenance thru CSA. What happens if I move back home to Latvia ? Ex is living and working in UK.

Our Response:
Latvia is part of Reciprocal Enforcement of Maintenance Orders REMO, see link here. In addition, if your ex has parental responsibility you would need to ask for his consent to leave the country with your children as you may be charged with abduction if you don't.
ChildSupportLaws - 16-May-16 @ 1:00 PM
Hi I'm mother currently living in UK with twin boys. Ex is paying child maintenance thru CSA . What happens if I move back home to Latvia? Ex is living and working in UK.
Kika - 15-May-16 @ 8:37 PM
My husband was divorced in 2008. They are both UK citizen but residing in Singapore before the divorce. Ex wife went bank to the Uk when they got separated and filed the divorced in the UK and my husband remains in Singapore. She did all the processing which is all in favor to her. My husband didnt hire a lawyer at that time. They had one child staying with the mother. She gave him the proposed agreement in which he didnt even care to understand. And when he finally realized it, its too late coz its ridicously big amount.The amount stated on the divorce paper is $6,000 to pay monthly and he cant possibly sustain that since his income per month is around 7 to 10k. He didnt know how the ex wife came up with that amount. So he talked to herand agreed on child maintenance thru a private agreement.They agreed to reduce the payment to $3900 per month. They just agreed among themselves what the child maintenance amount would be. They did not include the court or CMS or the CSA. Which works out okay for both parties for quite some time however, after 8 years of paying so much my husband's circumstances have changed and he can no longer sustain that amount and propose to reduce it based on his income. But this time he and his ex are not in agreement.My question is, first of all, is thefamily-based arrangement of $6000 per month legally binding in a year 2008?My goal is to adjust the maintenance amount and achieve fairness for my husband based on his changed circumstances but quite difficult at the moment because we're in Singapore and ex wife is in UK. Please advice what to do. Thank you
Mai - 6-May-16 @ 4:04 AM
London - Your Question:
I am the resident parent and several years ago a ontact order was made setting out regular contact for my ex-husband to see our daughter. A few months ago he moved abroad, and although he has had some contact with our daughter, has not kept to the frequency set out in the order, despite assurances he would. What are my legal options?

Our Response:
If your ex-husband has moved abroad then this means the order may change because of the logistics of the move. The fact he has moved abroad complicates issues. While you or he could take the matter back to court for a variation, the courts will obviously take into consideration that he may not be able to adhere to the order as it stands and may relax the contact order, which I assume is not quite what you want.
ChildSupportLaws - 4-May-16 @ 10:50 AM
I am the resident parent and several years ago a ontact order was made setting out regular contact for my ex-husband to see our daughter. A few months ago he moved abroad, and although he has had some contact with our daughter, has not kept to the frequency set out in the order, despite assurances he would. What are my legal options?
London - 3-May-16 @ 1:02 PM
marty - Your Question:
Hi,my daughter and her husband have recently split up. they have shared care, and m daughter as she is in work pays the bills and the mortgage. she signed her child maintenance over to her husband to give him more more money to support the child ( who is 4 ).she has just received a letter from the csa I thought if you have shared care you don't have to pay maintenance for the child especially as she has the child an equal amount of time.please could you advise me on what she should do next ?

Our Response:
If the CMS believe you share care equally, they won’t do a maintenance calculation, please see CAB link here for more information.
ChildSupportLaws - 21-Apr-16 @ 1:49 PM
hi, my daughter and her husband have recently split up. they have shared care, and m daughter as she is in work pays the bills and the mortgage. she signed her child maintenance over to her husband to give him more more money to support the child ( who is 4 ) .she has just received a letter from the csa I thought if you have shared care you don't have to pay maintenance for the child especially as she has the child an equal amount of time .please could you advise me on what she should do next ?.
marty - 20-Apr-16 @ 7:01 PM
Pipsqueak - Your Question:
After returning from Spain 5 years ago I visit my young daughter as often as I financially can, but with unemployment and a new job on less money than my previous I am finding it increasingly difficult to see her as I have no spare income ( and huge monthly credit card bills on 3 maxed out credit cards what I have used to pay for flights and hotels etc).is there any way I can get help to travel to see her or legally ask for part help off my ex wife to pay for my travel.I have never asked or recieved any help before but after over 40 trips to see her I have no idea when I will be able to see her again through my financial difficulty.many thanks.p

Our Response:
This is a bit of a tricky one to answer as firstly, I assume it was your choice to move back to the UK, therefore it is unlikely you would legally be able to gain any financial help from your ex. Also, taking the matter to court would cost as it would be an inetrnational issue. If you pay child support through a UK agency, you may be able to request a 'special expenses variation. However, if it is family-based then this would not apply and would have to be negotiated with your ex. Your only other recourse is to ask your ex personally, but if she did not agree then unfortunately there is little you can do here. Until you get on your feet, I can only suggest asking family to help (if they can). Booking ahead on offers to get the cheapest flights possible and staying in the likes of advertised spare rooms to let, rather than hotels will cut down costs. Getting to Spain can be done on a budget, but for now you may have to plan and think outside the box. I hope you manage to sort the issue out.
ChildSupportLaws - 20-Apr-16 @ 10:26 AM
Hello ..I have been paying maintenance to my ex partner who lives in the uk..I am resident in the uae this was not agreed through written or csa but mutual. She now says she wants more money and is looking at getting a court order. How does this work ?I'm resident in the uae so I belive the csa or remo have no authority here. How will the court decide on how much money I pay if they don't know my income ?How will this be enforced ? I have a house but worried she might even try to possess that please can anyone give any clarification on this.
Mickey - 20-Apr-16 @ 8:41 AM
After returning from Spain 5 years ago I visit my young daughter as often as I financially can, but with unemployment and a new job on less money than my previous I am finding it increasingly difficult to see her as I have no spare income ( and huge monthly credit card billson 3 maxed out credit cards what I have used to pay for flights and hotels etc) ..is there any way I can get help to travel to see her or legally ask for part help off my ex wife to pay for my travel ..I have never asked or recieved any help before but after over 40 trips to see her I have no idea when I will be able to see her again through my financial difficulty..many thanks .p
Pipsqueak - 19-Apr-16 @ 2:11 AM
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